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Why Not . . . Determine Your Destiny?

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

As a child and even as a young adult, and admitedly, during times of angst and frustration in my thirties, I would look to others and seek out similarities in them as a means to try and foretell my future. After all, if I could see someone else doing what I wanted to do, I could do it too. But the catch with this approach to finding inspiration is that we see the flip side as well and it limits our perspective.

Just as we observe someone we admire that exhibits what we believe to be similarities with ourselves, we can also see similarities that bring us doubt, exacerbate our worry and during our dark moments, lead us to believe we will follow that dreadful path as well. After all, if they did, so must we.

So while finding role models to push us and remind us we are capable of more, it is important to see we should not limit our potential based on how others have lived their lives. Instead, we must remember we hold the keys to life we wish to enjoy. We hold the fuel, the stamina, the wherewithal to carry us across the terrain that will lead us to the path we want to associated with our destiny when we are long gone.

I came across more than a few quotes that spoke to the idea of determining our own destiny, and I hand-picked a few to share with you today to exemplify exactly how each of us can carve out the life we see in our mind’s eye. The arrival and the minor details may not be aspects we can predict or have control over, but where we go, what we pursue, what we let go of, that is what we are in complete control of.

While yes, undoubtedly some people fall into a life of greatness momentarily; it is however, their choice to maintain the blessings that have been bestowed upon them. Someone born into wealth, Prince William for example. But someone like the Duchess of Cambridge, no she could not have controlled Cupid’s arrow, but she can control her behavior, her discipline, her taste, her inner strength which may or may not have been elements of attraction along the way. This is not to say any part of our destiny involving other people is something we can control; it is absolutely not. But what is in our control is how we engage with those we come into contact with.

“Your life will be no better than the plans you make and the action you take. You are the architect and builder of your own life, fortune, and destiny.” ~Alfred A. Montapert

Similarly, the success you seek, while it need not be known by others, can only be achieved if you remain dogged in your pursuit of your desired target. No matter what the obstacles, no matter what frustrations, no matter what the risk, if you remain determined, great success will be yours. Did you know painter Paul Cézanne didn’t receive acclaim until the age of 56, and it wasn’t until after his first significant recognition that the masterpieces such as “The Bathers” were created? A modern example is Ina Garten (aka The Barefoot Contessa). Did you know her successful food television career didn’t begin until she was in her mid-fifties as well? After leaving a job in the White House of Office of Management and Budget, she opened her specialty food store Barefoot Contessa. After repeated inquiries by Food Network, she finally acquiesced and starred in her now beloved program Barefoot Contessa.

“There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.” ~Ella Wheeler Wilcox

What you choose to improve upon, what you choose to learn, what you choose to open your mind and eyes to, where you choose to go, with whom you choose to congregate with, these decisions are yours to make and they will determine the opportunities and ideas that will pop into your mind to lead you toward the destiny you may not know exactly how to attain.

“Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.” ~William Jennings Bryan

Rather than sitting and ruminating about what will be, why not hop up and take a small step toward it today? Why not spend more time practicing what you eventually want to be skilled at? Why not choose to do the self-improvements that you know would make either your social or work like run more smoothly? Why not invest in yourself? Why not choose to make the destiny you dream of a reality?

A funny thing happened to me in my twenties that wasn’t my nature. I lived in fear more than I ever had before. Before, in my teenage years, I would take the initiative, I would speak up, I would dare, but when my twenties hit, insecurities set in, doubt set in, the models I looked up to became fuzzy. Either I couldn’t see someone who I wanted to follow or I would see someone who I had similarities with and it wasn’t a path that lifted me up. And so, since I had somehow lost my confidence, lost the direction that I never really had, but thought I possessed, I attempted to follow the path that supposedly made other people happy. Thankfully, the happiness never worked, and I intervened in my own life before any permanent damage could occur.

“Sow an act and you reap a habit. Sow a habit and you reap a character. Sow a character and you reap a destiny.” ~Charles Reade

I began to realize that no matter how many people may be potential role models and no matter how many supposed similarities other people have to my life, I am not them and they are not me. My journey is my own, and it is the decisions and the mindset that I choose to allow myself to put into action each day that will determine where I go and how high I fly. 

No, I nor you can know when the reality we dream about will come to fruition, but if you continue to be an active participant in your life, refuse to draw parallels and make assumptions that your life will be like “so-and-so’s” because you made similar decisions at certain points in your life, you will amaze yourself.

“Your destiny is to fulfill those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving toward something.” ~Ralph Marston

To understand that we are the determiners of our destiny is sometimes, in and of itself, frightening. But once you get over the initial power you possess, cease it, grab it, don’t give it to someone else, don’t pretend the life you want, no matter how hard to design can’t happen. It can, and it will if you are determined.

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” ~ William Shakespeare

~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:

~One Small Adjustment Away from Contentment

~True Contentment

~The How of Happiness (podcast)

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Let’s Talk About Beauty

“I have also realized that looks have absolutely no correlation to the quality and the beauty of the life you create.” —Garance Doré from her book Love, Style, Life
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #102

A quote caught my attention last week as I was pouring through Garance Doré’s book Love, Style, Life, “The danger is that if you make beauty the focus of your life, you attract people who do the same.” Taken out of context, the quote can be interpreted many different ways, but for the sake of understanding her intent, she is speaking to physical beauty, the symmetry that few of us are born with, the genes that we can only possess as haphazardly as winning the lottery.

The construct of beauty, depending upon how and with whom we are raised can either serve as a builder or a deflater. Let me explain.

If we grow up in a family and a community that praises us for something we have no control over, as we are young, unlearned, trusting and naive, we instinctively do more of what is praised, similar to training a pup: spending more money on make-up, clothing, and seeking attention solely for how we look. After all, what would be the motivation to do something in which we would be given no support, diving into our studies, exploring our curiosities, if we haven’t developed the muscle to see the beauty in such a pursuit? The lower we are on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the more likely we are to continue doing what is certain, safe. But if we grow up in an environment that encourages the growth toward self-actualization, while acknowledging the power of presentation, but reverting its focus on development, growth and finding a peace to not only trust ourselves, and continue to grow intellectually, we are given the tools that put the ability to attain self-confidence squarely in our own hands. No approval necessary.

