How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams

by Corey Wayne

If she says: Do you have a girlfriend? You might respond with: “I always have room for one more. Are you asking me out? Wow, you’re really forward,” etc., keeping a smile on your face. If she says: Well, I think you’re a jerk. Don’t argue with her. You simply need to come back with something less serious, and an “I don’t care” attitude, such as: Why, thank you for noticing! You need to shrug it off. Remember that you are a strong, centered guy. Something like this should not push you off your center. When you are in your place of confidence, she will often read it as funny, but cocky.

She wants to see if you really are what you are putting out there. She is going to test you to see if she can push you off that center of confidence. She is looking for your reaction, to FEEL your strength. If you just blow it off, you are confirming to her that you really are as confident as you portray. You have passed her test.

Go at your own pace. Start out by walking around the mall and making eye contact and smiling at people who look you in the eye and smile. Women who are single, friendly, available and who like you will look you in the eye and smile. That is their invitation to approach.

Even if it doesn’t have

a negative impact, complimenting a woman you just met for the first time is not going to raise her attraction level in you, unless you do it properly.

When a woman gets compliments from a guy she just met, she starts thinking: He’s just saying whatever he needs to say. That makes her feel as though she can’t trust you. You come off as a pleaser, which is weak in her eyes. Her guard will instantly go up.

If you are single and looking to meet the next great love of your life, then one thing you should never ever do is get hung-up on just one woman until she has earned it.

When we get hung-up on one woman only who has not earned it through her actions, we are either acting needy, due to a scarcity mindset and fear of loss, or this is the pattern of how we unconsciously sabotage our own success to avoid a relationship altogether by fixating on someone who is unavailable or uninterested.

Busy, successful men who are very popular with beautiful women never get fixated on just one woman when they are single. Why? Since they see themselves as a prize, and act like they are a prize, women respond accordingly. They see them as a catch

and are willing to chase and seduce them to get them to choose them over all of their other choices with women. They simply do not have the time to worry or think about women with mediocre or low interest who are not responding to them.

Busy, successful men communicate abundance. They come from a place of abundance. If things don't work out with one girl, it’s no big deal. There is another bus every 15 minutes.

Especially in the first stages of a relationship and dating, it is important to keep things light-hearted. Keep it funny. Joke around. Keep your conversations positive, and steer it away from negativity. Hang out, have fun and hook up! Keep it simple.

Remember, like I said before, when a woman feels heard and understood, the legs open. When she doesn’t, the legs close.

A man is responsible for the environment and the direction of the relationship.

With a woman, you should let her do 70% - 80% of the talking. You want to ask questions and opinions. Women want to know a man is sincerely interested in who they are. They want to see that you want to know what they are all about. This is sales skills 101. People love to talk about themselves. The quickest way to get someone to like you is to ask them questions about themselves or their opinions and be a good listener.

The way you get her attraction level to go up is to be humorous, have fun, show her a good time, and keep it positive. Always maintain eye contact. Keep your focus on her. When you are on a date, don’t be checking out other women, the waitress, or whoever else is around. When you do that, you make her think that you are a pig, just another horny guy that’s out to get laid. So your complete attention and your focus should

be on her having a good time with you.

It’s the experience of the courtship that turns a woman on emotionally. Part of that experience is the anticipation, wondering where she stands, what’s going to happen next, or when you are going to call.

Most women can’t involve themselves in an intimate relationship until their emotions are engaged, which is the exact opposite of men.

Women fall in love slower than men fall in love. The whole experience for her involves how you ask her out, when you call her on the phone, as well as the anticipation of what is going to happen on a date. It is where you go

on a date, how you handle yourself, how you handle the others around you, and how you handle her.

If you want to win a woman’s trust, gentleman, and ultimately her heart, you have to understand how she thinks. You have to understand what is important to her. A woman needs to feel safe to open her heart. She needs to trust you. She needs to know that her heart will be protected. The way you do that is to allow her to feel safe to be in her feminine energy, by making sure that she can feel certain you are in your masculine energy by being the leader and leading things to a successful conclusion in the bedroom.

If you take a woman to 2-3 different places in one evening, it’s like the experience of multiple dates on one night. Why? Most guys go to dinner and then take her home. The average woman will sleep with a guy after 2-3 dates. Give them a fun experience at multiple places close to one another in the same evening, and you will dramatically increase your chances of

scoring quickly.

Guys tend to dwell on all the physical attributes of the date, while women focus on the emotional attributes. It’s the experience of having a nice dinner, drinks, doing something fun, great conversation, and just having a good time. Whatever it is that you are doing, it is the whole experience of the date, not just what you do or where you take her.

When a woman leaves a conversation or your group, let her go. If you go after her, she will feel your weakness, instead of your strength. When you don’t chase, she will come back, as long as her attraction is high. When a woman senses weakness in a man, they will become flakey and unsure. When they leave and you don’t chase, they will later feel attraction and come back.

