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June 1, 2016
10 Books to Read This Summer
It happened this past long Memorial Day weekend that I lost myself in a book, a fictional book no less, which is often not what I reach for. But after lounging in my Adirondack chair and then moving to my hammock and reading until the sun put me to sleep, I awoke and moved to the sofa inside to finish a book I couldn’t put down and didn’t until I finished it.
For the first time in a long time, I finished a book for pure pleasure in less than an afternoon, and my thoughts are still dancing around the ideas said book presented.
To find a book and the time to devour such a book is a pure simple luxury, and something that is often more available during the summer months as we find ourselves en route to our travel destination, enjoying our travel destination without a worry of glancing at the clock or simply enjoying the beauty of our backyard without endless demands and long daylight hours.
Each summer scores of new books are released for just such occasions of enjoyment, and after perusing and reviewing many that were scattered and suggested, I found 10 books released between April 2016 and by July 2016 that I think you will mightily enjoy. If my enjoyment of the first one on the list is any indication, it is going to be a most lovely and enjoyable three full months.
1. The Course of Love by Alain de Botton
Who would love this book: Anyone who believes in love, wants to believe in love, is questioning if love is possible.
Being released on June 14th, I was able to receive an early copy to review, and while I will be going into much more depth and explanation (and even offering a giveaway of a copy on June 13th episode of the podcast), order or reserve this book now. It is amazing and served as a reminder of what the true course of love requires. Shared as a fictional journey following a couple when they meet through their marriage, it also pairs insights of relationships along the way. Read this excerpt shared in The New York Times to get a taste of why you will not want to the only person not reading this book this summer.
2. The Bonjour Effect: The Secret Codes of French Conversation Revealed by Julie Barlow and Jean-Benoit Nadeau
Who would love this book: Francophiles, French language learners, anyone who wants to live or travel to France
The opportunity to travel to Paris a multitude of times over the course of ten years and a year to live in Paris with their twin daughters, authors Julie Barlow and Jean-Benoit Nadeau reveal the truth behind how to actually converse (rather than communicate) with the French in France. No matter your level of proficiency with the French language, you will read, and enjoy and be reminded of why you will want to return immediately to the City of Light.
3. The Muse: A Novel by Jessie Burton
Who would love this book: lovers of history, art, a touch of mystery
Not being released until July 26, Jessie Burton’s book looks to be a treat to read. Taking readers back to England in the 1960s and Spain in 1933, it intertwines two different narratives and reveals how one can indeed influence the other. Art, desire and mystery are skillfully contained in this book’s tale.
4. Tears of Triumph: The Spiritual Journey from Suffering to Enlightenment by Marianne Williamson
Who would love this book: Anyone looking for inspiration and healing
The best-selling New York Times author comes out with her new book on June 14th. Reminding us all that the only way to truly heal is to embrace and understand what is hurting us, she guides readers through the process and reveals the power of the journey on the entirety of our lives.
5. Siracusa by Delia Ephron
Who would love this book: Delia Ephron, Nora’s sister, lovers of witty story-telling about life, relationships, travel
Being released on July 12th, this will be a book that most likely will be on the screen soon. Following two couples that go to a small island close to Sicily, Siracusa, the drama ensues with swapping points of view telling the tale throughout the novel and allowing Delia Ephron to do what we’ve come to love her for, offer uncanny insight into the human perspective on living as well as relationships and travel. What a lovely combination.
6. Rich and Pretty by Rumaan Alam
Who would love this book: New York City, friendships, growing up, figuring out life
A debut novel set in New York City, two close friends try to navigate their friendship as they try to figure out how to pursue the life they want. Following their relationship through their twenties and thirties, the two women, Sarah and Lauren, once inseparable and sharing everything with each other, find their lives going different ways. But does that mean their friendship is over? Read to find out.
7. Invincible Summer by Alice Adams
Who would love this book: Generation Xers, anyone intrigued by love and friendship
Yet another book following a group of friends from their twenties to their thirties, over the course of twenty years and now living in a handful of different places throughout Europe, the friends confront life and its adventures and disappointments.
8. An Innocent Fashion by R.J. Hernández
Who would love this book: lovers of the fashion world, millennials, fans of The Devil Wears Prada
This time it is a male protagonist that dives into the fashion elite world of New York City and sets out to see if his soul will be compromised as he pursues what he thought he always wanted. After attending a top Ivy League school, Ethan, formerly known as Élian where he grew up in Texas, offers a modern coming-of-age tale of confusion, disappointment and finding one’s identity.
9. Break in Case of Emergency by Jessica Winter
Who would love this book: looking for humor, a release from a stressful work place, the modern woman
A satirical look at the celebrity culture in the 21st century as well as one woman’s navigation during her 3os, rectifying what she thought it would be like and what it actually is. A comedic breath of fresh air and a reminder to us all to let go a little bit more.
10. Free Speech: Ten Principles for a Connected World by Timothy Garton Ash
Who would love this book: the politico, the curious, the traveler who appreciates their technology, the global citizen
Many of the tragic events that have come to be splashed on the top folds of newspapers around the world have involved some level of communication supported by technology. As well, the ease that social media provides us all to communicate, share and discover has as many pitfalls as it does opportunities. And while Timothy Garton Ash is a professor of European Studies at Oxford, he is also leading a major research study around the 13 language debate and free speech which came to be the foundation of his new book released on May 24th. The power of free speech is a right for all, but there is a way, he argues that one should be smart with their speech. Thought provoking, yes. A mandatory read by all? Perhaps.
Happy reading!
~To discover more of TSLL picks, check out my Amazon book store here.
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May 30, 2016
11 Ways to Make Any Home Your Sanctuary
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #105
The moment of relief. The moment that signifies to your worries to wait at the door while you step inside and let yourself unwind. Knowing we have a home to walk into each evening, afternoon and wake up to each morning is an amazing blessing that fulfills a powerful cornerstone as we cultivate a life of fulfillment.
The home we reside in need not be large, it need not be new or for that matter historic, but it needs to be our sanctuary. And as far back as when TSLL blog began, the reasons and ways to have a sanctuary were shared. Even if the location of your sanctuary changes after a couple of years or a decade or two, and thus the size and architecture do as well, there are 11 simple ways to make any home your sanctuary.