If we are fortunate enough to have experienced the latter childhood and young adulthood, we see that beauty is more than skin deep. We see beauty as something that is found in actions, behavior and confidence. We see beauty as something that increases as we age rather than dissipates as we grow wiser and more bien dans sa peau (well in one’s skin).

The fact that must be acknowledged is there is a reason we as humans are drawn to what aesthetically pleases us. Virginia Postrel includes in her essay “The Truth About Beauty” the reality is we as beings seek unconsciously, or maybe consciously for some, partners who are healthy and thus would appear to be fertile. Men seek out more feminine features as it signals higher levels of feminine hormones and visa versa for women seeking men, but while this is science, we also know that we live in a post-modern world. We seek more from our partners than just their genetic make-up. We seek thoughtful, worthwhile companionship, and such compatibility cannot be convened solely in a woman’s doe-like eyes or a man’s six-pack abs. We must dig deeper.

The depth of a tree’s roots determine its true strength and ability to stand strong in times of extreme turbulence. With that said, the depth of a tree’s roots are not something we can see on the surface. We cannot know if the roots have been forced to remain close to the surface thus not preventing it from withstanding a flood of water. Contrarily, we cannot know if the depths of the tree’s roots wind down and deep beyond what we could possibly fathom, but only appreciate after a severe blustery day.

The self-assuredness, the self-confidence we have cannot be founded upon what we present physically to the world alone. Because if we do, if all we do is invest in our skincare, invest in our wardrobe, invest in our exterior presentation to gain approval, compliments and attention, but can offer nothing else, the perpetual chase of what is deemed beautiful will forever have us chasing our tales and never leave us content.

In other words, if we only pursue superficial beauty, we will forever be insecure. Now being insecure can happen for other reasons as well, but the common ingredient for eradicating insecurity is to establish deep roots.

“The greatest natural enemy of women is insecurity. We all feel it and we all think we are the only ones who feel that way. How we deal with these fears determines to a great extent how effective we are in running our lives. Most women present a façade to the world and keep the insecurity locked inside. The toughest job in the world is to be a complete, happy woman.” —Diane von Furstenberg

How do we deal with the fears of insecurity? What exactly does building deep roots mean?

With regards to the topic of beauty, it means shifting the definition and the conversation. Women are not a piece of art to gawk at. If we happen to look stunning in the attire we have chosen, it is a decision for self-expression, it is a decision exuding our self-respect, it is a decision to engage people to further investigate and get to know the intriguing woman wearing the clothes. It is not the end of the conversation, but rather the introduction.

The difficult part of shifting the discussion is the shifting of the discussion we have in our own minds unconsciously. We must not feel defeated when a crop of zits pop up out of nowhere. Swap out zits for a wrinkle, or two or three. Swap it out for anything that is on the surface of who we are that we either cannot control or something that is temporary. We are more than a temporary bacterial flare up. We are more than wrinkle lines. Our words, our actions, our ease in loving the life we’ve created for ourselves, that is what people notice and remember. And for those people who are drawn to us for our words, actions and approach to life, those are the people we want to surround ourselves with.

Dressing well, having fun with fashion, being enamored with our home’s decor, these are absolutely passions of many of you, as well as myself. There is indeed a power that comes with creating a space that is inviting and an outfit that makes us feel our best. But each of these passions create the backdrop for us, the individual, the woman who now has after countless hours, months and years of investment, cultivated deep, strong roots, to shine. Because the exterior of who we are is merely an introduction to who we are entirely.

True Beauty is . . .

1.Knowing your worth

2. Sincerity

3. Kindness to all even if we have to tactfully share a truth that hurts 

4. Strength found within

5. Embracing a life that does not follow, but rather adheres to what is calling you

6. Expressing love without expectation

7. A life of gratitude

8. Knowing life is always offering a chance to evolve

9. Acceptance of others

10. Self-respect without needing approval

11. Self-confidence

12. Being who you were meant to be

“Because the thing is, whatever is given to you on the day you are born, you are the one who decides who you will become, every day. Beauty grows as we grow into ourselves.” —Garance Doré

Choose to grow into who you can become, not what you think you should become. Enjoy the journey of discovery. Revel in the unknown as you strive toward what is tickling your curiosities. Beauty is in many ways passion set on fire, and sometimes it may also need to include a pair of blinders to ignore the perplexed and the cynics. When you are completely lost in the living of your life, when you only have the wherewithal to appreciate the amazing things around you and applaud those who are engrossed in their own life’s passions as well, that is when your true beauty is alive and radiating to those all around you. And that, that is attention-getting, that is far more electric than a pretty, perfect painting that will be looked at once and then passed by (or sold at  auction to hang stagnant on another wall).

Most important, when you are exuding true beauty, the attention the outer world pays you is irrelevant because your roots are deep.

~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:

~Why Not . . . Become Self-Actualized? (podcast)

~Confidence: How to Gain It & Why It’s Invaluable (podcast)

~10 Things Content People Understand About Uncertainty (podcast)

~Petit Plaisir

~Aerin candles, Buckhorn Amber Candle

 

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This & That: No. 208

Blog
—Beauty & Well-Being

With the founder’s mother and grandmother both having worked as beauty editors for French Vogue, Clémence von Muffling took to the career of writing about beauty almost innately. Having worked for Clarins and Dior, her blog Beauty & Well-Beauty is a passion for revealing how to live well and doing it in a healthy fashion. From posts on beauty, well-being and interviews with top names in the industry, be sure to bookmark this beauty of a blog.

—I Will Not Eat Oysters

Always looking for a new recipe to try, and all too often it is the photographs that draw me in, chef, food blogger and author Danielle Oron offers her passion for food inspired by her Israeli and Moroccan background and shares the most delectable recipes. Have a look at her blog here.

—Thou Swell

A decor blog to put on your daily reading blog list, Thou Swell is based in Atlanta and dives into the entire approach to living a well-styled life. Inspired by the jazz standard in 2013, Thou Swell is the brainchild of Kevin O’Gara who began the blog while in high school. Now attending Cornell University’s Design and Environmental Analysis, he continues to offer daily inspiration. From interior design to the garden, step into a world of inspiration to mix up traditional with contemporary design.

Book
—Clarity: How to Get It, How to Keep It and How to Use it to Balance Your Life by Steven Cesari

Seeking balance and want to discover how to know what to let go of and what to pursue? Steven Cesari’s book Clarity is the book to dive into. With tips on how to clarify your goals as well as to how to recognize the junk you need to edit, the book is a handbook for creating balance.

