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Your Life. Your Responsibility

Nothing comes into your experience uninvited. It comes into our experience because we want it or because we don’t want it. So what do you want? Micheal BeckwithHello LoviesSome people act as if their life is not their responsibility! Newsflash - your life is your responsibility! You are owed nothing but deserve everything- breathe that in  for a moment. So that job you are in and you hate the boss or the roles - it's your responsibility to make a changeThe relationship that is bugging you out- your responsibility to make a changeThe life you live - no one is going to save you, give you anything on a platter- you can respond accordinglyRemember - responsibility is your ability to respondThere are things that may be totally out of your control that happens what you do have is the ability to respond- that's all youYour life, Your ResponsibilityIt really is that simplePeace

Jump In

Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be—a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation—with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and hurling judgment and advice, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.  Brene Browne

The willingness to do something new is quite a recent mindset that I have adopted, I realized that putting labels on myself limited my life. This mindset started small and grew, so much so that I really feel bold and unafraid in doing many many new things - once I start it. Standing on the sidelines overthinking it - not a good idea! I would be able to justify anything, any rationale for not doing it including "it's not the right time", "what is for you will be for you" - all used as excuses really!So I jump in, I ask questions after - sometimes this approach backfires - but I know that all things are lessons that God will have us learn! This morning I spoke at a Lion's Breakfast Meeting - Celebrating Women - jumped right in. scared and heart beating like crazy - why?I walked into the iconic Palms Club and was introduced to the distinguished elders. People who have contributed and served this nation with high distinction. I felt intimidated at first I must admit. and then I remembered my willingness, the lessons, the ancestors who walk with me and I jumped into that area ready to be bloodied and have fun while being bloodied tooIt was fabulous, what a wonderful experience, I showed up real and left bloodied.Peace

What's Your Why?

In order to get where you need to be, you will be rejected by people, situations, and circumstances that are not right for you or do not show up at the right time.
If you give up after the first no, the first betrayal, you will never find your rightful place.
Every "no" you encounter is a trust-building opportunity. Every rejection you experience has the potential to deepen your capacity to trust yourself and the process of life - Iyanla

I have learnt that the No's are essential, I have learnt that the No's build me up, I have learnt to not take the No's personally, that it is all part of a bigger picture that at the time I know absolutely nothing about, I have learnt to feel the feelings when I get the No's.
I have learnt that when I am grounded and know clearly my intentions, I can feel the feelings associated with the No much easier, some No's are hard though, especially when you believe in all your heart that it is what you wanted, that it will change your life forever, that it will make you happy. I have learnt that it all goes back to your intention
What is your intention?
Why? What is your why?
That right there, buffers the hard No's
I have lost count of the many No's that I have got, some of them had me curled over in a ball hurting with tears and screams, some had me laughing at how crazy I was to even contemplate moving in that direction, but despite all of it, all of the No's made me stronger, more clear, and more in touch with my intention
It made me tap into my Why and if I give up I know it was flaky, I wasn't into it
With relationships - well most No's allowed me to dodge some bullet's. I have no bullet proof vests so give thanks for that
I eat No's like Cheerios
Peace

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Change it Up

“It is what it is.” or “The universe is already perfect.” or “Everything happens for a reason.” can all function as excellent justifications for never doing much of anything and never really examining one’s behavior.  " High ExistenceHello LoviesI joined an exercise boot camp. This is my fourth week (in between my travels). I must admit, it's tough, I swear(literally too) it pushes me, pulls me, frustrates me and challenges me. This morning I resumed the camp and just as I was ready to throw in the towel with some swear words attached the instructor said something"when you do the same thing all the time, there is very little growth, your body and your life, your body get's familiar, and it becomes easy, things remain the same"BoomWe do the same thing over and over and expect growthWe do the same thing over and over and expect adventureWe do the same thing over and over and expect to overcome challengesGotta change it up, mix it up, do something new, push yourselfGiving thanks for the reminderLessons can come from anywherePeace
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I am All Women

Each of us comes to that point where we must trust someone enough to open ourselves up for review and examination.
It's not always easy! Its a challenge to admit or acknowledge your own faults.
It is even more difficult to accept that we have made some costly mistakes, poor decisions and bacd choices.
For some reason we don't want people to know that we are human. But we are
We cannot hide what we feel forever
It is essential to our sense of well being that we find  a way to open up and let some one know what is going on inside Until Today



My ability to work.drive.vote.earn. choose.walk d road.drive a car.own property.get a mortgage...... didn't come "jus so" someone paid, paved a path, died even and I have a responsibility to carry this on and improve on this. All women I know throughout the world do not have these rights that some of us take for granted, and all women is me and I am all women. so if I am not contributing to all women, I am not contributing to me.
I know that I am the victory of my ancestors
I want someone to say the same about me
Join the conversation
Do something
Anything
with what you have
NOW
Peace

What Are Your Feelings Telling You?

