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April 14, 2016
As Cold As Ice: Learning from the Struggle
Here is my 'Emotional Cognition Truth': We must face fear and do what is necessary to walk near the dangerous when "getting well"!
For the organism there is a difference between a symptom and an act which directly leads to death. We sense where danger lurks; we take only cautious and calculated risks while staying on a healthy path. By facing small fears -- the greater ones are addressed with more confidence. Yet, to work this therapy one has to know his or her limits.
A graphic view of death 'rants' -- as shown in some films & video -- can crazily influence moronic copy cats. For this reason these extreme 'ways' to death should not be shown to an impressionable public:
(*) explicit cruelty
(*) inordinate violence
(*) underage sex
(*) graphic killing & murder
For me -- there are limits which are unhealthy for many. You may have other limits. See:The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
We should be able to publicly discuss our differences without rancor. Solutions will come in time.
Handling another person's cash is a thrill for a thief. Vomiting is a sign that something is wrong with bulimic individuals. Drinking alcoholic beverages is symptomatic for an alcoholic. Too much of these activities will cause overdoses -- leading to self-imposed jail or death.
Many addictions are treacherous and cannot be entertained. Do NOT trust your intuitions -- you know who you are!
Yet, we have to live in this world and need to be safe. Is there a way we can become warned -- or inured -- to the death limit before it is approached by us?
A person who had intentionally cut himself or herself with a blade may eventually have to use a razor later in life. Another who had been bulimic with purging may catch the flu and as a consequence vomit once again. An alcoholic may have honest business in a bar. What then? Are we to throw 'everything to the wind' because of one instance? We need to be 'cognitively rational' by using 'Emotional Intelligence'. These 'acts' do not have to be done no matter who else says differently!
There has to be a line drawn between falling back into old behaviors and living the life of a free person. We must assume that people do not want to go certain places as well as accept their decision-making capabilities.
"Aye -- there's the rub!!" We have to learn to be honest with ourselves. We need to imagine our own rational limits. To do this we need (1) an imagination, (2) people to talk with, (3) a 'vision' to practice, and (4) 'Emotional Intelligence.'
In conclusion I offer this example from my life:
Unlike the "Bob" who lived in my youth -- I now definitely want to keep my sobriety. In recent times I have actually gone into bars and successfully not imbibed. For me, this was accomplished only by being mentally and spiritually prepared and was aided by having honest business to conduct in the bar. In short, I did not have extemporaneous spontaneity in a place that could otherwise have danger for me.
Yet, I know from my imagination, that I would have great difficulty if I had frequented bars in Colorado and Washington states where both drinking and smoking would befall visitors. My will to "use" would grow to be too much and I would not be able to live with the consequences. Except for certain jail or death, any other ending would be equally negatively unpredictable.
I know the limit of which I am well aware. Should you try to influence me otherwise I would say to you -- "Why is it so important to you that I 'use'? It sounds like it is more your problem than mine!! Thank you -- I'll do what I want!!" Gladly I would leave you in my wake only to go further with my life -- that would be my response if I felt threatened by you -- if I felt threatened by my own propensity for addiction.
Ideally, I need to say that all which should be necessary is a simple -- "No thank you." Out of respect for all we need to be polite. Offense and umbrage occur unnecessarily and genteel people need to be considered. I apologize for my bluntness!
Therefore I recommend to you that you too must know yourself. You must walk a line of honesty which no one else will do. It's either that or not "get well" at all!!
Sincerely written and
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
check: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
or see: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
For the organism there is a difference between a symptom and an act which directly leads to death. We sense where danger lurks; we take only cautious and calculated risks while staying on a healthy path. By facing small fears -- the greater ones are addressed with more confidence. Yet, to work this therapy one has to know his or her limits.
A graphic view of death 'rants' -- as shown in some films & video -- can crazily influence moronic copy cats. For this reason these extreme 'ways' to death should not be shown to an impressionable public:
(*) explicit cruelty
(*) inordinate violence
(*) underage sex
(*) graphic killing & murder
For me -- there are limits which are unhealthy for many. You may have other limits. See:The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
We should be able to publicly discuss our differences without rancor. Solutions will come in time.Handling another person's cash is a thrill for a thief. Vomiting is a sign that something is wrong with bulimic individuals. Drinking alcoholic beverages is symptomatic for an alcoholic. Too much of these activities will cause overdoses -- leading to self-imposed jail or death.
Many addictions are treacherous and cannot be entertained. Do NOT trust your intuitions -- you know who you are!
Yet, we have to live in this world and need to be safe. Is there a way we can become warned -- or inured -- to the death limit before it is approached by us?
A person who had intentionally cut himself or herself with a blade may eventually have to use a razor later in life. Another who had been bulimic with purging may catch the flu and as a consequence vomit once again. An alcoholic may have honest business in a bar. What then? Are we to throw 'everything to the wind' because of one instance? We need to be 'cognitively rational' by using 'Emotional Intelligence'. These 'acts' do not have to be done no matter who else says differently!
There has to be a line drawn between falling back into old behaviors and living the life of a free person. We must assume that people do not want to go certain places as well as accept their decision-making capabilities.
"Aye -- there's the rub!!" We have to learn to be honest with ourselves. We need to imagine our own rational limits. To do this we need (1) an imagination, (2) people to talk with, (3) a 'vision' to practice, and (4) 'Emotional Intelligence.'
In conclusion I offer this example from my life:
Unlike the "Bob" who lived in my youth -- I now definitely want to keep my sobriety. In recent times I have actually gone into bars and successfully not imbibed. For me, this was accomplished only by being mentally and spiritually prepared and was aided by having honest business to conduct in the bar. In short, I did not have extemporaneous spontaneity in a place that could otherwise have danger for me.
Yet, I know from my imagination, that I would have great difficulty if I had frequented bars in Colorado and Washington states where both drinking and smoking would befall visitors. My will to "use" would grow to be too much and I would not be able to live with the consequences. Except for certain jail or death, any other ending would be equally negatively unpredictable.
I know the limit of which I am well aware. Should you try to influence me otherwise I would say to you -- "Why is it so important to you that I 'use'? It sounds like it is more your problem than mine!! Thank you -- I'll do what I want!!" Gladly I would leave you in my wake only to go further with my life -- that would be my response if I felt threatened by you -- if I felt threatened by my own propensity for addiction.
Ideally, I need to say that all which should be necessary is a simple -- "No thank you." Out of respect for all we need to be polite. Offense and umbrage occur unnecessarily and genteel people need to be considered. I apologize for my bluntness!
Therefore I recommend to you that you too must know yourself. You must walk a line of honesty which no one else will do. It's either that or not "get well" at all!!
Sincerely written and
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
check: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
or see: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
April 12, 2016
The State of Delaware: Introduction for Robert N. Franz
I am writing now because I believe that by serving you I may fill my own needs as well. Specifically, here I want to accomplish two things:
First: I would like you to read my book "The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
By reading this work you may learn that I, like some other people, have been led down the wrong path in life concerning mental health and, in fact, can now choose a more healthy lifestyle where satisfaction can result by relating to others in better ways. In short, I was duped into not believing in myself and now with added confidence can act without the fear of having to "fit in" to society in an incongruous way. Yes, I can now comfortably be myself in the face of anyone!
By reading the book you may learn the pitfalls of what not to fall into, as well as, be summoned to gain the strength -- by seeing examples from my life -- to face your life with honesty and courage. It will be easier for you, the reader, to identify, work on your own shortcomings, and act with purpose when dealing with others. When this happens we all can work easier simply because all of us can have the same goals filled with honesty, forthrightness, and direct action. This begins the inception of teamwork -- something that can grow with time!
Second: I would like you to support me as becoming your Representative to the United States House. At this time I am certainly more of a representative than an administrator so certainly that much will fit. By knowing who we are I can be more effective !!
I desire to 'level the playing field' for many in this state -- not to mention these United States -- by making more options available for life choices, by helping create jobs & making education available to more people, and by helping the middle class. The key for me is to promote more productivity in our society. Productivity that would raise the GDP, add to our incomes and create a tax base to fund more programs which would level the playing field. To do this we would have to create slow but sustainable growth in the economy -- much like is now being accomplished in the British economy right now -- as well as maintain solid industry in the U.S.. To do this we would need the cooperation of many -- we would need teamwork! This is just what we need over time. More will come with time as more must be revealed!
At this moment I will list seven areas which I have appreciation towards and have studied:
(1) Studies of chemistry and some biology especially as they relate to medicine and environmental science.
(2) Helping the vulnerable get a "leg up" so their lives can have more value.
(3) Bringing peace yet having strength -- from sensibility with weapons to 'protective policing.'
(4) Using social work and psychiatry, as well as, promoting effective first responding and comprehensive emergency preparation for residents who need such aids.
(5) Promoting both integral and differential use of the money supply in banking especially concerning federal reserve rates and productivity.