—The Little Dictionary of Fashion: A Guide to Dress Sense for Every Woman by Christian Dior

Three years before his death Parisian designer Christian Dior gave all of us a gift to help us achieve the style we seek. Originally published in 1954, The Little Dictionary of Fashion covers how to tie to a scarf, what to wear for a variety of occasions and all of the timeless basics when it comes to grooming, cultivating a simple style with good taste.

Film
—Those People

Set in New York City on the chic upper east side, Those People tells the story of a young gay artist who is torn when it comes to deciding to whom his heart will belong: to his dear best friend who has a penchant for bad behavior or a pianist who offers a few more years and his foreign intrigue. Being released in New York City and Los Angeles this weekend, look for it from Apple and on-demand this June. Have a look at the trailer here.

Francophile Find
—Marseille

On May 5th Netflix decided to dip its toes into the French language with the drama Marseille, starring Gérard Depardieu as the mayor of Marseille for 25 years. The series follows his attempt to attain a vote which would erect a casino in the center of the marina, and with his dogged determination, the battle begins against his one time protege and young rising star. Have a look at the trailer below:

Shopping
—Coach 1941 ’23’ Leather Saddle Bag

Many of you have singled out Style Inspiration images that are accessorized with the classic saddle bag, and the good news is Coach has available a quality option in the classic colors as well as this cornflower blue (I absolutely adore this hue). Under $400, it is much more reasonable than Chloé’s handbags and will certainly be around and in style for many seasons to come.

—Mark & Graham Personalized Totes

Totes for spring and summer are a must, but even year round, having a simple cloth or chambray tote for farmer’s markets or the grocery store is a good idea. For less than $30, the white simple tote can be embroidered, and for a few Hamiltons more the North Tote made out of chambray with leather straps isn’t a bad looker either.

—Max Studio Stripe Linen Top

Stripes for layering this spring and summer are a must on my Spring Capsule Wardrobe list, and for less than $70, this linen-blend version is a great buy.

Television
—Grace & Frankie, season 2 premiere

Last year, Marta Kauffman (former creator of FRIENDS) and fellow creators offered viewers of Netflix a hilarious and heart-warming glimpse into the lives of Grace & Frankie (Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin). After I devoured the first season in a weekend, I patiently waited for the second, and finally it has arrived. Premiering today on Netflix,

~recipe for Rhubarb, Raspberry and Orange Flower Water Galette~

The one thing I am missing this spring are the peonies that were in my backyard now far away in my former hometown. After a few years of tending to them, to see them burst with all off their long-awaited beautiful color was one of the sweet arrivals of spring.  While I know the peonies will eventually arrive here in Bend, I have no doubt the wait will be worth it, as so much in life proves this to be true. In the meantime, I am looking forward to planning my mini-garden in my backyard, picking up a few annuals for my pots and reading some new books that just arrived this week. This weekend, after all, is what a rainy spring weekend is all about, non?

Today’s This & That is the largest one to-date and I must say, between Grace & Frankie and my exhaustion, the weekend of leisure is looking quite enticing. However, it is the outdoors that rejuvenates me and my dogs excitement when they know we’re heading out the door to discover a new trail. After all, there are so many new episodes of my favorite podcasts to listen to. With that said, it is also a mother’s day weekend, and so for TSLL readers who are moms, I wish you a lovely weekend full of the much needed appreciation you undoubtedly deserve. For everyone, enjoy the two days doing exactly as you need and desire. Below you will find a few items I think you might enjoy, and until Monday bonne journée!

~A fantastic observation . . . This is the Best Way to Improve Every Part of Your Life

~Cultivate good habits now . . . 6 Habits of People Who Age Well

~Shopping local, eating local, now decor . . . Local Designs, Served Fresh

~The next time wanderlust calls . . . Do These 11 Things Every Time You Travel

~A worthwhile read . . . 15 Surprising Qualities of Creative Geniuses 

~Let go of this common way of thinking and welcome success.

 

 

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Why Not . . . Savor Life?

From the infancy of TSLL back in 2009, the premise of living simply luxuriously has always been about appreciating the powerful joy in the everyday moments, cultivating a life of quality found within and then sharing and expressing what we discover to the world and those around us in such a way that is authentic to each of us.

Each year, my world becomes more streamlined and edited with regards to letting go of what is no longer necessary and freeing myself of what is no longer working. In so doing, the simple unassumingly powerful moments have much more of an effect on my appreciation each and every day.

Much like cleaning the mud or dirt off of our windshields, it’s not to say the mud isn’t worthy in its own way, but when the excesses in our life cloud our ability to focus, to live fully and to be able to be in the moment with absolute appreciation for the life we have been cultivating for ourselves, then we must wash it away. And when we do, the clear, crystalized view we are granted is the reminded that it is worth letting go of what no longer serves the life we wish to build.

Today, I would like to share 24 everyday events that I savor without apology and with absolute revelry each time I have the opportunity to experience them. I have a feeling many and so many more are moments you savor in your everyday as well. Have a lovely Wednesday, and thank you for stopping by the blog.

1. Walking across the threshold of your home

2. Love, smiles, kisses and unbridled energy from your pups and/or children

3. Sunshine

4. Rain

5. Time alone with Mother Nature

~TSLL Instagram, on the Deschutes~

6. Fresh flowers

7. Moments of serendipity

8. Patience paying off

9. Loose pants after simply living well and enjoying your life

10. Birds chirping in the early morning to begin the day

11. Unexpected thank you’s

12. Finding exactly what you’ve been looking for even if you couldn’t exactly describe it

13. A deep sleep

14. Savory smells wafting from the kitchen

15. A glass of wine and time to enjoy it

16. A glass of fresh, chilled water streaming down your throat

17. An engrossing newspaper or magazine article

18. A day wide open without any plans

19. A wonderful Monday to begin the week

20. A scent from a luxurious candle drifting throughout the house

21. Sipping a freshly open bag of my favorite tea or freshly ground coffee 

22. Opening the page of a new book

~TSLL Instagram: The Art of Simple Food, Eligible, The Sleep Revolution, Wellth~

23. Counting the minutes to having time at the end of the day to read a good book

24. Having another day . . . 

 

~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:

~Why Not . . . Savor Everyday Routines?

