Sex Matters: From Sex to Superconsciousness

by Osho

The greater the acceptance, the freer you become. The total acceptance of life, of all that is natural in life, I call religiousness. And it is this religiousness that liberates a person.

Accept life as it is, in its naturalness, and live it in its totality. That very totality will lift you up day by day, step by step. That very acceptance will lift you to the heights where one day you will experience that which has no trace of sex in it. If sex is coal, one day the diamond of love will also manifest from it. That is the first key.

Bodies sit close to each other, but the persons remain far away. As long as there is the “I” inside, the sense of the “other” cannot be dissolved.

The louder I shout “I,” the more forcefully is the “other” created. The “other” is the echo of one’s “I.”

The big, the elderly can fall in love with the small, the young, if the big does not carry the idea that it is big.

Love is ever ready to bow; the ego is never ready to bow.

Love is happy when it is able to give something; the ego is happy when it is able to take something.

Love is happy when it gives comfort to someone; the ego is only happy when it takes away someone’s comfort.

Love has only one sadness: when it cannot share; love is sad when it cannot give. Love is happy when it can share. When it can give totally, love is the happiest.

the ego only goes where there is something to gain. The ego does not go where there is nothing to gain.

The ego only understands the language of taking; love is the language of giving.

And those who have wasted their lives in throwing them away as pebbles will be annoyed if you tell them that these are gems and not pebbles. They will get angry, not because what has been said is not true, but because their folly is exposed, because they have been reminded of how they have thrown away immense treasures.

What has been important to the religions is what comes after death, not what is before death.

If what is here, before death, is thought to be meaningless, you can never develop any capacity to find meaning in what comes after death.

There is no God other than life itself.

Real religion is not turning one’s back

on life, it is opening one’s eyes fully toward life. Religion is not an escape from life; religion is the name of embracing life fully. It is a total encounter with life.

Up to now, everything has been done to hide, suppress, and forget about the basic truth of life rather than to understand and explore it.

Have you never observed that the mind is pulled toward and hypnotized by the very thing it is trying to avoid?

Are you aware of why this question springs to your mind first of all? It is because of repressed sex. It is the repression of sex that makes you so conscious of the difference between a man and a woman.

The sex energy in human beings is an even greater energy than electricity. The sex energy in human beings is an even greater energy than atomic energy. But did you ever think about how to transform this energy?

An infinitely small atom of human sex energy has a towering personality like Mahatma Gandhi hidden in it.

A great embarrassment went around when I said a few things in this context in my previous talk here in Bombay. Many letters arrived, saying, “Don’t talk of such things, simply do not speak on such matters.” I was amazed—why shouldn’t I speak on such matters? When this energy is inherent in us, why should we not talk about it? Why should we not know it, recognize it? Without knowing and recognizing it, without understanding its behavior, how can we hope to raise it to a higher plane?

By understanding it we can transform it, we can conquer it, we can refine it.

If we can become aware of that experience, we can go beyond sex. If not, we will live in sex and die in sex.

I told them that those who created these temples were people of great understanding. They knew that sex exists on the circumference of life and those who were still caught up in sex had no right to enter the temple.

If we can understand three things rightly—what sex is, what its root attraction is, and why it became perverted—then the mind can go beyond sex.

But even through a lifetime of sexual experience, people make no effort to understand that intercourse gives them a fleeting experience of samadhi, a window into superconsciousness.

Meditatively, with awareness, you have to understand this momentary experience that keeps pulling you.

There is no need to hide any question. There is no reason to hide the truth of life. There is no need to turn away from any reality. Truth is truth, whether we shut our eyes to it or not. I know one thing: I only call that person religious who has the courage to face the truths of life directly.

The suppression of sex has created a gap between husband and wife, and between children and their parents.

A daily hour of sitting silently should be compulsory in every home. If a

home goes without a meal one day for some reason, that can be tolerated; but no home should go without an hour of meditation each day.

It is wrong to call that place a family’s “home” where an hour of silence isn’t observed ...

This I call the first step. Meditation is the first step in the discipline of celibacy, in the discipline of transcending sex, in the discipline of transforming sex energy. The second step is love. Children should be taught love from infancy.

The more love grows in a person, the more sex energy is transformed into love and is shared. The less loving a person, the more sex-minded. The less loving a person the more hatred he has; the less loving a person the more spiteful his or her life will be. And the less a person is filled with love the more jealousy, competitiveness, worry, and unhappiness will be in his life. The more a person is engulfed by worry, jealousy, hatred, spite, the more his energies become stagnant inside—and then the only outlet is sex.

Love becomes an outlet for energy. Love is a flow.

It is creative and that’s why it flows and brings contentment. And that contentment is much deeper and much more valuable than th...

Contentment comes through giving, sharing, not by snatching away. A person in struggle, in fight, snatches things. But taking never brings the kind of contentment that comes through giving and sharing. An ambitious person runs from one position to another, but is never able to attain peace.

A person full of hatred treats human beings as things; a person full of love imparts a living personality even to lifeless objects.

The mystic said, “No, I cannot respond to your greetings yet. First go and apologize to the door and to the shoes.”

So he went to the shoes and with folded hands, said, “Friends, pardon my misbehavior.” To the door he said, “Sorry. It was a mistake to push you like that in anger.”

It was beyond his wildest imaginings that one could feel peaceful, serene, and quiet just by asking forgiveness of a door and a pair of shoes.

The question is not of just being loving to human beings, it is a question of being loving.

Love is without a reason; love is never dependent on a reason.

She should say, “It concerns your life, your future, your happiness that you be loving to whoever or whatever comes along on your path, be it a stone, a flower, a human being, an animal, whatever. The question is not of giving love to the animal, to the flower or to the mother or someone else, the question is of you being loving.

People need an education in being loving, and then they can be free of sexuality. But we do not educate people in being loving; we do not create any feeling of love. Instead, whatever we talk about and pass on in the name of love is false.

Flowers blooming in the solitude of a jungle spread their fragrance whether there is anyone there to appreciate it or not, whether anyone is passing by or not. To be fragrant is a flower’s nature. Don’t be under the illusion that a flower emits its fragrance

just for you!

To be loving should become your very state of being; it should not...