(6) For the future of our society we must have direction in sociology, anthropology, paleontology, even to the point of understanding something about religious studies.
(7) Our country must first continue with a slowly emerging growth inherent with a productive economy.
Please consider what I have written here and make comments when you are ready and able to talk to me!
To my good friends I say Godspeed and Best Wishes,
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
Book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Essays linkage: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
See business Facebook page:
@The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
First: I would like you to read my book "The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
By reading this work you may learn that I, like some other people, have been led down the wrong path in life concerning mental health and, in fact, can now choose a more healthy lifestyle where satisfaction can result by relating to others in better ways. In short, I was duped into not believing in myself and now with added confidence can act without the fear of having to "fit in" to society in an incongruous way. Yes, I can now comfortably be myself in the face of anyone!By reading the book you may learn the pitfalls of what not to fall into, as well as, be summoned to gain the strength -- by seeing examples from my life -- to face your life with honesty and courage. It will be easier for you, the reader, to identify, work on your own shortcomings, and act with purpose when dealing with others. When this happens we all can work easier simply because all of us can have the same goals filled with honesty, forthrightness, and direct action. This begins the inception of teamwork -- something that can grow with time!
Second: I would like you to support me as becoming your Representative to the United States House. At this time I am certainly more of a representative than an administrator so certainly that much will fit. By knowing who we are I can be more effective !!
I desire to 'level the playing field' for many in this state -- not to mention these United States -- by making more options available for life choices, by helping create jobs & making education available to more people, and by helping the middle class. The key for me is to promote more productivity in our society. Productivity that would raise the GDP, add to our incomes and create a tax base to fund more programs which would level the playing field. To do this we would have to create slow but sustainable growth in the economy -- much like is now being accomplished in the British economy right now -- as well as maintain solid industry in the U.S.. To do this we would need the cooperation of many -- we would need teamwork! This is just what we need over time. More will come with time as more must be revealed!
At this moment I will list seven areas which I have appreciation towards and have studied:
(1) Studies of chemistry and some biology especially as they relate to medicine and environmental science.
(2) Helping the vulnerable get a "leg up" so their lives can have more value.
(3) Bringing peace yet having strength -- from sensibility with weapons to 'protective policing.'
(4) Using social work and psychiatry, as well as, promoting effective first responding and comprehensive emergency preparation for residents who need such aids.
(5) Promoting both integral and differential use of the money supply in banking especially concerning federal reserve rates and productivity.
(6) For the future of our society we must have direction in sociology, anthropology, paleontology, even to the point of understanding something about religious studies.
(7) Our country must first continue with a slowly emerging growth inherent with a productive economy.
Please consider what I have written here and make comments when you are ready and able to talk to me!
To my good friends I say Godspeed and Best Wishes,
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
Book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Essays linkage: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
See business Facebook page:
@The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
April 10, 2016
Are the Candidates Accurate? What is a President?
A President is not a popular boss, a messenger, nor even royalty to the people. A President is a delegate, or if you will, a deputy who must represent ALL of the electorate. There are elements of both a representative and an administrator in this leadership position. Let's look further:
This season the candidates have seemed to miss the mark. None have shown us what the job entails. It seems that those seeking office want to 'appear' or 'seem' presidential without actually 'being' presidential. It would make more sense to have them just relax and 'be' themselves without posturing, criticizing each other, and coming up with 'proclamations.' None of them have told us whether they are a representative or an administrator and even more importantly just what combination of these entities would apply to their presidency.
A representative or senator is an agent to the people and in this way basically differs from a governor, administrator, or Chief Executive Office (CEO). The managers -- like a governor or CEO -- dispense relief and justice. They carry out tasks and take action on and about their organizations. In government their functions are defined by the constitution as these managers take a different path to leadership than those who begin as a representative.
Legislative representatives (including senators) vote on and enact laws. They also serve as advisers to the administration. The Vice-President's office is the chair -- or leader -- who presides above the senatorial law making body as the presidential office heads the executive branch of the government. As a rule when the President represents all of the people he/she is loyal to not only the constitution but the constituents as well. In many ways the President acts both as a representative and an executive. The road to the office can travel a variety of paths -- representation should at least be part of it.
Legislative bodies made up of representatives voted in by the electorate pass laws which enact or repeal policy. These bodies, and the President together serve and represent the people. With a diverse public it can be difficult to agree on the passing of many different laws. Representatives need to learn how to work together. Not only should one stand for their electorate but they need to know and find similarities with a variety of other legislators.
Should I ever be elected as a representative I would represent a constituency and then go further to represent certain other vulnerable people in our society. It is certain that some people need a level "playing field". My goal would be to provide an honest change so that all of us could be productive and many more would be effective. The election would therefore be for more than just a few.
Should a billionaire be elected -- the government would be run more like a corporation. In this case the billionaire would be less likely to represent ALL of the people and decisions would be made primarily for the benefit of the organized 'company'. There is now some question as to how much all of the people would be represented, especially those who have been seen to be on the fringes of society. It should be maintained even in the face of vast differences that all citizens have individual, inalienable rights despite those difference which pull and tug people apart. In the face of the world we all need to have representation !! 'One nation' needs to be more than just a concept for a few individuals.
Although there are elements of the representative and the administrator in all candidates seeking public office -- it is good to know about the personality and motives of each candidate. Personality can determine the qualities shown in the elected officer and especially to which one's actions would default.
Basically, are we voting for a representative or an administrator? Which would be better for the specific elected office we are voting for? The results are determined in the reasons we vote. We need to know why we vote the way we do. It makes a big difference.
I want to thank The Merriam-Webster Dictionary
andThe Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
for information used in this essay. America needs to continue in it's leadership role of providing strength with it's people and hope to the world.
We really must be a 'shining city' in a high place !! The world is waiting !!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See the book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or click on link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Check page; @TheStigmaOfTheMentallyIll:BobDoesEverythingBackwards
This season the candidates have seemed to miss the mark. None have shown us what the job entails. It seems that those seeking office want to 'appear' or 'seem' presidential without actually 'being' presidential. It would make more sense to have them just relax and 'be' themselves without posturing, criticizing each other, and coming up with 'proclamations.' None of them have told us whether they are a representative or an administrator and even more importantly just what combination of these entities would apply to their presidency.
A representative or senator is an agent to the people and in this way basically differs from a governor, administrator, or Chief Executive Office (CEO). The managers -- like a governor or CEO -- dispense relief and justice. They carry out tasks and take action on and about their organizations. In government their functions are defined by the constitution as these managers take a different path to leadership than those who begin as a representative.
Legislative representatives (including senators) vote on and enact laws. They also serve as advisers to the administration. The Vice-President's office is the chair -- or leader -- who presides above the senatorial law making body as the presidential office heads the executive branch of the government. As a rule when the President represents all of the people he/she is loyal to not only the constitution but the constituents as well. In many ways the President acts both as a representative and an executive. The road to the office can travel a variety of paths -- representation should at least be part of it.
Legislative bodies made up of representatives voted in by the electorate pass laws which enact or repeal policy. These bodies, and the President together serve and represent the people. With a diverse public it can be difficult to agree on the passing of many different laws. Representatives need to learn how to work together. Not only should one stand for their electorate but they need to know and find similarities with a variety of other legislators.
Should I ever be elected as a representative I would represent a constituency and then go further to represent certain other vulnerable people in our society. It is certain that some people need a level "playing field". My goal would be to provide an honest change so that all of us could be productive and many more would be effective. The election would therefore be for more than just a few.
Should a billionaire be elected -- the government would be run more like a corporation. In this case the billionaire would be less likely to represent ALL of the people and decisions would be made primarily for the benefit of the organized 'company'. There is now some question as to how much all of the people would be represented, especially those who have been seen to be on the fringes of society. It should be maintained even in the face of vast differences that all citizens have individual, inalienable rights despite those difference which pull and tug people apart. In the face of the world we all need to have representation !! 'One nation' needs to be more than just a concept for a few individuals.
Although there are elements of the representative and the administrator in all candidates seeking public office -- it is good to know about the personality and motives of each candidate. Personality can determine the qualities shown in the elected officer and especially to which one's actions would default.
Basically, are we voting for a representative or an administrator? Which would be better for the specific elected office we are voting for? The results are determined in the reasons we vote. We need to know why we vote the way we do. It makes a big difference.
I want to thank The Merriam-Webster Dictionary
andThe Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
for information used in this essay. America needs to continue in it's leadership role of providing strength with it's people and hope to the world.We really must be a 'shining city' in a high place !! The world is waiting !!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See the book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or click on link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Check page; @TheStigmaOfTheMentallyIll:BobDoesEverythingBackwards
April 8, 2016
So -- You Like to Drink!!? Ehh?!