~Why Not . . . Lounge in Style?

~15 Everyday Habits to Live a Life of Contentment

 

 

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Hop, Jump, Go Now – 40% off at Shopbop

I am always looking to save on my essentials, but I also refuse to skimp on quality. Clothing that will last and look in tiptop shape each and every season is worth investing in; however, I know that randomly sites go on sale. This fact means having alerts saves me a bundle as I can score on the items I have had my eye on. For example, I am in need of light denim skinny jeans and I swear by Victoria Beckham’s as they have ample stretch and offer long inseams; however, I have never paid full price.

The good news was just announced today that I can now purchase those jeans (seen above) and save more than $170, and so can you. For three days only, a surprise sale at ShopBop, save up to 40% with no code necessary. Click here to find that one item that you’ve been waiting to add to your capsule wardrobe.

~Remember to use eBates to save even more money after the fact.

~Shop TSLL 2016 Spring Shopping Guide here.

~Shop hand-picked essential items for your spring, fall and all-season capsule wardrobe at TSLL Shop.

Shop my picks below:

~Victoria Victoria Beckham Super Skinny dark denim jeans (with stretch), light blue (worn indigo)~

~Kara Midi Tie Tote~

~Equipment Cara 100% silk cami (nude and black available)~

~Equipment Sloane 100% cashmere sweater~

~Vince Gwyn WEdge Sandals~

~Loeffler Randall Piper Wedge Sandals~

~Lloyd/Ford Maxi dress~

~Lisa Perry Stripe Waist dress~

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Growth is a Choice: 11 Ways to Grow-Up

“Growing up is hard, love. Otherwise everyone would do it.”  —Kim Harrison
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #101

In order for change to occur, the change we seek, there is a need for time and investment. The investment can come in the form of money or valuable time and attention. The process is not usually the part that we are eager to engage in, but rather the end result is the carrot that leads us through the drudgery, exhaustion and necessary discipline. Without the end-goal in mind, the process would gladly be bypassed or ignored.

Settling into relationships that are just okay, a job that is adequate and a lifestyle that is manageable are just a few of the ways that hold us back from choosing to grow any further, limiting us from a life of true contentment and unimaginable connection and appreciation for the life we have the opportunity to live. Last year, the topic of differentiating between being an adult and being a grown-up was discussed in a post titled Grown-ups vs. Adults: 15 Differences, and while that post focused primarily on the behaviors of being a grown-up, today I’ll share 12 opportunities for growth that while learning these skills can take time and be difficult initially, the benefits will be enormous regarding the quality of your life in every arena.

As someone who has always wanted to live on my own and not be confined or limited, even as a child, I’ve also always been curious, which I think in many ways is a way to remain forever young. The key to living well and becoming a grown-up I have found is understanding that life can be both living in the real world while hanging on to your youth so long as you choose a growth mindset. Beatrix Potter says it quite lovely,

“I remember I used to half believe and wholly play with fairies when I was a child. What heaven can be more real than to retain the spirit-world of childhood, tempered and balanced by knowledge and common-sense.” 

So today, a bit of knowledge, as Potter puts it, to helps us step into being a grown-up and open the doors to an even more fulfilling life.

1. Choose joy

“Know that joy is rarer, more difficult, and more beautiful than sadness. Once you make this all-important discovery, you must embrace joy as a moral obligation.” – André Gide

When I first read this quote, it gave me great pause and then an immediate smile because the safe thing to do, the easy thing to do, is to worry, is to assume the worst, is to see the negative, is to feel sorry for ourselves. To have hope, to see the beauty, to find the goodness is muscle that needs to be exercised. It takes strength to be the joy-seeker because you may have to stand up or withstand push-back from the “Joy Bullies” in the world that can’t tolerate someone else being happy if they aren’t. Stay strong, find the joy and live well.

2. Knowing how to rise from adversity

“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.”  —Max Lerner

To be human is to know what it feels like to be hurt: a broken heart, dashed hope, grand disappoint, a lost of trust. But when you discover that these hurts aren’t going to kill you, you discover as Max Lerner points out how much strength you actually have. The key, however, is knowing how to rise from the hurt. Often people shove it under the rug, bury it somewhere deep and start building walls for protection. Instead, as best-selling author Brené Brown points out, they need to do some investigating.

In her most recent book Rising Strong, she discusses the simple two step process of rising strong from adversity: (1) engage with your feelings, step into them, and (2) come to understand the story behind our feelings, why we think and behave the way we do. In other words, don’t suppress, but rather be the detective of why you feeling the way you are feeling.

Initially, this will be very uncomfortable and you will find ways to avoid doing this because, if you’re like me, you are afraid of what you will find or discover. But, if you’re also like me, you will discover a far less frightening monster than you had imagined, in fact, you will actually find something quite beautiful, the truth. And as they say, the truth will set you free. After all, we don’t want to continue having the same negative response, and this is what helps us grow beyond it.

3. Embracing a dynamic approach to life

To pair with Brown’s two step process of rising strong is synonymous with the idea of a growth mindset. When we see our lives as dynamic rather than static, we know that we can change, we can grow and we are not “stupid”, “an idiot” or “a failure”. The actions that lead us to make such absolute comments as just mentioned come from a fixed mindset, but if we choose to embrace a growth mindset, we are seeing each mistake as an opportunity for growth and improve, thus we see ourselves as dynamic, forever capable of change and growth.

4. Knowing how to live with uncertainty

Last week, in episode #100, I shared 10 ways content people live with uncertainty because as we all know, we cannot control everything no matter what we do. So, we must discover how to live with the unknowns. Without going into any more detail, check out the post with all of the details here.

5. Capable of knowing who is also a “grown-up”

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”   —Maya Angelou

It would be so much easier if people wore stickers on their forehead, “Grown-Up” and “Poser, or pretending to be a grown-up. But alas, such a simple label doesn’t exist. And maybe it’s actually a good thing these labels are absent because we all have the potential and the choice, at any time, to become a grown-up. And as we know labels are limiting. But how can we exactly determine if someone is a grown-up? Check out these 15 key differences and then look at today’s list 12 characteristics.

