Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 146

Don't ever be afraid of not getting it right

that the possibility of making an error should never, ever stop you from doing anything.
Don't ever be afraid of "not getting it right." In truth, there is no "right" way of doing anything...there is only the way you are doing it. So go ahead. Do it.
Nothing wonderful has ever been accomplished by anyone who was worried sick about it not being
wonderful. ACIM
I have a big event to speak at tomorrow, I was under the impression that I was the only speaker (not that I asked a question, it was just my assumption- drawbacks of not asking questions) Anyhoo, the programme was emailed to me and I looked at it and said OMG! This is bigger than I thought! Should I switch up my speech? Should I get a brand spanking new outfit, and I started shoulding on myself! Pep talk time - you asked for this, you chose this, no one forced you, so take a breath and just go out there and do your best in the moment with the intention of sharing your story, sharing the lessons on the journey and showing up real, as a demonstration that all of us, all of us, have a special part to play in this gift of life that we were give, whatever you do for a living or as a purpose, be it a baker, a parent, a writer, an executive, whatever it is
So here I go- showing up real and doing the best in the moment and leaving the rest to the Universe as that is it's role
Peace

Relationship Potential

To gain you must give, not bargain. To bargain is to limit giving, and this is not God's Will. To will with God is to create like Him. God does not limit His gifts in any way. You are His gifts, and so your gifts must be like His. Your gifts to the Kingdom must be like His gifts to you. ACIM 

I love Kyle Jones's work, it resonates with me on so many levels! I wanted to share this piece with you.

Rather your relationship lasted a couple of weeks or twenty years, breaking up leads to feeling heartbreak and rejection. At times, these feelings make you question getting involved in a relationship again. - You questioning getting involved in a relationship again is fear-based. You have relationship trauma needing healing. - Without healing relationship trauma: * you settle for lustful experiences rather than loving experiences * you get in a relationship, but keep entertaining other potential options – just in case your relationship ends * you do anything to please your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you become possessive and control your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you lack trust issues and make misleading assumptions when your partner doesn't text back for awhile or goes a day without speaking * you get in a relationship, but your heart remains closed — you fear letting someone else in - These aren't loving behaviors, but acts of fear.

 Relationships are meant to be vulnerable, unpredictable, and intimate. They are mediums for growth. Past relationship trauma shouldn't ruin new relationship potential for growth. - How To Heal Past Relationship Trauma: 
1. Start defining your own worth rather than depending on relationships to feel worthy. When you depend on relationships to feel worthy, you carry your past relationship experiences with you – including in your self-perception.
 2. If you are holding a grudge with any of your ex-partners, forgive them. Also, forgive yourself for believing they did something wrong.
 3. Don't leave feeling loved up to someone else. 
4. Don't get involved in a new relationship until past relationship trauma has been healed. If you get involved in a new relationship without healing, those feelings stuck inside will eventually project themselves onto your new partner; and create further trauma.

Publications: www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/publica...

Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...

Unveiling: Looking into the Mirror Of Self: Residential Retreat - Trinidad and Tobago May 2017
https://www.facebook.com/events/22325...

Choose

Choice terrifies people. Most of us will do anything to postpone making a choice, terrified of the consequence, terrified of being held accountable for the consequences, choice is a fundamental power of the human experience - Carolyn Myss

Pay attention when you have to make a choice, start with the simple things, someone may ask you to go to lunch, where do you want to eat. Watch your response
"Oh Wherever I don't know"
"You choose"
the small things turn into the big things

Your little decisions add up
Your choices, each and every one, have a consequence, even your "non-choices"

Make a decision, take a risk
What keeps us stuck is fear, shame and looking back and what happened back then, back there, to determine what and how to move forward
That's in the past, you may not even be in the same position, be the same person. Do not use the past as your compass for making a decision
Do not use fear, shame and what if
your choice is a super power
Whatever happens, you will get something out of it and that something may be even better than you anticipated