Prince Hal in Shakespeare's history trilogy "Henry IV (part I)", "Henry IV (part II)", and "Henry V" develops from an older adolescent prince into manhood, and then as a strong English monarch.
Part of his development occurs in a tavern with the humorously wise imbiber "Falstaff". Although once wise it should be noticed that over the years Falstaff just becomes another sot to laugh at --- and then just another sot.
Noticing this -- Prince Hal learns [& uses his self knowledge] to realize that alcohol (and drugs for us) are solutions which dissolve life itself -- let alone relationships.
Much more -- it is bolstered in me that If I love -- Yes, love -- then I must let it go to genuinely see if it will be returned to me. Is my love of love greater than the essence of relationships? May love of a substance be greater than love of another person? Does love of matter -- or material things -- seem inordinately strong for me? Why do some loves seem greater? Or different?
Can I not love more than one at one time? Why can I not see that each love will change me from what I once was?
I see quite plainly that addiction is not the same as love. It makes one lose so much of what is good in life. It pulls us from the goodness of life -- to death itself!!
Yet why does some love make other loves "mutually exclusive" from others? Love itself can therefore make having two lovers impossible -- but allow us to care and love for more than one person. Mysterious? -- No!?
"Pray tell," may the bard write, "What is in store for the rest of us?" What love are you attracted to?
'Many are called but few are chosen'. "Please choose me!"
Respectfully submitted with care,
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Part of his development occurs in a tavern with the humorously wise imbiber "Falstaff". Although once wise it should be noticed that over the years Falstaff just becomes another sot to laugh at --- and then just another sot.
Noticing this -- Prince Hal learns [& uses his self knowledge] to realize that alcohol (and drugs for us) are solutions which dissolve life itself -- let alone relationships.
Much more -- it is bolstered in me that If I love -- Yes, love -- then I must let it go to genuinely see if it will be returned to me. Is my love of love greater than the essence of relationships? May love of a substance be greater than love of another person? Does love of matter -- or material things -- seem inordinately strong for me? Why do some loves seem greater? Or different?
Can I not love more than one at one time? Why can I not see that each love will change me from what I once was?
I see quite plainly that addiction is not the same as love. It makes one lose so much of what is good in life. It pulls us from the goodness of life -- to death itself!!
Yet why does some love make other loves "mutually exclusive" from others? Love itself can therefore make having two lovers impossible -- but allow us to care and love for more than one person. Mysterious? -- No!?
"Pray tell," may the bard write, "What is in store for the rest of us?" What love are you attracted to?
'Many are called but few are chosen'. "Please choose me!"
Respectfully submitted with care,
Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
April 5, 2016
To Love: The Unlovable
Simply put, many like to see self promoters fail. They enjoy seeing someone take first place only to fall from grace and come in last. Naysayers enjoy this -- no matter what the circumstances -- and often "team-up" to fail someone when they can. Being 'part of something' never comes to mind -- only attaining first place and 'lording' over others is valued. I feel that some may be gleeful if The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards fails.
Nonetheless, check it out at: amzn.to/1R1Oayq today.
That is where I get off -- that is where I show that I am not putting myself first -- whether it be onstage in a small family or in a large forum as from a public book publication. Specifically I want the reader to know that I use my life examples to help others in their vulnerability. Primarily, this is the reason I began writing for others.
Sure, I use the noun "I" a lot. I talk about MY life, MY experiences & beliefs, and MY will. But in reality there are others who end up taking first place.
In my mind it should be the vulnerable who come first -- any vulnerable. I write for those who cannot take a voice -- or have a voice.
It is the sick & ill, the victims, the maligned, the mistreated, the raped, the deformed, the weak, the poor, the hated, the sad & depressed, and the meek who I want to help.
Those who are ugly in any way -- those whose opinions are drowned out -- those who are criticized and hated, and even those who are just not popular or liked by the mainstream top feeders end up unjustly shamed in our world entirely too much. I want this turned around completely. A new order must come.
It is those who demand inordinately to be above others that not only will I take the other side -- but I mean to ruin as well. In truth, I only want to make the playing field even. I am like the black knight in a chess match who takes the white bishop. A sacrifice may be needed to make a game fair. Yet even though this is true -- we must also realize that sometimes we are dealing with an enormity of lives where 'fairness' cannot be the issue, but where justice and learning may play larger roles.
My once pretty face is now ugly from the inside. Like others, there is (at the least) original sin. I do not care if I offend the mainstream -- your popular face is just not worth it anymore. Get out of my life. Wait for your real game.
We must now love the unlovable -- believe the untenable -- prune our ways, and build a new order to enjoy true growth in our lives.
Godspeed to an equitable equality. If we are going to be equal -- then you are going to have to pull your own weight. Let's please get to it -- Now.
Thank you,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Nonetheless, check it out at: amzn.to/1R1Oayq today.That is where I get off -- that is where I show that I am not putting myself first -- whether it be onstage in a small family or in a large forum as from a public book publication. Specifically I want the reader to know that I use my life examples to help others in their vulnerability. Primarily, this is the reason I began writing for others.
Sure, I use the noun "I" a lot. I talk about MY life, MY experiences & beliefs, and MY will. But in reality there are others who end up taking first place.
In my mind it should be the vulnerable who come first -- any vulnerable. I write for those who cannot take a voice -- or have a voice.
It is the sick & ill, the victims, the maligned, the mistreated, the raped, the deformed, the weak, the poor, the hated, the sad & depressed, and the meek who I want to help.
Those who are ugly in any way -- those whose opinions are drowned out -- those who are criticized and hated, and even those who are just not popular or liked by the mainstream top feeders end up unjustly shamed in our world entirely too much. I want this turned around completely. A new order must come.
It is those who demand inordinately to be above others that not only will I take the other side -- but I mean to ruin as well. In truth, I only want to make the playing field even. I am like the black knight in a chess match who takes the white bishop. A sacrifice may be needed to make a game fair. Yet even though this is true -- we must also realize that sometimes we are dealing with an enormity of lives where 'fairness' cannot be the issue, but where justice and learning may play larger roles.
My once pretty face is now ugly from the inside. Like others, there is (at the least) original sin. I do not care if I offend the mainstream -- your popular face is just not worth it anymore. Get out of my life. Wait for your real game.
We must now love the unlovable -- believe the untenable -- prune our ways, and build a new order to enjoy true growth in our lives.
Godspeed to an equitable equality. If we are going to be equal -- then you are going to have to pull your own weight. Let's please get to it -- Now.
Thank you,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Considering the Newly Formed Annihilist
I want to look from the perspective of the fearful, angry person who feels so utterly isolated and full of hate that he causes a tragic atrocity. What makes one a lone and violent annihilist? How can we all get along better? What is 'your' logic? For an answer we need to 'dream big' and decide where the discussion begins.
We have to see where the individual's fear comes from. Yes, I say fear -- for it is the anger that comes from the fear which brings on the violence. Basic motives in the annihilist come from the feeling that he is going to lose -- or is about to lose -- something that he feels he desperately needs. These security issues would affect his emotional state, but also can push him to the limit through any other effect of bankruptcy which could befall him.
On the outside we fight for race, religion, political and sexual issues, money, ownership of instincts and goods, and national concerns. Our 'powers to be' can be judged by our goods all the way to our basic food & water and dwelling spaces. Although a healthy person may substitute or sublimate emotions, not everyone is able to do this -- as some resort to hatred.
Personal issues become critical -- and the loners fear even to openly talk with others. The annihilist becomes broken and his strong instincts take hold. By not being taught well, his personal disciplines for care suffer. It is as though his hate is fermenting.
We need to diffuse these tendencies as we look about and see others who are isolating. We need to reach out, communicate and teach in a new way.
Specifically: (1) Discipline (2) Values & (3) Respect for others need to be brought and taught to all. Love, and the morals even from teachings like the "Ten Commandments" make all people learn that though unattractive at times -- discipline can be learned and worked at so that each individual can have a decent part in a society of our fellows. Children have to learn this at an early age. Preschool?
Values then have to grow in all of us. Should we look at something like the "Seven Deadly Sins" (pride, avarice, lust, greed, gluttony, anger & sloth) we can track our motives and become seekers of virtues -- instead of slaves to instincts. Children need to be encouraged to look at virtues as something to aspire towards as communication for all should continue. Activities? Sports?
Respect for others is approached as the ways and means of those persons of other cultures are appreciated. We must know that to accept others -- different from ourselves -- can be learned without compromise and without loss to any of our own integrity. By teaching tolerance, patience will then follow. Sometimes in today's America we have just tried to "Get Ahead" at any cost. This causes strife to say the least. Some qualities just subvert our developmental natures and we all need to have the opportunity to grow in peace. Where does one learn sportsmanship?
