716 Disordered Boundaries + High-Functioning Codependency: What You Need to Know

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“Codependent relationships are built on disordered boundaries. That’s the foundation of any kind of codependent relationship, whether it’s garden variety codependency or high-functioning codependency.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first? 

Do you inadvertently trample on other people’s boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.)

Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it’s especially tough to set boundaries?

Then you’re in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it’s challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people’s boundaries, particularly as HFCs.

This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we’ll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting.

Highlights:4:30 Establishing what your personal boundaries are7:20 How being a high-functioning codependent affects your boundaries13:30 Why HFCs also have trouble respecting other people’s boundaries15:00 The importance of staying on your side of the street20:00 You can learn to improve your boundary-setting patternsLinks Mentioned:

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