The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

by David Deida

Stop waiting. Feel everything.

Love achingly. Give impeccably. Let go.

you need a more masculine and a more feminine partner in the moments when you want strong sexual polarity.

You don’t need this difference for love, but you do need it for ongoing sexual passion.

Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you’ve been born to do, now.

Don’t wait. Assume she’s going to be however she is, forever.

The feminine always seems chaotic and complicated from the perspective of the masculine.

Practice love instead of trying to bring an end to the quality that bothers you.

Every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades your clarity of purpose.

If you were absolutely fearless, would you be earning a living in exactly the same way as you are now?

As an experiment, describe your edge with respect to your career out loud to yourself.

Honor your edge. Honor your choices. Be honest with yourself about them. Be honest with your friends about them.

Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.

Your job, your children, your wife, your money, your artistic creations, your pleasures—they are all superficial and empty, if they are not floating in the deep sea of your conscious loving.

When you make money, make money from this source.

Read books that remind you of who you are, in truth.

knowing that each task is a mirage of necessity.

You should always listen to your woman, and then make your own decision.

However, if you give up your real decision to follow your woman’s, then you will blame her for being wrong if she is wrong, and you will feel disempowered if she is right, having denied yourself the opportunity to act from your core and grow from your mistakes.

Your mission is your priority.

The next time you notice yourself “giving in” to your woman, postponing your mission and denying your true purpose in order to spend time with her, stop.

He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.

Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life. Starting now.

To bloom woman and world for real takes authenticity, persistence, and courage of heart.

Neither woman nor world are predictable. They will often seem to resist your gifts and test your capacity to persist.

The core of your life is your purpose.

The superior man is not seeking for fulfillment through work and woman, because he is already full. For him, work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts, and be vanished in the bliss of the giving.

Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, and useless. Then it should be discarded. This is a sign of growth, but you may mistake it for a sign of failure.

Whatever it is you decide to do, consciously keep yourself open and available to receiving a vision of what is next. It will come.

When the impulse begins to arise, act on it. Don’t wait for the details. Learn by trial and error what it is you are to do.

You have no idea whether you can earn a living doing this, but it feels right for now. So you apply yourself fully to it. You give your gift 100%, without holding anything back.

But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone suffers.

It is not the amount of time but the quality of the interaction that most influences a child’s growth.

Be with your woman and your children without compromise or ambiguity. Don’t use your family as an excuse to be less than you can be.

Don’t cheat your family of your fullest core, and don’t use them as an excuse to avoid the work it will take to manifest your highest vision.

many men waste their birth seeking the completion of tasks. Nose to the grindstone, day after day, year after year, and you become a robot of duty.

raise your eyes, see to the horizon, and do your tasks in the spirit of sweeping out your house on a sunny day.

Consider your own death.

A man should never think his woman’s testing is going to end and his life will get easier.

As

he grows, so will her testing.

Every moment of your life is either a test or...

She is challenging you because your success doesn’t mean shit to her, unless you are free and loving.

She wants to feel you are uncollapsable, so she pokes you in your weak spot.

She wants to feel your strength. She wants to feel that your happiness is not dependent on her response, nor on you making a million dollars. She wants to feel you are a superior man.

wish your woman would settle for less. But if you are a man who is living his fullest, willing to play his edge and grow through difficulties, then you will want her to test you.

And your woman doesn’t want you to need mommy. In fact, it sickens her.

But if she is a good woman, a strong woman, she won’t tolerate your childish needs for a pat on the head, collecting bigger toys, and being king of the mountain.

If you collapse, you’ve flunked the test.

Even if you just made a million dollars, you are a weak man. Your woman cannot trust you fully.