For those who cannot or will not learn or conform to these views it will be necessary to supervise their lives. Just to unleash immature young adults onto society does no one any service. I recommend an 'Ameri-Corps' Program for drifting 18 - 24 year-olds in our country. Not only could the young adults give back to the States, but there could be a cooperative practice and action for work to be accomplished in our nation. Can '4C' camps be better than prison?
All of us are here to have a good part in society and not to demolish what has been solidly built in our country. Both water mains and bridges need fixed. Infrastructure needs repair. Our minds & bodies are ready. Hearts need a new resolve.
What makes the annihilist so dangerous is not so much that he is a strong bully -- but that he has easy access to, and willingness to use violent weapons. Members of the public could stop this violence by gently, cautiously, reaching out to him, before any action on his part would take place. In particular, by also limiting the acquisition of these weapons the atrocities could not occur at all.
If blame is to be had at all it is that we do not reach out to others on a daily basis. Just as we have to be reminded to check on our children and senior citizens in cold or hot weather, so to do we need to be reminded to check on our loners. Just a cursory assessment on each person's emotional condition or 'mind set' could come about with one smiling greeting. Really -- "How are you?" one could ask in a sincere, friendly manner. I see no harm in making this a more sociable, smaller world -- but I do realize that the smiling greeting has to take place days before, and not on the day of his 'mind set' to kill.
Let's begin by looking out after each other. Click onto this link, please: amzn.to/1R1Oayq. Perhaps we can save some lives. The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
Please bring peace.
Yours Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
We have to see where the individual's fear comes from. Yes, I say fear -- for it is the anger that comes from the fear which brings on the violence. Basic motives in the annihilist come from the feeling that he is going to lose -- or is about to lose -- something that he feels he desperately needs. These security issues would affect his emotional state, but also can push him to the limit through any other effect of bankruptcy which could befall him.
On the outside we fight for race, religion, political and sexual issues, money, ownership of instincts and goods, and national concerns. Our 'powers to be' can be judged by our goods all the way to our basic food & water and dwelling spaces. Although a healthy person may substitute or sublimate emotions, not everyone is able to do this -- as some resort to hatred.
Personal issues become critical -- and the loners fear even to openly talk with others. The annihilist becomes broken and his strong instincts take hold. By not being taught well, his personal disciplines for care suffer. It is as though his hate is fermenting.
We need to diffuse these tendencies as we look about and see others who are isolating. We need to reach out, communicate and teach in a new way.
Specifically: (1) Discipline (2) Values & (3) Respect for others need to be brought and taught to all. Love, and the morals even from teachings like the "Ten Commandments" make all people learn that though unattractive at times -- discipline can be learned and worked at so that each individual can have a decent part in a society of our fellows. Children have to learn this at an early age. Preschool?
Values then have to grow in all of us. Should we look at something like the "Seven Deadly Sins" (pride, avarice, lust, greed, gluttony, anger & sloth) we can track our motives and become seekers of virtues -- instead of slaves to instincts. Children need to be encouraged to look at virtues as something to aspire towards as communication for all should continue. Activities? Sports?
Respect for others is approached as the ways and means of those persons of other cultures are appreciated. We must know that to accept others -- different from ourselves -- can be learned without compromise and without loss to any of our own integrity. By teaching tolerance, patience will then follow. Sometimes in today's America we have just tried to "Get Ahead" at any cost. This causes strife to say the least. Some qualities just subvert our developmental natures and we all need to have the opportunity to grow in peace. Where does one learn sportsmanship?
For those who cannot or will not learn or conform to these views it will be necessary to supervise their lives. Just to unleash immature young adults onto society does no one any service. I recommend an 'Ameri-Corps' Program for drifting 18 - 24 year-olds in our country. Not only could the young adults give back to the States, but there could be a cooperative practice and action for work to be accomplished in our nation. Can '4C' camps be better than prison?
All of us are here to have a good part in society and not to demolish what has been solidly built in our country. Both water mains and bridges need fixed. Infrastructure needs repair. Our minds & bodies are ready. Hearts need a new resolve.
What makes the annihilist so dangerous is not so much that he is a strong bully -- but that he has easy access to, and willingness to use violent weapons. Members of the public could stop this violence by gently, cautiously, reaching out to him, before any action on his part would take place. In particular, by also limiting the acquisition of these weapons the atrocities could not occur at all.
If blame is to be had at all it is that we do not reach out to others on a daily basis. Just as we have to be reminded to check on our children and senior citizens in cold or hot weather, so to do we need to be reminded to check on our loners. Just a cursory assessment on each person's emotional condition or 'mind set' could come about with one smiling greeting. Really -- "How are you?" one could ask in a sincere, friendly manner. I see no harm in making this a more sociable, smaller world -- but I do realize that the smiling greeting has to take place days before, and not on the day of his 'mind set' to kill.
Let's begin by looking out after each other. Click onto this link, please: amzn.to/1R1Oayq. Perhaps we can save some lives. The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
Please bring peace.Yours Sincerely,
Robert N. Franz
amazon.com/author/rf3rd
March 28, 2016
'Emotional Cognition Theory' (pt 10) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
(10): The Final -- Conclusions and Review:
Through the use of these books -- The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life
by Joseph LeDoux, The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
by Robert N. Franz, and Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
by S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert we can see how the higher functioning parts of our brains are able to communicate using 'emotional intelligence'. In fact -- as 'higher brained' organisms on this earth -- we are able to appreciate and discern just how others feel and would act due to their intellect, emotions, and physical states. If it is at all possible to add the spiritual, as well, then all our behaviors become an "I AM" in which we are drawn even closer through our basest instincts. Man will therefore reach his essence as shown by God itself!! [And if you cannot believe that then just try to conscript a view of the vast 'communal mind' of all humans !!]
All of this notwithstanding -- I choose to look at three concepts in review of the last number of essays I have written:
The first is "state dependent learning". As college students we used to joke about the concept of 'state dependent learning' as we learned it. As stated it is determined that one performs best -- to the maximum -- if one is asked to duplicate what is learned in the same 'state' as when you learned it. This means that if I learned something when drunk, drinking, or in a hangover -- that the best time to regurgitate the information would also be when I was drunk, drinking or in a hangover. Although we could joke about this as college students the thought of this concept had me consider the use of medicine by psychiatrists.
What if the only way a problem could be addressed, or eventually solved, was by changing the behavior of a client through the use of medicine? Could time be saved and development towards preferred behavior be learned while on medicine? Once learning the new -- more adaptable -- behaviors would it be possible that the client could then slowly "get off" the medicine while still learning what was needed?
Practically speaking -- this could be a way of teaching a client new, more appropriate, and adaptable behaviors. By using 'state dependent learning' a psychiatrist would be able to teach patients new ways of how to act in situations.
Concurrently, a client could also learn just by noting the emotions he was having as he tries to learn. Using 'state dependent learning' he may be able to reproduce feelings at these times and find a new ways of learning. The use of medicine does not always have to be used -- sometimes an emotion or grouping of feelings could suffice.
In these instances I may or may not use medication. In my case I continue to want to stop all medication. The use of 'higher' amounts of drugs in my system are gone. I now believe that I can learn without drugs and use 'state dependent learning' while using no meds. Can't I be respected for this?
The second concept to be considered is -- "Social Learning". Ideally we want to be at the point where we have no shame in learning new behaviors in front of others. Examples from mine and Leslie's middle schools show that as we learned in front of our peers -- that we seemed to perceive attention and shame thrown onto us. Therefore it became essential to stop being so very self-centered and embarrassed especially while others were present. We had to know that we were not as unique as we previously thought.
Once we accept the fact that everyone at certain points has to learn in front of others, then it isn't so bad. One of the most feared behaviors one may undertake is to speak up in front of an audience. Fear and shame sometimes are doubled and tripled. When we talk in front of others there is a tendency to fear judgements from others. Yet, in the end -- if we can accept ourselves onstage, then this stage of life is not so difficult to take.
In fact, growing up with 'supervising peers' does not necessarily have to be painful. Time and trials can prove that sometimes it can be exhilarating as well. Look at the life of Shirley Temple Black, who had grown up as a child in films and without embarrassment later in life served her country as a Representative to U.S. Congress. There was no self-consciousness -- no embarrassment -- as at all times her life was well-meaning and enlightening.
Finally I have to mention the one behavior which we must risk for ourselves. This is 'courage':
At some point to be successful we all must "take a leap of faith"! We need to cross the threshold of actually 'wanting to try' and then moving to an 'action-endeavor' mode which heads towards a new state of mind. We cannot be afraid of the trying.
Some still mistakenly feel that they have to "alter their state of mind" to take the first step to action -- but we know deep inside that no "'swig' of whiskey" or pill of "xanax" or "valium" will do it for us. We can only prevail with positive steps when we have the courage to act soberly and sanely as we approach actualization.
There has to be a point in time where we need to 'place our boots on the ground' and move. Ready or not we will have to try.
