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Corey Wayne
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October 12 - October 23, 2017
One of the most important things to understand when you meet a woman is that women love mystery. They love a guy that is his own man, despite what others think about him or who he should be. They love a guy that is confident and goes for what he wants in life without fear. They want a man that is centered, one that is in control of himself, has purpose, and knows where he is going. A woman wants a man she can’t have her way with, and no matter what she says or does, she is not going to be able to sway him from his path or from his purpose in life.
A true Alpha Male, a man who goes for what he wants and has positive expectations that he will achieve his goals, will choose his purpose and his passion over a woman if faced with the choice. Masculine energy, after all, is about purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, achieving goals, etc.
Ironically, the more you focus on, and passionately pursue, your purpose in life, the more attractive women will find you in general. A man pursuing a purpose he has a burning desire to accomplish gives off a much happier, peaceful, relaxed, successful, inviting, confident and positive vibe than a guy who hates his job, his life and his circumstances.
As a matter of fact, a big reason why guys fail with women they have a perfectly good chance of seducing is because they treat women they like and want differently than women they don’t. They put women on a pedestal and treat them like a celebrity instead of a real human being. They act like they are unworthy of her and don’t even realize that they’re doing it!
Make no mistake – all women test. They test because they want to know what it is that you are made of. They want to know that if they push you or lean on you, that you are not going to fall over and cave in to what they want.
The purpose of a date is to create a fun filled, romantic opportunity for sex to happen.
An important tip is to treat a woman like a lover always, never a friend, or she will assume you are gay, weak, lack confidence, etc., and generally not a catch. If you act like a nice guy and do lunches and movies, but never make a physical move to kiss her, etc., usually by the second or third date, you’ll get the lets just be friends speech.
Agreeing to or making group dates with her or your friends almost always leads to you getting cock-blocked and rejected. I learned that lesson the hard way too many times. No group dates until she’s officially your girlfriend and in love with you. It interferes with a woman’s ability to bond with you emotionally. Women are also afraid of being labeled a slut by their friends. Therefore, if you plan group dates, her fear of being labeled a slut if she sleeps with you right away will get in the way of seducing her successfully.
Studies show that people only retain 7-10% of what they read after reading it.
I notice as I walk around, whether in the mall, or grocery store, or wherever, I now get a lot of looks from women,
whereas before they never seemed to notice. It’s all about carrying yourself with your chest out, your head back and a feeling of being proud of yourself.
It’s walking and acting exactly like a dominant alpha male walks. Everyone can feel when a dominant male or female walks into a room. It’s like moths to a light bulb!
Women have invisible radar that can feel a confident, centered man approaching. It’s an amazing feeling to be able to walk up to any woman I want and strike up a conversation.
Any relationship is about giving. It is not about what you get. We decided we wanted to give a little differently than we did before. By loving each other through the transition, there was no need to hurt or feel a loss. The things that make a relationship hurt when it ends is the loss of all contact with the person we love.
Once guys really understand women and are able to get into a relationship, they will eventually realize, like I did, that every relationship is an opportunity for growth. Just because you absolutely adore and treasure the person you’re with, it doesn’t mean that you will spend the rest of your life with that person, or even marry them.
They can help you to understand the type of man that you are totally capable of becoming and even become that man. At the same time, you inspire and help her grow into everything she is capable of becoming as a woman. If the relationship
reaches a point where it is no longer an opportunity for both people to continue growing together, then it’s time to move on. "When you meet someone whose soul isn't aligned with yours... send them love and move on." ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer.
“The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it.” ~ Michael Yon. What is the quickest way to gain someone’s attention? Remove yours. If a woman is too sure of you, if she thinks she can walk all over you, her attraction drops. As I said earlier, it’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear.
Think of dating like playing poker. You simply want to hold your cards close to your vest so she reveals her cards first. When women are uncertain or unclear of your interest, they will put themselves into your orbit by contacting you.
It’s always better if a woman thinks that she wants you a little more than you want her.
You should always assume that when a woman reaches out to you, she’s really trying to make it easy for you to make another date to get together.
The bottom line was that I was so easy and so available, that she saw me as weak and thought she could basically have her way with me. She would invite me to come out, and I would meet her. I didn’t take control. I had no center. Eventually she saw that and then she just blew me off. A guy who is good looking can get away on his looks for the first few dates. If he’s not centered, weak, and always does what she wants, her attraction will lower to the point where she doesn’t want to see him anymore.
Women like a guy who has options with women, but don’t rub it directly in her face.
