Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 33
November 15, 2022
Are You Present?
People are hard to talk to when: They don’t listen. They don’t create space for the other person to express themselves .They take over the conversation and make everything about them .They diminish what the other person is going through. They don’t exercise emotional boundaries. Nedra Glover Tawwab
Simply put, we want to be heard, we want reciprocity.
ACIM has explained this in the way that I have resonated with the most. Giving is the same as receiving. There is no difference in the spiritual realm.
Are you giving your full attention and time to everything and every where you are? Confessions - I find myself thinking about what I want to say things I have to do, things I did not do. All of which takes me further away from the present moment which is all that we have for sure.
Practice being where you are- fully
Its challenging now because of social media and instant messaging to remain present. It is still possible to practice being in the moment.
Practice active listening - being fully present
Practice giving your time
Practice having nothing to prove only being present knowing that you are worthy
Practice your boundaries, and keeping the boundaries of others.
Peace
November 11, 2022
You Already Know
Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be okay. Soul Vibes
Trusting yourself
Trusting your intuition
Taking the guidance and action from your intuition takes courage.
Following that divine guidance can be tough for so many reasons, there are no guarantees, you may not know the final outcome with certainty, the action or non action you take may look crazy to others, you may not even know the how, you may not know the next step.
Nothing changes until you do. Sounds Cliché right?
Nothing changes until you do
YOU!
You have to do things differently.
Its your choices, your habits, your power
You have to check your destructive and unconscious habits
You have to rest
You have to set boundaries
You have to change your self talk
You have to have the hard conversations
You have to forgive yourself
You have to believe in yourself
YOU
Quick fixes will not work- there is no amount or manner of external stimulation or validation that can substitute for you doing what you know you must. There is no savior coming.
Can you go to that place within?
Can you rest? Can you breath? Can learn to love yourself? Can you sit still? Can you say no? Can you say yes? right where you are minus the judgement?
over and over again...
No one can tell you how or where, you already know
now...Act like you know
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
November 9, 2022
Creating from a Divine Space
The ego is our sense of self-importance. It's the part of us that believes we are the center of the universe and that everything revolves around us. And while a healthy ego is essential (we all need to believe in ourselves), an overinflated ego can be destructive. Stacey Herera
Confessions on the Journey - I have been thinking - a whole lot lately- about my ego (the destructive part)
Why? Over the past few weeks I have been doing quite a number of interviews, meetings and meet ups. Some of them have not been going the way I anticipated.
Rejection is a bummer! Hearing no has been a reminder that keeping my self confidence high despite the appearances is important. Hearing no has also been one where I thought, how could they ever say no to me? This is where the ego stepped in. I mean after all, its me! Akosua!
Keeping everything in balance has been the challenge. Falling into a state of feeling depressed or falling into a state of self importance. Both can be destructive.
When the ego is out of balance, the result can be drama, unhealthy competition and escape usually through unhealthy mechanisms.
How have I been dealing with these feelings?
1. Self Awareness - being aware of when the ego is coming out of balance and wanting more and more attention
2. Reminding myself that I get to choose how I tell the story, rejection or redirection? My choice
3. Staying humble - practicing humility
4. Love yourself through it
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
November 7, 2022
You are Courageous
Contrary to popular belief, courage is not a trait that takes years of experience to build, it is a choice that only requires two components: belief and willingness. ACIM
Has anyone ever told you that you were courageous? Yes? then believe that!
Do you believe that you are courageous? Yes? wonderful! hold on to that.
If no one has ever told you that you are courageous, let me tell you now. It's inside of you, what is now required is a level of belief to go with this knowledge
Practice it, daily, small acts. small acts of courage adds up, makes it easier
You are courageous when you have hard conversations
You are courageous when you show up with love and compassion for tough situations
You are courageous when you do things your way
You are courageous when you speak up
You are courageous when you listen to your intution
You are courageous when you start that hobby, that business, that class when in fear
Keep at it
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
November 4, 2022
Use your inner guide
"Go out into the countryside and teach the Gospel", they said to him, "What will we say?" And his response to them was, "I'll tell you when you get there." Book of Thomas
The small voice within is a guide, it tells us what to do and where to go, and it works particularly well when we ask, it works even better when we get still, when we pause. It's usually a small voice, sometimes a whisper, you will miss it if you are too "busy" if you are moving around too much, if you are drowning it out with excessive "noise". "Noise" can be judgement, drinking too much alcohol. working too much, toxic relationships, judgement and not taking responsibility for your actions, too much TV and Internet to keep you occupied. Noise can also be not being present and minding other people's business.To teach is to demonstrate, or the combination of demonstrating what you have paid attention to when the small voice speaks to you works miracles, it never leads you astray and many many times it seems illogical,but then, so is being too busy to handle your life and living your best life!Peace!
