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SATC Talk: The Real Me: Do Men Really Want the “Real” Us?

We are now entering season Four with episode 2 otherwise known as “fashion road kill”. You know, the episode where Carrie walks the runway and trips and falls and Heidi Klum steps over and keeps walking. Of course the guy she flirts with takes that opportunity to photograph her, when she is at her worst moment in the show.

It’s also the episode where Miranda meets a guy while she is at the gym looking her worst. She can’t possibly imagine why he’d be talking to her but he’s into her at her most natural self. It’s when she fancies up and talks up herself that he loses interest and disappears.

But what does that mean? We get dolled up, show our confidence and our sex appeal and think this is showing our best selves. But it’s not our most authentic. I’ve heard time and time again that guys like a more natural look. That certain fashion we adore, men hate. Let’s be honest ladies, we get our face “beat” and hair colored (or added to), heels on high because WE love the look. There is even a blog called man repeller devoted to fashion that women love but men not so much.

But the real us is nothing fancy. It’s not about being a certain way to impress another. It’s in the moments that we truly live for ourselves that we are at our best. This is why I struggle with the idea that we should dress or behave a certain way when dating. Sure having a certain look might get us more dates but if your goal is to one day meet your one what’s the need to be anything other than your most authentic self?

When I first watched this episode I didn’t understand what Miranda had done wrong. I just thought, what a jerk . And I still think he was a jerk (I mean he could have just said something). However, what I now come to understand is that Miranda had changed to impress him. Yet, it was who she was in the beginning that he admired. In her mind, she didn’t get how he could like that version of her, the real her.

I can imagine I’ve had experiences where I lead with an aspect of me that didn’t showcase the real me and things did not work. I have found that my most memorable relationships are those in which I did not start by “putting on a show” but was simply me. Finding a mate that appreciates that upfront is not always the easiest but then again, it lays proof to the saying, when you aren’t looking that’s when you will meet him/her. Who knows if that’s true but I say it’s a lot easier to live life being yourself; flaws, falls and all.

SATC Talk: Don’t Ask Don’t Tell – Should We Lie to Get Dates?

This is episode 12 of season three. The cringe worthy one where Carrie confesses to poor Adian that she’s been having an affair with Big. But that’s not what I focus on here. In this episode Miranda, the lawyer, goes on a speed dating event and finds the guys are bored with her as the lawyer but perk up when they hear she is a stewardess (of course she isn’t) and she lands a date to Charlotte’s wedding (it all is a mess at the end of course).

Buuut in a town like DC being a lawyer is a dime a dozen and yet we are very concerned about jobs. The first question after asking one’s name is, “So what do you do for a living?”. Yes, we can be pretentious and education snobs in this city of politicians and “game changers”. Our jobs can become our lives. I am often surprised at the amount of questions I get about my job from guys before they ask (assuming they ever ask) about anything else in my life. I noticeably see a difference in a guy’s conversation and tone when he hears the word lawyer. I am quick to correct and say that I don’t practice anymore but instead of the interest in me doing something not so “boring or aggressive” and more “sexy” as in the clip above there is more of a “oh you’re just being modest” feel and they want to know more.

DC folk like book smart folks with impressive jobs. Even though we all practically have the same jobs. Lawyer, government worker, doctor, something in politics, IT, engineer of some sort, military. Rinse and repeat. The appeal to have an “important” job has never been stronger in a town so I can picture someone beefing up their resume. I’ve had a few guys spin something like a contract data entry clerk into a business owner. I’ve had a few guys not want to divulge their jobs as well. I’m not that picky as long as it is legal and pays the bills  (I’m no ones suga mama)

However, let’s not limit it to jobs. D.C. is full of people who just “love” to workout. I mean, I do it but I don’t love it. It’s empowering and all but if I could take a pill that would make me toned, strong and healthy I would. So guys become really impressed when I tell them I jog. But I’m no liar I add that I also walk part of that workout too. I even had a guy ask to go on a first date jogging (da hell, that is so not Type A Cosmo Girl). In this town, I’d be ashamed to say I don’t work out.

And then there is the eating lifestyle. We DC people like to eat. Especially clean eating and cooking. I’m not a big cooker (I can but it bores me) but a question I usally get is “what do you like to cook”. Er, pasta, I dunno. I’ve seen guys limit their dating to women who are “clean eaters” or wanting a partner who eats grass just like they do. I had a friend mention going out on a date and a guy questioning her because she ordered the steak at dinner (she’s like a size 1, mind you). So sure, I take a little pride when I say I don’t eat red meat but avert my eyes when I admit I haven’t given up pork, yet, but I will, I swear. The judgement is real in these streets!