Having myself moved from a 1930 Norman styled home with great space to a small ranch-style home with an expansive yard, there are key principles that can be applied to each without it feeling like I am trying to replicate the exact same home but also ensure that my new home becomes my sanctuary as well in very short order.
1.Respect the architectural design
As much as we may want to fight this basic premise, at the end of the process of decorating, we will be thankful we followed its sage advice. A French chateau can no more be decorated with modern, streamlined interiors than a couture Giambattista Valli can be paired with a grunge flannel button-up. While yes, the unexpected pairing would make a statement and be trendy for a moment, but when it comes to our homes, we want to decorate in such a way that will stand the test of time, something we can build upon, continually add too and finesse as we get to know the house.
Much like letting a child show us what they are passionate about rather than forcing our passions upon them, when we allow the truth of the house and the child to be revealed, true beauty can then be expressed.
2. Let the sofa sing
If you have room for a sofa, or even a love seat, invest. As someone who is currently changing my sofa and have been wanting to do for a long time, it a process that requires patience. Why? It is one of the most powerful players in the primary common area of your home (depending upon the size of your house). When you get the style, the color, the size, right, everything else is elevated that you pair it with. Everything.
Whether you buy it brand new or purchase a consignment piece and have it reupholstered, take the time to determine what you want and then be willing to wait until you find exactly what you’re looking for.
3. Make the kitchen your sous chef
Ah, the kitchen. Probably my favorite room in the house or the room which shares the top seed with my living room. Okay, right now my back patio is running a close second, and my bedroom is always a beloved space, but needless to say, I love being in the kitchen. Partly because of what is concocted in this space, but also because it a pleasure to be able to cook as it forces me to focus and let go of the past and future if only for a mere 30 minutes to an hour while I pull my meal together (all the while sipping a glass of wine from time to time).
The idea of making your kitchen your sous chef is to make everything that you need accessible and eliminate the rest. Ample cupboard space is a luxury, so if you have it, utilize it and rid yourself of anything else you don’t use. Place your cooking utensils in ceramic cylinder holders by the stove, create a small tray with a ramekin full of course salt and flaky salt, a pepper mill, a container of oil olive and balsamic vinegar. For the ingredients and tools you use often, make them easy to reach for.
4. Create an vignette for entertaining
Whether you set up a bar cart, or use a small table, create a space where all of your entertainment needs are organized and styled: liquor, wine glasses, bucket for chilling white and rosé wine, cocktail supplies and bottle and wine openers. Add a few signature touches such as a candles, a vase, etc. and you are set for any opportunity to entertain one or many guests.
5. Spruce up the exterior
An easy way to spruce of your home no matter what the architectural exterior looks like is to add Mother Nature. In the front, place a pair of matching pots with similar annuals or perennials that you will plant after the summer somewhere else in the yard. Add a hanging basket or two. If you have tables and pedestals, add pots and plants as well. For your door add a wreath if the design calls for it and keep the stoop swept and welcoming for guests.
If you have a balcony or a back patio, plant a mini herb garden, find a simple, but basic patio set with table and chairs, accessorizing with outdoor pillows (I love these) and below are a few more that may speak to your style. Create a space that you not only enjoy in the mornings as you savor your breakfast and hot tea, but your guests will as well when you have them over for a dinner party al fresco.
~Greendale indoor/outdoor Indigo pillows
~Greendale indoor/outdoor Grass pillows
~Burland corded Indoor/outdoor blue/white pillow
~Mercury Row indoor/outdoor throw pillow (many other designs)
6. Let the television play second fiddle
With any gathering space other than an entertainment or game room, the focus should be on people rather than things. Even if there is only one person, the idea is to create a space that allows you to relax, enjoy and engage comfortably with our guests, with our reading material or simply step away from the outside world and unwind. The television, something I have been editing in my own life as I shared two years ago, should be secondary.
For example if you have a television in your living room, rather than having all of the furniture facing it, place it instead, in a slightly adjacent corner. Or if your fireplace is the focal point, hang your television above it. The beauty of the flat, narrow television screens is that they are capable of being put in hideaway and less obvious places. Ideally conversation and comfort first, and then when we need to turn on the television to watch the new season of Grace & Frankie as to step away from our thoughts, it is available, but not staring us in the face.
7. Create a reading station
An idea that I have recently brought into my new home came by the way of “where do I put this piece of furniture?”. And how I was able to answer that question was to create a reading station. Everyone’s will be different, but what I have done and have been tickled with is an extra small antique table that fits the space between my open living and dining room areas. I have placed my record player, as well as a lamp on top and the remaining space is where my monthly magazines, most recent newspapers and books go as a reminder of what I can read each morning either at the breakfast table or during my evening moments of relaxing.
Per your furniture and space, yours will be uniquely your own, but why not create a space that encourages reading and curiosity about the world and ideas? It doesn’t mean you’ll read every single page of each magazine, but something may just catch your eye and who knows what creative ideas will result?
8. Blankets, pillows, blankets and more pillows
Such simple additions to any room can sometimes be the toughest decisions. Perhaps that is just me, but the end result, when you eventually do decide on the proper print and hue for your sofa, armchairs, beds and reading nooks is that they finish the space and beg to be enjoyed. Sometimes the colors and prints we want can be found at our local boutiques and sometimes, we might, as I have done, have to go to a fabric store, pick exactly what we want and have someone make the pillow for us. Either way, again your patience and knowledge of what you need will pay off when it all comes together.
9. Vases
With more flowers at my fingertips from a variety of sources, I am loving my weekly ritual of at least two fresh bouquets in my house. And as the flowers themselves are always different, I am realizing a variety of vases are needed as well. From bud vases to square vases, to clear glass to colorful opaque whimsical designs, this summer I am excited to visit the many yard sales and pop into second-hand stores as well as consignment shops to see what I can find. Such a simple decor detail that can make for a great signature touch.