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
November 2, 2022
Journey to Surrender
Here's what willingness "looks like": first, you have to be open. Then, you have to be ready. Finally, you have to be determined, and committed to action. Neale Donald Walsh
To begin and continue any journey, I have learnt that we must be willing. I love Neale Donald Walsh's definition of willingness.
First you have to be open - be open to doing a new thing in a new way, be open to change, be open to changing your mind, be open to vulnerability and being wrong!
On the Journey to Surrender, we must be willing. Why? Surrender requires a level of courage patience and trust that can only happen if we are open.
Surrender is an act of acceptance, it is a release, an acknowledgement that there is a higher power that guides us when we have done the work.
Be open this month.
Be willing this month.
Be ready to journey to Surrender
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
October 31, 2022
When you trust yourself, you can surrender more
When you trust yourself, you can surrender more. You can relax and feel the ease you've been craving. Kate Courageous
Hello Hello Hello
November is upon us, we Journey together to Surrender.
To some Surrender may conjure up an image of giving up, trust me lovelies we define surrender is a whole other way.
Surrender in this case is the ability to let go of a situation knowing that you can and will handle it. After you have done the "work", after you have prayed, meditated, journaled, had counselling, therapy and pull out of the tools from the tool box, what do you do?
You let it go. Yes, that is exactly what I said, you let it go, you give it to the Higher Power in faith, trust, courage, patience and love.
Now, this may sound simple, but simple is sometimes not easy.
Humans love to be in control, they love to know what is happening now and next and more than that, we want to look like we have our lives together so what do we do? take actions to control the situation and many times that leads to manipulation, stress, lies, secrets and pain.
When you have done all the work, have patience, have faith, be still and know that you have done your part and its time for the Higher Power to do its part.
When we have made a choice, there are consequences.
Every situation, every condition and every circumstance present in your life today is the consequence of a choice you made or did not make; a thought you held and the words your have or have not spoken. A consequence is what unfolds in relationship to how you do or do not honor your intentions and commitments. It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of what you did or did not do yesterday.
For November, look at the choices you make, learn from and observe the consequences, do the work and surrender....
Happy Journeys
Akosua
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
October 27, 2022
Go Inside for the change on the Outside
Growth is not always about getting what we think we want. Always its about becoming the men and women we have the potential to be. Loving, pure, honest and clear- Marianne Williamson
Growth is an inside job. What happens inside, reflects on the outside. If you feel a level of turmoil inside, at some point this will be reflected in your life - the outside.If you feel a level of peace on the inside - at some point it will be reflected in your life - the outside.
There is no amount of external trappings, gadgets and distractions that can stop what is happening on the inside to be reflected on the outside.This is not to say that everything that is being felt inside must be suppressed and turned into some magical positive feeling all at once.Determining what is happening inside is an opportunity for self awareness, an opportunity for feeling all your feelings remembering that they are guides rather than anchors and to learn about how your discerning skills are working - or not working.
Take a moment daily to look inside, I know it can be scary, however once you go through the fear, the discoveries are totally worth it. You will embark on a journey of getting to know who you are - the most important journey of all.
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
October 24, 2022
How do you define success
What could possibly be more important than your health and your sanity, from which all else springs? Maria Popova
How many of us trade in our time, health, sanity, joy and peace consistently for making a deal, meeting a deadline, "because it has to be done", in the name of sacrifice?
How many of us justify that choice?
Somehow, we live in a society where success means that we boast about how little sleep we can go on, how busy we are and how much we can get done without stopping to eat or rest.
I can tell you, its unsustainable! You will feel the effects of self neglect
And that is exactly what it is! Self neglect
It also sends a signal to the Universe that you put yourself las, what I have learnt is, the Universe takes you at face value. So it will wait patiently for you to come around while sending you sign upon sign
Consider this, success can be defined by you, success does not have to be a all or nothing situation, success can also incorporate peace, joy, rest, fun and living well
How do you define success?
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
October 21, 2022
The Root of Self Help is Self
The root of self-help is self, but if your help only helps you, then is it helpful? Stacey Herera
Confessions on the Journey, I think about how many self help books, courses, podcasts and seminars I have been on and sometimes wonder in some moments of challenge whether I am living my life to reflect what I have learnt!
Seriously though, who is with me? How many times have I thought - and this is the thing right here- my thinking. I had thoughts that were less than, far far less than wholesome.
The judgements, the cynicism, the snarkiness, the anger that rises in me, I sometimes think
OMG this is not progressive or spiritual AT ALL.
What I can say is this, the lessons have been important, I feel so grateful for them all
1. Practice, practice, practice - every opportunity I get, I practice being kind, having hard conversations, staying grounded - practice makes masters
2. Release the self judgement - another practice! when we judge ourselves, it becomes easy and sometimes natural to judge others.
3. Reward yourself when you get it! - keeps the motivation high
4. Remember that mistakes and missteps will be made, especially if it is a new process or breaking a habit. I read somewhere that it takes 30 to 40 days to break free from habits.
5. Most importantly, love yourself through it.
Peace
Akosua's Books
Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