Women are very much like cats. You have to get to the point where no matter what a woman does, it doesn’t move you off center. You cannot move quickly or be too aggressive. You also have to treat the beautiful woman just like you would treat the woman

you have absolutely no interest in.

I walk through the mall now and see women checking me out all the time. Years ago, the only time that would happen was when I was with a girlfriend. It’s because of their radar, because of the vibe of confidence and dominance that I’m putting out there. It’s the centeredness. They think: Wow. What is this guy all about? What does he have? What’s going

on over there? I want to find out more about that. They are drawn to it. If you are not in that centered place, they don’t even pay any attention to you.

Do you know why it is they are drawn to that, whereas somebody else might not have been noticed? Why women notice that confidence more than anything else? Women that are in their feminine, or that want to be in their feminine, are attracted to guys that are in their masculine. It is what every woman wants. They don’t want to teach you to be a man. They want to feel confident that you already know how to be the kind of man that will make them feel safe. They are looking for the 3% man.

They emotionally respond to a guy that is strong, centered, and confident, to a guy they can’t have their way with. The wining, dining, and romance thing is not what they are looking for at the start. Well, it’s not the complete answer. It’s only part of the answer.

You have to show a woman that you are a mystery. You have to be a strong man who does what he wants and marches to the beat of his own drum. You have to be indifferent to all of the testing she puts you through.

women are usually physically weaker than men. All women have a natural instinctive fear of being alone with a man who won’t stop when they ask him to. If you demonstrate through your ACTIONS that you are a man who understands how attraction works, you’ll back off when she offers resistance, but take another run at her a little while later. You should not look at her slowing things down as rejection. You should simply look at it as a temporary delay to the inevitable successful seduction.

Putting the list down on paper is like goal setting. Every time you chase something in life, you should write it down, so you know what it is you are going after. When you know what you are going after and are very specific about it, then that person, that resource, or whatever it is that you are looking for will eventually show up in your life. This is because of the simple fact that you are actually focused on it.

What keeps him from putting his foot down is the fear that if he stands his ground, he will lose her. The truth is, if he keeps doing what he is doing, which is being weak and going along with her agenda, he is teaching her that her behavior is okay. Eventually she is going to get rid of him anyway, because he is off his center and not strong enough.

When a guy is abusive and controlling, it is because deep inside, he is feeling needy and insecure. The only way he can fulfill his need for certainty in life, or in his relationships, is if he controls every single detail. His stance is to just say: Hey, I’m in charge, or: I make the decisions here. That’s someone who is a control freak. Over time, that relationship can turn into a very abusive one, as his fear of losing control grows when she tries to express herself.

Some guys get jealous when they are out and they see another guy looking at their woman. They get all macho and want to go beat the guy up. That guy is needy, jealous, insecure, and controlling.

It tells a woman: He does not have enough confidence in his own masculinity to feel he deserves to have a woman like me.

Approval seeking behavior is not masculine. It is creepy, stalker-like behavior.

If you are a super pleaser, any woman that has a sense of strength of her own is never going to respect you as anything other than a friend.

I like to make eye contact with a woman, and then keep it until she looks away. I will not be the first to look away. Only the most confident women won’t look away. Those are the ones I’m personally interested in. When she finally looks away, I know that I have passed that first test of strength and dominance. If I were to be the one to look away first, I would be showing a submissive weakness that she may or may not test again, depending on her level of attraction to me in the first place.

From the beginning, a woman is continually testing you to see if you are worthy of her time. She is seeing

if you are strong enough to go the distance. If you pass her tests, she will open up to you emotionally.

You always want to be reading her level of attraction. It is important to keep building a sense of anticipation. By understanding her attraction level and where it’s at, you can tell if you need to adjust what you are doing to draw her back to you. You always want to keep her attracted, and you have to avoid complacency.

Courtship is ongoing and it is never going to end. Always build anticipation. Avoid falling into routines.

wondering. Add spontaneity. Leave her curious as to when the next surprise is going to come. Never tell women what you’re going to do. Let them discover it in real time.

If both people are focused on what they can give to a relationship, the relationship is going to flourish. But if one or both people are focused on what they are getting out of it, it’s not a relationship. It’s a transaction. You might as well go out and get a hooker, if that is what you are looking for.

Here’s a great technique to create rapport and create the vibe where women will feel comfortable coming up to you when you are out at a bar, or a night club: You and whoever you are with should take your drinks and make a couple laps around the bar. Whenever you see a group of women, especially ones you are interested in, you can walk up to

them and say: Hey ladies, how are you doing? At that point, hold your glass up and toast, or touch glasses together. Then ask: Are you ladies having a good time? When they reply: Yes, you are going to say: Great! Have that level of confidence and courtesy that says, without actually saying it, that you may have something to do with the club, or you may be the owner, owner’s son, or something along those lines. From there, you are going to leave and move on to the next group of ladies and do the same thing. Make a couple trips around the bar. When you come back through to the same group, just toast them again and keep on