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April 14, 2015
Style Inspiration: Denim, Khaki & White
Three basic color options that are classic and a treat to don in spring are blue, white and khaki. Whether the blue comes in the form of denim or a chic petit print on flats as the ones above, this classic pop of color can be as feminine or masculine as you’d prefer. And of course white and khaki are diehard classics that provide a neutral palette no matter what your signature style. Have a look a few images for inspiration.
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April 13, 2015
How to Live Alone Well
“Living alone . . . affords an unparalleled opportunity to know yourself, to be yourself, and to develop yourself as a unique and interesting individual.” -Phyllis Hobe
The Simple Sophisticate, episode #33
In Stockholm, Sweden, sixty percent of all dwellings are occupied by a single individual. 60%.
Eric Klinenberg reports in his 2013 best-selling book Going Solo that the rise of single occupant homes has increasingly been on the rise as we forge into the twenty-first century. It’s interesting to point out that the United States while touting a strong number, 28%, is well behind Norway, Sweden, Finland and Denmark or each sport 40-45 percent single occupancy with even Japan at 30%.
Living alone whether single, divorced or widowed is certainly something to be reveled in rather than feared. While admittedly, depending upon our personalities, some of us are more adept to prefer living alone than others, each of us can benefit from living alone at some point in our lives. Why? While I will go into 16 specific ways in today’s post, a crucial component to living a simply luxurious life is discovering who we are, what makes us tick, what makes us shine, what nurtures us to be our best selves.
Speaking from my own experience of living alone by choice for the past 13 years, it was by living alone that I discovered my introversion, my passion for writing and so many other interests that my younger, less secure self would have never dared to pursue if I was trying to please a roommate or significant other. Now, could I, do I want to, live with another? To answer the first question, I am confident that I am better equipped to live very well with another individual as I am now capable of knowing what I need and realizing what I can compromise on. I am also able to advocate for myself so that I can balance relationships with my passions and not allow them to be pushed aside to please. And to answer the second question, it depends on the person. I must admit, it’s pretty amazing.
In 2012 I shared on the blog 10 benefits of living alone of which many I will include in today’s post, but I will now go a little deeper, and on this week’s episode of the podcast, share my own experiences as well.
The intriguing fact when it comes to living alone is that many assume that it shouldn’t be a permanent way of living, rather a mere transitional phase. And while this will most certainly be the case for some, many more unapologetically choose to live alone as it is the most restorative, ideal way of experiencing life.
In Kate Bolick’s new book which I will review later this month, Spinster: Making A Life of One’s Own, she makes a valid point about the societal expectations that can bend our mind one way or another simply to maintain the status quo, “How difficult it is to detach ourselves from the mass emotions and social conditions of the age we’re born into; all of us, male and female, are (to quote Doris Lessing’s lecture series Prisons We Choose to Live Inside) ‘part of the great comforting illusions, and part illusions, which every society uses to keep up its confidence in itself.'”
Now, I want to dispel any myths about living alone, as with anything that is new or different, if we haven’t done it, it will take time to do it well. If you aren’t used to living alone, coming home to an empty house or being left to your own devices to entertain yourself, living alone will be difficult . . . at first. Anything of great value takes time to appreciate and emerge to reveal it’s true greatness. Living alone is no exception.
So today, I’d like to set you free. Admittedly, it took me some time to proudly say “I thoroughly enjoy living by myself” because many people around me just could wrap their minds around it, but it has always been true for me. I have always enjoyed my own company, and if you too are someone who revels in regular time to be by themselves or perhaps are living alone trying to figure out how to do it, today’s post is something I have a feeling you will enjoy. Let’s get started.
1. Appreciate, Relax, Enjoy
“You only grow when you are alone.” -Paul Newman
Yes, it may not be something you chose initially, or maybe it was it’s not initially what you had expected. First, take a breath. The experience will be what you make it, and it all comes down to appreciate the time, space and solitude to do those things that you would not be able to do if someone or multiple someones were sharing the same space.
Just a few perks: When you leave, upon returning, the house will be as you left it, decisions don’t need to be dependent on a compromise – risotto for dinner, done!, sleep straight through the night without interruptions, a quiet space to read, listen or entertain when you want, no problem, and decorating is entirely up to you.
2. Established Beloved Rituals
Whether it is your Paris tea which you savor each morning before going to work or starting your day or your weekly coffee chat to meet your close friend to catch up on each others lives, establish these rituals as a way to give yourself something to look forward to and savor each and every day because there is without question something to appreciate every day we’re alive to savor it. Click here to discover even more benefits of daily rituals or check out Chapter 8 is dedicated in entirely to ideas on how to cultivate and establish simple pleasures and rituals into your everyday life.