And importantly, don’t be fooled by the mistaken proofs of being a grown-up as may Angelou points out, yes, a lot of grown-ups have children, there are a lot of non-grown-ups that have children too. Another tell-tell misnomer is someone’s age. Forty-five? Oh, you must be a grown-up. Okay, let’s look a little further. I share both of these examples not pick on parents or 45-year-olds but instead to point out errant assumptions that can be avoided, and while it may take time to know for sure, the investment will be worth it before you invest personally or professionally with that particularly person who is posing as a grown-up.

6. Understanding what you need and being capable of communicating that to others tactfully

It takes time to know what you need. Such a discovery of ourselves is a journey that often can fully be revealed to us until we are out on our own, making decisions and mistakes and seeing the world without the lens of the community and culture we were raised in. By no means does this mean our communities or parents were wrong, but we can grasp an unfiltered appreciation for what the world is and what we truly appreciate about it without being told. Experience, first-hand experience is invaluable. And when you give this priceless gift to yourself, you become better acquainted with yourself. And as you choose to evolve into a grown-up, you choose to learn how to communicate (click here to discover the art of communication) and thus discover how to tactfully communicate what you need and what you can and cannot do.

The gift of this skill is an increase in the quality of the relationships you forge.

7. Recognize that weekends aren’t the only time to have a good time

“One of the oddest things about being grown-up was looking back at something you thought you knew and finding out the truth of it was completely different from what you had always believed.”     — Patricia Briggs

The weekend discovery is a specific example of a larger truth about being a grown-up, but the point is just because the society or culture you live in gravitates or expects a certain behavior at a certain time of day or a particular day of the week or at a certain time of year (holidays for example), it doesn’t mean you have to follow along. No big plans this weekend, no problem. Taking a mini-getaway during the middle of the week to enjoy a quiet visit at your favorite destination sans tourists and out-of-towners? Go for it.

The determining factor as to when you enjoy a good-time need not be dictated by the masses.

8. And reveling in the beauty that having a “good time” isn’t what “everyone else is doing”

Subsequently, what you define as a good time, need not align with the masses either. There may be times that it does, but grown-ups have outgrown the need to apologize or explain why they enjoy a good time doing something different to someone who doesn’t understand. Vive la différence! 

9. Being cool isn’t a priority

“Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.” —Chili Davis

Cool can be defined in whichever way indicates someone is doing something because everyone else is doing it or they are doing it to be ahead of the crowd so as to perhaps garner attention and envy, or maybe even jealousy. Similar to #10 below, when you let go of worrying about whether the clothes you wear are en vogue or your technology is on par with everyone else’s, you set yourself free.

10. Letting go of the approval of others

“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”     —Nicholas Sparks

And when you have set yourself free from worrying about being cool, you have let go of seeking out the approval of others. And that is when the decisions you make will help build a life of true contentment. No more are you pursuing what you “should”, but rather what you love and therefore you are truly engaged, truly invested and ultimately quite inspiring to those around you.

Nicholas Sparks’ quote says it beautifully, but when you begin to drift from those who you’ve come to realize don’t have similar tastes, views and ways of living, rather than be upset, be thankful for the memories you did have and move on, letting them move on, to find people who will celebrate in what life path you are on now.

11. Knowing the difference between looks and depth

Touched upon briefly in episode #24 (10 Differences Between Women & Girls), the key to being a grown-up is knowing that while we may find someone attractive, the packaging is stunning, we also know we need to look beyond the beautiful wrapping paper. Whether in our personal or professional life, looks don’t equate to the best person for the job or to date. Now, without question, how someone cares for themselves speaks volumes about their personal hygiene and self-respect, but making assumptions either way would be advised against. Again, as mentioned at the top of the post, take your time, have patience, and then make your decision.

12. Becoming your best friend

“We grow neither better nor worse as we get old, but more like ourselves.”     — May Lamberton Becker

A grown-up is someone who enjoys their own company, doesn’t shy from time alone and revels rather than runs from who they are. When we become our own best friend we can never truly be lonely. Granted, we do need human connection and social involvement (each of us have a different level of how much), but one of the biggest aha moments for most people is that when the become their own best friend their lives become all the more enjoyable because whether they are with people or not, they will always be having a good time (perhaps more guaranteed in the former scenario than the latter).

One of the biggest gifts I have discovered as I continue choose to grow and learn and step more fully into the role of being a grown-up, is that things that popped up unwanted that I used to become so angst-ridden about (my finances, my social life, my career path), are now seen as mere bumps that I need to navigate around skillfully because I have more experience, because I have become even more comfortable with my own company and I have addressed areas of weakness I admittedly know I have. Are there more ways to grow and learn and evolve even after we have addressed the 12 characteristics above? Absolutely, because each of the 12 are very much like muscles that we need to keep moving and practicing. The same scenarios will not keep popping up in our lives, but rather new versions that will test us, but with each time we practice the skill, the new version will become easier to engage with successfully.

Choose to be a grown-up and never stop growing. It may just be one of the best decisions you’ll every make.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” —E. E. Cummings
Petit Plaisir:
~Coffee Break French, the podcast
~Coffee Break French, the website

~Flirting with French: How a Language Charmed Me, Seduced Me and Nearly Broke My Heart by William Alexander

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This & That: No. 207

Beauty
—Bobbi Brown’s Nude Finish Tinted Moisturizer, spf 15

As a fan of Bobbi Brown’s makeup and especially her tinted moisturizer (it’s what I’ve been wearing for more than 10 years now), I was intrigued by her new offering. A subtle tinted moisturizer that covers redness but not your freckles; it appears to act a bit like a primer as well as a moisturizer. Something worth checking out for the upcoming summer months for a fresh-from-the-beach natural glow.

Book
—Enter Helen: The Invention of Helen Gurley Brown and the Rise of the Modern Single Woman by Brooke Hauser 

Cosmopolitan hasn’t necessarily been in my regular monthly magazine pile, but the tenacity and gumption of Helen Gurley Brown has always intrigued and inspired me to live life according to my own terms. While there have been a couple of biographies released prior about the the author of the still-talked about, Sex and the Single Girl, the latest released just last week dives into her journey from the Ozarks to her rise in New York City. Certainly something I’m eager to look into.