Choose!
Peace

Know who you are and act accordingly

Every response you make is determined by what you think you are, and what you want to be is what you think you are. What you want to be, then, must determine every response you make ACIM. 
Actions, it's your actions that show  who who are. End of storyI really am not so much concerned by your words, words are easy to say. It's your actions that tell me who you areYour actions reveal to me how you value yourself, and I have learnt how one values themselves shows me how I am to move forward in my interaction with you!Hurt and scared people show that they are calling out for love - That they have forgotten who they are and so act on their own "so called strength" or maybe they just don't know who they are and act from that spaceWhen you forget or don't know that you are 1. Enough2. A Child of the Source of All things3. Loved4. Have nothing to prove5. Have nothing to fearYour actions show thatFrom today, remember who you are, know who you are and act accordinglyPeace
Unveiling - Looking in the Mirror of Self - A residential retreat in Trinidad and Tobago - May 26th 2017 - Invest in your own Unveiling:https://www.facebook.com/events/22325...
Ted Talk:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
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Control can be difficult to recognise

Rest assured that control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right
You will lie to prove you are right
You are yelling in order to be heard
You won't say anything believing you won't be heard
The only view that make sense is yours
The only thing that maters is what matters to you
You are still giving reasons WHY after someone has said no
You think if someone get what they need or want you will not get what you want or need
You jump on someone's "case" to keep them off of your "case"
You believe someone can hurt or harm you and you are trying to avoid it
Until Today


Surrender takes courage. Not the give up surrender, not the resignation and throw your hands up in the air thinking what's the point surrender, neither do I mean the detached I don't give a damn attitude type either
I am talking here about the type of surrender when you know, when you know for sure that it renders you even downright peaceful, people start getting scared and shit, wondering what the hell is up with you
I am talking here about the surrender of the need to be right
I am talking about the surrender when you can hear other people's point of view, disagree with it and smile and say yea, you do your thing I hear you and know that you know that you know you have absolutely nothing to defend, to prove, you have nothing to worry about and in this case you don't give a damn what they think because it really ain't your damn business
That takes courage
I am talking about the surrender that believes that  all is well in your world because you are prayed up and fired up and clear on your vision and purpose  the surrender where you relinquish control knowing that you got this! No matter what it looks like at the moment
The surrender when you own your shit, you take responsibility and will not project, blame and start drama
That shit takes some courage and we get tested everyday
I have learnt that surrender is a spiritual experience and I rather be happy than right.

Peace

Ted Talk:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...

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Unveiling 2017 - Looking into the Mirror of Self- May 26th 2017, Trinidad and Tobago a few spots left in the circle

What makes you happy?

We think that the more we have, the happier we will be. We never know what tomorrow might bring, so we collect and save as much as we can. This means we need a lot of money, so we gradually start judging people by how much money they have. You convince yourself that you need to make a lot of money so you don’t miss out on success. And for you to make money, you need everyone else to spend their money. And so it goes. Fumio SasakiThe more we have, the more we feel valued is what is sold to us.From all angles, the better handbag we own, the faster car, the brand name show, the high end TV, the house on the hill- all nice I will agree.however when we make it or base or value and worth on having these things then therein lies the challengeAll of those "things" are fleeting and when we base our worth and value on having things it usually leads to problems, we accumulate things it makes us happy for a while and then we realize there is a better thing, a shinier thing, an updated version and the cycle continues. When we cannot get that particular thing, we feel unhappy. we may even do things that may dishonor ourselves unbeknownst to us in the process of acquiring the things to make us happier, guilt sets in as well. And the cycle continuesSo the question is can you be happy without the "things" can you find a way to be comfortable knowing that things says something about you but they can never define who you are or your worthDo you know what makes you happy?Do you know just by virtue of being born that you are enough?Do you even believe this?Ask yourselfPeace

Piss off some more people

One must be fueled by something that runs deeper than praise and positivity, or put downs and negativity. One must find inspiration from both the energy that leads some to dislike, and others to become infatuated. And at all times one must remain connected to one's very own source enough to maintain oneself. Maintenance. One must be the caretaker of self. A caregiver for health. The being in the mirror is always you. Natalie 
Stewart

The very thing that I run from I must face- with everything. So why not remain still for a minute and face it?
 Because of Fear- plain and simple

And why run? Fear!