3. Cultivate a Healthy Social Circle
Klinenberg points out that studies have revealed those who live alone are actually more socially involved and have a stronger social circle than those that co-habitate. Why? There is motivation and the removal of dependency on others in your home to entertain you. Social media makes this much more viable as information of what to do and the capability of staying in touch is much easier than before. If you know you have plans to meet with friends or family, one of the most blissful moments is spending time with those with whom you enjoy their company and then returning home to a space that is your own. A beautiful balance.
4. Pay Attention to Your Senses
“There can be no very black melancholy to him who lives in the midst of Nature and has his senses still . . . I have never felt lonesome, or in the least oppressed by a sense of solitude.” -Henry David Thoreau
When we start witnessing the world around us in any given moment, we quickly realize how rich and full our lives are, and we actually are never alone. Some prefer more human interaction, but take in mother nature, plant a garden, hang a bird-feeder, take care of your environment indoors and out and help improve others lives (animals, plants, and people too). When we become aware of all of the wonders around us, we are more motivated to contribute and sustain such amazing ecosystems and ways of life.
5. A Time of Exploration
The things one experiences alone with oneself are very much stronger and purer. -Eugene Delacroix
You are free to dance with your curiosities when you live alone. Curious about that new documentary? Watch it. Wish to try a rock climbing class? Do it! Listen to what piques your attention, and explore. Who knows what you will unearth. When we pay attention to what innately captures our attention and are not nudged by outside forces or peers, what we will discover will take us closer toward reaching our true potential and finding our passions.
6. Create a Sanctuary
Tending to our sanctuary when we live alone is vital, and while it’s important when we live with others as well, the key is to curate a home that we want to return home to at the end of the day. Our homes should be the place that restores us, comforts us and allows us to rest so that we can be our best when we return to the world the next day. Consider our interior decor as an investment in our well-being.
7. Master Your Mind
In episode #20 of The Simple Sophisticate I shared 10 specific ways to master your mind; and while mastering your mind isn’t exclusive to living alone, accomplishing this feat is vital to building the foundation of living well on your own. Why? Often when someone lives on their own for the first time, they’ve never had their mind all to themselves for such a long period of time. As such, they can allow it to wander into places that are destructive and irrational; however, at the time, it’s hard to tell the difference. Master it, discover the power of meditation and discover a whole new level of living well.
8. Become your Best Friend
“Solitude is strength; to depend on the presence of the crowd is weakness. The man who needs a mob to nerve him is much more alone than he imagines.” -Paul Brunton
When we enjoy your own company, we are better able to set healthy boundaries, speak respectfully to ourselves and require that others do the same. When we enjoy our own company, we become selective about who we allow into our lives, and in doing so, we begin to welcome quality, supportive, inspired people that elevate our quality of life as well.
9. Strengthens Relationships
“People who cannot bear to be alone are generally the worst company.” -Albert Guino
This quote made me chuckle because it is so absolutely true. Upon reflection of people that I have hard time spending lengthy amount of time with, it is those people who cling to me or others and cannot be left alone, even for mere minutes. Nobody wants to be this person, in fact, the person doing the clinging may not realize how off-putting their behavior is, so not only do yourself a favor by becoming comfortable with your own company, do your current and future relationships a favor as well.
10. Dive into Your Passion without Apology
“Without great solitude no serious work is possible.” -Pablo Picasso
What an amazing opportunity it is when we live alone to have the time and space to throw ourselves into our passions without worrying about hurting someone else’s feelings or balancing with other priorities. I know without question, if I hadn’t been living alone, I would not have started TSLL blog. Referring back to #5, when we give ourselves time to explore, we can discover our passions and then have the time to dive in and be our most productive selves.
Such periods in our lives build the foundations of what the rest of our lives may be built upon, and thankfully, it is something sound, honest and authentic. What better way is there to live?
11. Get to Know Yourself
“Solitude can be frightening because it invites us to meet a stranger we think we may not want to know – ourselves.” -Melvyn Kinder
Often we surround ourselves with incessant social events and chatter of others so that we don’t have to be alone to discover what we might fear. However, often what we fear is a significant indicator that we should indeed explore it all the more. And when we explore, we find our purpose. It is when we filter out of the fluff, or the noise of life, that we can get to the truth of discovering what makes us truly content.
12.Get to Know Your Neighbors
Whether you live in a house or an apartment, befriend at least a few of your neighbors. Being able to step outside your door and see a friendly face or way hello is a simple luxury to remind us of the community we live in and are contributing to. Not every neighbor will we want to get to know (being able to discern this difference is crucial), but knowing you have at least one person who knows your name is a very good thing.
13. Craft a Schedule
Whether it’s when you exercise, head to the coffee shop or work in your yard, when you stick to a schedule you will often run into the same people, establishing a small community all its own. While you may not know them intimately, seeing a friendly face on your morning walk or run allows you to feel connected to the neighborhood you live in.