So if she says, “how many other women are you dating?” say, “I don’t kiss and tell, but none of those girls are as awesome as you are, honey,” with a James Bond smirk on your face. That’s all. Keep it simple, charming, playful and little vague. Let her fill in the blanks in her mind.
When a woman sees a guy with a woman, especially another beautiful woman, she wonders: Hmmm…what’s that guy got? Women are very competitive in that respect.
Women are emotional beings and will always think about how what they say is going to make you feel. So take their advice with a grain of salt.
Women are all about emotions and emotional reactions. Men are more straightforward.
Women will chase you if you give them the space to miss you by not chasing them.
Why chase women when women not only are dying to chase you, but they’ve been training, conditioning, thinking, feeling and acting as the pursuer of masculine love and presence their whole lives? Men who chase women get rejected because the very act of chasing a woman is a submissive
feminine quality.
So what is it that attracts her to the bad boy and causes her to blow off the nice guy?
The simple answer to that is the nice guy is easy. She can completely have her way with him. He’s not strong. He’s not centered. He acts more like a woman than a man. Emotionally, that does not make her feel safe or that he could actually protect her. It says to her that he is untrustworthy, and that basically he will do or say anything just to make her happy. She won’t trust his masculine core, because if he won’t stand up for himself to her, and if she were ever in any physical danger, he’d bolt and leave her to defend herself. That is not what a woman wants. A woman wants someone who is a
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The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the people you consistently spend your time with.
If you are with your lady, you should either be holding her hand or walking side by side with her as a true equal.
What do you want to do, honey? Oh, I don’t know, honey, what do you want to do? Women don’t want control! They want the man to make the decisions and make the plans. Women just want to show up for a date looking hot, have fun and have the man lead things successfully into the bedroom.
That is a masculine strength quality. A guy that’s direct, has a purpose in life, and says: Hey honey, let’s go to the movies tonight, will likely get a: Great! Let’s go to the movies. You just have to be the one that sets the plans and knows what you are doing. Women just want to be able to go out, relax, completely get in their feminine side, and just let
the guy take total control.
Women are about opening up and receiving your love and presence. That is the feminine energy. The masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction, and mission in life. The masculine energy is also about breaking through barriers.
Again, it is all about knowing who you are, knowing what you want, being in your center, and understanding your woman.
Commitment, bonding and being together 24/7 happens slowly over several months as the woman’s level of attraction for you grows. When she’s ready for a relationship or a commitment, she’ll bring it up. If she’s not bringing it up, it means she’s not at that point yet. Simply continue to focus on hanging out, having fun and hooking up when you are together.
Guys connect physically and, in an instant, can engage their emotions. Women take longer.
They warm up more slowly to a reaction of interest. A woman needs to understand who the guy is before she will enter into that emotional reaction, and often before she will engage physically. Women go out on first dates with the attitude of just seeing what happens. The guy tends to be focused on making her his girlfriend and possessing her, instead of just letting the love story develop.
To a woman, when a guy is engaging his emotions at the beginning of the relationship, without taking the time to get to know who she is first, he seems needy. Because of the way women deal with emotions and love, they can’t quite comprehend the
man’s instantaneous emotional response. It makes her leery and uncomfortable. She doesn’t feel safe with him, because he is not in his masculine. Guys who are needy tend to act like creepy stalkers.
At that point, she is not seeing him as a strong, centered man. A woman that has a strong feminine core will be completely turned off by a man that is acting outside the strong masculine area where he should be.
Women want to be in a love story. Love stories are mysterious and full of building sexual tension and then releasing it at key moments. When you tell a woman everything that is going to happen, it’s like telling a friend the ending to a movie they have not seen yet.
Before you can start getting into declarations of love, you need to make a woman feel comfortable. She has to feel safe. You need to make her feel that she can be totally in her feminine and relax, without having to keep her guard up against your next move. The best way to do this is with laughter.
When you first meet a woman, your goal is to make her laugh and feel comfortable. You need to talk to her. Better yet, you need to engage her in talking to you. Ask her questions. Get to know who she is. Keep the conversation light and positive. Joke,
banter, and tease her in a playful, non-offensive manner. Treat her how you would treat a bratty little sister who, even though you give her a hard time, she knows that deep down you really love her, but are just having a little fun. Just have a good time.
You should always come from the place and assume that all women want you. Now of course that’s not always going to be the case. Most women are not going to be single, available or into you anyway. However, if you presuppose that you’re already in, it’s easy to walk away when they reject you, feeling like it’s their loss.