Only by trials will we find the behaviors we need. By ourselves, or in front of others, [in the end it doesn't really matter -- for] we will need to start a new life. Choices will have to be made!!
As Yogi Berra once said, "If you see a fork in the road -- take it"!! With that I now offer you the best of 'Emotional Cognition Therapy' -- both a theory and a treatment which will change your life!!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Then witness the page: @TheStigmaOfTheMentallyIll:BobDoesEverythingBackwards
Through the use of these books -- The Emotional Brain: The Mysterious Underpinnings of Emotional Life
by Joseph LeDoux, The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
by Robert N. Franz, and Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
by S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert we can see how the higher functioning parts of our brains are able to communicate using 'emotional intelligence'. In fact -- as 'higher brained' organisms on this earth -- we are able to appreciate and discern just how others feel and would act due to their intellect, emotions, and physical states. If it is at all possible to add the spiritual, as well, then all our behaviors become an "I AM" in which we are drawn even closer through our basest instincts. Man will therefore reach his essence as shown by God itself!! [And if you cannot believe that then just try to conscript a view of the vast 'communal mind' of all humans !!]All of this notwithstanding -- I choose to look at three concepts in review of the last number of essays I have written:
The first is "state dependent learning". As college students we used to joke about the concept of 'state dependent learning' as we learned it. As stated it is determined that one performs best -- to the maximum -- if one is asked to duplicate what is learned in the same 'state' as when you learned it. This means that if I learned something when drunk, drinking, or in a hangover -- that the best time to regurgitate the information would also be when I was drunk, drinking or in a hangover. Although we could joke about this as college students the thought of this concept had me consider the use of medicine by psychiatrists.
What if the only way a problem could be addressed, or eventually solved, was by changing the behavior of a client through the use of medicine? Could time be saved and development towards preferred behavior be learned while on medicine? Once learning the new -- more adaptable -- behaviors would it be possible that the client could then slowly "get off" the medicine while still learning what was needed?
Practically speaking -- this could be a way of teaching a client new, more appropriate, and adaptable behaviors. By using 'state dependent learning' a psychiatrist would be able to teach patients new ways of how to act in situations.
Concurrently, a client could also learn just by noting the emotions he was having as he tries to learn. Using 'state dependent learning' he may be able to reproduce feelings at these times and find a new ways of learning. The use of medicine does not always have to be used -- sometimes an emotion or grouping of feelings could suffice.
In these instances I may or may not use medication. In my case I continue to want to stop all medication. The use of 'higher' amounts of drugs in my system are gone. I now believe that I can learn without drugs and use 'state dependent learning' while using no meds. Can't I be respected for this?
The second concept to be considered is -- "Social Learning". Ideally we want to be at the point where we have no shame in learning new behaviors in front of others. Examples from mine and Leslie's middle schools show that as we learned in front of our peers -- that we seemed to perceive attention and shame thrown onto us. Therefore it became essential to stop being so very self-centered and embarrassed especially while others were present. We had to know that we were not as unique as we previously thought.
Once we accept the fact that everyone at certain points has to learn in front of others, then it isn't so bad. One of the most feared behaviors one may undertake is to speak up in front of an audience. Fear and shame sometimes are doubled and tripled. When we talk in front of others there is a tendency to fear judgements from others. Yet, in the end -- if we can accept ourselves onstage, then this stage of life is not so difficult to take.
In fact, growing up with 'supervising peers' does not necessarily have to be painful. Time and trials can prove that sometimes it can be exhilarating as well. Look at the life of Shirley Temple Black, who had grown up as a child in films and without embarrassment later in life served her country as a Representative to U.S. Congress. There was no self-consciousness -- no embarrassment -- as at all times her life was well-meaning and enlightening.
Finally I have to mention the one behavior which we must risk for ourselves. This is 'courage':
At some point to be successful we all must "take a leap of faith"! We need to cross the threshold of actually 'wanting to try' and then moving to an 'action-endeavor' mode which heads towards a new state of mind. We cannot be afraid of the trying.
Some still mistakenly feel that they have to "alter their state of mind" to take the first step to action -- but we know deep inside that no "'swig' of whiskey" or pill of "xanax" or "valium" will do it for us. We can only prevail with positive steps when we have the courage to act soberly and sanely as we approach actualization.
There has to be a point in time where we need to 'place our boots on the ground' and move. Ready or not we will have to try.
Only by trials will we find the behaviors we need. By ourselves, or in front of others, [in the end it doesn't really matter -- for] we will need to start a new life. Choices will have to be made!!
As Yogi Berra once said, "If you see a fork in the road -- take it"!! With that I now offer you the best of 'Emotional Cognition Therapy' -- both a theory and a treatment which will change your life!!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
Then witness the page: @TheStigmaOfTheMentallyIll:BobDoesEverythingBackwards
March 26, 2016
'Emotional Cognition Theory' (pt 9B) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
I had to learn how to 'dial down' and do what I could -- not expecting too much -- but to do my part without feelings of exception.
(9B): More by S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert on Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
Internal problems may manifest themselves as 'spiritual' as well. We are not always in the physical, mental, and emotional world. There are times we may have to "pray" [or in other words use 'self-hypnosis'] to help change our perception about our dilemmas.
Please know that I differ with Dr. Kravitz in that I feel that emotions should be channeled instead of controlled. Specifically, when one attempts to control an emotion it is like putting a stopper on a closed system -- like closing up a steaming kettle. Eventually the closed system will build up pressure and explode. That is why in my view emotions should always be expressed if even just a little. Channeling allows for calm expression.
Let's now look at some adult problems. For a long while my wife, Leslie, had lived with a resentment which would not go away. She continued to relive the betrayal of classmates in the lunchroom of her middle school. Leslie perceived past ostracism, ridicule, and rejection from girls at her school and felt that it had bearing on how she felt about herself as an adult. Her experiences in 7th, 8th, and 9th grades quietly made her bitter as an adult.
Since these thoughts affected her spirit and would not go away they needed to be purged from her mind. Clearly it was needed for her to go forward with a more optimistic view of life. What did she do?
As an adult Leslie contacted a therapist and then a member of the clergy where she discussed her feelings and began to pray not only for the "kids" in her old middle school, but that her resentments would be lifted as well. By discussion, prayer -- and some 'self-hypnosis' the remembrances vanished. She could honestly feel the truth that we are all crazy in middle school and these things really did not matter. We could then go into a society of caring where each of us looked after each other.
At this point I need to make some disclosures about myself which I normally would not make. To unlock the past means that I have to use a certain amount of understanding. I have to describe some occurrences and situations.
Despite the fact that I had been raped, I still graduated in chemistry from Occidental College in Los Angeles in 1976. Those two facts alone do not preclude that they could never exist together. [It IS possible to graduate from college as well as be raped -- it just takes a certain amount of 'chutzpah' whether one is Jewish or not. In my case -- since I had to return to the scene of the crime to graduate -- it either took bravery or blind denial to do so.] Succinctly put, I faced emotions I could have avoided -- yet in the end -- the experiences led me to a specific acceptance of my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Eventually, though, through years of work I was able to recover and face what I am today -- a continuously recovering man.
I also did not perform as I was expected to at Occidental. I was told by another more exceptional student (who had been chosen to study performance by admissions standards) that I was never expected to do as well as I did. Graduating with a 3.45 GPA I also was honored with the status of Cum Laude. This was a surprise even to me! It was difficult to understand that I could do as well as I did considering that when I was accepted to the school my background did not have the depth of other students. Many felt that if they worked they could achieve Summa Cum Laude -- I on the other hand only did the best I could. My limit "had been reached" -- in the school's 'admission's eyes.
All of this was corroborated when later in life I enrolled in a Human Services curriculum at a community college in Wilmington, Delaware. I was receiving average "C's" in work in a typing course. I did not have the brain-finger coordination which I wanted. At one point I had expected to be a straight "A" student -- now I was something less. I had never understood the 'exceptional' students at Occidental -- "Was it all in their heads?" Why could I never be what I wanted to be? Was I in the wrong "Divergence Battalion"?
As a result I had always felt 'different' from my classmates and peers. For this I have learned the value of having someone to 'confide in'. In 'Emotional Cognition Treatment' the therapist engages in 'active listening' with the client. Sincerely speaking -- only one person in my life has truly listened to me more than anyone else -- that is my Dad. At this writing, he is 94 years old and resting in a home in Fallbrook, California and I am in Wilmington, Delaware. Although our meaningful talks are over; the regard and love is still there and when we talk the old smiles and familiarity are still present. I will never forget the attention he gave me at a younger age!! And the only thing I can do? Pass it forward!