14. Watch the Television with Purpose
Since you are the queen of the remote, it can be very tempting to watch it more than you should. And while I am quick to admit I watch television, choose when and how much you watch based on the content you want to internalize. In other words, don’t watch it mindlessly. DVR your favorite shows so that you don’t have to waste time with commercial. Set up a Netflix account so you can watch what you want, when you want to. Balance your television watching with time to sit and read quietly or fill your home with music from time to time rather than the hum of the television. Radio or podcasts are also a wonderful option as you can go about your day without the visual bombardment to your mind.
15. Master Your Vices
One thing I wholeheartedly love about living alone is being able to stock my refrigerator and pantry with only the food I love and should eat. If you come to realize you have a weakness for a food you know you shouldn’t have or can’t control yourself around, don’t bring it into your kitchen. The gift of living alone is that you can eliminate entirely without upsetting someone else which makes it much easier than simply exercising strong self-discipline every single day.
16. Curate a Positive, Inspired Life
“It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.” -K.T. Jong
When we live alone, we become the stand-alone artist of our own lives, every single detail. We can choose what to eliminate, what to add and what to foster into beautiful fruition. Choose the people, the words, the information, the images, the experiences, the destinations, carefully and consciously for they will shape your world and thus the person you become.
Whether you choose to live alone for a short duration or a lifetime, I want to leave you with one last quote from Ellen Burstyn as she reflects on living alone after being under the assumption that it was something to avoid, “What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.”
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~Why Not . . . Revel in Solitude?
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Petit Plaisir:
~Acquired Tastes by Peter Mayle
As a super fan of Peter Mayle, a British author who now resides in Provence, France, I thought I had read all of his books. So when I friend recommended to me this past winter Mayle’s book Acquired Tastes, I was eager to immerse myself in his delightfully delicious prose.
Acquired Tastes, published in 1993, is ideal for evening reading as it is an compilation of his articles written for GQ (there is one from Esquire). Each chapter is 4-6 pages long and brings the reader along for an excursion of how the other half live. From living with servants to have shoes custom made, Mayle takes a peek into the pleasures of decadent living at its finest. And along the way, much is learned as well such as precisely how to hunt for truffles and why cashmere is worth investing in. Certain to make for pleasant dreams.
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April 10, 2015
This & That: No. 153
App
~The Clocks
As someone who relies on her smart phone to wake up in the morning, I have been searching for a simple flip clock that stays lit throughout the night without being distracting. The Clocks app was exactly what I was looking for. Offering three different types of clocks to choose from: flip, digital and analog, an alarm is also available as well. For some reason I have always had a preference for flip clocks. Perhaps it is a memory I have from my childhood, but it is a simple comfort that I am thrilled to have found (even if it really is quite technical).
Art
~Monet’s Water Lilies at Musee de L’Orangerie
The museums abound in Paris, but be sure to put on your list of must-visit, Claude Monet’s permanent exhibit, designed by the artist himself to showcase his beloved Water Lilies paintings. The Musee de L’Orangerie is located in the Tuileries Garden and offers the ideal respite after strolling through the park or even after exhausting yourself in the Louvre. Step inside a simple, yet elegant space and unwind. I know where I will be certain to go next time I return. Have a look below at Rick Steves’ video inside the museum.
Shopping
~Hukkster 2
The much beloved sales tracking website is back, as was announced on Thursday, and while it will help you find sales in real time, it will be a little bit different according to Fashionista. Focusing strictly on fashion and beauty products, Hukksters helps shoppers not only find sales, but coupons as well to use in their shopping experience. The part that I miss the most however is that the bookmarklet, the tracking and alerting for price drops, is not available. However, at least there is a sales site focused on specifically what I and many of you shop for.
~Sole Society Espadrille (navy cloth – black & fuchsia available as well)
Spring is here and that means summer is not that far behind. And while I will wear flat sandals quite frequently during the warmer months, I love to wear wedge espadrilles for structured height. Happening upon Sole Society’s $70 pair in colorful cloth detail, I pounced. Available in black and a stunning fuchsia print as well as the navy print I selected, if you’re in the market for a summer pair, these might just be the ones.
Television
~HBO NOW
Finally HBO is making available their television programming without having to have a cable subscription as well. If you are of the cord-cutting generation and strictly watch your television when you please without being tethered to Dish, Directv or any other cable or satellite service, this should be very happy news. For $14.99 a month, subscribers can have full access to all of the goodness that HBO has become known for.