10. Prep for guests
Whether you have a guest bedroom or not, you undoubtedly will have guests that stop by for a visit, dinner or a small cocktail gathering to celebrate. Be sure to supply your guest bathroom, adding simple touches of beautiful towels, soaps, lotions and perhaps a playful framed image or two. Your guests will feel comfortable and welcomed, and you will always be ready for an unexpected visit.
11. Splurge on bed linens
Last but not least, the master bedroom. The space we let all of our defenses down each and every night. A couple of times on the blog, I have shared my bed linens with you. Christy linens as well as Perfect Linens make beautiful and luxuriously soft sheets, and most recently I have been introduced to Matouk Fine Linens (I am especially loving the Clementine collection below in Azure). To invest in ourselves when it comes to our boudoir is not an excessive expense, especially knowing the power of a good night’s sleep. While it may take time to save up for the linens you want, gradually remind yourself that you are worth it. Because when you do eventually slip into your bed between 500 thread-count Egyptian cotton sheets with just enough layers for warmth, you will thank yourself.
The good news I have discovered as I settle into my new home is that no matter where we live, we can make it our sanctuary with simple touches and attention to detail. From the first welcome of the potted plants at the front door, to the kitchen that is set up to help us create a delicious meal each and every night.
Enjoy making your home your sanctuary.
Petit Plaisir
~The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time by Arianna Huffington
~View a video with Arianna Huffington reading a few excerpts from her new book here.
A few tips Arianna suggests, based on science to ensure a good night’s sleep:
Remove the blue light! Your electronics that is.
Use low-wattage incandescent bulbs in your bedroom
Keep it cool (60-66 degrees Fahrenheit). Above 75 or below 54 and sleep is disrupted.
Indulge in regular physical exercise.
Let your worries rest too. (View below a quote Arianna keeps by her bed to read as a reminder each night.)
“Finish every day, and be done with it . . . You have done what you could — some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as fast you can, tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it well and serenely, and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson
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May 27, 2016
This & That: No. 211
Book
—Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating by Moira Weigel
It was after reading an excerpt in The New York Times and a piece in The New Yorker reviewing Moira Weigel’s new book on dating that I found a book that would be worth taking a closer look at, and it’s not about what you think.
Last week Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating was released. Inside readers will discover who really used to be expected to ask the other out first, how the dating game changed and what has a direct effect on how we date. The short answer: It’s all about the economy and the work place. As the inside of the book cover puts to rest, “This isn’t a guide to ‘getting the guy.’ . . . Instead, Weigel helps us understand how looking for love shapes who we are―and hopefully leads us closer to the happy ending that dating promises.” A copy is on my wishlist.
—Modern Lovers by Emma Straub
Perhaps you’ve seen The New York Times‘ best-selling author Emma Straub’s new book reviewed in the many May issues or reviewed in the many newspapers containing summer must-read lists. Well, in case you haven’t, let me be the first to let you know that it is receiving rounds of applause and has been on my radar for a few months now as I patiently waited for its release.
Following the lives of extraordinary close college friends into their family and child-rearing years, Straub reveals their secrets as their children become adults and the truth begins to be revealed about each of the original set of companions. Set in Brooklyn, New York, a fun summer read to be enjoyed. Being released on May 31st.
—Would It Kill You to Stop Doing That: A Modern Guide to Manners by Henry Alford
Once a month on Sunday, The New York Times culture columnist Henry Alford shares his humorous and spot-on insights of modern manners in Circa Now. But it was just a few years ago that he released his book Would It Kill You To Stop Doing That which discusses the modern missteps and suggestions on how to navigate the ever-more techy world with common decency and etiquette that will have you noticed for all of the right reasons. And it’s now available at a bargain price of $10. A fun summer how-to for your next flight perhaps?
Film
—The Dresser
Starring Ian McKellen and Anthony Hopkins, The Dresser brings together two seasoned and extraordinarily talented actors for a rendition of the original Broadway play which hit the stage in 1980. The dresser, played by Ian McKellen plays a role behind the stage of keeping an aging veteran actor (Hopkins) on top of his game and inspiring him to regain his confidence as he plays King Lear. Based on the screenwriter Ronald Harwood’s own personal experience as a dresser to English Shakespearean actor-manager Sir Donald Wolfit, tune in to Starz on May 30th to enjoy their performance.
Shopping
—Baukjen
As I follow Jamie Beck (aka as Ann Street Studio) on Instagram, I came to discover this London clothing company and was immediately impressed with their casual, yet elegant simple aesthetic. With clean lines, simple, flattering colors and wonderful prices, I wanted to introduce Baukjen to you as well. Here are a few items that caught my eye, but I highly recommend stopping by their website and poking around: the Row Top, Alesia Midi dress and the Sydney Print dress.
—Rodarte Silk Wrap Dress in Beige
Having a neutral silk dress that feels as good on as it looks is a wonderful staple to have on hand. And Rodarte’s silk wrap dress in beige is quite the find. For less than $300, scoop this deal up and enjoy a fashionable summer.
Memorial Day Sales
The long weekend in the states has arrived, and after we pay homage to those who have served our country and continue to serve our country, if you would like to save a bit of money, I have a few deals I want to share with you. Find the links and the promo codes below.
—Nordstrom: Half Yearly Sale offering up to 40% off
—DVF: 30% off Select Styles with SUMMER30
—BlueFly: Extra 20% off with MDW20
—J.Crew: 30% off with WEEKEND
—Banana Republic: Extra 40% off with BRTAKE40
—Moda Operandi: Up to 50% off
—ASOS: Extra 20% off with HISUMMER
—Old Navy: Extra 50% off select styles
—Ann Taylor: 50% with SUMMER50
—Rag & Bone: Up to 50% off select styles
~recipe for Apple Tart with Custard~
A long weekend as I mentioned above has arrived, and none too soon, as I am sure is the case for you as well. The weather looks to be moderate and ideal, and the chores on my list are thankfully short. With plans to get outside, catch the new Jane Austen film and dive into a new book that is being released new month (and I have a feeling I will be raving about on the podcast, so be sure to stay tuned), I am sighing a deep breath that Friday has arrived.