—Cook.Nourish.Glow. 120 Recipes that will Help you Lose Weight, Look Younger and Feel Healthier by Amelia Freer

After her #1 International Best-Selling book Eat.Nourish.Glow., celebrity nutritionist Amelia Freer offers her latest book which is full of 100 meals and recipes described with detailed images to help readers look and feel their best. Released just this month, while I am curious to take a look at this book, I am doubly curious to check out her first book which shares 10 simple steps to look great, feel good and lose weight if need be.

Film
—Mother’s Day

If you enjoyed Garry Marshal’s previous films centered around the traditional celebrations of New Year’s Eve and Valentine’s Day, you will want to stop into a theater this weekend and see his latest, Mother’s Day which premieres today. With a list of actors straight from the top of the most recognizable names’ list: Jennifer Aniston, Julia Roberts, Kate Hudson and Jason Sudeikis as well as Courtney Cox, the film looks to be heart-felt and a laugh-out-loud comedy as well. Have a look at the trailer below.

Francophile Find
—Savoir Faire: 1000+ Foreign Words & Phrases to Sound Smart by Laura Lee

Released just last month (March), Laura Lee has compiled 1000 words and phrases from a long list of languages such as French, German and even Japanese that will ensure you no longer make a fool of yourself during your travels even if you haven’t learned the actual language. Not a bad resource to have on hand, non?

Shopping
—Athleta Pacifica UPF Top (rash guard)

After sharing the idea of a capsule swimwear wardrobe, I wanted to share a great find if you are looking for rash guard tops. This specific design is available in nine different colors and is available in Regular, Tall, Petite or Plus. So many options and the V-neck zip. Yep, one will have to be mine.

—Theory Soft Crepe Trench Coat

As mentioned in previous style posts, a trench is a must in the capsule wardrobe for versatility, and this is a trench that offers a touch of softness and sophistication. Available in black as well, Theory’s soft crepe trench coat is an investment that won’t leave you unsatisfied.

~recipe for Coconut Sugar Pie~

I don’t know about you, but the Coconut Sugar Pie from I Don’t Eat Oysters food blog is beckoning to be made and then devoured. Are you with me? Aside from the sugary sweets, spring is beginning to become even sweeter with calm, temperate weather, more blossoms on the trees and green in the yard. While this weekend will be a grading weekend as my students are nearing their annual exam, I plan on taking many breaks to step outside, walk the boys, work in the yard, stop by a favorite bakery or two and just enjoy following my own schedule.

A week to celebrate began on Monday with the 100th episode of The Simple Sophisticate, and with it an opportunity for readers and listeners to purchase TSLL book at a limited-time offer steep discount. Learn more here. The week of celebration continued as I mentioned on Wednesday I would be editing and redoing my living room. Why, you may be wondering? Well, I found a treasure of a sofa from a trusted and beloved consignment store that has an eye for the chic retro quality furniture we all dream of, but don’t want (or in my and many cases, can’t) to pay the full price if we had to purchase it new. I am beyond ecstatic to have been able to discover such a find, but soon it will be making its home in mine. Be sure to stay tuned as I will be taking you on a journey of the decorating process.

And yet another reason to celebrate it the arrival of the weekend, and boy am I ready. How about you? Below are a few items you might enjoy, and until Monday, bonne journée!

~The 8 Step Process to Be True to Yourself

~Inbox Zero: 8 Stept to Get You There

~3 Things Productive People Do in the Morning

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Why Not . . . Style a Cozy French Living Room?

“The home should be the treasure chest of living.”

—Charles-Edouard Jeanneret, Swiss-born but became a French citizen after moving to France in 1917 where he adopted the pseudonym Le Corbusier.

Perhaps my predilection for all things French has ripened even more fully as I have been attending my French class this spring, but as I am pulling together the decor in my new home, I cannot help but be drawn to a certain aesthetic.

While I am not a traditionalist and far from a modern industrialist, I tend to waver more toward classic cozy chic. Tufted always catches my attention, yet so does oversized stuffed sofa cushions. An elegant leggy coffee table, I’ll definitely take a look at, and lighting that creates a welcoming hue for any occasion that is a must. As well, too much is just too much, so simplicity within reason is my goal.

How would I describe my taste exactly? Well, in a phrase as seen in the title, French Cozy.

But what exactly is French Cozy? Well, I tried to define it here in today’s post. Why? Well, my living room is getting a facelift. It will be gradual, but as top decorators will advise, pick a champion of a piece and design around it. Well, I have found a champion, and it is my new sofa which will be arriving later this spring. More details to come, I promise. But in the meantime, this exciting change means, this sofa (my current one) and eventually this chaise and a half with the ottoman needs to go to a new home. As I know more than a handful of my readers live in Bend, if you’re in the market for a neutral, extra-long and cozy sofa and matching chaise, email me to place your name on the waiting list and get more information about price and condition.

But back to French Cozy. Unfortunately the renowned French interior designer  Jean-Louis Denoit is far out of my price range to hire (however, one can dream!), but as his design approach demonstrates above, it mixes simplicity with a tough of regality, and signature style with restraint. To tour the entire Parisian home you see in the above image, click here.

“Luxury is when it seems flawless, when you reach the right balance between all elements. understated theatricality —that is what my luxury is all about.”—Jean-Louis Denoit

Let’s break it down.

1. Less is more

Fewer colors, more quality. Less stuff, more appreciation of the space. Choose the color or colors wisely, and select a superb neutral white palette to allow the colors and accessories you do choose to shine (this article from the WSJ breaks the Parisian cream white color options down nicely).

2. Keep it light

Not only does “keeping it light” refer to the color palette, but also to furniture. Let the legs be shown. No legs creates a heavy room, but when you reveal the thin gams of the sofa, chairs or coffee tables, the room becomes lighter and larger.

3. A touch of plush

Too much gold, excessive tufted anything and velvet everywhere can be . . . well . . . too much. But a touch of stunning elevates everything in the room without the arrogance. From the chandelier to the grand painting above the sofa, to plush velvet furniture, mix it up with rich and shabby chic.

4. Making mix and match work effortlessly

“For a house to be successful, the objects in it must communicate with one another, respond and balance one another.” —Andrée Putman (French designer)

Matching is good when it doesn’t look forced. Bring in a playful print or an eclectic light fixture to complete a classic living room scheme with book-lined walls. Effortless, as with our wardrobe, takes time as you begin to accumulate all of the pieces that eventually will look unassuming on their own and then welcome a “wow” when brought together.

