The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

by David Deida

woman knows she controls you sexually. And as long as she knows she’s in charge, she won’t trust you enough to relax fully in the force of your loving.

Your woman will be sexually, emotionally, and spiritually unfulfilled to the extent that you are addicted to ejaculation. And, in many ways, the world will be just as unfulfilled by your gifts. Your addiction to cycles of release will stop you short of full and conscious dissolution in your deepest source, and so your true gifts will not emerge.

Inhale deeply, through your nose, and breathe through whatever tensions you notice in your body. Inhale deeply into your lower belly. Then exhale. On your next inhalation, breathe into your lower and upper belly. Then exhale. On your next inhalation, fill your entire belly, then your solar plexus and lower chest. Then exhale. Then inhale and fill your belly, solar plexus, and your entire chest, in that order. For several breaths, inhale fully in this way, filling your belly, solar plexus, and finally your chest. Then exhale fully, slowly, and smoothly.

Feel your partner more than you feel yourself. Feel her movement, her moans, and her internal energy.

Breath moves life energy through your body as well as your partner’s.

Sex intensifies the life force in your body.

Love is the governor of energy.

Like meditation or prayer, sex should be a special time of practicing opening your heart and giving love fully, into and through your partner, and in communion with that which you hold most sacred.

You will be able to make love for as long as you want, and sex will rejuvenate, rather than deplete, your life force.

practice love during sex.

If you have a masculine sexual essence, then your woman and children can be loving you all day and night, but if your career or mission is obstructed, you will not feel at ease.

She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant.

The direction of growth of a relationship is primarily the man’s responsibility.

You must create your own health, success, and happiness.

If it takes you more than five minutes to open her into love, you are probably talking too much and acting too little.

Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there.

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But you have no choice.

Live at your edge. Love as fully as possible. Let your body be erect with the energy of your deep source.

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Feel through your woman and the world, and die in the giving of your gift.

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Direction in life is a masculine priority, even in intimate relationship.

So the first step is to align your own life so that, at least in this present moment, you are living at your edge, fully aligned with your sense of purpose.

not living your true gift,

connect to your depth, and really give your gift.

You are entirely responsible for cutting through your own laziness, addictions, and unclarity.

You could meditate until you’re blue in the face, but it won’t work, if, when it comes down to it, you’d rather masturbate, read the newspaper, or watch TV than cut through your addictions, discipline your daily life, and give your gift from your deepest, most blissful source.

If you spend too much time with your woman, you will rub off on each other in the worst way.

In order to enliven her feminine core, your woman should spend time every day in absolute abandon and celebration.

The two ways to bring you right to your masculine edge of power are austerity and challenge.

Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life that you have learned to snuggle into and lose wakefulness.

Instead, feel your suffering, rest with it, embrace it, make love with it.

And yet dying is exactly what you are doing, from the moment you are born.

The point is, there must be a consequence for freezing in the face of fear.

Die in the giving of your gift, so you don’t even notice you have stopped holding onto yourself.