Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 145
May 9, 2017
Options
Where would you have me go?
What would you have me do?
What would you have me say?
And to whom?
–A Course in Miracles
Families and Intimate relationships are the biggest containers for growth. They provide you with the tests and lessons which you are not able to get anywhere else.
Your family, they know you inside out
you want to be supportive and love them hard but they get on your last nerve sometimes right? Especially if they are "not listening" living their lives differently to their "potential" and not trusting you to do what you do best. Most times we want validation , want to feel needed and loved and in your own way!
When does living our own lives and demonstrating by our choices a choice, or accepting and loving them the way they are an option?When is taking responsibility for our own lives and staying in our own lane an option?When is walking away and praying an option?When is acceptance of what is an option?When is pray and faith an option?
When is compassion an option?I have been asking myself these questions over the past couple of weeks in my own familyLooking for the lesson in the situationI have not come up with the answers yet but this I know for surethere are some things I cannot fix, cannot change and cannot make better and looking for and paying attention to the lesson
Tuning into the channel Peace
What would you have me do?
What would you have me say?
And to whom?
–A Course in Miracles
Families and Intimate relationships are the biggest containers for growth. They provide you with the tests and lessons which you are not able to get anywhere else.
Your family, they know you inside out
you want to be supportive and love them hard but they get on your last nerve sometimes right? Especially if they are "not listening" living their lives differently to their "potential" and not trusting you to do what you do best. Most times we want validation , want to feel needed and loved and in your own way!
When does living our own lives and demonstrating by our choices a choice, or accepting and loving them the way they are an option?When is taking responsibility for our own lives and staying in our own lane an option?When is walking away and praying an option?When is acceptance of what is an option?When is pray and faith an option?
When is compassion an option?I have been asking myself these questions over the past couple of weeks in my own familyLooking for the lesson in the situationI have not come up with the answers yet but this I know for surethere are some things I cannot fix, cannot change and cannot make better and looking for and paying attention to the lesson
Tuning into the channel Peace
May 8, 2017
Are You Willing to Try Another Way?
Human beings are creatures of habit. We do what we know,what is comfortable and what we "think" will work. There are, however, those occasions when "our" way is not "the" way to get us to our goal. When your way doesn't work, don't be disheartened. You must be willing to try another way
- Iyanla Vanzant
Ask yourself, is the way I am approaching my goals and dreams working?
Is my life working in the way I envision - am I at peace, do I feel joy, gratitude, content and love?
Or am I filled with anxiety, dread, resentment and confusion?
Is it manifesting itself in your life by the way you eat, or maybe drink, treat people or perhaps don't treat people?
For me it is clear, I go by how I feel because I have long learnt that my feelings are guides.
I ask myself how do I feel about this?
And then I am willing to do something different - took a while because of course, habits, fear, not wanting to be wrong, people pleasing and sometimes pure ole fashioned laziness
When I became willing to do something different, to pattern interrupt I started running as a form of exercise. Now running is a part of my life, I enter races sometimes to push myself. I started speaking out in public and volunteering for it- now its a big part of my service. And most importantly they both make me feel happy and at peace
What have you been holding on to because "its just the way that I am" or maybe "I grew up this way" or " I am going to prove them wrong" ask yourself that then ask yourself if it's not working then why hang on to it?
Peace
Publications www.akosuadardaineedwards/publications
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Unveiling 2017:https://www.facebook.com/pg/AkosuaDar...
Ask yourself, is the way I am approaching my goals and dreams working?
Is my life working in the way I envision - am I at peace, do I feel joy, gratitude, content and love?
Or am I filled with anxiety, dread, resentment and confusion?
Is it manifesting itself in your life by the way you eat, or maybe drink, treat people or perhaps don't treat people?
For me it is clear, I go by how I feel because I have long learnt that my feelings are guides.
I ask myself how do I feel about this?
And then I am willing to do something different - took a while because of course, habits, fear, not wanting to be wrong, people pleasing and sometimes pure ole fashioned laziness
When I became willing to do something different, to pattern interrupt I started running as a form of exercise. Now running is a part of my life, I enter races sometimes to push myself. I started speaking out in public and volunteering for it- now its a big part of my service. And most importantly they both make me feel happy and at peace
What have you been holding on to because "its just the way that I am" or maybe "I grew up this way" or " I am going to prove them wrong" ask yourself that then ask yourself if it's not working then why hang on to it?
Peace
Publications www.akosuadardaineedwards/publications
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Unveiling 2017:https://www.facebook.com/pg/AkosuaDar...