~Younger
You may remember Darren Star, the creator and one of the writers for Sex and the City. Well, he’s back. In a playful new series on TV Land, Younger airs on Tuesday nights at 9pm and is produced by Star. Speaking of stars, the star of the show is Sutton Foster who is a 40 year-old newly divorced mother of a grown daughter. Based on Pamela Redmond Satran’s novel of the same title, Alice (Foster), is given a make-over by her hip best friend played by Debi Mazer to pull off 26. Working for a publishing house in the heart of Manhattan, it is the fib of her age that helps land her the job, and a whole new life seems to have begun. It’s fun, it’s not too deep, and Sutton truly is a delight. Have a look at the trailer below:
~recipe for Lemon Honey and Chamomile Shoofly Pie with Anzac Biscuit Crust~
This week on the blog a brand new series began. Going live each Wednesday, see the first post in The English Classroom and how the series will work as we move forward here on TSLL. And if you haven’t already tuned in, this week’s episode of The Simple Sophisticate broke all sorts of records. Be sure to have a look to see what everyone was sharing and enjoying.
And while this past week has been going well, the weekend has never been an unwelcomed arrival. While it may rain this weekend, I have plans to work in the yard, visit some of the local nurseries and start to rev my exterior decor back into tip top shape. It may take some time, but I’ve got to start somewhere. What will you be up to this weekend?
Whatever you choose to do, I hope you have a wonderful time, and if you’re interested, I have a few articles below that caught my eye during the past week that you might enjoy. Until Monday, bonjour.
~19 Things That Level-Headed Natural Food Nuts Don’t Do . . . simple, practical and possible
~Netflix has a new series on the way for 2016, and it takes what is now on Broadway to the screen
~Habitually Chic takes readers on a Parisian apartment tour to get lost in and never leave
~The Everygirl offers 5 Culinary School Secrets Every Home Cook Needs to Know
~The Paris Review now offers a publication for younger readers . . . I am now more than I was already, a fan
~Some perks of choosing to live alone, an editor from Cup of Jo shares her experience.
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April 8, 2015
Thoughts from the Editor: My Ultimate Everyday Luxury – Christy Linens
As a lover of luxury, paralleled with simplicity, one of the first items I invested in after acquiring my first professional teaching job was to save up for a quality headboard, pillow-top mattress and soft bed linens. It took two years, but I can still remember when each of the items were delivered to my Portland apartment on Nob Hill. It was in that moment that for some reason I felt like an adult, a woman. More in terms of my financial status than anything, with regards to the fact that I could afford and appreciate what I had saved up for.
While many might not understand my predilection for white (after all, I do have two dogs), I am innately drawn to its fresh, clean aesthetic. There is a chic, luxury to its use as it requires careful tending and attention. Since I can remember, as an adult, I have always selected white duvets and sheets to fall into my restful nights. So when Christy Linens reached out to me, offering the opportunity to experience their luxury bed linens, I was most eager to oblige.
What I hope you’ll notice in the images of the linens is the intricate detail and woven design. I purposefully chose the Maddox White bed set because while it is classic, the design (if you look closely), is less feminine and more modern which perfectly adhered to my classic, yet contemporary approach to not only my surroundings, but everyday living.
A few interesting facts about Christy Linens. Did you know?
Founded in 1850 in England, they supplied towels for Queen Victoria
Provided the towels for Queen Elizabeth II’s coronation
Became the official Wimbledon Championship supplier of towels in 1987
The first bed linens collection began in 2003
Needless to say, I’ve been sleeping in the luxury beyond my expectations ever since their delivery a few months ago, and I do set a high bar.
If you’re wanting to create your very own sanctuary (after all, we do spend 1/3 of our lives in our bedroom), click here or read chapter five of my book where I go into more detail.
The benefits of a good night’s sleep are profound, as I shared in depth on the blog a few years ago, but many always ask, How can I insure an uninterrupted, lengthy night’s slumber? I have always been protective of my sleep and immediately notice the quality of my day slipping when I haven’t been given between 6-8 hours. Below are a few ideas I have found to be helpful in ensuring a deep, restorative night, as well as medical findings from the Mayo Clinic:
Stick to a sleeping schedule, even on the weekends – there will always be exceptions, after all, we must enjoy ourselves and lose all track of time, but feel no obligation to stay up late on the weekends because “that’s what grown-ups do”. No they don’t. Grown-ups respect their bodies and minds and go to bed when they need to. That’s what grown-ups do.
Create an evening ritual – I shared a few of the ways I enjoy winding down each evening in this post from the editor a few months ago.
Turn the heat down – nothing will wake you up faster if the room is warm and your body temperature is soaring and thus, you are sweating. Stay cool. Drop the thermostat to the mid-50s (Fahrenheit or 10 degrees Celsius).
Turn your mind off – Whether you unload on your journal, get lost in a book to forget about the day or what I’ve been doing lately is mediating for 5 minutes before I go to bed, do what you can to flip a switch on your mind, or you will have a hard time slipping into sleep.
