The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

by David Deida

Although your woman seems to want to be the most important thing in your life, she actually can trust and love you more if she is not.

If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.

Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.

Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t.

Your Excellent Track Record Is Meaningless to Her

Remember, history is irrelevant to the feminine, so your mistake is as easily forgotten as your successes.

If your woman has a more masculine sexual essence, she will prefer to be in charge of the direction of your lives most of the time.

Even more important is your spiritual direction.

If she feels you lacking in your financial clarity or your spiritual clarity, she will not be able to relax with you.

The more ambiguous you seem, financially and spiritually, the more she will need to pour her energy and attention into her own masculine direction and goals. For

You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose, and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.

What matters is if she can feel your loving clarity, wisdom, and certainty of direction.

The post-orgasmic state is one of death-like peace, an emptiness akin to a blissful oblivion.

Orgasm is actually called petite mort or “little death” in French.

The same capacity to face death is necessary for spiritual freedom.

To live free in spirit, you must be willing to face your fears and let go of anything that limits your love.

To be free is to die to your need to be a separate self.

Ego death, absolute surrender to the point of oneness, is the ultimate freedom.

Yet, this stress-free, unprotected end of the game is exactly what you are always seeking, through orgasm, financial killings, or winning a war.

transcendence of the fear of death by facing the limiting stress of your own self-sense, and relaxing through it, into the absolute freedom you have always intuited at your core, but sought through only temporary means.

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A woman’s bliss is not in emptiness, but in fullness.

She longs to fill her sense of spiritual emptiness by surrendering her heart and being filled with love.

The dark feminine desire, to be forced to surrender, is as strong as the dark masculine desire to penetrate through a woman’s resistance. The difference between rape and ravishment is love.

You must be as fearless with your sexual desire as you are with your spiritual desire.

Although your woman doesn’t want you to be a killer, she is turned on by your capacity to kill.

The dark masculine energy of the warrior, the one who could face death and kill when necessary, is an essential part of you.

The “killer” your woman wants is the one who knows that life is a process of dying through to that which cannot be lost.

Your body, tone of voice, and the look in your eyes mean a lot more to her than anything you could say.

And the same is true of your woman. You are not trying to please her. You are learning to pervade the world, including her, with consciousness and love. That is what you are here to do.

If you hide your deepest gifts from her in fear, you will also hide your deepest gifts from the world in fear.

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you give up at a certain point with her, you will likewise only go so far in the giving ...

Your woman knows your weaknesses better than anybody. She knows where you w...

And, she knows your true capacity as a full man, a man of free co...

Her gift, if she is a good woman, is to test you with her darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is unperturbed by feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade her with ...

There is never a shortage of feminine energy, only a resistance to receiving, trusting, and embracing it.

Do the same in the company of human women. Feel them not merely as friends, coworkers, or sisters, but as walking blessings of energy. Receive their anger as a jolt of awakening energy. Receive their sexiness as a blessing of enlivenment. Receive their happiness, even when you are depressed, as a light shower of refreshment. Open your breath and body and fully receive each woman’s unique flavor of feminine energy, so your day becomes a feast of plenty.

The purpose of sexual desire is creation.

And you are right. A new woman and new work will excite you and cheer you up. And this is exactly what a mediocre man does: He stays with a woman and a project for as long as they interest him and turn him on. When the excitement seems to wear off, he moves on to another and then another hopeful source of polarity and excitement.

Can you invade her body and heart with so much love and humor that she laughs, relaxes, and brightens, in spite of herself? Can you bring out the consort in her by treating her with the same teasing and sexually pregnant touch and gaze as you would your mistress?

It only takes a moment of meeting a real challenge to bring a man back to full purpose, an emergency or a threat that demands his best.

And it only takes a moment of praise and deep appreciation to re-evoke a woman’s radiance.

Women can attract you, heal you, and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely. Never. And you know this.

You are that which you seek, but you have left your own deepness and are looking elsewhere.

The very light of your consciousness shines as the world, and it is looking back at you, appearing as woman.

Desire can be a doorway to deep oneness.

Bow down to her, and then bow down through her, into the deep which only seems to have been an other.

Your masculine sexual gift is to coax, humor, shock, and caress her love into melting through her layers of fear.

Every time she sucks you into an uncontrollable need to ejaculate, she has conquered you. She controls you and masters you.

When you don’t ejaculate, but demonstrate that the fullness of loving is more important to you than the quick thrill of genital release, then she can truly trust you.