Rest-assured a new episode of the podcast will go live on Monday as I am excited to begin a new decor series to listeners and readers as I navigate my new home and am full of ideas and curiosities. I want to thank you for stopping by and do hope you have a wonderful weekend no matter how long it is and where you may be spending it. Below are a few items I think you might enjoy reading. Until Monday bonne journée!
~Tune in to Garance Doré’s latest podcast episode: Staying True to Yourself
~Never hurts to brush up . . . 8 Habits of Highly Successful People
~Sharon Santoni shared her thoughts on letting yourself go with life’s flow. It was exactly what I needed to read yesterday.
~Just in case you’re Hampton’s bound this summer: A Guide to Your Summer in the Hamptons
~Want to add a rug to your decor, but not sure how to pick the right one? Read this.
~Curious about the prices of apartments in Paris? Check this map out of the average price in each arrondisement.
~How to Get Off the Hamster Wheel Without Quitting Your Job . . . after all summer is just around the corner.
~And lastly, 12 Mindfulness Quotes to Change How You Live Your Life
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May 25, 2016
Why Not . . . Wear Athleisure Wear?
In a matter of months, having moved to Bend changed my approach to what I wore outside of my home. Now, don’t get me wrong, my capsule wardrobe was in tact: blazers, wrap dresses, pencil skirts, camisoles, white button up shirts, shift dresses in summer as well as maxi dresses, etc., but because I was nearly everyday taking my dogs for long walks as I explored the many trails and hopping on my paddle board from time to time, I found that I was wearing what I wore walking and on the water to do errands before I would return home or on my way to the trailhead. Which meant, I wanted to look presentable.
Of course, yoga pants, typically black had always been part of my workout wear, but after attending a few yoga studios in the past few years, I began to see playful signature leggings on many of my fellow downward dog lovers. As someone who isn’t necessarily into bright, I found that some of the leggings were still quite unique but in gray, black, blue or something more neutral. Realizing that I could have fun without letting my pants scream at other participants, I looked a little further.
It was during December of 2014 that I began dabbling in athleisure wear with a pair of Prana leggings (see below), and then in the fall of 2015, I decided to invest. After all, I would have more conversations with either strangers, neighbors, acquaintances or friends while out exercising and enjoying the outdoors as the most inexpensive way to socialize in the beautiful Central Oregon is to get outside. So, I took a serious look at Lululemon.
~TSLL Instagram: Prana pants and Aurorae thick yoga mat~
~TSLL Instragram – December 2015~
Seen above is a warmer legging for the chiller months, but I also picked up one more pair for the spring and summer as well as wearing with my rash guard tops when I am on my paddle board.
After watching CBS Sunday Morning this past weekend, editor after editor after editor professed that this was a trend that was here to stay. Perhaps a bit of a contradiction. Better to say, this is a style that is here to stay, and I must wholeheartedly agree. Why?
1.Good Health = A Good Life
As the population becomes more savvy and aware of how to stay and remain healthy, and as more options become available both indoor and out, people will continue to make working out a part of their daily lives.
2. Disposable Income
More and more young professionals and seasoned professionals have an income to allow them to invest. And while at first $75 for a pair of leggings may seem excessive, if they last for more than a couple of years, retain their shape and allow you to look and feel your best, the Cost Per Wear equation proves the purchase to be a great buy.
3. When you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good you are more present and able to enjoy life.
The Wall Street Journal reported in 2014 that athleisure wear had increased 7.8% while jean sales had slowly decreased. Now, I will ardently cling to my denim stretch skinny jeans, but the numbers suggest people are feeling more and more comfortable wearing leggings, bright, beautiful, contouring leggings to more casual occasions than just to work out.
Is this advisable? Would this be considered a fashion faux pas? Is this the 21st century version of letting yourself go and wearing sweatpants? Fair questions, each one, but sweatpants are not leggings. You must feel confident to wear body-clinging leggings. If nothing else, they perpetuate the motivation to get outside or go to that class or roll out your yoga mat at home to get and stay in great shape. Working out can be fun and chic.
How to wear Athleisure wear leggings beyond the gym, trail or class?
1. Strike the balance
Since your leggings are tight, wear a loose top, a knit or something that breathes. Balance must also come in the print vs. solids, bright vs. neutral. If your leggings are a bright, bold print, pair with a black, gray or solid neutral top.
2. Wear a knee mid-thigh or knee-length trench.
3. Wear under a casual loose dress that hits above or at the knees.
4. An oversized cardigan for evening casual around the house with your significant other.
This combo is one of my favorites. In fact, simply an oversized boyfriend sweater is a great transition from work clothes, but pre-pajamas. It’s cozy, it’s presentable and it looks great.
Don’t forget:
a great print is great at camouflaging
a great color can complement your skin tone
wear invisible lingerie. Commando makes great and affordable options
A few businesses dedicated to Women’s Athleisure wear that I highly recommend:
Lululemon offers free delivery and free returns, similar to Zappos. Making it that much easier to order multiple styles, sizes and colors and then ship back what doesn’t work without the headache.
Co-founded by Kate Hudson, this athleisure company can be shopped as a guest or a VIP member. The VIP label enables you to receive exclusive news of the newly released items (each month), and receive special discounts.
Best known for their pants, especially if you need your classic black pant in any size, these will keep you pulled in and created a flattering silhouette.
Beautifully made clothing and a company confident that you will love what you buy. So much so, they offer a full-refund or exchange within one year of purchase. No joke.
Full of color, full of great designs. I was first introduced to the brand while traveling in London and have been a fan ever sense. With the goal of empowering women through fitness, this brand if strong, feminine and absolutely fun.
Have fun working out in more ways than one. 
May 23, 2016
Simple Rules for a Good Life
“In many areas of our lives — both professional and personal — we face an apparently unpalatable choice between the simplicity we crave and the complicated solutions that seem necessary. This tradeoff is false. For many of our most important activities and decisions, simple rules are both more desirable and more effective than complicated solutions.” — Simple Rules: How to Thrive in a Complex World by Donald Sull and Kathleen M. Eisenhardt
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #104
Simplicity in a complex world. Is it even possible? Seemingly no, but thankfully yes. Yes, it is absolutely possible.