May 6, 2017
Take a Pause
“In today’s rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being.” Eckhart Tolle
Today take a pause from the rush and recognize in the moment what is in front of you, what is the joy in your present moment
Today, take a pause from the rush and give thanks for the little things and see how it swells your heart
Today, take a pause from the rush and rest your mind, postpone the constant chatter about what you don't have, what you need to do and who is preventing it from happening
Today, take a pause from the rush and know that in that present moment all is well
Today take a pause from the rush and know that you will really be okay in the end.
Today take a pause from the rush to reboot, recharge, and re-cognize that rest is productive
Peace
Today take a pause from the rush and recognize in the moment what is in front of you, what is the joy in your present moment
Today, take a pause from the rush and give thanks for the little things and see how it swells your heart
Today, take a pause from the rush and rest your mind, postpone the constant chatter about what you don't have, what you need to do and who is preventing it from happening
Today, take a pause from the rush and know that in that present moment all is well
Today take a pause from the rush and know that you will really be okay in the end.
Today take a pause from the rush to reboot, recharge, and re-cognize that rest is productive
Peace
May 4, 2017
What Comes After the Thought?
Living in your head prevents you from the full experience of your environment. It keeps you from opening your heart. It gets in the way of you inhabiting the fullness of your relationships.
Thinking about feeling is not the same as feeling.
Thinking about loving is not the same as loving.
Thinking about doing is not the same as doing.
Thinking about expressing yourself is not the same as self expression. Thinking creates a barrier between you and your experience.
While thinking is a necessary part of this life. Experiencing IS life itself. Drop down into your body and feel.
Breathe into every single moment.
Pause to take in the scene.
Relish in play. Delight in laughter. Feel your way through.
Stacey Herera
I'm thinking about it.How many times have you heard or perhaps said that when asked about when or what are you going to do?Thinking is important and it is indeed the first step to creationmost importantly- the first step. and only a stepit goes beyond only thinking about it, there is the and rather than the butWhat are you thinking about and what is stopping you from moving beyond the thought?Peace
Thinking about feeling is not the same as feeling.
Thinking about loving is not the same as loving.
Thinking about doing is not the same as doing.
Thinking about expressing yourself is not the same as self expression. Thinking creates a barrier between you and your experience.
While thinking is a necessary part of this life. Experiencing IS life itself. Drop down into your body and feel.
Breathe into every single moment.
Pause to take in the scene.
Relish in play. Delight in laughter. Feel your way through.
Stacey Herera
I'm thinking about it.How many times have you heard or perhaps said that when asked about when or what are you going to do?Thinking is important and it is indeed the first step to creationmost importantly- the first step. and only a stepit goes beyond only thinking about it, there is the and rather than the butWhat are you thinking about and what is stopping you from moving beyond the thought?Peace
May 3, 2017
How I determine a Genuine Relationship
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A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego with its image-making and self-seeking. In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow of open, alert attention toward the other person in which there is no wanting whatsoever.”
― Eckhart Tolle
I have been meeting more and more people as I speak at events. Some of them, for different reasons, find themselves in my circle where we communicate and have common interests. Some of the people that express an interest to come into the circle, I have been resisting, and I started asking myself why - I want to be non judgmental as well as flexible
I check my intention behind everything now because the intention precedes the result
What is my intention?
Do I want something?
Do I want validation?
Do I want to further my cause?
Do I want to be liked?
And so on
What is my intention and what do I feel in my gut?
Once I can answer that honestly, truthfully, without negative denial
then I can move forward feeling free
Lessons....
Peace
― Eckhart Tolle
I have been meeting more and more people as I speak at events. Some of them, for different reasons, find themselves in my circle where we communicate and have common interests. Some of the people that express an interest to come into the circle, I have been resisting, and I started asking myself why - I want to be non judgmental as well as flexible
I check my intention behind everything now because the intention precedes the result
What is my intention?
Do I want something?
Do I want validation?
Do I want to further my cause?
Do I want to be liked?
And so on
What is my intention and what do I feel in my gut?
Once I can answer that honestly, truthfully, without negative denial
then I can move forward feeling free
Lessons....
