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October 7, 2013
Seven Simple Steps to Happiness You Can Take Right NOW
While a good psychic reading can guide you toward finding your happiness, here are some easy tips to support you in your journey.
Let’s face it, no matter what our specific goals may be – a great relationship, dream job, beautiful home, financial security – isn’t our primary goal simply to be happy? The United States Constitution promises its citizens Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness’. Notice it says ‘pursuit’. Yes, you can go after it but there is no guarantee you will catch it! And therein lies the paradox. Once we set off in pursuit of something it often remains elusive no matter how fast we run. The thing about happiness is, that no matter what is going on in our lives, we can choose to stop pursuing it and let it come to us – simply by shifting our focus.
1. Shift Your Focus: Where attention goes energy flows. No matter what is happening in your life, every time you find your attention dwelling for too long on a problem, shift your energy towards something you are grateful for. It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant this seems, but concentrating on something positive, you start to create a shift.
2. Let Go: The fact is that there are some things we just cannot change and that all of us have challenges to face in life. Acknowledging that there is nothing more you can do opens up new possibilities. Also, we need to understand that things happen in their own time. Once we give up the idea that we have to have a specific outcome right now in order to be happy, we start living in the moment – and being happy in it. That’s why it’s called the present!
3. Surround Yourself with Support: We are all walking our chosen paths and are glorious, magnificent souls. But some people are blind to their own potential. We all know people who seem to constantly stumble from one crisis to another (and appear to enjoy it!) or just seem to want to spread negativity. If happiness is your goal then avoiding them or at least limiting the time you spend around them, is a huge step in the right direction. Choose to be around people who raise your energy vibration – not dampen it down.
4: Ask for Spiritual Help: Ask your guides/angels/the universe to put the right people or opportunities in your path and trust that your request will be answered. However – please be open-minded about what form help may appear in. We often entertain angels unawares.
5: Don’t Give Up! You know where you want to get to – happiness. When we plant a seed it takes time to germinate and grow, right? You’ve set a new intention. Now, be willing to wait to see the new shoots appear and give the universe time to respond. Know you’re now on your way.
6: Be Okay With Your Thoughts: Nobody can be positive all the time. I do hope you’ve not bought into the myth that if things aren’t going right for you that you’ve somehow ‘created’ this situation in your life or that you are contributing to it by feeling frustrated or depressed? Nobody ‘chooses’ to experience loss or setbacks. There’s a huge difference between consciously directing our thoughts towards something positive and blaming them for what we feel is wrong in our lives. It’s natural when things go wrong for us to experience feelings of sadness, frustration, anger and loss. Obviously if these feelings result in depression you should seek medical help. But fighting them and feeling you shouldn’t feel what you are feeling only traps you in the negative cycle. What we resist, persists.
7: Trust Yourself: Know that inside you, you have access to an unlimited source of deep, intuitive wisdom. There are no bad choices, just learning experiences. When the next opportunity arrives, trust that you’re going to make the right decision – and that could just be choosing happiness as your goal right now.
October 4, 2013
Love in the Cards! Your Five Card Relationship Spread
Whether we are reading the Tarot cards for someone else or for ourselves, one of the most frequently questions we ask has to be about relationships. When will love appear and when it does – will it last? There’s no need to resort to complicated spreads to access deep intuitive wisdom and a wealth of information about a relationship. This simple five card spread can provide you with all the answers you seek.
As usual with any spiritual practice, turn off your phone and make sure you’re not going to be disturbed. You can light a candle to set the mood if you want and have your Tarot journal to hand so you can write down your insights and refer to them later. As with asking any question of the Tarot, please be open to what the cards have to tell you. If you go in with preconceptions or have an attachment to getting a certain answer you are likely to either end up with a muddled reading or else miss important information intended to help you on your soul journey.
1: Shuffle your cards as usual. If you have been working with your deck for a while you will intuitively know when your cards are ready to ‘answer’ you. If you are a new student of the Tarot, continue shuffling until either the cards feel hot and heavy in your hands or you feel instinctively that you have your answer. If a card falls out during the shuffling process, take note of the card, return it to the deck and continue shuffling. If the card appears in the spread then you must pay extra attention to it.
2: Once you have finished shuffling set down your deck and cut it into three piles with your left hand. Choose one pile and from this lay out five cards. There is no special pattern to lay out the cards in. You can lay them out in a straight line.
Here is what the cards mean:
Card Number 1: You and what you are bringing to the relationship. This card provides you with information as to how the other person sees you and what you have to give. This card can also indicate what soul lesson you have to teach the other person.
Card Number 2: The other person and what they are bringing to the relationship. What they have to give you – this includes the soul lessons they have to teach you as well as their ability to offer love and support.