So would I lie to get a date? Nah, who wants to keep up the façade? But I truly understand the pressure in certain environments to want to lie. Yet, let’s be real, the person who you are really meant to be with will take you as the burger eating, random exerciser, that you are.

Decoding Man Part Three

And wow we enter the final part of decoding man. Below are the last set of questions I asked my male volunteers. By now we see the pattern. If in doubt, move on. Why waste the hair pulling, cocktail sessions with friends when you could be out having fun instead of complaining? Below are the questions, answers and my thoughts.

Why do you just text me “hi” or “hey” or “how are you?” and then when I respond you don’t reply! Most guys stated that it’s a game. Of course some might then get busy (or fall asleep) and forgot about the text. but many said that the guy is just being whisy/washy. Or could be a drunk text.

Note the time you get those types of texts. I find they come at night. Either after 10pm on the weekdays or after 7pm on the weekend. Sometimes in the morning before work (in which case the busy excuse is believable and if it’s not too much later after 10pm the sleep excuse sounds plausible). It just seems like a guy throwing you a bone to let you know you aren’t erased from his mind and he’ll be in touch when he’s ready for you. I am not a fan of this and it’s no way to date or court a woman if this happens repeatedly (I’ve heard of this going on for months). Who wants to be on stand by?

2. When he cancels at the last minute and does not reschedule is he really just blowing me off/standing me up? Yep. If he was interested he would make every effort to make it up. He probably got a better/another offer. One said give it a few days to allow him to reschedule.

This one I knew and honestly don’t give a second chance if he doesn’t immediately reschedule (short of a family emergency). The longer he takes to reschedule the less interested he is. The later he cancels, the more inconsiderate he is (if I am in route to the meeting place and  he texts or calls and says he’s sick, that’s a no go. He knew he was sick well before 30 minutes before the date.)

3. Do men like to be pursued or do they prefer to do the chasing? Guys like to at least get hints of interest before they pursue but most of my respondents (and this was a shocker for me) like to be pursued/chased especially by the “right” woman.

Ok so I just need to put the Jane Austin/romance novels down because clearly they aren’t relevant in today’s world. I thought all I had to do was bat a Maybelline mascaraed eye lash and I was good. I will say that the married responders said they preferred to chase in their single days. Not sure what that means but it reaffirms my thoughts that if a guy is really interested he will make the effort.

So the morale of this mini series is that dating is actually not complicated. We just have to spend time focusing on guys who are really interested in us instead of banging our heads against the wall about men who are just playing games. The right guy for you doesn’t need decoding.

SATC Talk: Attack of the Five Foot Ten Woman- Can You Be Friends With An Ex

Remember a few post back when I talked about guys going ghost? I didn’t like it then. But here is when I do like it: when we break up. I prefer to believe that a guy just vanishes into thin air when we are no longer an item. Perhaps abducted by aliens, gone to middle earth, trapped in the Bermuda Triangle. I really don’t care. Just leave my eye sight. I don’t want to stalk you on social media or see you in pictures or hear about you from a third party. Uh, goodbye!

This episode, episode 3 of season 3, is a continuation of the season two finale (the Ex and the City) which I didn’t talk about. In the finale Carrie insists that she and Big can be friends after the painful breakup and the painful encounter of seeing him moving on with another woman (that part always gets me).

 Nor do I want to hear about his wonderful new relationship, the new house, the new baby. I don’t want to become bffs with your new woman. Carrie ask where the love goes just because you break up. I say who cares? I’m a total Charlotte and agree that part of the penalties of breakup is that the friendship is over. I’m speaking in generalities. Of course there are some situations where this might not be the case ( the breakup happened when you were teens and now you are more mature, you have shared kids or work together, not losing any coins – love that new term- over a breakup), but, for the most part, we need not be friends or share the same air space. Why? Well, this clip from the finale sums it up for me:

  

Who wants to relive old feelings or go down the dark road of what went wrong, why her over me? I know a few people who maintain friendships but often I wonder why. What place do these people have in your life? Sure, on TV everything is calm and friends become lovers and lovers become friends but it just doesn’t work that way that well. I don’t want my man all besties with his ex (and the longer they dated and the older they were the less I like it) and I’m sure he could take a pass on me just casually going to dinner with an ex…without him.