The grand opportunities our 21st century world offers us are vast, en masse and arguably infinite. And this surplus of options, choices and paths can become overwhelming if we’re unclear about what makes the day run smoothly, our hearts feel deeply and our lives feel full and ever allowing us to grow and evolve.
As a young girl, oddly enough, I was certain, without any explanation or reasoning than “I knew it had to be possible!” that if only I could figure out the basics of life to successfully get me through the day regarding what I was eating, how to answer the basic questions of school and friends and life in general that I could then just enjoy the present. Now, yes, this notion is full of an abundant amount of naiveté, but after reading Simple Rules: How to Thrive in a Complex World I may have stumbled onto something unknowingly way back in my pre-teen years.
Granted, I didn’t have the knowledge or the wherewithal to know the science behind eating well or even know who the heck I was in order to choose a path that would align with my curiosities and passions, but I felt that the absolutes we have to tend to each day could be simplified so that the living of life, the joy in the everyday could be savored all the more.
After all, who wouldn’t want more time to read a good book and not worry about being interrupted by a chore or sleep? Who wouldn’t want more time with loved ones losing all track of the minutes and hours, yet all the while having a peace of mind because you know the bills are paid, the weekly grocery shopping is done and the week will begin well because everything has been tended to? Who wouldn’t want more time to tinker on a new recipe, fiddle with a new project or plan your next trip to explore the world? Who wouldn’t want to eat delicious, fulfilling food without worrying about your waistline?
Such a way of living is possible, and it’s possible everyday of your life with simple rules.
What are the benefits of crafting and living by simple rules?
they enable you to make quick, reasonably accurate decisions that require less effort than more complicated approaches
you become more likely to act on your decisions because they are easy to remember
your willpower remains strong because you don’t deplete it hemming and hawing over decisions that can be made quickly and effectively for your life
require a minimum level of coordination while leaving ample room for individuals to pursue their own objectives.
As the authors of Simple Rules points out in chapter one, the best-selling author on food and nutrition Michael Pollan in his book Food Rules: An Eater’s Manual coined his own simple rules regarding food: “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” The reasons why simple rules work, such as his, are that “they give concrete guidance without being overly prescriptive” and “they leave room to exercise creativity and pursue unanticipated opportunities.”
Now, it’s important to note that simple rules will evolve as your life evolves. Some will remain basically the same, but some will only serve you well for a particular period in your life due to what roles you are inhabiting, what you are trying to accomplish, etc.
While there are many arenas in your life that you are probably already contemplating creating simple rules for, I thought I’d share with you six foundational areas of our lives and example simple rules in each to consider. Feel free to tweak, take or toss based on how you want to live and what you need in your life at the present moment.
~Tune in to this episode of the podcast to hear my commentary which offers more detail about each simple rule you see below.
Eating
“Real food. Bookend with water. Add color.”
Work
“Time. Passion. Growth.”
Money
“Can I? Should I? Why am I?”
Shopping
“The 2-3 Rule: Want it after 2-3 days? Will it last for 2-3 years? Will it go with 2-3 other items? Yes? Buy it.”
The Mind
“Welcome truth, optimism and empowering thoughts. All others, dispose of quickly.”
Time Spent with Others
“Uplifting? In love with life? Curious? Then absolutely!”
Part of the power that I have found with living with simple rules in my life is that they extinguish lost time used for contemplating ideas that are unreasonable, unnecessary and detrimental to the quality of the life I am trying to cultivate each and every day. Am I successful at following each of these rules each day of the week? No. Some days I am exhausted and will have a side of fries with my hamburger. While, not processed, they are not that colorful, right? Oh well, we move on. And we do better following the rules tomorrow.
However, the more I apply the simple rules, the more habituated it becomes, and I automatically now say no to store-bought cookies for example. Or no to items in my wardrobe or home decor that I am purchasing in order to impress someone else. Based on past experiences, I know there is no need based on the life I am trying to build, and if I ignore my simple rule, I will regret such decisions. Now if I want to buy a clothing item because it complies with my 2-3 rule, and I want it for me, then absolutely, I will say yes.
So today or sometime this week or maybe this upcoming long weekend, sit down and pen out short, simple rules that align with the life you wish to create and make it easy for you to remember as you go about the full life you have built for yourself. And if you’d like, please do share! I would love to hear the simple rules you have come up with and are living by that work for your life, as I’m sure other readers would as well.
Thank you for stopping by and have a great week.
~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:
~Why Not . . . Save Time? (2 part series)
~Stop Being Busy and Start Being Efficient
~Opportunity’s Unexpected Gift
Petit Plaisir:
~J.Crew’s Carrie silk camisoles
~Use promo code SUMMER to save 30% off.
~Shop for your Capsule Wardrobe at TSLL Shop.
~Shop the outfit:
~Theory Italian stretch wool Gabe jacket/blazer (other colors)
~J.Crew Carrie silk camisoles (petit, tall & regular)
~Citizens of Humanity “Emannuelle ‘ Slim bootcut jeans
~Jennifer DeMoro Jewelry, custom nameplate design necklace
~Lanvin scrunched leather ballet flats, nude
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May 20, 2016
This & That: No. 210
Book
—Pen & Palate: Mastering the Art of Adulthood, with Recipes by Lucy Madison and Tram Nguyen
Inspired by the posts from their Pen & Palate blog, Lucy Madison and Tram Nguyen offer a book for the young adult who is just stepping out on their own into the real world. With a dash of humor, playful illustrations and a bit of storytelling to accompany the recipes, this book would be a lovely graduation gift during the current commencement season. Being released on May 31st, be sure to put this on your wishlist.
—Sweetbitter: A Novel by Stephanie Danler
Combine an appreciation for food, drama, a young twenty-something exploring the world and New York City and you have the new novel by debut author Stephanie Danler, Sweetbitter. As a former waitress at one of my favorite small French-inspired restaurants in the city, Buvette, Danler’s book looks to be a page-turner. Critics are raving about her accurate portrayals of being wide-eyed and curious in a city that will either make you or break you, but not before you are about ready to throw in the towel. Being released May 24th, it may just be a perfect summer read.