~tour the entire New York City brownstone here~

5. Let your signature style emerge subtly

Similarly, building an ideal living room that suits your personality and lifestyle will take time as you begin to live in the space, but as you build the layers of style, bring yourself, your passions and your travels into the room. Don’t overwhelm as you want your guests to feel comfortable as well, rather make the details subtle but unique.

~see the entire home tour here~

Before I leave you, a peek into what my sofa will be. It’s all about the legs. I am so excited to have found a long sofa with lovely, svelte legs. Similar to the sofas below, the legs will be revealed and the room will hopefully be “lifted”. Happy decorating!

~tour the entire Brooklyn apartment here~

~The Dreamer sofa~

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10 Things People Who Have Found Contentment Understand About Uncertainty

“You’ll never know everything about anything, especially something you love.” —Julia Child
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #100

The oft mentioned quote regarding knowledge which has been attributed to both Aristotle and Albert Einstein goes something like this: “The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don’t know”. Why I share this quote is because it contains an underlying understanding or aha moment that rings true for accepting that all aspects of our lives are not under our control, and never will be.

Listening to NPR’s Sunday Weekend Edition this past weekend, guest Neal Gabler, who’s recent article is the cover of The Atlantic’s May issue, shared an intriguing finding that Americans, above all other countries, including France, and Germany and other leading industrialized nations, are the only ones who believe they, individually, are solely responsible for their financial success.

And while it makes sense on a founding principles level, if we look at it from another angle, there is a flaw in the recipe. We forget that not all of the factors that align for financial success are under our control: economic downturns and upswings, banking regulations, tax law, financial need amongst loved ones, just to name a few.

I use the example of financial success and the recognition that while, yes, many factors are under our control, to bring to the forefront the truth. And when we see the truth, just as Einstein or Aristotle mentions about learning more, we begin to see how much we can never control. That realization may be initially frightening and then frustrating, but today I am going to reveal to you why it will ultimately be liberating and lead to a life of true contentment.

If you are living a life of true contentment, you embody certain qualities, a particular mindset and an approach to living each day that is distinctly different from someone who is trying to control everything and everyone. Let’s look at the 10 distinctions below.

Content people:

1. Live each day in the present

A sense of liberation will wash over you when you begin to live in the present. When you choose to be aware of the moment, the details, the people, the environment, the beauty of the world, you will have less time to worry about the past or stress about the future. Your anxiety will diminish and your joy will soar. When you are able to live in the present you are at peace with where you’ve come from and confident that you know how to forge forward successfully into your future.

2. Are focused on what they can do

The truth is not everything is under your control, no matter how much you may want it to be. After all, the only person you can control is yourself, and to try to control others is called manipulation. Even if you read your horoscope in five different newspapers (don’t do that) searching for how your future will unfold or read about others who have pursued the path you are on, you will never know how your unique life will unfold. But, you can put the odds in your favor with the thoughts you allow to dance in your mind on a daily basis, how you spend your money, the words you choose to utter, the behavior you exhibit, the courage you muster and the curiosity you allow to drive you forward into new ventures and discoveries.

So no, not everything is under your control, but so much is. Master you and the future that will unfold will exceed what you thought could be possible.

3. Understand the fictitious nature of limits

The only limits that hold us back are the ones we either set for ourselves, “There’s no way I can run a marathon,” and the ones we allow society to impose upon us, “The women’s brain is inferior to the male mind.” The best way I have found to break these limits even when we don’t know what is beyond them is to allow our dreams to run wild. Be infinitely curious. Ask Why not? And refuse to accept no when it comes to an idea that has been seen in your mind’s eye. Because as E.A. Bucchianeri reminds us, “If it can be thought, it can be done.”

4. Realize growth can only occur when you let go

In order to reach the other end of the swimming pool, you must let go of the edge and swim. You may not reach the other side when you had hoped, you may need a floating apparatus to help you as we learn how to swim, but the only way you can make it is if you let go. Growth can happen for each of us, but you have to let go of old habits, past events, old selves and limiting beliefs. It’s the only way. Simple, but initially difficult; however, when you’ve made it halfway, the desire to return to old ways will be far less desirable because you will begin to see the reality you are swimming towards. That alone will be the motivating force to keep on moving forward even if you are exhausted from the strain and stress.

5. Have learned from experience that the Universe wants to know how seriously you desire what you say you want

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” —Martin Luther King Jr.

Recently, I was speaking with a new acquaintance, and she shared with me a story about a situation in which her action came before she knew for certain what she desired would occur. And it was in an unexpected hour that the necessary details fell into place. I too have experienced this seeming serendipity. It is absolutely unexplainable, but the one thing my situation had in common with all of the people who have experienced similar events is we desired deeply what we sought. We choose to face the unknown with action and let the cards fall into place when they were going to fall into place.

Now don’t get me wrong, each person who has experienced a positive outcome stacked the cards in their favor as much as they possibly could, but it is the Universe (or God or whomever you believe in as a higher power) that asks you to show your intent. And then . . . and then, the Universe will decide if it wants to invest in your dreams.

6. Recognize that knowledge is power

When you know what you don’t know, you’ve done your homework. When you are clear on the facts, figures and loose ends that need to be tended to, you can then find people with more expertise than you to tidy those loose ends up. But until you do your homework, you are walking into a potential, and absolutely unnecessary mess. Choose to build your foundation of dreams on cement rather than sand and you will find your contentment.

7. Choose to strengthen emotional intelligence

Your IQ is just as telling about your potential in life as your EQ (emotional intelligence quotient). Even with a high IQ, if your EQ is low, life can be quite difficult to successfully navigate as well as less likely to be enjoyable to experience. What is EQ? Put simply, it is a “person’s ability to perceive, control, evaluate, and express emotions.” In other words, learn how to master your mind (episode #20).

One of the significant emotions that squashes any ability to be present is fear. Once you realize what it looks like when you feel it, once you realize you will never eradicate it entirely and rather realize it is how you handle it that will make the difference, your EQ is becoming far stronger. As I state in an archived post about fear, often fear is telling us precisely what we want, we just need to muster up the courage to pursue it.