Peace
May 2, 2017
Your Soul Lives True
What you want? Your Soul may have other plans for you
Deborah L Johnson
You may have heard me say it before, but I want what I want when I want itI can bet that many of us want what we want when we want itAnd isn't that what we are taught about "making it"Going after what you want and not taking no for an answer?How does that philosophy tie in to what our Soul wants for us?It may not tie in because your Soul's plans trump all, whether we accept it or notWhy? Your Soul has not agenda and wants what's best for you, and it really is that simpleWe get clues based on how our life is panning outand when we ignore it life continues to give you clues.The job, the relationships, the material things, the friends, the career, you name itthe Soul gives you clues, it is up to us to pay attentionPeace
You may have heard me say it before, but I want what I want when I want itI can bet that many of us want what we want when we want itAnd isn't that what we are taught about "making it"Going after what you want and not taking no for an answer?How does that philosophy tie in to what our Soul wants for us?It may not tie in because your Soul's plans trump all, whether we accept it or notWhy? Your Soul has not agenda and wants what's best for you, and it really is that simpleWe get clues based on how our life is panning outand when we ignore it life continues to give you clues.The job, the relationships, the material things, the friends, the career, you name itthe Soul gives you clues, it is up to us to pay attentionPeace
May 1, 2017
Without Feelings You Run From You
Without feeling, life becomes: • a succession of escaping yourself — using the outside world to escape the inside world • falling victim to thoughts and emotions, which are only past memories stuck in brain and nerve cells • chasing concepts of peace, love and happiness rather than going through pain to reach emotional freedom, i.e. emotional freedom is peace, love and happiness – these experiences aren't dependent on protests, relationships or success • getting involved in emotional dependent relationships — using your partner to take responsibility for YOUR feelings - Feeling is the difference between emotional pain and emotional freedom
Kyle Jones
I am doing an experiment, I am feeling all my feelings, and why is it an experiment? Because I would usually either run or stifle it, or focus on what the "problem" is and look at how to fix it. Well to be quite honest there has been some discomfort
Small things
Let me give you an example, I went to see a spoken word show on Sunday night, it was billed as the best in the country, at the premiere spot. One of the contestants forgot her lines, she was frozen on one spot, trembeling and shaking, In pulled out my phone and started texting, looking at Facebook and Instagram feeling super uncomfortable, then I realised, I cannot face this situation, I refuse to!
Default to experiment, feel the discomfort!
I put the phone away and looked at her, I looked directly at her and the feeling passed, what replaced it was a feeling of empathy and admiration - she would not quit, she stood there soldiering through the lines, hands clasped
then I felt proud, the angry because he people in the row before me was shooing her off the stage
Simple Lesson- feel the feelings, sit in the discomfort, and see where it takes you
She left the stage and I couldn't help but feel so proud of her efforts and bold in my knowledge that if I mess up I am not the only one, to soldier on and feel all the feelings
Peace
I am doing an experiment, I am feeling all my feelings, and why is it an experiment? Because I would usually either run or stifle it, or focus on what the "problem" is and look at how to fix it. Well to be quite honest there has been some discomfort
Small things
Let me give you an example, I went to see a spoken word show on Sunday night, it was billed as the best in the country, at the premiere spot. One of the contestants forgot her lines, she was frozen on one spot, trembeling and shaking, In pulled out my phone and started texting, looking at Facebook and Instagram feeling super uncomfortable, then I realised, I cannot face this situation, I refuse to!
Default to experiment, feel the discomfort!
I put the phone away and looked at her, I looked directly at her and the feeling passed, what replaced it was a feeling of empathy and admiration - she would not quit, she stood there soldiering through the lines, hands clasped
then I felt proud, the angry because he people in the row before me was shooing her off the stage
Simple Lesson- feel the feelings, sit in the discomfort, and see where it takes you
She left the stage and I couldn't help but feel so proud of her efforts and bold in my knowledge that if I mess up I am not the only one, to soldier on and feel all the feelings
Peace
April 29, 2017
How do you Define Success
Many of us living relatively (or blatantly) privileged lives have created our own nouveau religion: Materialism. It’s as pervasive as any of the major world religions. And we fight, and kill, and steal, and pillage, and lie for our right to profit and consume. Same shit, different deity—the deity of the dollar (or yen, or euro…). Our mass consumption has become a weapon of mass destruction—fashioned from lies about so-called success and happiness. These lies take a damaging toll on our self-esteem, and we keep trying to inflate our worth with more stuff, more attention, more stimulation. In the Cult of Materialism, reverence for simplicity and basic consideration is a courageous act.
Danielle La Porte
How do you define success?
What does success look like to you?
What about abundance?
What is abundance and how does it look?
Does it look like something? A particular item? A feeling? An experience?
At a meeting yesterday I sat listening to the conversation. The markers of success are profits, profits, more profits at the top it then filtered down to the staff as house, car, private schools for the children and designer gadgets. We bust our bums for things, those things are supposed to make us happy, and the absence of those things signal that we are unsuccessful. I have been caught up as well in that cycle and what I have learnt is - define your own success because playing by someone else's rules when you are not sure what the rules are is a set up for disaster
You will continue to guess
Playing by your own rules involves being comfortable in your own skin- there is no getting away from it. It involves having a vision for your own life based on your gifts, passion and determination
Peace
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How do you define success?