Fear of what?

The list starts with fear of pissing people off, fear of letting myself down and ends with  again, fear of pissing people off
And why is pissing people off such a fear

I thought about that question and the fear of pissing people off goes back to when I was a child
I could not bear "pissing off" my father, I  really just could not bear it, his response was either the silent treatment  for days or an extreme telling off.  Bingo! That's it! I associate pissing people off with those behaviours and my my my what is this living in the past doing to me?

So here are the lessons:
1. Let go of the past
2. Forgive yourself
3. Forgive him
4. Move on swiftly
5. Piss off some more people

What are your triggers and the lessons associated with them?
Peace

Observe how You Resist

Delaying Tactics

1. I'll do it later
2. I can't think right now
3. I don't have the time right now
4.It would take too much time away from work
5. Yes, that's a good idea I will do it some other time
6. I have too many other things to do
7. I'll think about it tomorrow
8. As soon as I get through with _______
9. As soon as I get back from this trip
10. The time isn't right
11. Its too late or too soon
Louise Hay

Ask Yourself
Do you have any delaying tactics?
Do you even know they are delaying tactics?
Do you even care that you have delaying tactics?
Do you want to continue having delaying tactics?

Peace





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Push it Real Good

If you think you’re defective or in need of fixing (which is the biggest lie of all), you will most definitely attract lovers, teachers, preachers, and politicians who want to so-called “love” you, and “fix” you, and “lead” you Danielle La Porte
Today I ran a 10k race. This was probably the second ever 10k race I have done ever, before I would walk half and run half. I decided to push myself, my goal was to run the entire thing no stopping.I came in second from last with my best ever time in a race. I was so happy, mainly because I ran all the way and when I saw the time on the big clock at the finish line I thought wow, that is not bad. Even in finishing close to the last I thought, all of the participants are runners, that's what they do, they run and they train to run. I thought about how much it makes a difference with who you surround yourself with, if I surround myself with people who are pushing it, doing it, been there and done it, then I learn, I get better and I'm on it!Same as in life, I started to think, who do I surround myself with am I pushing anyone? Is anyone pushing me? because hey, then what's the ;point? stay comfortable and stagnant?No siree!I have decided to push myself in the hope that it can also push someonePush on!Peace
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Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7...
Unveiling 2017 https://www.facebook.com/events/22325...

Knowing is peaceful

Let's stick to understandin and we won't fall
For better or worse times, I hope to me you call
So I pray everyday more than anything
friends will stay as we begin to lay
this foundation for a family - love ain't simple
Why can't it be anything worth having you work at annually
Granted we known each other for some time It don't take a whole day to recognize sunshine - Common 


Women have this gift called intuition - a guiding light or a guiding voice which usually comes as a whisper heard most when there is little "noise", it never leaves us, never leads us astray and is seldom logical

I believe men have some sort of guide as well, but I am not a man, never been one,  so I cannot say for sure

When we know, we know
One of the most harmful things you can do to yourself is acting as if you don't know when you know
Listen, that is a recipe for some drama
When you know and you act like you don't know for whatever reason, keeping the peace, not hurting someone, to get what you want, anything,any rationale or reason or excuse- according to Iyanla - that will not turn out well for ya!

When you know- recognize that it is a guide, a gift, a path
When you know - recognise that it may not "make sense"
When you know - act on it
When you know - know that there is nothing to fear

Knowing is peaceful, it is power
So act like you know
Peace


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