8. Refrain from seeking perfection

The seeker of perfection is someone lacking the self-belief that they are enough, what they do is enough and someone who needs to stop seeking external approval and instead seek approval from within. This process takes time. First, it takes awareness to recognize “perfectionitis” in ourselves and to understand why we seek this impossible outcome, and then the exercise of liking who you are, what you have to offer and growing a thicker skin if necessary to help shield you from those who harp on what they see as not enough.

Once you are at peace with the effort you have given, once you are at peace with how you live and the life you’ve chosen, dismissing the remarks from others becomes significantly easier. Give yourself approval and simply strive to do your best rather than to be perfect. (See this post for further inspiration: The Courage to be Your Authentic Self)

9. Take the time to get to know themselves

The choice to get to know ourselves is indeed a choice. It is a process, and it will take time. Initially, spending time with ourselves is awkward if we’ve never done it before. And the feeling of being uncomfortable, as we are doing something we may not have ever done, can deter many people right out of the gates. Just as pushing off from the edge of the swimming pool is initially scary, if we never leave our comfort zone, we will never reap the benefits of knowing who we truly are.

An important part of knowing yourself comes from understanding your emotions, why you feel the way you do in certain situations and determining which emotions you should respect and which you need to let go as they are fleeting and need to be ignored. When you know yourself, you know how to make the best decisions for yourself. And when you know you will make the best decisions for yourself today and down the road, you can be at peace about your future even if you don’t know precisely how it will unfold.

10. Trust their instincts

Once you’ve taken the time to get to know yourself, you’ve probably simultaneously been listening to your gut. If you are a novice to listening to your gut, what it is telling you can feel like a foreign language. Therefore, how you respond to what it is saying may lead you into odd or unwanted situations. However, even in the instances that do not pan out as you had opened, you are gaining valuable information. If you keep on listening and responding, eventually, your gut will become a finely tuned instrument that you can rely on in situations that you’ve never been in before with people you’ve only met for the first time.

Your instincts, your gut, are a part of you, but only if you choose to learn the language and continue to practice your new second tongue.

As you can see contentment doesn’t await us when we feel in control of everything. Such a state never exists, but that doesn’t mean that contentment isn’t possible. Contentment is possible when we accept that we cannot control everything, and as Herman Hesse reminds,“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”  Strength, peace of mind, and contentment come from acceptance that even if we don’t know how it will all work out, we know how we will respond to it, we know we’ve chosen to be prepared as much as possible and the rest is a wondrous journey that continues to reveal itself anew each and everyday so long as we are open to the possibilities.

Most importantly, to return to Julia Child’s quote at the top of the post, the gift of being passionate about living well is that there will always be something new around the corner that you never expected, that you never could have anticipated with great excitement, and what an amazing gift that is. More specifically, when you are truly dialed in to living your authentic life, you won’t have all the answers, you won’t know what will unfold moving forward, but you will be loving your life, making it all but impossible to live in the present and revel in it. Here’s to reveling!

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This & That: No. 206

Shopping
—Apprécier

Earlier this month I came across a style article in The Wall Street Journal that caught my eye as it profiled a unique website, one of the like I have never seen before. Apprécier is the brainchild of Cynthia Weber-Cleary, InStyle magazine’s former fashion director, and Stephanie Stahl, former head of marketing at leather-goods maker Coach. And it’s focus is finding clothing, stylish clothing, well-made clothing, for women 45+. Although, you not once is the age descriptor mentioned anywhere on the site, what you will find is a well-designed destination full of direct shopping options of brands that cater to women who want to dress well and avoid the fickle trends of each season. I have already signed up for their weekly newsletter, because although I am not yet 45, I appreciate their shopping finds, approach to style and overall aesthetic, and I think you will to.

—Isabel Marant cotton and linen-blend shorts

Shorts are tricky. I am not typically a fan as they appear less formal if the length or fabric aren’t exactly what I am looking for. But during summer when comfort and casual is the goal, style doesn’t have to be lost. Isabel Marant’s cotton and linen-blend shorts are sold out everywhere else on the web and only a few remain at The Outnet, but they are worth the search as my pair just arrived yesterday. They run a bit large, so order according, but if have a warm skin tone, you will love them. Not too long, not too tight and available in an neutral color, these shorts are something I am looking forward to pairing with a light sweater in the evenings or a basic tee during the day. Maybe even a swimsuit top and sheer tunic when out on the water.

—Nicholas Kirkwood Beya Flat

A lover of pointed toe heels, but recognizing that not every occasion is heels appropriate, I was fascinated with Nicholas Kirkwood’s Beya flat. With a wide array of colors, textures and prints, the style is classic. Shop here for classic colors, suede options here, yellow and blush here, black laser-cut here, and chevron print here.

Television
—The Catch

Having premiered in late March, ABC’s new drama The Catch (produced by Shonda Rhimes) has completely caught my attention. Starring a successful, determined and stylish private investigator Mirelle Enos as Alice Vaughn, be sure to begin with the pilot as it lays out the underlying premise for every subsequent episode. Have a look at the trailer below.

—Veep on HBO

The fifth season of HBO’s Emmy Award winning comedy for Best Comedy Series Veep returns this Sunday at 7:30 pm. Julia Louis-Dreyfus stars as the less than competent former Senator Selina Meyer turned Vice President. Perhaps you had a chance to see her host Saturday Night Live last week, and if you did, you enjoyed, as I did the return of Elaine Benes from Seinfeld for a brief bit of bantering with Seinfeld creator Larry David. Be warned, the trailer below if full of more than a few profanities, but the satirical comedy offers improvisational scenes that are quite hilarious especially with the primary season we’re experiencing here in the United States.

Travel
—4 in 1 Travel Adaptor

International travelers, a handy 4-in-1 adaptor from MoMA is a must-have if you’re looking for just this necessity. With two USB ports for charging all of your electronically devices, as well as accepting 100V to 240V, use it for travel to the United Kingdom, Europe or Australia. sFor $28, it’s not a bad find.

—Rewirable & Plug

Another fantastic travel find is the rewirable powercube that features 5 additional power outlets and has in the back the  common IEC adapter. Learn more about it here.

~recipe for Raspberry Jam Rose Buns~

All right, the weekend . . . has . . . arrived. Sweet, happy day indeed. The past week in the world was full of news, both momentous and mournful, but as the last week of April nears, one of my favorite months is too quickly almost done sharing with us its amazing awesomeness (yes, I’m making that word a reality