Card Number 3: Your emotional future with this person. An important card! This card indicates whether or not you will be happy with this person and can also flag up any challenges you may face.
Card Number 4: Their emotional future with you. This card shows your potential to make your partner happy and what they are seeking from the relationship. Spend some time with this card as the card in this position can also give you valuable insight into whether they are carrying any baggage from a previous relationship or not. If a court card falls in this position pay extra attention as this could indicate an ex!
Card Number 5: The all-important potential card. The card in this position shows the potential for the relationship. Many readers see this card as the outcome card but I prefer to think of it as the soul lesson the two of you have come together to work through. Remember – Tarot is all about knowledge and that knowledge gives us power to influence outcomes. If a ‘negative’ card falls here this may not necessarily mean the relationship is doomed to end badly. It can merely show you that there may be challenges to overcome and by knowing this in advance you can choose to deal with them in a more empowered way if they do crop up – thus bringing about a better outcome.
Remember – when we approach any relationship with an open heart as an opportunity for soul learning and growth we are guaranteed a positive outcome – whether that connection lasts a lifetime or just gives us a special time of our lives.
Single? Take Three Simple Steps Towards Love
The most popular question people phone our fabulous psychics is to ask about love! As well as having a psychic reading here are some simple steps to help you in your journey.
Most of us who are single usually wish we weren’t. It doesn’t matter what our age, sex or sexual orientation is – we all crave closeness and connection. One of the spiritual truths about finding the love we seek is that it is easier to attract it when we are prepared for it. And I don’t just mean we’re looking our best. We need to be feeling our best on the inside. It’s a simple fact that we can go out every night in the hope of meeting someone, join every on-line dating site out there, get friends to set us up on blind dates yet still fail to meet the right person unless we have done the preparatory soul work.
The thing about this kind of work is – it’s not difficult and anyone can do it. I’ve broken it down into three simple steps you need to take.
Step 1: Love and respect yourself. Really – it’s that simple. If you don’t value yourself then how do you expect someone to value having you in their life? Cultivate a sense of self-worth. This has nothing to do with how much money you have, what your job title is or what you own. List your achievements – this is not a CV and this can be anything from ‘coping with my marriage breakdown’ ‘raising a family on my own’, ‘moving to a new city when I didn’t know anyone’ to ‘learning how to ice skate at 40′; your inner qualities and your emotional strengths. Look at what you have to offer. When you truly value yourself this is reflected in the kind of relationships you will attract.
Step 2: Don’t panic! Love has a timing all its own. Just like the spiritual saying ‘When the student is ready the teacher will appear’ – well, so will love. Don’t buy into negativity or stereotypes (memes) such as you are too old. Those friends who tell you you’re ‘not getting any younger’. Are you therefore the only person who is aging while everyone else does a Benjamin Button? I don’t think so! Naturalist Alexander Skutch once wrote ‘Faith is a fundamental aspect of all living things’ after observing how birds build their nests before their mate appears. They have faith their mate will show up. Cultivate the same belief that the right person will appear for you at the right point in both your soul journeys and start to live in the moment. This is the point you allow happiness to enter your life as you stop focussing on your lack of a relationship and focus on what you do have right now.
Step 3: Be yourself. Unless you are your authentic self how do you expect to have an authentic love? Pretending to be someone you are not in order to ‘win’ the love of a certain person or being made to feel you are not good enough just the way you are to have the relationship you want (back to Step 1 for you!) is bound to end in disaster. There is someone out there who has been put here just to fall in love with you – warts, foibles and all. And if they don’t love you just the way you are – then sorry – that’s not real love.
These three simple steps – or mindsets as I prefer to think of them, are all we need to do to get ready for real love to enter our lives.
September 28, 2013
September 26, 2013
Law of Attraction – Are you being true to yourself?
If you are working with the Law of Attraction and puzzling over why you aren’t drawing in what you think you want, this is a brilliant exercise that can reveal what might be causing the delay!
Just for illustration, let’s do this around your ideal job. So first, take out any list you might have drawn up that describes what that might be or take the time now to write one. Stretch your imagination and desire to its limits and create a list that is as detailed as it can possibly be.
Maybe your ideal job has loads of variety and brings opportunities to develop new skills. Maybe it’s important to you to work as part of a great team, or you might want the chance to get to the top and be the boss, or perhaps you want to work totally under your own steam without having to run any decisions you want to make past seven layers of committees first. Maybe you want the chance to travel or work with people who are outstanding in their field. It might be important to you to be inspired. Don’t put any limits around anything that you write.