What does success look like to you?
What about abundance?
What is abundance and how does it look?
Does it look like something? A particular item? A feeling? An experience?
At a meeting yesterday I sat listening to the conversation. The markers of success are profits, profits, more profits at the top it then filtered down to the staff as house, car, private schools for the children and designer gadgets. We bust our bums for things, those things are supposed to make us happy, and the absence of those things signal that we are unsuccessful. I have been caught up as well in that cycle and what I have learnt is - define your own success because playing by someone else's rules when you are not sure what the rules are is a set up for disaster
You will continue to guess
Playing by your own rules involves being comfortable in your own skin- there is no getting away from it. It involves having a vision for your own life based on your gifts, passion and determination
Peace
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April 28, 2017
Live Your Truth
People need truth the way they need air. They’re desperate for it. Even when you risk rejection, telling your truth clears the field for others to tell theirs.
Glennon Doyle Mellon
People ask me how or even why did I share "all my business" in my first book "What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love"
How could I not? It really did honestly set me free, it set me on a path clearing the way for others to live their own truth and for me, that is one of the most powerful things that I have ever experienced.
Living your truth requires guts, it requires courage and most importantly it requires feeling ALL of your feelings
Courage and guts because you will not always be liked, accepted or the most popular. You will sometimes do things against the grain, you may feel like a failure but its all part of the journey
Love is never wasted and all things are lessons that God will have us learn
So, live your truth, do what brings you joy, with love and in service and know that all is well and will be well in your world
Peace
Publications: www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/publica...
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Unveiling - Looking into the mirror of self
May 26th 2017
Trinidad and Tobago
https://www.facebook.com/events/22325...
People ask me how or even why did I share "all my business" in my first book "What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love"
How could I not? It really did honestly set me free, it set me on a path clearing the way for others to live their own truth and for me, that is one of the most powerful things that I have ever experienced.
Living your truth requires guts, it requires courage and most importantly it requires feeling ALL of your feelings
Courage and guts because you will not always be liked, accepted or the most popular. You will sometimes do things against the grain, you may feel like a failure but its all part of the journey
Love is never wasted and all things are lessons that God will have us learn
So, live your truth, do what brings you joy, with love and in service and know that all is well and will be well in your world
Peace
Publications: www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/publica...
Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Unveiling - Looking into the mirror of self
May 26th 2017
Trinidad and Tobago
https://www.facebook.com/events/22325...
April 27, 2017
How Does Your Pep Talk Go?
Avoidance denial and repression cannot help you
It's the most life-strengthening gift you'll ever give yourself...to see what you've been refusing to see. To deal in order to heal. Every day you keep yourself from looking that shit square in the eyes is a day you keep yourself exactly where you are. Maxie McCoy
I drove up to the venue, I saw coaches and buses off loading people. I asked the security if this is the venue I was looking for."Yes Ma'am"
I start a semi panic - this event is not small- AT ALL!Note to self- pay attention
So I park the car and sit in it talking to myself
"What's it gonna be love?, What you come here to do baby girl?"
"Ain't this is what you asked for? To share your story to as many people as possible?"
"Now you gonna be scared? Be scared but get on that stage and show up"
"Okay, I'm on it like I want it"
I get out of the car, knees knocking, throat dry and walked in the place like I owned the joint, with all my ancestors behind me holding me up with love and lightand I rocked the stage!
Self talk- positive self talk mixed with self belief did the trickGive it a shot my lovies, and let me know how it worked for yaPeace
It's the most life-strengthening gift you'll ever give yourself...to see what you've been refusing to see. To deal in order to heal. Every day you keep yourself from looking that shit square in the eyes is a day you keep yourself exactly where you are. Maxie McCoy
I drove up to the venue, I saw coaches and buses off loading people. I asked the security if this is the venue I was looking for."Yes Ma'am"
I start a semi panic - this event is not small- AT ALL!Note to self- pay attention
So I park the car and sit in it talking to myself
"What's it gonna be love?, What you come here to do baby girl?"
"Ain't this is what you asked for? To share your story to as many people as possible?"
"Now you gonna be scared? Be scared but get on that stage and show up"
"Okay, I'm on it like I want it"
I get out of the car, knees knocking, throat dry and walked in the place like I owned the joint, with all my ancestors behind me holding me up with love and lightand I rocked the stage!
Self talk- positive self talk mixed with self belief did the trickGive it a shot my lovies, and let me know how it worked for yaPeace
