Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 147

You are the magic baby

Always searchin' for the real thing
Livin' like it's far away
Just leave all the madness in yesterday
You're holdin' the key, When you believe it - Sweet Freedom by Micheal McDonald


When you believe it- you will grow
When you believe it - you will start that business
When you believe it- you will practice self care
When you believe it - you will leave that abusive relationship
When you believe it - you will leave that job to pursue your dreams
When you believe it - you will write that book

When you believe it - .................. (fill in the blanks)

You get what you believe not what you wish and hope and only talk about 

Your actions, words and faith must be in complete alignment and that starts with the belief. Self Belief - there are some days where you will have to walk alone, to encourage yourself, to rest, to get still

Be ready to do that - those states are not indicators to stop and give up

You are the magic, the magic baby!
Peace

Waiting is the process of doing

Patience has never been one of my finer virtues. Like many of us, I’m used to all this quick and instant stuff. Fast responses. Immediate feedback. Instant connections. But I do trust one thing: beautiful things can take time. Lots of time. Maxi Mc Coy

Someone once told me if I want to know what patience is go to the bank on the date when the pension cheques are being distributed and stand in the line, apart from the number of people in the line, the people in the line also move slowly. I laughed when I heard it but I actually did it. Nothing to do but wait!

I gave myself 2 years to reach a goal, 2 years to sell a certain number of books, 3 years have passed, and I am no where near it. I started getting anxious and doubtful and depressed and eating way too much chocolate
The definition of patience that resonate with me the most is "Inner Calm in the midst of outer chaos
An Act of total surrender to the Divine Order"

Total Surrender - complete and unequivocal acceptance of what is knowing that all will be well despite how it looks
acceptance of what is knowing that any amount of inaction is part of the process
acceptance of what is knowing that I have done the work and planted the seeds
How I wait is also important - the energy with which I surrender
is it with faith or anxiety?
I have learnt that being anxious is like digging up the seeds that I have planted without giving it the time to bloom
How many seeds have we planted only to dig it up when we see nothing happening?

According to Maxie
So if you’re waiting, patiently or not, remember…
Waiting IS the process of doing. You’re not inactive, you’re just in the inactive stage. Only put your eggs in all of waiting’s basket if you’re real with the reality it may not go how you want it to. Give a damn about the outcome. Light candles. Ask friends to light theirs. Crystal focus wills resilience. Don’t take your mind off of it. Research out there says distractions don’t actually help you wait.Peace 
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Make your Own Game. Set your Own Rules

Do what you have to do, but in the meantime accept what is - Eckhart Tolle

How many of us do things without questioning them? Ok so I know there are some things that one must do, obey the law etc I am not talking about that I am referring to the things you do because

1. "that's just how it is done"
2. " It's always be done like that"
3." It's a family thing"
4. " to look good"
5. " to keep the peace"
6. " the neighbors do it and we should do it to"
7. " the white people says it's good to do"
8. "the black people makes it cool"
9. " to get ahead"

I may have brought this up already - what is your why? Is it following blindly, people pleasing, automatic pilot doing? I am suggesting questioning the why when it falls into this category, keep an open mind and a willing spirit,
Questioning core beliefs have changed my journey and many others. it opens up new worlds and new methods
Every single thing in the world is open and available to you, but you have to know accept and believe that
If you are playing in the game and don't know the rules how fair is that?
If you are in the game without knowing what the aim is, it is playing blind

Sometimes you have to play your own game and set up your own rules
Peace


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You can be

You can be brave + tender. You can be strong + cry.
You can be scared + courageous. Stacey Herrera

Today I was all of that and I am still standing Giving thanks for my feelings and e-motions (energy in motion) to remind me that I am still here, still human, still growing, still learning, still womanPeace

Romantic Love is not a competitive sport

Romantic Love is not a competitive sport. You're running your own race. We don't dig or not dig people based on a comparison chart or body measurement and intellectual achievements and personal quirks
We dig them because we do - Cheryl Strayed

After an event I attended yesterday, a buddy of mine and I went to have a beverage at a nearby spot. We were having the usual buddy chats, laughing eating some high calorie foods ,as you do on these outings, then out of left field she asked "don't you ever want children and a family?"
"where did that come from?"

This was now me thinking and having to face a topic that has been in the recesses, no basement, of my mind and soul for a very long time

Do I really love being alone or is it just fear of being hurt again or what was it?

Honestly, I really had to get still to figure it out
The initial fear creeped in "is there something that I am doing wrong, am I doing anything at all?"
What's up? What's going on?
Right now I have no ready answer but willing to ask the question, get still and wait for the answer. All in
Yes I would love to have a family and children and that's all I need to know
Admitting it is the first step
Let the chips fall where they may
Peace

You Are Awesome

If you think you’re defective or in need of fixing (which is the biggest lie of all), you will most definitely attract lovers, teachers, preachers, and politicians who want to so-called “love” you, and “fix” you, and “lead” you Danielle La Porte
The biggest lie I have ever heard is that I was born in and of sin. I mean, how can I be created in God's image and likeness be born of sin? That's me starting behind the bell curve from the get goAnd there is where the lies startedI was born and have something wrong with me and so I must look towards others to fix meThat led now to me looking for everything outside of me to fix me, to heal me to love meMe - who God created - in God's image and likeness, Me - God's child in whom God is well pleased
I forgot that, I lived in that state of forgetfulness and acted from therelooking for others to save me, to love me, to validate me, to make me, to pump me upMe - who God created Me - who God said greater things you will doNo more believing of liesA Course in Miracles says that sin means you have missed the mark and so what you have done in sin means you have made a huge mistake. Atone for the mistake, learn the lesson and get the hell out of dodgeYou, me , all of us are super duper awesomeBelieve thatPeace

What Are You Trying to Prove?

Freethinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own customs, privileges, or beliefs. This state of mind is not common, but it is essential for right thinking. – Leo TolstoyDifferences are all around, different cultures, different beliefs, different journeys. That is part of the journey. It's a given. Byron Katie says it well "when you argue with reality you suffer". The challenges arise when we want to be right, to want to convert others, to prove that we are right and they are wrong. Feeling out of control when others do not agree with you, so much so, that you go out of your way to prove them wrongSpend that same time and energy in a space of respect and open mindednessWhat are you trying to prove?Is it that one differing opinion will throw your world so out of kilter that you will move from a space of respect and love to dishonor?What are you trying to prove?
Is it that differences says to you that you are wrong? that your way is not THE WAY?What Are you trying to prove?Enoughness. Rightness. Righteousness. Best Way. Best Practice. Success. Control.What are you trying to prove?I have learnt that I have nothing to prove and I would rather be happy than rightPeace 

Are You Showing Up Fully?

It's not that the universe isn't giving you the people and the opportunities that are perfect for you; it's that you're missing them if you don't show up fully, and if you're not present because you're looking for the next best thing instead of showing up for what's right in front of you. If you feel like something's missing from your life, it's missing more of YOU! Your presence, your focus, your energy, your love, your kindness,… Only what you are not giving can be lacking in any situation. ACIM
Hello LoviesConfession time on the journeyOver the past few weeks I have been focused - but focused on what's next, what's to come, what I must do "after" and truth be told, this has been draining me. I just cannot get enough or feel that I am in a comfortable space, I wrote down goals, and then I wrote down how I want my life to look in 2017. I read them both (for the record, how I want my life to look is so much more pleasant to read!)
I keep asking am I doing what is required? Am I doing enough?Newsflash - Not enoughness will mash you up!
Every now leads you to your next, to the coming attraction, if I am not focused on now, what's next is pointless because no work or passion was put into the journey.Every now leads you to the what's working and what's not working which is why it is so very important to show up fully!
How do I show up fully?Focus on the nowFocus on what is in front of meFocus on being grateful for every single thingFocus on the journey at the momentFocus on the funFocus on the peopleFocus on the "real"Forget about "how it will look" and think about how you feelWalk with your kindness weapons and be fully present
Peace

Slowly Gets You There

Going all in doesn't mean changing everything over night. Going all in can simply mean you're 100 percent committed to figuring out all the possible arrangements to eventually make your dream a reality. And that's how dreams work.
Look for creative ways things can be done gradually, while still committing fully to your investment. Your "why" can be all in without your "how" being abrupt or haste. Maxi


I had the opportunity to speak yesterday at an event called Sunset Talks hosted by the Coterie Association. As I was waiting to speak I looked around the room I saw black of white photos of only women, it caught my eye. I was curious. As I did my talk, the Q&A session after was a total lesson in my country's history, these women were trail blazers, 90% of them were retired and served this country with love and service. I started feeling more and more honored and humbled to be asked to speak and get the opportunity to meet them.
How important s it to share stores? How important it is to just be you and do your best?
How important it is to know your worth?
Hearing from these elders reminded me of leaving the judgement out of whether they did right or wrong but to appreciate the intention of what they were doing - Building a nation, building a community, building a life
Of knowing our strength and why we are here
Some gigs are just really to me heaven sent
I give thanks
Peace

Unpack the Old One

You can’t move on to a new life until you unpack the old one—or burn it down to the ground. You can’t leap from hurt to clarity, or from anger to absolution. You have to walk there, one revelatory, resentful, intentional step at a time. The heart runs on its own clock, untethered from calendar days or years.  Danielle La Porte
Over the past few days, it seems that my past have been coming up into the presentI know there is a reason for it, and truth be told it could be that I have to make some decisions or get out of my own wayI admit, it ain't easy closing the door especially when I am unconsciously going through life "looking to make it", when I am just going along, my life reflects thatI am a firm believer that nothing comes into my life uninvited and so with that I have to take responsibility for some part of these resurrectionsI have been avoiding a serious conversation, until I have it, the situation will remainI have been avoiding speaking my truth until I speak it, the situation will remainI have been spending way too much time thinking about this situation and I have learnt what you focus on grows.so the past comes up, its uncomfortable, its really uncomfortable, it's disorienting at times and sometimes its hard. but hey, I gotta deal with it until it is dealt with or it will continue to be hovering around like wet smelly shoesIts the whole the little discomfort before something new is birthed, there is some pain and then something beautifulPeace