Everything I do, I do it for me

Have you ever done something good for anyone? I assume everyone would have. What do you feel when you do something for either happiness or betterment of others? Happy! Great! Satisfied! Peaceful! Stressfree! Every other feeling would seem familiar, but stress-free might confuse you. Parents go to any extent to give best to their kids. They think they are doing it for the children. However, if they do not do what they think they can do to improve the lives of their kids, they will be unhappy, and thus stressed at the thought of their children not getting the best because of their limitations. Now, take a minute and think, in all of the above situations, whom have you done good for? The answer should be ‘yourself.’

In most of the cases when we do something for the others, there’s a lingering feeling in our mind that our act is for their welfare, but just now we realized that whatever we do, foremost we do it for our delight. Whether we do it in the name of Love, Duty or Compulsion, in every case, we benefit before anyone else.

If before doing anything for others, we accept in our minds that in reality we are doing it for our self, and no one else, we’ll get rid of the expectation of reciprocation. It could be the easiest way to get relieved of most of the problems in our relationships.