But in Season 3 Carrie somehow comes to peace with it all (allegedly) when her friends try to cover up the notice of his wedding to the new lady. And she is so evolved that she will even attend an event planned by his new wife. Nonsense, because this is what happens

  

I would not be fine. If I saw his nuptials in my local paper I’d be confused about why he was still alive. Why was news about a disappeared person so relevant? In essence, we are rarely cool with befriending or even hearing about the lives of our exs. Sure there are some instances where it can happen but for the most part if I don’t need to see you for anything of importance like shared children or work well, boy bye.

Decoding Man Part Two

So we enter second of a three part posting on dating questions answered by guys I know. If you recall I came to the conclusion in part one that some “mysterious” behavior we have encountered from some guys is just a sign that “he’s just not that into us” for various reasons. Here are some additional questions, answers and my takeaways.

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Why is he contacting me after “going ghost” for several months? (Going ghost means disappearing). He was in a relationship and now is not and you popped back on his mind. You might just be the person he goes to while he heals from the break up or that he made a mistake letting you slip away so soon. But most said, you are a contingency plan or “fall back chick”.

I have written a whole post on this idea of “going ghost”. I think just about every person in the dating world has encountered this (and even done this to someone). Regardless of the answer, the outcome is the same: there was someone else, you did not get the rose. And that’s fine. The question to ask yourself now is are you willing to be the second choice? Is it about ego? Because nine times out of ten , we are all someones next choice unless we started dating the person when we were 12 years old. It just sucks to know we are not the first choice. If you are willing to acknowlege a guy who reappears after going ghost then maybe acknowlege the elephant in the room (that he disappeared) and hear him out. Make sure he makes a real effort the second time around (while still being nice) and proceed with caution (because once they go ghost they can easily do it again).

2.Do guys really judge us on how we dress when we first meet them? The biggest response was yes. And sexy is preferred (I even had a guy mention wanting to see red). Another guy says “stay ready” even when going to the gym.

But we judge fellas too so it’s fair! Sure we want people to see the beauty inside and we can complain about how people are so superficial but I think it’s time we embrace the reality that looks matter. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and fortunately (outside of what media shows us) we can have our own ideas of what we are attracted to. The key is just to showcase your best (while being authentic). You want a guy to remember your conversation but he’s also going to remember your eyes (or that cute red dress) so hit the at all angles!

3.Why does he only text and not call? Sign of the times. It’s easy and folks don’t like the phone like that (at least for talking) anymore. We multi task now. It also goes to nerves and one guy said he only talks to women he is serious about. On a more sinister note, he could also be in a relationship (with a live in woman or wife) and talking on the phone is then not an option. But that wasn’t the main response so I’d be hesitant to automatically go there in my mind (just don’t rule it out).

However, if you don’t see the guy often (maybe once a week or a couple times a month) and you don’t talk on the phone, how are you building a connection?  I don’t need to see a guy everyday but text are hardly a substitute to meeting face to face or talking on the phone. Especially in the beginning of the courtship.

I’ll admit I’m one of these people. If someone calls me I feel like its because something is wrong. I’d rather talk in person. Crazy how back in the day I could be on the phone to my boyfriend for hours darn near every night! Now if I talk to a guy for thirty/ sixty minutes I feel accomplished.

4. Are some guys lying when they say they are looking for something serious? Some might not lie but just not be prepared for what it really entails or they are looking for serious but just not with you. And some guys admitted that some men are lying so they can have sex with you.

The reality is pay more attention to what someone does over what they say. It’s so easy to say the sweetest things (or send the nicest text). It doesn’t take much.

My takeaway from this? Dating takes energy. And many of us (women and men) are getting lazy. If we put the effort in the payout can be fulfilling. And most importantly, if we really like someone we WILL make a way to stay connected. We won’t be able to help it. So if a guy goes ghost, he just wasn’t into you. There is no being too busy or didn’t feel like calling. He won’t be able to stay away. No mystery.

SATC Talk: Where There’s Smoke: Searching for Mr. Right…or Nah?

Ok if I had to pick one season that I adore from this series, this would be it (next would be season five even though it was crazy short due to SJP’s pregnancy). We enter season three with the gals all single, Big now dating soon to be engaged to a twenty something. The ladies party all night and the hung over Charlotte delivers her famous mini statement that every single woman in her late 20s to 40s has probably felt and loosely inspired me to write my book The Mission.

