Confidence & Decisiveness With Touch
I have been finding my way out of a depression. In some ways the feelings have confused me; in other ways they make me question whether the resulting emotions will bring an untoward ending. Perhaps others can learn from my solutions too. Here are my solutions:
First, I have to be willing to face discomfort and have the patience to trudge through difficulties. This means that I have to go forward with resolve [incrementally] for just a little time longer. Second, it helps to practice having certain decisive actions. Perhaps taking a needed shower or cutting those toenails could be enough to make one push toward solid action. Agreeing with someone else just to take out the trash can start one's day. All in all, it is the simple actions which begin movement. You must decide what you are to do -- then let the decisions grow bigger.
Third, we must be prepared to make adjustments when we make our move. If something stops you, then find a way around it. If there is an obstacle in front of you then remember that you may have to take the time to learn how to hurdle it. Draw on your past -- whatever experiences you've had. If you are anxious about speaking to someone, recollect the time you were successful with talking to an understanding teacher in front of the class. If you cannot think of an answer to a problem then seek help by first asking someone else or by looking in a book.[Any book] Most feelings and emotions have been felt by someone else at some time -- you are not alone.
It is our job to find a person, place or situation that is comparable to our 'messy bog'. Do not give up on this. For some this may seem simple -- not easy -- and for others it may take a much longer amount of time. Be prepared for the seeking, be patient, and again do not give up. Thinking about others is very common even for the reclusive. Try to make it positive.
Finally, make goals and never give up on them but realize that at times they will have to be modified or amended. You may never become a doctor, although at some time you may become as smart as one. Grin and bear it if you have to. How important is it anyway? Don't worry about where you will be buried if you are on a one way trip to Mars. Some things like the weather and your own 'personal carbon footprint' are too volatile to understand. You cannot fool Mother Nature.
When thinking of depression the issue is to focus on what one is doing. I need to 'own' my decisions of what to do while being open to other opinions. Whatever happens it is necessary to accept the life that comes in the future. I hate to say this, but "just because you accept something does not mean that you have to like it". "Take what you like and leave the rest." Whatever happens everyone knows that life is an odd continuance of events in which each may be enjoyed if the mind can agree to this in any little way possible. All is not for naught. Each event in life has meaning.
It helps us to make a game of life. I like to watch the steady emotions of golfers on television, or the emotional natures of the players and coaches in college basketball, or the concentrated strategies and crowd noise in major league baseball and football. Imitating characters in film or on smaller screens can also help match or identify moods. Much can be learned in the media as I realize that we are not alone. This is even true for loners stuck high north in Alaska. Each of our personalities can at some time meld with someone else.
The key is to be willing to move forward with confidence and decisiveness -- yet not to the point where one does not hear the good sense of others. Move, yes, -- but with safety. Respect one's own life.
Specifically, to rid myself of depression I need to not coddle my feelings [those that make up my emotions], and take positive action. I need to be able to see my own measurable goals and be able to actually list tangible results. When I do this I am on the path (however narrow it is) to once again function well as an adult human being. Recently it has been difficult for me because I have not been working in a social atmosphere where I see a diverse group of people. I am sorry, but admittedly I am a social animal only like many others.
I now mention the four measures which I noted in my last blog posting and the progress thereof:
(1) I have readied myself for my interview with the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation. I only need to practice for the coming interview on 4/21/2015.
(2) I have added to and edited the Word Document of my book --Bob Does Everything Backwards: Writing Out of an Illness
Now, I have to re-read it to hone out any errors. The next steps are to ask friends to help me add pictures and photos and subsequently make a PDF of it. I also have to contact the eBook publisher for more information.
(3) I want to get cover letters and resumes sent to people who may help promote the fact that I am seeking employment.
(4) At the right time I want to contact the Director of Admissions to Online Gerontology Studies at University of Southern California at Davis, California to see if he received my college transcripts and letters of reference. It is also almost time to apply online to the Masters Program as well as find out more information about the Statement of Purpose that I must write as an essay for entrance into the school.
All in good time.
