Colleen Brown's Blog, page 32

Hi Colleen! What's your advice for handling a long distance relationship? On some days, things are great between us while others are unbearable, as if what we have isn't real.

Hello love!!

In my eyes, it just depends on how they treat you. I once dated someone and it was a long distance. At first it was great (we dated a few years prior without any distance) but as time dragged on he became increasingly abusive towards me and started to drift away and pushed me away. He manipulated me, swore at me, made fun of me and basically made me feel as if it wasn’t worth it so I ended it. Even after ending it, he remained abusive. That’s my story.

If it’s the distance that is unbearable - the waiting until you meet (or meet again) that is unbearable, that is normal. Just because you’re not with the person all the time or sometimes doesn’t mean what you have isn’t real. As long as you both are there for one another, support one another and are willing to wait for one another, that’s as real as it can get. There is always distance put between us. Even if we’re right next to each other. Miles can’t separate your love (it sounds cheesy but it’s true). Don’t let others get you down either. I was in a long distance relationship before where I hadn’t met the person face to face and the people around me said it wasn’t real and that I was crazy but that didn’t make my love any less true. If you feel like this is the person for you, wait and be patient.

I wish I knew more about the manner of your relationship and the treatment because it would be even easier for me to answer this but I hope I’ve helped. Even a little.

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My baby is the size of a peach and if that isn’t the cutest thing, I don’t know what is.

My baby is the size of a peach and if that isn’t the cutest thing, I don’t know what is.

"I was never enough for youuntil you were left with nothing,no one to give you love. Am Isupposed..."

“I was never enough for you

until you were left with nothing,

no one to give you love. Am I

supposed to wait around for you

to realize that this is really what

you want, that I am who you want.

I have things I need to do too,

you know. The clock is not

only ticking for you and time

is not waiting for only you to

get it together. You only seemed

to ever want me when my heart

started putting the pieces together,

started noticing that there is

only one person who wants this

at all times, through everything.

So don’t be surprised when you

come back home to a half-empty

house that is filled with only

your belongings, your memories.

Because I have things to do

too and I’m not going to waste

my moments waiting on you

to see that I have always

been more than enough.”

- Colleen Brown, “I am not your 24-hour convenient store” (via poetrist)

This is our pregnancy announcement!! We love movies so we...

This is our pregnancy announcement!! We love movies so we couldn’t resist announcing it this way!!

You deserve love and happiness. You bring so much light and joy to those around you. We're all made of stardust, but the stars must have been having an extra special day when they came up with you. I hope you smile a lot today, and know how loved and value

You deserve all the same, angel!! These words have brightened my morning and have put warmth inside of my heart. Thank you, you sweet peach!!

I never thought in my whole entire life that I would find happiness like this. If you would have...

I never thought in my whole entire life that I would find happiness like this. If you would have told me 3 years ago that I would feel how I feel right now, I wouldn’t have believed you.

I always feel better and at ease sleeping next to someone. So you know, the monsters can get them...

I always feel better and at ease sleeping next to someone. So you know, the monsters can get them first.

I have been sleeping on a mattress on the ground for two months and I finally get to sleep in a bed...

I have been sleeping on a mattress on the ground for two months and I finally get to sleep in a bed and you know what I deserve this and I’m not letting anyone convince me otherwise.

went through a(n) verbally abusive relationship as well with an ignorant piece of shit and was looked upon as if it wasn’t concerned actual abuse :/ howd you get through it all?

Some people won’t believe what we say unless they have proof. That’s the ignorance of it all. Mostly when it comes to abuse from a significant other. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been questioned about it. “Did he really do that?” “But you stayed with him for so long.” “But he was really nice when you started dating.” “He did this and this for you so there’s no way he could’ve said or done that.” As time went on I realized that it didn’t matter if anyone believed me because I knew the truth. All I could do was confide in those who truly love me and trust me. I vented so much. I wrote about it so often. I confronted him at one point but all he did (as he did before) was deny it and turn the tables on me. I found out that the girlfriend he had after me (she was my neighbor) he also did to her what he did to me. People don’t change. It took me a good year to finally mend the wounds he left me with. I’ve been fortunate because I found someone (after years of searching) who truly loves me and cares for me. So don’t give up on hope and on love. Don’t believe that everyone person you come across is going to hurt you like they did. Know what you deserve. Know what you’re worth. Because in that case you will never settle and you will never let anyone make you feel less. Don’t ever ever ever blame yourself, ever. No one deserves to be treated like dirt. No one deserves to be talked down upon by someone who claims they love them and care for them. Realize that love isn’t hurt. Know that you’re stronger now and you won’t take any persons shit who treats you like you don’t deserve kindness, affection and love. All you can do is move on. All you can do is trust in yourself and believe that you’re going to find someone who is worth your time and the love you give them. You have so much love to give!!! Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t appreciate it.