703 The Difference Between Being A Victim + Having a Victim Mentality

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“When we become empowered through the therapeutic process, we can stop from feeling like we’re teeny boats and our life is a massive tsunami that’s throwing us around. As we get healthier, we realize we have the power to be the tsunami, the weather, the storm, the energy that directs our own lives– and our lives can be the little boats.” – Terri Cole

Intro

Do you get offended if a date doesn’t immediately get back to you?

How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don’t?

When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you?

Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally?

In this episode, I’m sharing what the research says are the four dimensions of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood, breaking down the difference between having a victim mentality and being a victim, and giving you ideas on how you can shift from a victim mindset into a growth mindset.

Highlights:5:00 Signs that you might be living in a victim mentality6:40 An external vs. internal locus of control9:00 My experience seeking recognition of my victimhood15:10 Moral elitism17:45 Shifting out of a victim mentalityLinks Mentioned:

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