Be a savvy eater and drinker – Each body will be different, but try to refrain from overeating and over-drinking. Whether it’s caffeine that just doesn’t help (for some, it doesn’t matter), or one too many drinks of anything that will keep you going to the bathroom all night, keep yourself in check.
Hydrate – While limiting our liquids before bed is a good idea, drinking water before you go to bed will help hydrate your body, and flush toxins. Try Cameron Diaz’s suggestion which I have instituted in my own daily habits – drink one glass of water before bed and have a bottle on my night stand to drink one glass when I wake up.
Limit stress – While it may sound like a no-brainer, when we reduce the unnecessary stress in our lives and continue to do so on a regular basis, our night’s of sleep increase in quality. While journaling and meditating will help, when we have less to filter, it makes it all that much easier to let go and relax at the end of the day.
Exercise regularly – when your body has expended itself during the day, it is ready to rest and recharge. But if its full tank of energy has yet to be depleted, it will have a hard time relaxing and drifting off into the land of Nod. While it is best not to workout right before your turn in, whatever works for your schedule is what is best for you.
Add relaxing scents – While I prefer either lavender or sandalwood, lighting a candle each night as I read, is one of my favorite simple rituals in the evening. It provides a subtle effect, but has become something that signals to my mind, it is time to unwind, slow down and go to sleep.
Each of these items are simple, but have revealed themselves through scientific findings and personal experience to work. I do hope you experience a restorative evening each night. It truly is a foundation to living well, as when we awake rested, we are more apt to be in a better mood, perform at our best and see amazing results.
~Disclosure: Christy Linens gifted TSLL with the linens that are styled in today’s post, but my comments are unabashedly my own. I’m smitten, to say the least and highly recommend.
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Word of the Week: No. 1
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I want to thank all of the readers who stopped by last week’s introduction to the new addition to TSLL blog. Each Wednesday either a Word of the Week or a Good Grammar Is . . . lesson will be shared (alternating from week to week). I’ve decided to title the entire series The English Classroom, not to scare anyone away, as I know not every one eagerly anticipated attending their English classes (yes, I was someone who did in high school as well as college), but to invite you to enjoy the journey of the intoxicatingly complicated, yet beautiful dance with the English language.
Language changes and molds to the culture it resides, and the people who use the language determine what will be used or forgotten. When we choose to look at language in this way, it becomes a little less intimidating. Trust me, there are very few days in which I am teaching when I don’t have a student ask for the definition of a word, and I don’t have it on the tip of my tongue.
I am admittedly forever a student, and I prefer it that way. I hope you will join me whenever you’d like to waken up your vocabulary or tighten up your conversation. I think we’re going have an intriguingly good time.
Also, thank you to the many newsletter readers who have shared their ideas on the survey that was offered in last week’s newsletter. If anyone else would like to share what they’d prefer to have added to TSLL blog weekly line-up of posts and ideas of what the second episode of The Simple Sophisticate that will begin this summer should focus on, do feel free to answer three short questions (click here to start the survey).
Posts from the Archives:
~Good Grammar Is . . . (the inaugural post)
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April 7, 2015
Outfit of the Week: Essential French Style
~MiH Ellsworth jean, dark denim~
~Marc by Marc Jacobs logo plaque Ballet Flats~
~SHOP THE OUTFIT:
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Style Inspiration: Simply White
I must admit, I’ve never been one to abide by the rule of when and where I can wear white; however the difference between a warm winter white versus a brilliant fresh spring white is certainly discernible as to choose one over the other projects exactly the necessary feeling (warmth vs. fresh and new).
As spring begins, to choose white in the myriad of ways each woman does in today’s post projects confidence. Just as wearing black projects a mysterious confidence, white too exudes confidence. Perhaps as much for the daring choice to wear something that reveals any stain or mark, but also because it doesn’t disguise, yet reveals one’s figure.
Whether as a complement or an ensemble choice, when styled astutely, white can work magnificently with any woman or man’s wardrobe. A white blazer has been on my shopping list for a while and a well-structured, well made white button up is always worth investing in as it can be worn casually or to the office as demonstrated below. Enjoy perusing.
~STYLE INSPIRATION POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:
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April 6, 2015
The Francophile’s Style Guide: The 14 Essentials
“French women don’t have too many clothes – a few good pieces that last for a while and are classic and timeless.” -Mireille Guiliano
The Simple Sophisticate, episode #32
Spring time is beginning burst, and nowhere is my attention dreaming of being more than in Paris. Ah, to be anywhere in France during the spring time months would be sweet dream come true. Why? Well, not only does one have the luxury of wandering through streets in which the spring blossoms are evanescently decorating their temporary homes, but the styles are free from the winter bulk, yet available for touches of layering.