Film
—Maggie’s Plan
Described as a screwball comedy, Rebecca Miller’s rom-com Maggie’s Plan will have you laughing, wondering and enjoying. With Greta Gerwig starring as Maggie, the playful comedy begins with Greta falling in love for the first time with a married professor, Ethan Hawke. But unexpected turns take place and Maggie realizes maybe she can’t actually control everything. Ah, the hilarity and life-truth all mixed up together. Premiering this Friday, have a look at the trailer below.
Shopping
—Frame Le Classic Pea Coat
Crisp cotton with a touch of stretch, Frame’s timeless khaki pea coat is a lovely addition to a spring/summer capsule wardrobe.
—Carven Striped cotton-poplin camisole
Layers, spring-colored layers. Add the stripes component, and I am sold. Carven’s cotton-poplin camisole is hard to find, but there are a few left to layer underneath a white blazer or khaki cardigan in the crisp summer evenings. A beautiful shade of a blue and a versatile item to wear well with many other pieces in your closet.
Travel
—Raden A22 Carry Suitcase
It you are looking for a sturdy, technologically advanced, highly functional carry-on suitcase, I’ve found one for you. Recommended by The Wall Street Journal a few weeks ago, Raden offers a reasonably priced product (less than $300) that not only gives you its precise location, but is also a charger for your devices, has a the ability to weigh itself and is made of quality materials to protect your items. Available in a wide array of colors, have a look here.
~recipe for Rhubarb Almond Cake with Bourbon Whipped Cream~
Spring is springing and energies and excitement are in the air in so many different walks of life. After planting the first few items in my garden this past weekend (have a glance here with Oscar as your host), I enjoyed a few evenings this past week sitting on my deck and enjoying a yard that is finally coming together. Now to plan an intimate gathering with friends to revel in the beautiful weather and scrumptious food and drink al fresco.
How is May going for you? I do hope it is going well. Perhaps it is moving quickly as it is for me, and maybe, just maybe, that is a very good sign to celebrate. Especially if you are enjoying each of the days and feeling fortunate to have another in this beautiful month.
Thank you as always for taking the time to stop by TSLL. I do hope you have a lovely weekend, and for your leisurely reading, I’ve gathered together a few articles you may enjoy: France, love, real-estate, relationships and style. Do enjoy and until Monday bonne journée!
~Ask a French Girl About Stress
~Looking for a Provence country home? This lovely abode is available.
~A worthwhile TEDTalk on The Mathematics of Love
~5 Ways to Silence Your Inner Critic
~Relationships and Toxicity, discover 20 ways to separate the two.
~Let’s talk style! Key Style Skills to Master by the Age of 30
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May 18, 2016
Why Not . . . Say Yes?
“If it’s both terrifying and amazing, then you should definitely pursue it.” —Erada Svetlana
Have you ever stood on the figurative ledge capable of seeing all that you have been hoping for just on the other side of the crevasse, even seeing with clarity a hand stretched toward you offering help when you get close enough to the other side, but the first initial movement must come from you, entirely on your own? The trepidation traditionally stems from the reality that there is a stretch, a decent size gap, between the ledge upon which you stand and the hand that will be waiting for you when you reach the other side. Before deciding to jump, thoughts begin to skitter around in your mind, I might not jump well enough, I haven’t prepared to make this leap on my own successfully, What if I . . . don’t make it? It might just be safer to stay where I am. After all, I won’t get hurt. I won’t lose what I have. If you’ve ever felt this way, you are not alone, but now I want to assure you when it is okay to jump.
In Shonda Rhimes’ wildly successful memoir, Year of Yes released late last year, she shares the year before she began saying yes and the year that follows. And, as you may have guessed, it is because she said yes, that life opened up to her.
Often it is fear that prevents us from saying yes, fear of failure, fear or embarrassment, fear because we will be losing control and be placed in situation in which we make ourselves vulnerable. However, being the intelligent people that we are, we know that in order to grow, in order to be able to see the changes we seek, we know we must do things differently, but how do we know when to say yes?
When I saw the above quote, it immediately answered that exact question for me. It is a balance of absolute amazing as well as hands down fear. If you are feeling both of these emotions when you even think of what you are about to step off of the ledge for, then you have found something worth saying yes to.
The necessity of a sanctuary, a comfort zone, is without argument a fundamental must-have in our lives. Let’s call our sanctuary, whether it be our home, our routines, our safety nets, our “comfort zone”. We need to have a destination in our lives in which we know we can come to to be replenished, refueled and cared for. But if we stay in our comfort zone all of the time, we will not grow. We eventually will become bored and regret not taking the opportunities we were presented with.
On the extreme opposite end of the continuum, if we choose to say yes to everything that terrifies us, and absolutely does not intrigue or tickle or curiosities, we are placing ourselves in a state of panic, anxiety and unnecessary stress that will ultimately destroy us and wear us down so that we cannot possibly reach our full potential.
But here’s the good news, there is a middle ground. And each time we step into that middle ground, let’s call it the “stretch zone”, we reduce the “panic zone” and increase the “comfort zone”.
In other words, our lives become enriched in all arenas because we cannot return to the way it was before so long as we seek the balance of pursuing what captivates our attention and makes us dance without self-consciousness in giddy-excitement, but at the same time instills a bit of fear in us as well.
Here’s the other catch: the world won’t wait and beg you to say yes to something you ultimately should say yes to until you do. Nope. It will simply move on to someone else who can appreciate the magic being made available. So guess what? You are going to have to leap, and for a moment you will be leaping without assurances that it will all work out.
Here of some examples of what you might be wanting to say yes to, and must definitely should if it’s a question in your mind:
1. Say YES to your health. Say YES to the potential to feel amazing in your skin and body.
2. Say YES to a new experience you have never done or haven’t done in a very long time but thoroughly enjoyed.
3. Say YES to believing in the best intentions in people.
4. Say YES to connecting with someone who speaks your language.
5. Say YES to learning a new language.
6. Say YES to tossing what isn’t working and welcoming in something entirely new that speaks to you for no other reason than it does.