These measurable goals are sustainable, direct and ongoing. I have no fear for depression in me at this time. I will give these issues my best yet know that other ways may be the course of action I may have to take.
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
First, I have to be willing to face discomfort and have the patience to trudge through difficulties. This means that I have to go forward with resolve [incrementally] for just a little time longer. Second, it helps to practice having certain decisive actions. Perhaps taking a needed shower or cutting those toenails could be enough to make one push toward solid action. Agreeing with someone else just to take out the trash can start one's day. All in all, it is the simple actions which begin movement. You must decide what you are to do -- then let the decisions grow bigger.
Third, we must be prepared to make adjustments when we make our move. If something stops you, then find a way around it. If there is an obstacle in front of you then remember that you may have to take the time to learn how to hurdle it. Draw on your past -- whatever experiences you've had. If you are anxious about speaking to someone, recollect the time you were successful with talking to an understanding teacher in front of the class. If you cannot think of an answer to a problem then seek help by first asking someone else or by looking in a book.[Any book] Most feelings and emotions have been felt by someone else at some time -- you are not alone.
It is our job to find a person, place or situation that is comparable to our 'messy bog'. Do not give up on this. For some this may seem simple -- not easy -- and for others it may take a much longer amount of time. Be prepared for the seeking, be patient, and again do not give up. Thinking about others is very common even for the reclusive. Try to make it positive.
Finally, make goals and never give up on them but realize that at times they will have to be modified or amended. You may never become a doctor, although at some time you may become as smart as one. Grin and bear it if you have to. How important is it anyway? Don't worry about where you will be buried if you are on a one way trip to Mars. Some things like the weather and your own 'personal carbon footprint' are too volatile to understand. You cannot fool Mother Nature.
When thinking of depression the issue is to focus on what one is doing. I need to 'own' my decisions of what to do while being open to other opinions. Whatever happens it is necessary to accept the life that comes in the future. I hate to say this, but "just because you accept something does not mean that you have to like it". "Take what you like and leave the rest." Whatever happens everyone knows that life is an odd continuance of events in which each may be enjoyed if the mind can agree to this in any little way possible. All is not for naught. Each event in life has meaning.
It helps us to make a game of life. I like to watch the steady emotions of golfers on television, or the emotional natures of the players and coaches in college basketball, or the concentrated strategies and crowd noise in major league baseball and football. Imitating characters in film or on smaller screens can also help match or identify moods. Much can be learned in the media as I realize that we are not alone. This is even true for loners stuck high north in Alaska. Each of our personalities can at some time meld with someone else.
The key is to be willing to move forward with confidence and decisiveness -- yet not to the point where one does not hear the good sense of others. Move, yes, -- but with safety. Respect one's own life.
Specifically, to rid myself of depression I need to not coddle my feelings [those that make up my emotions], and take positive action. I need to be able to see my own measurable goals and be able to actually list tangible results. When I do this I am on the path (however narrow it is) to once again function well as an adult human being. Recently it has been difficult for me because I have not been working in a social atmosphere where I see a diverse group of people. I am sorry, but admittedly I am a social animal only like many others.
I now mention the four measures which I noted in my last blog posting and the progress thereof:
(1) I have readied myself for my interview with the Division of Vocational Rehabilitation. I only need to practice for the coming interview on 4/21/2015.
(2) I have added to and edited the Word Document of my book --Bob Does Everything Backwards: Writing Out of an Illness
Now, I have to re-read it to hone out any errors. The next steps are to ask friends to help me add pictures and photos and subsequently make a PDF of it. I also have to contact the eBook publisher for more information.(3) I want to get cover letters and resumes sent to people who may help promote the fact that I am seeking employment.
(4) At the right time I want to contact the Director of Admissions to Online Gerontology Studies at University of Southern California at Davis, California to see if he received my college transcripts and letters of reference. It is also almost time to apply online to the Masters Program as well as find out more information about the Statement of Purpose that I must write as an essay for entrance into the school.
All in good time.
These measurable goals are sustainable, direct and ongoing. I have no fear for depression in me at this time. I will give these issues my best yet know that other ways may be the course of action I may have to take.
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
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