With the guides of How to Be a Parisian Wherever You Are and Ines de la Fressange’s Parisian Chic, along with my own personal observation, I’ve cultivated a style guide of 14 essentials for curating a French-inspired capsule wardrobe. What you will notice, if you are familiar with TSLL capsule wardrobe guide is that most of the essentials are similar. Why? French style has been my muse and continues to be my muse as I pull together my own wardrobe. I may not carry it off as effortlessly as Caroline De Maigret or Ines de la Fressange, but I will forever be trying to hone my inner French girl.
In today’s blog post, each essential is accompanied by a couple, and in some cases, a handful of style inspiration images, all capturing chic French women of today demonstrating how to epitomize the style women from around the world are curious to emulate. From the two style icons, models and writers I mentioned previously, Caroline and Ines, to Cecile Cassel, Lou Dillion, Julia Restoin Roitfeld, Marion Cottilard, Vanessa Paradis, Garance Dore, Audrey Tautou, Carla Bruni, Emmanuelle Alt, and Anne Berest, each woman exemplifies their own take on French style. However, in choosing these modern chic women, in the back of our minds will be the founding stylistas such as Coco Chanel, Jane Birkin, Bridgette Bardot, and Catherine Deneuve, just to name a few. Everywhere you look, in each one of these images or in our mind’s eye, these women incorporate one if not more than one of these essentials into their style.
1. A quality day handbag
While closets are small for the average Parisian, the need for a capsule wardrobe is a necessity, but so too is only owning a few handbags – day and evening and perhaps one for travel. This fact alone teaches one quickly the lesson of investing in a versatile, quality handbag. Now we don’t need to splurge exorbitantly on a Birkin which was inspired by Jane Birkin’s frustration when she couldn’t find a preferred weekend bag (in fact, according to style trend critics, this bag is no longer the “it” bag, if you care to know). But to invest in something, as I spoke about in this post, that is in your budget, fits your lifestyle and will last, are the three factors to consider when making your decision.
2. Ankle skimming jeans & pants (cigarette, skinny or straight-leg)
Why ankle skimming? Why taped or straight? A woman’s figure is something to revel in, to own and not shy from. Also, since we are investing, we want to purchase pants or jeans that will be in style from year to year, thus the refusal to purchase trends is always a good idea (flares may be fun, but if they are the only pair you are able to purchase, you may want to reconsider). Depending upon your body type, choose a pant that has a leg opening that flatters your proportions. Narrower is usually better, as wide leg openings on shorter or pear-shaped women distract from the beautiful silhouette. Either way, make sure the hem goes all the way to the top of your ankle – no capris or culottes as they cut our bodies in the wrong place and disrupt a slimming line. These (here and here) are my favorite denim options, and be sure to shop below as well for other options:
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3. Flats
High heels may look marvelous, but they are generally not worn very often if one has to be walking to and fro throughout their everyday. If heels are worn, they are at events or kitten heels are chosen, or if one has minimal walking to do. Either way, French women are a daily reminder of how chic a flat shoe can be. Whether you prefer the ballet flat, the smoking slipper or the loafer, invest in a couple that can work with a multitude of your outfits and you will be set.
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4. Versatile black dress
For day and evening, have a black dress that can be appropriate for work with a simple blazer layered upon it or be a show-stopper without the fuss in the evening.
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5. Tailored black blazer
Black is always a safe option as you will see in #14 of this list, but while I state it, I also find it depends on your climate, skin type and preference as well. The key is to have a tailored blazer in your closet. Navy, taupe, white, black, it doesn’t matter, as long as it works with your capsule wardrobe. What you will notice with each of these images is that the tailoring is exquisite, and that makes a tremendous difference for establishing a feminine aesthetic, if that is part of your style.Wear with jeans, where over a dress, it’s up to you, but the power of the blazer is its versatility.
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6. Scarves (one lightweight, one heavy & warm)
A no brainer, and perhaps the easier one to shop for, and the most enjoyable, no? When you’re not sure which accessory to grab, grab a scarf. When the weather is transitioning, and you’re not sure if you need a jacket, select a scarf to bridge the gap. Select a warm, cozy cashmere for cooler months, and a beautiful light-weight signature prints for spring and summer. You can never have too many, and you don’t have to spend a fortune.
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7. Oversized sunglasses
Whether you didn’t do your make-up, or the sun is blazing, having a pair of oversized sunglasses not necessarily a fashion essential staked claim by the French, but it is one they adhere to without apology. Keeping in mind your face structure, select a style that works for you (click here to determine each). One style that seems to work on nearly everyone’s face is the aviator: black or metal, always a safe decision.
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8. Simple, yet expensive T-shirt
In my current favorite Parisian style guide, How to Be Parisian Wherever You Live, the authors are adamant that a chic wardrobe must contain an expensive t-shirt. While typically, I am all about purchasing bargain t-shirts for working and leisuring about the home, they make a sound point. Layered with a blazer, the t-shirt creates a carefree balance between high and low. And even though you may have paid a pretty penny, it doesn’t appear that way. Select a fabric that contains jersey and a bit of stretch, and care for it dearly, not wearing for just any occasion, but noting, its primary purpose is to provide comfort in a variety of settings without looking frumpy. Below are a few to take a look at.