So there are other things that happen in this episode but I’m picking out Charlotte’s theme. She proceeds to start an aggressive search for Mr. Right. Soliciting help from other friends if they know anyone and so forth. They (whoever “they” are) say you always find him/her when you aren’t looking. But, yeah, I’m not so sure. I mean, yeah, “good things come to those who wait” but “God helps those who help themselves”. And isn’t the latter the theme that society seems to follow? You want a good job? Go to school, do good work. You want to lose weight? Eat better and workout. You want to travel or buy a house? Save up your money. You want a good relationship?…wait Er, that isn’t the motto!

So we have dating sites, matchmakers, dating books, wingmans etc. We recognize that that special someone isn’t necessarily going to pop up at your door or run into you at the grocery store. Sure they can but just how long are we willing to wait and do nothing?

 As I get older I easily see the frustration women of all races and backgrounds can have with dating, especially in a town like DC. Sometimes it feels like we are on a never ending game of The Bachelor. We are all beautiful, talented, successful, will we get the rose? Ugh, so not with it. I’m on that Generation X/Millennial line so, yes, I like to be rewarded and get instant gratification. Dating in DC is the total opposite of all that. I feel special and it can be pretty frustrating when I don’t find that others treat me like I’m the pretty, pretty princess (ok not exactly like that but you get what I’m saying).

So there are times where we (men and women) have to take matters into our own hands and at least make a little attempt to seek out love. If I can look for a parking space for thirty minutes in the U st area on a Friday night I sure as heck can swipe right or left on Tinder. Baby steps, but steps at the least.

Decoding Man Part One

I had a guy friend read my blog once and he told me that this blog comes from a purely female perspective. Yeah, I get that, I’m female. When I blog on the ideas of dating (although I talk about other things as well: travel, friendship, urban living) it stems from a female mind who wrote a fictional romantic comedy novel about dating (The Mission) and watches hours of old Sex and the City reruns. I’ve also watched a ton of dating guru shows and been to a couple of workshops (I am a research type A person).

So when said male friend told me it could use a male perspective I was all for that. I am still VERY open to getting male guest bloggers so email/inbox/direct message me if you are willing and able. However, in the meantime I decided to seek out some guys and ask some questions that darn near every gal I know has asked at some point in her dating life. From my female perspective and having dated for many years now, I can assume the answer to these questions I posed my friends simply is: he’s just not that into you.

But is that all? What does that mean if we make these assumptions? If we are assuming correctly, what’s the female takeaway? What do these responses say about the state of dating today and how we should navigate in the relationship world?

So here are the questions that some males were kind enough to answer. I will not share their identity. Some are single, some are married, some are dads, some are white collar, some are blue collar, some are in the city, some are in the suburbs, they are early millennial/ late generation x (in their 30s), some are more “flirtatious” than others. I’ll break this up over a couple of post so that this doesn’t read like a thesis paper. Here are the first few questions and a summary of their responses with my takeaway:

You call/text back hours (or even a day) later because your phone died (or you left it at home). Is that for real?  Ok, sometimes a guy doesn’t hear the text or his phone really did die or he left it at work. But…it’s most often because they just don’t feel like talking to you (for many different reasons- they aren’t that into you, they might just be lazy and not want to be bothered by anyone outside of their mama/papa/child) or they are juggling other women and can’t be that attentive to one person.

The reality is, I think we women deep down know the difference between when a guy has left his phone and when he is just not that pressed to respond to you, whether we want to admit it or not (plus I’m sure some of us have done the same). Sure, you might give the first time it happens the benefit especially if this wasn’t something the guy was doing in the beginning. But if it starts off like that then you can assume the interest is not strong.

2. Why does he continue to text/call but doesn’t make plans to see you again?  He has a remote interest but just isn’t sure (perhaps there is another girl (or multiple women or a wife) he is juggling. Basically, the connection isn’t strong enough that you hold his undivided attention. This doesn’t mean things can’t change but it also means that he simply just wants a possible “cuddy buddy” and keeps you at not too great a distance to keep that door open. Or he could be blowing you off.

Are you willing to wait for who knows how long to determine whether it’s just a guy who is taking things super slow or rather one who has someone else? I think one’s patience on this kind of thing all depends on what we are ultimately looking for. If I’m ready to settle down and want something serious sooner rather than later, then putting up with a text buddy/pen pal type of situation seems like bit of a waste of time. That and my cat fish o meter starts going off if we’ve never met in person.