Your feelings are telling you something – just develop courage to listen and stop seeking to understand or fix what is going on in your body Kyle Jones
Our feelings are messages, when we ignore the messages they become red flags, the messages get louder, the body then gets involved, sickness and ailments and pain sets in.Feeling your feelings immediately will not kill you, I guarantee it, what can kill you in the build up of emotions within your body that you do not feel that manifests itself in all manner of ailmentsAccording to Kyle Jones, these are what your feelings tell you:1.    You are abandoning yourself2.    You are around energies nit beneficial to your energy field3.    You are in a dangerous situation 4.    You are not taking time to be still and let your thinking emotional body find balance. This often happens when we have busy lives and focus on doing rather than being
But the key is you will know when you pay attention, when you feel it.Trust me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with crying, saying no, pissing people off, sharing if all is done in lovePeace

Use Your Missteps to Build You Up

You, like every card-carrying human on the planet, are going to make mistakes. You are going to choose the wrong love at least once. You are going to miss opportunities sometimes, and you're going to move to fast or too slow at other times. You will find yourself engaged in unexpected conflicts You are going to be afraid, or confused or plain wrong about something or some people Get a Grip! This does not mean you're an idiot or that you life can be totally derailed  by one or more of the mistakes you have made. Rather than getting stuck in how you messed up, use your mistakes, weaknesses and missteps to build yourself up. Confidence grows when you make a mistake, correct your course and keep moving  - Trust: Mastering the Four Essentials of Trust

I reminded you, my lovies, about my daily ritual, I read something every morning , it helps in preparing and grounding me for the day- it's just my thing, I  am sure you have your own, and if you don't get one! Just as you eat and take a shower to prepare your body, take some time to prepare your mind and soul before you step out - it takes determination to fool proof the distractions, the tugging of your soulSo, right on point, as per ususal. I woke up late, missed my running time and thought "Oh crap!" and the self talk started, rolled out the bed and in the bathroom the book was on the floor, naturally waking up with "the oh crap mindset" I kicked the book and its always the baby toe right? I scowled picked up the book to hurl it and the page quotd above looked at me and said "Read Me"Damn Universe, every bloody time! Every time! Why am I ever surprised?? I smiled, got out the bathroom and started my day, I really wanted to share this with youHope it resonated, if not, it's all goodPeace

Fear Not- Problems are your friends

Change often creates problems in our environment. Fear not! Problems are our friends! Without problems we cannot learn. Without problems we have no idea of the depth of the change that is required of us . Iyanla

 As cliched as it sounds, change is constant, the very nature of life is change. Why are we still fussing and resisting? We like comfort and control and being a winner. Who says comfort and winning will not happen if there is change? 
What about a different approach to it? 
Welcome the change, talk to it, ask it some questions, to reveal itself, resisting it will beat you up
trust me, it's the resistance that throws one off the bus! 
I myself am guilty of the resistance
Just when I think I have it all together, that I have the formula, the thing flips. 
I get frustrated, mad, I cuss and cry but now I have learnt to welcome it, to have a conversation, to pay attention (usually after the hollering!)

Fear not, problems have become my friends, -  Confession - I love them from a far

Today I am the feature speaker at the Yes She Can International Conference https://www.yscwomeninwellness.com/

Watch my Ted Talk :https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...

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Peace

Change You First

You can be saved simply by changing your mind. Nothing outside you has to change in order for you to be happy. You can simply choose happiness, right now." And our response, typically? "Hell, no! I won't be happy unless s/he changes first." ACIM
I have been practicing something. Changing my state of mind on the spot, just to see this power that I was told that I have been born with.Acknowledging the feeling and then making a decision to change the stateHello................... the thing worksThe key is acceptancethen choice
The clarity is in the midst of the confusionThe love is in the midst of the conflictDo you have the courage to override , to keep moving forwardIf you just keep moving forward, the fear will subside, the doubt will subside don't worry about getting rid of it, you can't get rid of thought, it cannot be undoneBut you don't have to activate it, downloaded it or activate itDeborah L Johnson says - "your doubt and fear does not have to trend"

Journey to the South - Last Day

Contrast and differences are necessary teaching aids, for by them you learn what to avoid and what to seek ACIMHello LoviesI was without Internet access for about 4 days, in between travelling and spending time with my friend Kele  I did not focus on getting to a place with the WifiComing to the end of my Journey, I must admit I love the Southern part of Africa, it gives me hope, it demonstrates to me resilience, it also demonstrates promise. Every time I go I am reminded of my responsibility to step up and live my best life, on purpose with purposeThis is my favourite lesson as I part
Do not put your faith or value in nothingnessWhat rests on nothing can never be secure, what is built on nothing will necer lastWhat is your something-ness?What does that mean for you?Thank you SA!Peace