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9. Oversized sweater
French women of style present an attitude of blasé aloofness that is unparalleled anywhere else it seems to me. The oversized blouse, sweater or coat drives this point home. With anything that is oversized, it must be balanced, and for a classic look, make sure to pair this staple with tailored pants, shorts or a skirt. The idea is to not reveal all, yet know exactly how to balance the two opposites.
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10. Mid-length trench coat
Ideal for work, and versatile year-round, the classic trench, whether you choose khaki, black or any other print or color in between, offers a timeless silhouette. Pair with jeans or over a dress, it doesn’t matter, it will always look effortlessly chic.
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11. White button-up shirt
Whether cotton or silk, or a mixture of both, having a white button-shirt is a must. One of my favorite go-to outfits when I don’t know what to wear, is jeans, ballet flats, a fitted white shirt untucked and a pair of earrings or a simple necklace. Simple, appropriate for a variety of settings, and very comfortable. This one from Equipment in particular is my favorite and this one from Theory is a steal of a deal right now. And if you’re looking for an over-sized version, here’s a great option from Madewell.
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12. Signature day dress
Wearing a dress is one of the simplest decisions we can make before we take on the day ahead of us. In one motion, we are clothed and simply need to accessorize. How simple is that? With that said, knowing we have a dress that flatters our physique and is appropriate for wherever our day may take us, is a priceless comfort. Whether you prefer A-lines, shirt dresses, wrap, or sheaths, always keep an eye out for dresses that are timeless, flattering and will last from year to year. Oh, and always make sure they adhere to your signature style.
13. Nautical stripes
Brought into vogue by the queen of style and comfort, Chanel’s epic decision would not have been considered to be left off of this list. Need I say more? Okay, I will, really quickly. Don’t forget about sweaters that contain stripes or tops that are unique in style as to how they use the stripe, but always choose horizontal for your top, never for your bottom half. Have fun shopping!
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14. Black
As a fail-safe, black will always and forever be an option. Wear it, layer it, add a pop of personality to accessorize it as you will see in the images below, but exude confidence most definitely when you select it.
~FRANCOPHILE POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:
~The 8 Gifts of Mastering the French Mystique
~Why Not . . . Indulge Your Inner Francophile?
~See all of TSLL Francophile posts here
~Francophile episodes on The Simple Sophisticate: #4 – 10 Ways to Unearth Your Inner Francophile; #23 – The French Way: How to Create a Luxurious Everyday Life
Petit Plaisir:
Dark Chocolate Mousse (click for the recipe)
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April 3, 2015
This & That: No. 152
Book
~A Fine Romance by Candice Bergen
One sitcom that I have always wanted to watch in its entirety as I have only watched a few episodes (each piquing my interest further), is Murphy Brown. And as it is only on Encore Classic, it was going cost a little extra each month. Needless to say, I adjusted my budget and added the channel to my tv package, and I couldn’t be more thrilled with the humor, and most importantly, the issues that are creatively broached.
With all of that said, Candice Bergen is a force. An inspiring force. Younger viewers may recognize her as Carrie Bradshaw’s editor at Vogue in Sex and the City, but for those who are also a fan from long before, you will remember her spat with Dan Quayle and much more. On Tuesday, Bergen releases her latest memoir, A Fine Romance. Following up her best-selling Knock Wood (1984), her latest book divulges insights and tales surrounding her marriage to a famous French director, her time on Murphy Brown, being a widow, falling in love again and observing her daughter blossom into the woman she is today. My copy is on its way soon, and I am eager to learn more about this intriguing woman.
Cookbook
~Classic Recipes for Modern People by Max & Eli Sussman
From fellow chef siblings, Max and Eli have just released their fourth cookbook (March 31) which is a handy resource of classic recipes that have been spruced up to reflect bolder and more satiating flavors. Divided into eight sections, such as “Breakfast Classics”, “TV Dinner Classics” and “Future Classics”, have a look below at a few samplings below.
Decor
~Roseshire
As someone who loves fresh flowers in my home, I also like to know that when I send flowers as gifts to loved ones in which I am unable to select the bouquet and quality myself, what is delivered should exceed my high expectations. Last month I was introduced to Roseshire, a luxury rose delivery service that pays attention to every detail, and exceed my expectations they most certainly did.
With each order being delivered from the top flower producers in California, my special delivery of two dozen roses arrived in two days (see the images below), and each rose was in impeccable shape. Each are individually cared for and packaged, and simple, detailed instructions are included for the recipient. Whether you prefer red, soft pink (see above) or a party mixture, I highly recommend their service.