7. Say YES to thoughtfulness.
8. Say YES to you being happy.
Don’t get me wrong, I know saying yes can be scary. I am currently weighing a few things in my life that all terrify me and at the same time absolutely amaze me and prompt ecstatic excitement even imagining what I hope may work out, and so the good news is, they all incorporate both feelings quite strongly. So guess what, I will be making the leap off the ledge to the other side with you, and I will sharing my story once I land on the other side. Jump strong, jump with excitement, jump with a smile (why not?) and just jump like you have nothing to lose and so much to gain. Because you do.
~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:
~How to Trust the Timing of Your Life (podcast)
~How to Reach Your Full Potential
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May 16, 2016
Effortless Style: The Truth
“Fashion is what you buy. Style is what you do with it.”
~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #103
Over the past weekend, I took on the task of doing a major edit of my closet. The tossing was easy, what to keep quite simpler than I had expected, but even after all of these years of curating a capsule wardrobe, I saw gaps. Gaps where my lifestyle didn’t align with my wardrobe offerings. What this realization told me was (1) I am ever-evolving as an individual – “Yeah! I’m growing!” and (2) with each passing year, I become more aware of what my true style is.
Initially, frustration may set in because we want to look effortlessly style now, each day, all of the time. But it takes time as I will dive into further in #1.
Because new fashions are available on the rack every season, purchasing these items is easy, it’s what we do with it as the quote states above, that is hard, that takes time. And the taking time part involves just as much knowing what works together as taking the time to get to know ourselves and what we need and feel our best in.
Therefore, effortless style while not a total and complete myth, is something that does require effort leading up to the desired result. Let’s take a look at the five truths of effortless style.
1. It Takes Time
In an interview with Elle magazine in 2014 former Chanel model Inès de la Fressange shared something that should bring a great relief to us all, “‘I just woke up like this’ is a lie.” When I read this interview, I did relax a bit more. Phew! But the reality is knowing what works well together, knowing what works well for you and knowing where to find it, takes conscious effort, patience and time as we evolve into our most authentic selves.
As I mentioned in this Spring season’s TSLL Shopping Guide, listening to the third episode of Garance Doré podcast Pardon My French in which two Parisiennes are being interviewed, they admit freely that acquiring effortless style took years, many, many years as they became more acquainted with who they were.
However, on the flip side, it is important to note, we must make a conscientious choice to notice what works, be willing to try something new, invest in quality clothing as well as tailoring and ask questions of those who know how to do it well how they have mastered the skill. Check out this post from the archives to discover how to do the necessary homework of cultivating your very own effortless style.
2. It Gets Easier
The good news is, as with most endeavors we invest time into, it does become easier. Over time you refrain from buying items that will never complement your skin tone or body’s shape. Over time you discover which outfits make you both feel the best and garner sincere compliments on a regular basis. And so it is, over time your style becomes more and more effortless.
3. Regular Editing
As we are ever-evolving creatures, continually learning as we follow our curiosities and progressing as individuals, our wardrobes must evolve as well. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you toss and get something entirely new, but wear and tear does occur, colors do fade and subtle updates and improved quality can be added to improve your wardrobe with simple changes.
With each edit that I do, which is approximately twice a year, fewer and fewer items are removed which is a good sign. Perhaps I am learning and perhaps I am not purchasing unnecessary and unwearable clothing.
When we edit, we also are reminded what needs repaired, what can work well with other items and how far we’ve come.
4. Begins with a healthy physique
Aside from the clothes we wear, they will always look their best if they are sized to fit our physique. And so long as we tend to our health, eat well and get our blood pumping on a regular basis, our wardrobe sizing shouldn’t vary too much which means the clothes we love and invest in can be worn for many years. Here are 15 Habits for Timeless Style that go further into all of the details of both clothing choices and style decisions.
5. Don’t forget to invest in your footwear
Similar to the person and their personality who wears the clothes, which is paramount, the shoes we choose to wear will either weigh the look down or take it to new heights. Investing in shoes is a worthwhile decision. Find a local cobbler in town to spruce up your chausseures when they need a bit of maintenance, and you will be happy you spent the extra cash.
So the big question remains, is style ever truly “effortless” if we’re always having to edit and tend to it? Effort in the terms of attaining effortless style is to strain, is to look forced, and so in this case, yes, effortless is possible when it comes to style. The closer you get to knowing yourself, knowing what you shine in and knowing what works with your lifestyle, the decisions are easy. Simply keep your eyes open, update items before they need to swapped out and don’t be afraid to wear the same thing throughout the week because if it works it works!
When we can view what we wear as a pleasure, the clothes we wear become an extension of ourselves and help to enliven our confidence, mood and carefree, worrisome attitude so we can be fully present in the moment. Too many times in my past I have been tugging constantly or pulling frequently during an outing, so much so, I couldn’t fully enjoy where or with whom I was out with. Clothes shouldn’t be the barrier, but rather a minor detail that with time and patience enable you to revel in your amazing life.
~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES:
~15 Habits for Timeless Style (podcast 69)
~Style Inspiration: Smart Style
~Why Not . . . Have Effortless Style?
~The Francophile’s Style Guide: The 14 Essentials (podcast 32)
~Sign-up for the weekly TSLL Newsletter which arrives each Friday morning to keep you caught up on the most recent posts, podcast episodes and offer an extra dose of inspiration exclusive to subscribers.
Petit Plaisir:
~Rustic Apple Tart for Two, click here for the recipe.
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May 14, 2016
Rustic Apple Tart for Two
Tarts, pies, anything with butter and a touch of sugar is something I will devour, but more and more what I love is to play in the kitchen and change recipe sizes and flavors. Chilled really does make a difference, the type of butter does as well, and it really is quite simple to make a delicious dessert with whatever fruit you have on hand.
In the past I have shared two different recipes for apple tarts: the classic French apple tart that is quite similiar to today’s recipe, but offers more servings and more formality (but still simple to do), and the plump apple tartlets (love the topping for this recipe!).
Today’s recipe is the perfect size for one or two at home, and it takes fewer than 15 minutes to make (plus 30 minutes of chill time for the pastry dough). The simplicity is deceptive because the flavor is abundant. Enjoy!