 3. Why is he late but doesn’t tell you that he is running late? Stopping to tell you he’s late will just make him later (assuming he doesn’t have blue tooth), he just doesn’t care (because he’d call if he was running late for work), or he’s afraid of upsetting you and rather ask for forgiveness later.

His lateness is just a sign of things to come and he will continue to be this way if you put up with it. Sure, everyone runs a little late every now and then but if you express that you don’t appriciate the lack of heads up and he still does it, it just might be his thing and it’s not going to change. Some people are just late people.

4. Why is he looking to make just new friends on a dating site? He’s looking for a cuddy buddy

This is one I think we already knew the answer to but just want confirmation. Most guys aren’t going to come right out and say they are just looking for someone to “hook up” with so saying they are looking for friends seems the nicer way to go. If they are really looking for friends they would join social sports or Meet Up.

Morale of part one, when in doubt, trust your gut. Guy behavior may seem like a mystery to us but I think they are more straight forward than we think and it’s us getting in our own heads that makes us ignore the reality of the dating situation. When a guy really likes us, we will feel it. No questions.

SATC Talk: Games People Play: Should We Go to Therapy for our Dating Issues?

I love the concept of this episode (Season 2 episode 13). Carrie has just broken up with Big for the second time and she is using her friends as a way to vent (and vent and vent) and get through her feelings. Problem is, they’re a little bit tired of hearing about him. So they recommend she see a psychologist.

I’ve heard of couples counseling for people married, engaged, divorced even dating but to see a psychologist to help you through a breakup? It’s actually a concept that is not that unique. My friends and I will gripe about a guy. It’s what we do. But sometimes a subject can be too heavy for us to handle. I am no Oprah, Iyana or Phil. I don’t think I can help a friend reach a breakthrough or “ahh-haa” moment. Sometimes you just need to talk to a professional to get some clarity.

We now have life coaches and even dating coaches because we recognize that sometimes people need help reaching their own personal self fulfilment. I don’t think anything is wrong with it as long as it’s helpful and not a bunch of clichés (which a future episode gets into and I will discuss).

Also your friends might not tell you the whole truth for fear of hurting your feelings. We women can sometimes be notorious for griping without really wanting a solution. And I am one of those women. Nothing pisses me off more than venting to a friend and having them respond in a clinical (albeit logical) way. Sometimes I want to complain with no fix or solution. I just want to get out my feelings through the act of blowing hot air.

But if the venting becomes repetitive and I see that a friend is really hurting long term then I think I would suggest counseling. It doesn’t mean I think the friend is wrong or unbalanced. It just means that I don’t think I’m helping and I don’t think she’s moving on for the better. If a professional can stop a woman from dating bad boys, get over a commitment phobia or trust issues, why not get the help? And, hey, no one need know!

SATC Talk: The Man, The Myth…: Dating Urban Legends

Episode 8 of season 2 is another favorite, particularly because it focuses on the idea of dating urban myths. You’ve know them, a friend of a friend finds true love in ways we are told you really shouldn’t expect it. You don’t know this friend twice removed so you can’t verify it’s truth but, well, we still hold out a little hope for the sake of positive thinking. Here are some of my top dating urban myths:

Making a relationship out of a one night stand: This is one of the themes in this episode. Miranda hooks up with Steve the bartender and initially just brushes him off as a one night stand. But good ole Steve wants more. This scene always gets the girlie girl in me.

The cynic in me won’t hold my breath that this actually happens but the romantic in me thinks this is just so sweet.