Case in point, I had been traveling this past week and didn’t realize the delivery would be made when I was gone. Upon arriving home, the roses were still exceptionally fresh and plush, well-watered and still (one week later) look stunning – the image below as captured Thursday evening. Graciously, they sent me a second delivery as they wanted to ensure I had the freshest flowers, but I must say, the first delivery spoke to their quality even more due to my absence. So at this moment I have four dozen roses in my home. Would anyone like one bouquet?
Shopping
~Aerin Vaccaro sandal (more here)
It is sandal season, and perhaps you, like me, are in need up a spruce up in this department. Searching for a statement sandal that can be versatile with many different outfits, Aerin Lauder’s accessories line regularly offers beautiful seasonal options and her Vaccaro sandal is no exception. Available in tan or white, this sandal is an investment, but it will be a classic you will be able to wear for years.
~Enza Costa gray mid-weight cashmere sweater
Light to mid weight cashmere sweaters are my favorite to have on hand for spring and summer evenings. Pair this cashmere with white denim ankle pants and Aerin’s sandals, and well, chic, effortless style has been accomplished!
~ Vionnet silk & jersey top
A beautiful silk blouse with a statement print is a fun and simple way to step away from a solid shirt option. And at a reasonable price, why not check out Vionnet’s?
Yard & Garden
~Worx Aerocart
Time to get out and work in the yard. And oy-vey, do I have a lot of pruning and trimming to do as last year’s cold zapped a few of my perennials. In other words, I will need a wheelbarrow, but to have one that serves as a dolly as well to move items about – not a bad contraption. Saving space and helping out around the house – now that is a frugal purchase.
~recipe for Meyer Lemon Almond Tea Cake~
Such a fun and memorable past seven days, not only with regards to the book signing, but with new and returned beloved series here on the blog. What are they? A bit more shopping has returned on a weekly basis to TSLL as well as a new series I have been eager to kick-off.
Ah, but after a very eventful and busy week, I am ready for the weekend. The grass is beyond green, the sprinklers are now turned on, so that means some time in the yard is beckoning and I will gladly oblige. Oh, but this Saturday, I am going to take much of the day for me: reading a few new books that just arrived (here and here), pampering myself with a spa visit and getting back into my yoga groove. What will you be up to this weekend? Hopefully something restorative, much-anticipated and wonderfully aligned to your interests.
If you happen to be reading this weekend, here are a few items you might enjoy. Until Monday everyone, bonjour!
~The Coveteur goes inside Arianna Huffington’s home and closet
~Have you ever considered letting go of social media? Find out what it could be like here.
~How to Live a Long, Happy & Healthy Life
~Never stop learning . . . How to Discover What You Don’t Know You Don’t Know
~A reader kindly brought this to my attention and I am absolutely grateful. How to simplify your phone to limit distractions
~And about money, enrich your life by weaning yourself from living paycheck to paycheck
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April 2, 2015
Thoughts from the Editor: TSLL’s First Book Signing
One of the wisest life truths I have discovered to be helpful when it comes to responding to life’s unknowns is to let go of expectation and rather focus on intention. In the first post of 2015 in fact, the idea of living with more intention and less expectation was an undercurrent I hoped to incorporate more fully in life as the year unfolded.
Certainly, this approach is easier or more difficult depending upon the circumstance, but when we do our best in all that is in our power, I’ve found it to be much easier to let go. Often what transpires exceeds our expectations. And such was the case this past Saturday afternoon at the first book signing of Choosing The Simply Luxurious Life: A Modern Woman’s Guide.
The Bookloft is a cozy, bibliophile’s haven in my childhood home of Enterprise, Oregon. And the book signing and reading event hosted by Mary Swanson, the owner, exceeded my expectations. With approximately 40 people attending and cultivating a convivial environment of lively thoughtful conversation, I was delighted to see so many people come, stay, mingle and nibble in the back cafe of the bookstore.
While I erroneously brought too few books as we sold out (a good problem to have, no?), I will never forget this most memorable of dreams coming true event. With the guidance, help and thoughtfulness of Rochelle D., Shelley M., Anne S. , Alyssa W, Pamela F., Arrowhead Chocolates, and my mother Judy, as the next step in the journey that is the simply luxurious life unfolded, I will forever be grateful.
Have look below at a few images captured during the reading and just prior to the arrival of TSLL readers. As you will notice, I like to talk with my hands.
~Where will TSLL Book Tour be heading next? New Orleans! Learn more here.
~Shop the outfit here.
~The answer to the question, I have a feeling you’re asking is . . . Yep, those were my favorite chocolate truffles on the table that I talk about incessantly on the blog and mention in the book. And they will be traveling with me as well. Hope to see you at a future book signing event!
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