We learn how to listen -- not to 'reply' -- but to 'understand' !!:
Specifically what Dad did for me was just as good or better than what any therapist could have done. In an acceptable way -- mostly non-judgemental -- he encouraged me to accept myself. If I wasn't as good as the other students I should try my best anyways. If I couldn't type properly then I should find a way around it. If I didn't fit into society, then I needed to develop patience. "There's a place for us -- a time and place for us!" he would imply with an encouraging word. If there were something different about a person then the difference was there for a certain reason. Dad told me that he loved me and that if my God wasn't big enough than I could borrow his!!
As a result my expectations dissolved. As a result I can honestly say that I may have some genes in me that are 'autistic' in nature. As a result I changed my life -- stopped drinking -- reduced any medication I've been on -- made a priority of helping others -- had the humility to look for honest work -- became a lifeguard and taught kids how to swim for ten years. After that? Who knows where I'll go? It's no longer just up to me! I do not necessarily have to have my own path or have to set firm goals. To be flexible means to be ready for anything -- I need to be ready for you. We need to do this together -- we need to love others and help each other as well.
Concluding Remarks:
I want to practice my listening skills fairly, with respect, trust, honest energy, and caring. I want to feel for others and make our relationships be of value. Other than listening to you there may be no other way of serving you. Besides, how else would I ever know how to serve you if I did not listen first?
To build a team we must consider others as well as express ourselves. We have to do things for each other. Common goals come by listening, accepting, and caring.
In review, it is our intent to use emotions in positive and constructive ways. We must solve problems using both logic and feelings, have all people express their needs, and have calm, thoughtful and optimistic responses.
Working as a team we can 'play off each other', learn from each other -- and have all of us become better together.
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted;
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or for essays check link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
(9B): More by S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert on Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
Internal problems may manifest themselves as 'spiritual' as well. We are not always in the physical, mental, and emotional world. There are times we may have to "pray" [or in other words use 'self-hypnosis'] to help change our perception about our dilemmas.
Please know that I differ with Dr. Kravitz in that I feel that emotions should be channeled instead of controlled. Specifically, when one attempts to control an emotion it is like putting a stopper on a closed system -- like closing up a steaming kettle. Eventually the closed system will build up pressure and explode. That is why in my view emotions should always be expressed if even just a little. Channeling allows for calm expression.
Let's now look at some adult problems. For a long while my wife, Leslie, had lived with a resentment which would not go away. She continued to relive the betrayal of classmates in the lunchroom of her middle school. Leslie perceived past ostracism, ridicule, and rejection from girls at her school and felt that it had bearing on how she felt about herself as an adult. Her experiences in 7th, 8th, and 9th grades quietly made her bitter as an adult.
Since these thoughts affected her spirit and would not go away they needed to be purged from her mind. Clearly it was needed for her to go forward with a more optimistic view of life. What did she do?
As an adult Leslie contacted a therapist and then a member of the clergy where she discussed her feelings and began to pray not only for the "kids" in her old middle school, but that her resentments would be lifted as well. By discussion, prayer -- and some 'self-hypnosis' the remembrances vanished. She could honestly feel the truth that we are all crazy in middle school and these things really did not matter. We could then go into a society of caring where each of us looked after each other.
At this point I need to make some disclosures about myself which I normally would not make. To unlock the past means that I have to use a certain amount of understanding. I have to describe some occurrences and situations.
Despite the fact that I had been raped, I still graduated in chemistry from Occidental College in Los Angeles in 1976. Those two facts alone do not preclude that they could never exist together. [It IS possible to graduate from college as well as be raped -- it just takes a certain amount of 'chutzpah' whether one is Jewish or not. In my case -- since I had to return to the scene of the crime to graduate -- it either took bravery or blind denial to do so.] Succinctly put, I faced emotions I could have avoided -- yet in the end -- the experiences led me to a specific acceptance of my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Eventually, though, through years of work I was able to recover and face what I am today -- a continuously recovering man.
I also did not perform as I was expected to at Occidental. I was told by another more exceptional student (who had been chosen to study performance by admissions standards) that I was never expected to do as well as I did. Graduating with a 3.45 GPA I also was honored with the status of Cum Laude. This was a surprise even to me! It was difficult to understand that I could do as well as I did considering that when I was accepted to the school my background did not have the depth of other students. Many felt that if they worked they could achieve Summa Cum Laude -- I on the other hand only did the best I could. My limit "had been reached" -- in the school's 'admission's eyes.
All of this was corroborated when later in life I enrolled in a Human Services curriculum at a community college in Wilmington, Delaware. I was receiving average "C's" in work in a typing course. I did not have the brain-finger coordination which I wanted. At one point I had expected to be a straight "A" student -- now I was something less. I had never understood the 'exceptional' students at Occidental -- "Was it all in their heads?" Why could I never be what I wanted to be? Was I in the wrong "Divergence Battalion"?
As a result I had always felt 'different' from my classmates and peers. For this I have learned the value of having someone to 'confide in'. In 'Emotional Cognition Treatment' the therapist engages in 'active listening' with the client. Sincerely speaking -- only one person in my life has truly listened to me more than anyone else -- that is my Dad. At this writing, he is 94 years old and resting in a home in Fallbrook, California and I am in Wilmington, Delaware. Although our meaningful talks are over; the regard and love is still there and when we talk the old smiles and familiarity are still present. I will never forget the attention he gave me at a younger age!! And the only thing I can do? Pass it forward!
We learn how to listen -- not to 'reply' -- but to 'understand' !!:
Specifically what Dad did for me was just as good or better than what any therapist could have done. In an acceptable way -- mostly non-judgemental -- he encouraged me to accept myself. If I wasn't as good as the other students I should try my best anyways. If I couldn't type properly then I should find a way around it. If I didn't fit into society, then I needed to develop patience. "There's a place for us -- a time and place for us!" he would imply with an encouraging word. If there were something different about a person then the difference was there for a certain reason. Dad told me that he loved me and that if my God wasn't big enough than I could borrow his!!
As a result my expectations dissolved. As a result I can honestly say that I may have some genes in me that are 'autistic' in nature. As a result I changed my life -- stopped drinking -- reduced any medication I've been on -- made a priority of helping others -- had the humility to look for honest work -- became a lifeguard and taught kids how to swim for ten years. After that? Who knows where I'll go? It's no longer just up to me! I do not necessarily have to have my own path or have to set firm goals. To be flexible means to be ready for anything -- I need to be ready for you. We need to do this together -- we need to love others and help each other as well.
Concluding Remarks:
I want to practice my listening skills fairly, with respect, trust, honest energy, and caring. I want to feel for others and make our relationships be of value. Other than listening to you there may be no other way of serving you. Besides, how else would I ever know how to serve you if I did not listen first?
To build a team we must consider others as well as express ourselves. We have to do things for each other. Common goals come by listening, accepting, and caring.
In review, it is our intent to use emotions in positive and constructive ways. We must solve problems using both logic and feelings, have all people express their needs, and have calm, thoughtful and optimistic responses.
Working as a team we can 'play off each other', learn from each other -- and have all of us become better together.
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted;
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or for essays check link: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
'Emotional Cognition Theory' (pt 9A) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
What to do about those embarrassing perceptions which effect our realities !! Are 'sweating' and 'perspiring' due to physical or mental considerations?
(9A): We may see that 'workbook' and 'workshop' solutions differ from that of physiological and individual societal issues as are shown in the previous 'reference' books by Joseph LeDoux and Robert N. Franz.
In the workbook -- Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
there are identified simple precepts, steps, and goals that we may learn in the presence of others which would help us solve our innermost problems. Once again, we must look at what the basic unit (or 'cell' -- or 'part') can do so that we can be part of a whole. In short, by having the courage to 'take action' it becomes possible to begin to solve personal problems.
"Emotional Intelligence" is a system of beliefs which brings us to solutions by melding our emotions with our intellect. The past solutions contrived by intellectual knowledge do not offer enough by themselves to solve our problems. Not everything can be solved like a math or physics problem. We can have all the intellectual knowledge in the world, but if we have inadequate 'people skills' advances will lead us nowhere. Our true problems have not helped us "get along" with others and have made for isolation between those who really want to associate in a constructive manner. Each individual -- by themselves -- must work to attempt to hold up their own part.
For example only at certain times -- especially when there may be not be exorbitant pressure -- may we initiate actions which make one well. Exercise precedes the true flexing of a muscle. In some cases in order to perform a magic trick one has to "load the deck."
According to S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert three parts of the brain must work together in the individual -- they are: (1) the instincts, (2) the emotions, and (3) logic (or the intellect). When they work together we can be part of a whole. We can be part of the fellowship of man -- much like having the energy by being a member of a honeybee hive -- or the industry of a member of an ant colony. Whether we know it or not our actions lead us to a higher calling or higher value, as each of us move to be part of a whole.
It is seen that when we work with others that our emotions are used in positive and constructive ways. Problems are solved by the use of both logic and feelings -- all needs are expressed -- and we provide calm, thoughtful, and optimistic responses. This is using 'Emotional Intelligence' at its best.