Marriage after knowing someone less than a year: In our society we’ve all heard of the couple who knew each other a couple of months (or less) who fall madly in love and get married and stay that way for years and years. Sure it happens but normally we give side eyes to each other if we hear about a couple getting married after knowing each other less than a year. However, as a child of parents who were married darn near 20 years after knowing each other like six months, I’m a little open minded here.
A guy changing his ways for you: In the episode we see Big come through and join Carrie and the gals just as they were going to dismiss him for being a no show (as shown in the clip above). It was one of the last episodes, until the finale, that I like Big. Sadly, this has yet to happen to me or anyone that I know of. Now I’m not talking about getting a guy to pick up his socks off the floor. I’m talking about having a guy change a personality trait or a relationship habit to encourage and foster the relationship. Especially an older, set in his ways, guy. I think we women always have hope that if a guy is ready to settle down and really loves us that this will happen. It’s the hope that gets us to stick around even in bad situations. I feel we should have a balance. Express our desire for this “habit” to change but give ourselves an out if it doesn’t. Because, well, we can’t change a man (or woman). They have to want to change on their own.
Meeting the love of your life online: About ten years ago I think if we were dating online we’d want to keep it hush hush. Sure we knew by then that not everyone on line was from To Catch a Predator or the headline behind that Saturday night Lifetime movie. However, it still felt a little, well, desperate. Now in the age of technology and our slow domination by computers (did I say that out loud, sorry too much Matrix), everything online is the way to go. You can shop, order food, make friends, do a workout, conduct a meeting and yes, find a date online. But is it still the stuff of legends to find “the one” on line? I dare say, nope! I know quite a few people who have met some husbands and had significant relationships with people they met online. I’m not one of them but since I know this to be true, I’m open to the possibility. Just meet them as soon as possible (no Catfish please).
Side chicks wining. Lookahere (she says in her southern accent), you are a sad Love and Hiphop character if you think the man will leave his wife for you or that he will treat you better than he did his wife if does he does leave her. For the most part you will not find happily ever after being his mistress/side chick.

Do you know of any dating urban legends or have a story of an urban legend coming true?

Where Have All the Theme Songs Gone?

I just finished binge watching The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt and that dang theme song is in my head and won’t leave. So that got me to thinking, where have all the theme songs (or melodies) gone? Yes, it saves time to go straight to the show but there is something to having a good intro that makes a show memorable and brings back a certain nostalgia long after a show has ended.

So for memories sake here are my all-time favorite TV theme intros (not all with lyrics) in no order:

 Good Times– Although this show came out before my time reruns are a great thing because this show is now part of my growing up culture.

Sex and the City (no words)- I heart this show much to the annoyance of practically any guy I’ve dated. So when I hear this theme music I’m already searching for my Carrie pink Tutu (don’t worry, I don’t have one).

 

Fresh Prince of Bel Air – We all know the lyrics to this song and it is one of the few raps I can do all the way through.

 

Facts of Life– Another show that I caught mostly in its later years and rerun status but it is still a heavy part of my growing up. Such a corny and cute show.

 

Golden Girls- I will still watch this all day, every day. The song is so cute (and my sister’s class had to sing it at their kindergarten graduation hehe)

 

Living Single– In a 90s kind of world I’m glad I got my girls. I still say “true blue, we tight like glue”.

 

In Living Color- Like Heavy D said, take it from me it’s alright to be In Living Color.  I think I actually danced whenever this came on. Still kinda sorta want to be a Fly Girl.

 

Rosanne (no words)- I loved me some Rosanne and her intros. Although in retrospect her intro did sound a bit like a run down truck stop strip club.

 

Jem and the Holograms- If I had to choose only one cartoon theme song (and lucky I don’t) this one is my all-time favorite. I will not acknowledge the remake.

 Sponge Bob Square Pants– Yes, I’m well aware that I was at least a teen or even in my twenties when this cartoon first came out but the darn theme is so catchy!

 

Different World- The first season theme song is not as good but when you got Aretha in on the song I loved it and even the final season Boys II Men version is on point.

 

Dawson’s Creek– Poor Paula Cole, not so sure she envisioned this teen show when she sang this song but hey, now it will forever be in my mind.

 

Married With Children – Love how this Frank Sinatra song just ended midway, good indicator of how the show was anything but sweet.

 

Fraggle Rock- I’m sure the makers might have been on something when they came up with this show but I was a kid and I loved it.

 

Saved by the Bell– C’mon, if you were under the age of 18 when this show came out you know this theme song.

 

The Jeffersons– Ya know, I don’t remember much about this show. I know I watched it in syndication but darn if I don’t know this theme song like it just came out on the radio.

 

Tiny Toon Adventures – Aww, childhood memories…

 

Alvin and the Chipmunks– I LOVED all things Alvin and the Chipmunks growing up (but I’m side eyeing the live action movies).

 

Ducktales- The best early 90s era theme music for a cartoon. You can do a mean Carlton dance to this one. I’m not saying I was doing that but…

 

Now I know I left MANY off but I just had to narrow it down to shows I loved watching back in the day although there were themes songs I liked from shows I really didn’t watch (Cheers anyone?). There are more shows I loved but I could be here all day reminiscing on my childhood TV (especially the cartoon songs and yes I know I left Friends off) so I will step away and leave these here. Any TV songs that bring back memories for you?