Now, go down that list and look at every single quality you’ve put on paper. If you’ve put down that you want to be inspired where you work, do you have the energy to be a continual inspiration to those around you? If you want to work with others who are outstanding in their field, are you truly driven to be outstanding in whatever it is that you do? If you want to be the boss, how would you really feel in those moments when everyone is looking to you to sort out a crisis?
A friend of mine rose to being a director of an award winning Public Relations agency. She had a chauffeur, an unlimited expense account for entertaining clients and journalists, a whole team of staff who reported to her and was on line to be given a major shareholding in the company when she resigned. Everyone around her thought that she was mad, but she said, ‘I’ve taken someone else’s perfect job and it’s time to give it back.’ She was glad and grateful for the experience and totally at peace with her decision, saying, “I never need to wonder if I’m missing out by not being in that world.”
The Law of Attraction promises you a world of contrast and the chance to experience anything that you want. It also says that you must be a vibrational match for you to attract and hold whatever it is that you desire. What my friend had discovered, through the experience of contrast, was that the position she’d got to wasn’t a vibrational match for her, nor she for it.
“I guess I had to find out from the inside, but I wasn’t being true to myself when I took the job.” My friend explained. “I was curious about the glamour and I wanted to know what it was like to be in with all the movers and shakers, but it just wasn’t me. I was respected and well thought of and I worked with some brilliant people on a few amazing things, but I felt totally disconnected inside to what I was doing.”
Staying deeply connected with who you are will draw in what you want so much faster. The quantum field is an arena of ultimate truth that reveals any gap between what we think we want and the frequency at which we really vibrate. If you are experiencing any delay in drawing in what you want, it may be that the quantum field ‘knows’ something about you that you are yet to discover – that what you think you want is not what will bring you the greatest joy. You can also apply this to love and a love interest.
That doesn’t take away your ability to discover through contrast – as my friend did – and any experience you have may serve to reveal a deeper truth about who you are.
So what does this mean in a nutshell? If you break the qualities of what you want to attract down to the tiniest detail, it will reveal the degree to which you are a true vibrational match with whatever it is. That puts you back into the point of power where you can either change yourself to put yourself in greater alignment with what you want, or refine what it is you want to more closely match your true self.
Loads of love and good vibes,
Michele x
September 25, 2013
Quantum Creating and the Science of the Brain
Shockingly, until recently, scientists thought that the brain continued to develop up until early adulthood, when it would reach a point of physical maturation and stop, making further development impossible.
Our moods and even our personality are controlled by patterns formed in the brain, which are in turn formed by repetitive behaviour, beliefs and learning. The question of whether our brains can change becomes crucial as, if development stops, then it means we can change up to a certain point where change becomes impossible and we get stuck with who we are – for better or for worse!
One fascinating theory on the block that challenges that idea is the notion of neuroplasticity. The development of sophisticated measuring equipment revealed that, rather than reaching a finite point of physical maturation, the brain is actually enormously responsive and continues to develop throughout our lives. Thinking, learning, and acting can change the brain’s physical structure!
Rather than leaving us stuck, this means that at any point we can literally reprogram our brain and in turn change who we are and our life experience. We are not set in stone but have the ability to shift unwanted behaviour, emotions and even key parts of our personality if we want to. So we have no excuses! By changing our thoughts and actions, we can change our minds, moods, personality and create your reality.
So how can we go about changing our brains to change our minds? Here are three tips to transform.
1 Meditate, meditate, meditate – research has suggested that meditating has an effect on changing our neural pathways. Not only that, but recent studies have also indicated that it can lower your blood pressure and reduce anxiety. It helps give you focus and can re-empower you!
2. Change your routine. When we get stuck in a rut it reinforces our feeling and forms neural pathways which hard wire that belief. Make sure you do at least one different thing each day to open new pathways to a new you! Go on a bike ride, open up your creativity, walk your dogs in a different direction. If you always have dinner at 7pm, do something totally different and life affirming at 7pm. It sounds crazy but this has incredible power. Be open to adventure.
3. Change your thoughts. If you habitually think things such as ‘I’m stupid, I’m unlovable’, then change those thought to something else. Hardwire your brain and spirit to know you are loveable. Even if you don’t mean it at first, repetition and relearning will help it stick. Examine your beliefs if you think ‘love can’t be trusted’ etc you are making that a concrete reality for your brain, you are also sending that vibration out into the universe. Challenging your thinking and choosing to think new thoughts can create a new reality.
I’m fascinated by science and spirituality. I feel that right now we are in a time where science can help us enhance our spiritual journey and visa versa. Think of your brain as your computer. You can programme it how you like and watch the very world around you change with you.
Much love,
Michele