Here described is a personal problem in which fear paralyzed me during those embarrassing years of middle school -- particularly in 7th and 8th grades:
I feared that others would see the wetness -- perspiration and sweat -- in my armpits during the school day and went to great lengths to cover up. Even on hot days I would wear a sweater over top of my shirt so that both students and staff would not be able to see my shame -- and discern my issue. When I was able I would try to smell the area to see if I should use more deodorant. [At that point I also spent an inordinate amount of time experimenting with different deodorants.] As days wore on the problem increased not only because of the warmth of the season, but because of my increased nervousness as well. I dreaded the thought of going to high school in the next year. My thoughts only produced more anxieties.
What did I do to solve these feelings? Before the beginning of 9th grade -- over the summer -- I broke down and told my mother of my fears. Quite calmly and with understanding she told me that I wasn't as strange as I thought was and that it was not such an odd problem. With her help we devised a plan:
a) First, I would have to practice wearing shirts without sweaters. At first I did this on brief excursions outdoors and then went further by lengthening each trip from home until I was more confident in not wearing a sweater over my shirt.
b) Second, I would have to think of others in an effort to not be so self-conscious. I learned how to ask others about their lives and to not be so concerned about myself.
c) Third, I would pray for God's protection -- have faith -- and realize that basically other people are more concerned with their own issues and not mine. Agnostic alternatives also became apparent -- concentration on outside issues became important.
The plan worked -- both my emotions and logic prevailed. I did not have to be shamed and I learned how to adjust. Not only that but I was learning how to ask for help and have others have input into my questions -- at that point I trusted my mother -- and it worked !!
I want to note that even in subsequent years when acquaintances would call me nothing more than a "social animal" -- I felt the strength that my mother had instilled in me and my humane social usage became even stronger. I now feel truly one with fellows.
The problems addressed in Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies are judged by the following criteria; five points determine how they are solved. Here are the points:
(1) We need to have the self-awareness to state and identify our problems.
(2) We need to gain or maintain social skills.
(3) We need to have positive beliefs and optimism.
(4) When stress comes-- instead of alarm -- we need to act with calm.
(5) We need to know a variety of answers -- In the face of change, flexibility must come -- adaptation instead of rejection must be used.
Finally it is good to know that for us there will always be problems to solve -- "We are a problem people" and that all of us at some time can be instrumental in helping others.
This ends (9A): look for (9B) and then the (10) conclusions after that. My essays -- though now more family and socially concerned -- are wrapping-up and coming to a close. So if you will, please concentrate on the final topics as they are presented for understanding.
Thank you !!
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
(9A): We may see that 'workbook' and 'workshop' solutions differ from that of physiological and individual societal issues as are shown in the previous 'reference' books by Joseph LeDoux and Robert N. Franz.
In the workbook -- Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies
there are identified simple precepts, steps, and goals that we may learn in the presence of others which would help us solve our innermost problems. Once again, we must look at what the basic unit (or 'cell' -- or 'part') can do so that we can be part of a whole. In short, by having the courage to 'take action' it becomes possible to begin to solve personal problems."Emotional Intelligence" is a system of beliefs which brings us to solutions by melding our emotions with our intellect. The past solutions contrived by intellectual knowledge do not offer enough by themselves to solve our problems. Not everything can be solved like a math or physics problem. We can have all the intellectual knowledge in the world, but if we have inadequate 'people skills' advances will lead us nowhere. Our true problems have not helped us "get along" with others and have made for isolation between those who really want to associate in a constructive manner. Each individual -- by themselves -- must work to attempt to hold up their own part.
For example only at certain times -- especially when there may be not be exorbitant pressure -- may we initiate actions which make one well. Exercise precedes the true flexing of a muscle. In some cases in order to perform a magic trick one has to "load the deck."
According to S. Michael Kravitz and Susan D. Schubert three parts of the brain must work together in the individual -- they are: (1) the instincts, (2) the emotions, and (3) logic (or the intellect). When they work together we can be part of a whole. We can be part of the fellowship of man -- much like having the energy by being a member of a honeybee hive -- or the industry of a member of an ant colony. Whether we know it or not our actions lead us to a higher calling or higher value, as each of us move to be part of a whole.
It is seen that when we work with others that our emotions are used in positive and constructive ways. Problems are solved by the use of both logic and feelings -- all needs are expressed -- and we provide calm, thoughtful, and optimistic responses. This is using 'Emotional Intelligence' at its best.
Here described is a personal problem in which fear paralyzed me during those embarrassing years of middle school -- particularly in 7th and 8th grades:
I feared that others would see the wetness -- perspiration and sweat -- in my armpits during the school day and went to great lengths to cover up. Even on hot days I would wear a sweater over top of my shirt so that both students and staff would not be able to see my shame -- and discern my issue. When I was able I would try to smell the area to see if I should use more deodorant. [At that point I also spent an inordinate amount of time experimenting with different deodorants.] As days wore on the problem increased not only because of the warmth of the season, but because of my increased nervousness as well. I dreaded the thought of going to high school in the next year. My thoughts only produced more anxieties.
What did I do to solve these feelings? Before the beginning of 9th grade -- over the summer -- I broke down and told my mother of my fears. Quite calmly and with understanding she told me that I wasn't as strange as I thought was and that it was not such an odd problem. With her help we devised a plan:
a) First, I would have to practice wearing shirts without sweaters. At first I did this on brief excursions outdoors and then went further by lengthening each trip from home until I was more confident in not wearing a sweater over my shirt.
b) Second, I would have to think of others in an effort to not be so self-conscious. I learned how to ask others about their lives and to not be so concerned about myself.
c) Third, I would pray for God's protection -- have faith -- and realize that basically other people are more concerned with their own issues and not mine. Agnostic alternatives also became apparent -- concentration on outside issues became important.
The plan worked -- both my emotions and logic prevailed. I did not have to be shamed and I learned how to adjust. Not only that but I was learning how to ask for help and have others have input into my questions -- at that point I trusted my mother -- and it worked !!
I want to note that even in subsequent years when acquaintances would call me nothing more than a "social animal" -- I felt the strength that my mother had instilled in me and my humane social usage became even stronger. I now feel truly one with fellows.
The problems addressed in Emotional Intelligence Works: Developing "People Smart" Strategies are judged by the following criteria; five points determine how they are solved. Here are the points:
(1) We need to have the self-awareness to state and identify our problems.
(2) We need to gain or maintain social skills.
(3) We need to have positive beliefs and optimism.
(4) When stress comes-- instead of alarm -- we need to act with calm.
(5) We need to know a variety of answers -- In the face of change, flexibility must come -- adaptation instead of rejection must be used.
Finally it is good to know that for us there will always be problems to solve -- "We are a problem people" and that all of us at some time can be instrumental in helping others.
This ends (9A): look for (9B) and then the (10) conclusions after that. My essays -- though now more family and socially concerned -- are wrapping-up and coming to a close. So if you will, please concentrate on the final topics as they are presented for understanding.
Thank you !!
Sincerely yours;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See book linkage: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Or check: amazon.com/author/rf3rd
March 23, 2016
'Emotional Cognition Theory' (pt 8B) A New Psychoanalytic Therapy
The Octopus and the Pussycat !!
Please see my book -- The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
as a supplement to my treatment shown in the essays of (8A) and (8B).
(8B):
Throughout the course of my life I have tried to define my mental illness. I have said to myself -- "What is MY brand of psychosis?" It is necessary to find the answers.
At the same time I knew that I did not have the confidence "to take the world as it is." Why? Either by medication, drugs, or just by my own personal 'cranial juices' -- the biochemistry of my brain led me down roads which were extremely dissimilar to the family, friends and classmates about me. I was not carved in the same way. Their 'thinking' was saner than mine !!
According to one psychologist I had a need to 'reality test' to determine how and where to fit in to society. I had to 'come to grips' with this 'mental stuff'. Now I just laugh in the realization that so much thought is chafe and unwanted as well. It isn't necessary to pay attention to aberrant and crazy thoughts as long as I did not hurt someone else. Even in the bible the guy who wrote 'Revelations' must have been high on tainted 'Northern California mushrooms'. So just what 'facts' are my thoughts based on? We must ask:
From What Influences Does My Psychosis Come?
The psychotic thoughts I most feared were based on the timeless, odd, and gruesome thoughts which came in recent past centuries. The death of the innocent, various genocides, cold experimentation, odd mass murders, cannibalism, not to mention the Holocaust came to mind. I have always looked at the worst -- the 20th century gave me great fodder.
Based on a few facts my imagination would take off. Here goes:
I was told that most octopi in the sea have the intelligence similar to many of our house cats in the neighborhood. Both cats and octopi have each their own unique personality as each are curious, have minds of their own, and each can be aggressive.
The animals look very dissimilar yet as far as function goes they are in parallel niches as small predators, except that one is in the sea and the other lives on land.