Rustic Apple Tart for Two
~inspired by Susan Herrman Loomis’ book In a French Kitchen
Ingredients:
Pastry:
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 cup cold unsalted butter
1 tablespoon sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon cold water
Tart:
1 medium-large apple (your choice, but one with flavor)
1 tablespoon of brown sugar
1-2 tablespoons of honey
Directions:
Make the dough at least 30 minutes ahead of time:
In a food processor, combine the flour, butter, sugar and salt.
Then gradually stream in the water. Watch the consistency, you may not need the entire tablespoon. Don’t let it get too clumpy, just barely sticking together.
Roll into a ball, wrap in plastic wrap and place in the refrigerator to chill.
Preheat the oven to 450 degrees (230 celcius) .
Peel, core and cut into narrow slices the apple. Set aside for a moment.
Take out the pastry from the refrigerator and using flour and sugar on a cutting board or pastry cloth, roll out the dough to about 1/8″ thickness. As you can see from my picture, the less symmetrical the better. Just ensure that you have enough area to lay out your apples.
Lay out the apples, slightly layered on top of each other. Sprinkle the brown sugar on top.
Place in the oven for 20-30 minutes, until the crust is golden brown.
As soon as you take it out of the oven, drizzle the honey over the apples to add a touch of sweetness and a little glisten.
Either four small slices are available or two moderate sizes. Top with Italian Talenti vanilla bean gelato (or any other ice cream or gelato you prefer), pair with a hot cup of tea or coffee and bon appétit!
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May 13, 2016
This & That: No. 209
Book
—70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade by Jane Giddan & Ellen Cole
Yes, I realize I am a few years short of being half-way to my 70th birthday, but as someone who is always looking for wisdom from those with life experience, 70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade caught my attention. Inspired by their blog of the same name, 70Candles is aimed at unearthing the opportunity, the truth and the reality of septuagenarians and how they live rich, fulfilling lives. Released last summer, I’ve officially put it on my wishlist.
—Barbra Streisand: Redefining Beauty, Femininity, and Power (Jewish Lives) by Neal Gabler
Speaking of being inspired, Barbra Streisand is a woman who has had my attention since I heard her unique vocal sound. Paired with her awe-inspired signature beauty and adamancy not to change what her genetics gave her or deny her Jewish heritage, a new biography released last month, written by Neal Gabler, approaches the Oscar-award winning actress through the lens of being the outsider and how it truly does make all the difference.
Film
—Love & Friendship
Now I have a film to tickle your funny bone and also your predilection for 18th century romance and aesthetics: Jane Austen’s Lady Susan published in 1871. Starring in the adaptation, Love & Friendship, Kate Beckinsale (Lady Susan Vernon), the story revolves around Vernon’s seeking refuge at her in-law’s home while she resolves to find a husband for both her daughter and herself, all the while weathering society’s rumblings about her salacious private life. Originally debuting at Sundance this past January, it premieres in theaters today. Have a look at the trailer below.
— Jack DeJohnette “In Movement” album
Ever looking for new jazz music, when a jazz great brings together a trio that involves the sons of John Coltrane and Jimmy Garrison – Matthew Garrison and Ravi Coltrane – my ears perk up. Over the course of six decades DeJohnette has had a career full of stories and introductions to talented musicians; two of which he played with as a young drummer were the elder Garrison and Coltrane. Have a listen to a song from the new album released earlier this month, In Movement.
Shopping
—Lisa Marie Fernandez swimsuits
Sporty, simple, feminine. The new swimwear line designed by Lisa Marie Fernandez is offering something new: a luxe version of neoprene. With the ability to move how you need it to, it will also hold your curves exactly as you’d prefer. With one-piece and two pieces like the Poppy Stripe Bikini available, take a look at her entire collection here.
—M. Gemi ‘The Stellato’ flat
After a year in the business, Italian shoe design company M. Gemi is one to take a look at. With classic pointed toe leather flats (black, red and nude), as well as sandals that will dress up any summer outfit without overpowering it, these mid-range priced items are top quality and full of über style.
—Yolke Ivory Stretch Silk Pajamas
Earlier this year I shared the idea of building a capsule lounge wear wardrobe, and one of the items was a chic pair of pajamas. Well, Yolke will take care of this need without a doubt with their style and their comfort plus reduce the creases that immediately occur when we, well, sleep. Made with stretch silk, pajama sets come in a variety of colors (navy, print and ivory, just to get you started). Rest assured that when you don your new addition to the lounging wear ensemble, you will look and feel relaxed, as well as beautiful.
~recipe for Berry Apple Buckle Cake (gluten free)~
Between the yellow dresses seen at the Cannes Film Festival this week (Amal Clooney above in Atelier Versace and Jessica Chastain below), and the lavender design worn by Naomi Watts below, French aesthetics are dancing around in my mind. The color combination of soft yellow and blue/lavender mix always grabs my eye. For some reason there is a sense of freshness, as well as subtle confidence that isn’t too overpowering that has my admiration and piques my curiosity to see how and where I can incorporate more of it into my life.
With a warm 80 degree day upon us today and scattered rain showers tomorrow, I may add a few colors to my back patio and begin planting my garden followed by cozying up inside with a few good books when the rain begins to fall. A perfect combination in my mind. How about you? What do you have planned for the weekend? I do hope you have plans so greatly anticipated that you are dancing in place waiting for them to arrive. Such occasions may not happen every weekend, but when they do, it certainly is something to savor. Wishing you a lovely weekend, and until Monday bonne journée!
~5 Practical Ways to Better Yourself
~6 Dry Shampoos that Give Your Hair New Life
~Did you know? Having fewer friends actually may be a positive thing.
~Going to Paris? 5 Places to Visit ASAP according to Garance Doré
~It’s spring time and that means asparagus are in season. Why not make an Asparagus and Cheese Tart?
~4 Key Ways to Be Selfish in the Right Way
~And the one thing that is The Key to a Lasting Relationship according to science.
~Naomi Watts~
Jessica Chastain & Vincent Lindon
See more of the 2016 Cannes Film Festival Red Carpet looks here.
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