An octopus has a larger brain not because he is smarter, but because he is an invertebrate. The "more efficient" mammalian house cat has a more condensed brain & brain stem; although his brain is smaller the nerve connections are more compact. Divers have reported octopi "leaning in " to observe human activity much as a kitty would do on land. The octopus and house cat have very similar intelligence. They watch other organisms and stalk in a similar manner.
These particular facts (and more) have given me a compulsion and obsession to lead me to "play with my thoughts" when walking the streets when withdrawing from medicine or chemicals -- or when traveling about when not 'mentally well'. In short, I would conjure up thoughts and use sophistic reasoning. These scientific 'facts' would become the 'basis' for my psychosis.
[It should be noted that these imaginative thoughts were of my mental construction. They were what my mind 'conjured-up'. For that reason I term these almost fantasy thoughts a "mental construct" -- that is the structure of thought that was going through my brain. In essence I am talking about my view of what was going on under the sea, on the land, or in outer space. Just like some hurricanes never reach land and are called "fish storms" so too it is just my imagination which tells me what is going on in other places (sick or not).
Contrast those thoughts to the cause of the psychosis. Psychosis may be due to certain stresses, such as post traumatic stress disorder (P.T.S.D.) or even simply a brain concussion. However in my case psychosis seemed to manifest with the withdrawal of certain drugs psychiatrists had gotten me "hooked" on. Every time I was rapidly or abruptly taken off certain medicines -- I then became psychotic !!]
Now about my psychotic fears: I thought of big cats and octopi wanting to eat me. I thought of strange aliens -- since an octopus's body was so foreign -- wanting to come and eat members of our species. I thought of traveling in space and encountering creatures who would be stronger and want to harm us. I imagined diseases emanating from space or deep under the oceans which could infect us. All in all I scared myself and became a psychotic ambassador of fear.
Since aliens would not have rigid bones I went on to further believe that they would be able to have the flexibility of traveling through space and time easier than humans. If there really was time travel it would be with us now simply because after all --"Isn't now just another time?" History could then be definitely changed. An example of this -- perhaps a warning to humans -- would have come from aliens in UFO's in the 1960's and '70's. Something was trying to tell us something at that time.
My psychotic reality -- my structured imagination -- led me at that time to walk and drive about the streets as a 'crazy man' who feared every step and who was unpredictable. Truly I needed help -- yet no one could cut through my own self-imposed isolation. I was alone in this world.
At that time I believed:
(1) That something was coming for me
(2) That someone meant to do me harm
(3) That I would end up hurt and alone in life
All of this -- plus violence perceived or real -- never let me trust anyone, least of all myself. Now, for whatever reasons, I recognize that fear has bothered me and that in actuality I was suffering from a certain Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
To combat my feelings and to heal my mental health I made up my own plans. Here is what I rely upon:
(A) Activities and actions involving others -- especially by using the Workbook of 'Emotional Intelligence Works' -- has helped calm me down and interface with others comfortably.
(B) Realizing that the aging process can grow to be a healing one.
(C) Adopting my Dad's attitude towards life especially when it comes to fear and bravery. He once told me: "We cannot help it. If there is a bullet out there meant for you, then it will get to you. Just continue with your life and hope for the best! Learn to accept and never, never, give up!!"
For me these attitudes work! By getting others involved in my life I can work too!
Please know that I am not so proud that I will not ask for help. Please also know that if you reach out I will do my best to help you as well.
We can work together -- we can all work together !!
Thank you!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See: amazon.com/author/rf3rd for essays
Or check book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
Please see my book -- The Stigma of the Mentally Ill: Bob Does Everything Backwards
as a supplement to my treatment shown in the essays of (8A) and (8B).(8B):
Throughout the course of my life I have tried to define my mental illness. I have said to myself -- "What is MY brand of psychosis?" It is necessary to find the answers.
At the same time I knew that I did not have the confidence "to take the world as it is." Why? Either by medication, drugs, or just by my own personal 'cranial juices' -- the biochemistry of my brain led me down roads which were extremely dissimilar to the family, friends and classmates about me. I was not carved in the same way. Their 'thinking' was saner than mine !!
According to one psychologist I had a need to 'reality test' to determine how and where to fit in to society. I had to 'come to grips' with this 'mental stuff'. Now I just laugh in the realization that so much thought is chafe and unwanted as well. It isn't necessary to pay attention to aberrant and crazy thoughts as long as I did not hurt someone else. Even in the bible the guy who wrote 'Revelations' must have been high on tainted 'Northern California mushrooms'. So just what 'facts' are my thoughts based on? We must ask:
From What Influences Does My Psychosis Come?
The psychotic thoughts I most feared were based on the timeless, odd, and gruesome thoughts which came in recent past centuries. The death of the innocent, various genocides, cold experimentation, odd mass murders, cannibalism, not to mention the Holocaust came to mind. I have always looked at the worst -- the 20th century gave me great fodder.
Based on a few facts my imagination would take off. Here goes:
I was told that most octopi in the sea have the intelligence similar to many of our house cats in the neighborhood. Both cats and octopi have each their own unique personality as each are curious, have minds of their own, and each can be aggressive.
The animals look very dissimilar yet as far as function goes they are in parallel niches as small predators, except that one is in the sea and the other lives on land.
An octopus has a larger brain not because he is smarter, but because he is an invertebrate. The "more efficient" mammalian house cat has a more condensed brain & brain stem; although his brain is smaller the nerve connections are more compact. Divers have reported octopi "leaning in " to observe human activity much as a kitty would do on land. The octopus and house cat have very similar intelligence. They watch other organisms and stalk in a similar manner.
These particular facts (and more) have given me a compulsion and obsession to lead me to "play with my thoughts" when walking the streets when withdrawing from medicine or chemicals -- or when traveling about when not 'mentally well'. In short, I would conjure up thoughts and use sophistic reasoning. These scientific 'facts' would become the 'basis' for my psychosis.
[It should be noted that these imaginative thoughts were of my mental construction. They were what my mind 'conjured-up'. For that reason I term these almost fantasy thoughts a "mental construct" -- that is the structure of thought that was going through my brain. In essence I am talking about my view of what was going on under the sea, on the land, or in outer space. Just like some hurricanes never reach land and are called "fish storms" so too it is just my imagination which tells me what is going on in other places (sick or not).
Contrast those thoughts to the cause of the psychosis. Psychosis may be due to certain stresses, such as post traumatic stress disorder (P.T.S.D.) or even simply a brain concussion. However in my case psychosis seemed to manifest with the withdrawal of certain drugs psychiatrists had gotten me "hooked" on. Every time I was rapidly or abruptly taken off certain medicines -- I then became psychotic !!]
Now about my psychotic fears: I thought of big cats and octopi wanting to eat me. I thought of strange aliens -- since an octopus's body was so foreign -- wanting to come and eat members of our species. I thought of traveling in space and encountering creatures who would be stronger and want to harm us. I imagined diseases emanating from space or deep under the oceans which could infect us. All in all I scared myself and became a psychotic ambassador of fear.
Since aliens would not have rigid bones I went on to further believe that they would be able to have the flexibility of traveling through space and time easier than humans. If there really was time travel it would be with us now simply because after all --"Isn't now just another time?" History could then be definitely changed. An example of this -- perhaps a warning to humans -- would have come from aliens in UFO's in the 1960's and '70's. Something was trying to tell us something at that time.
My psychotic reality -- my structured imagination -- led me at that time to walk and drive about the streets as a 'crazy man' who feared every step and who was unpredictable. Truly I needed help -- yet no one could cut through my own self-imposed isolation. I was alone in this world.
At that time I believed:
(1) That something was coming for me
(2) That someone meant to do me harm
(3) That I would end up hurt and alone in life
All of this -- plus violence perceived or real -- never let me trust anyone, least of all myself. Now, for whatever reasons, I recognize that fear has bothered me and that in actuality I was suffering from a certain Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
To combat my feelings and to heal my mental health I made up my own plans. Here is what I rely upon:
(A) Activities and actions involving others -- especially by using the Workbook of 'Emotional Intelligence Works' -- has helped calm me down and interface with others comfortably.
(B) Realizing that the aging process can grow to be a healing one.
(C) Adopting my Dad's attitude towards life especially when it comes to fear and bravery. He once told me: "We cannot help it. If there is a bullet out there meant for you, then it will get to you. Just continue with your life and hope for the best! Learn to accept and never, never, give up!!"
For me these attitudes work! By getting others involved in my life I can work too!
Please know that I am not so proud that I will not ask for help. Please also know that if you reach out I will do my best to help you as well.
We can work together -- we can all work together !!
Thank you!
Sincerely written;
Respectfully submitted,
Robert N. Franz
See: amazon.com/author/rf3rd for essays
Or check book link: amzn.to/1R1Oayq
