Hi Colleen! What's your advice for handling a long distance relationship? On some days, things are great between us while others are unbearable, as if what we have isn't real.

Hello love!!

In my eyes, it just depends on how they treat you. I once dated someone and it was a long distance. At first it was great (we dated a few years prior without any distance) but as time dragged on he became increasingly abusive towards me and started to drift away and pushed me away. He manipulated me, swore at me, made fun of me and basically made me feel as if it wasn’t worth it so I ended it. Even after ending it, he remained abusive. That’s my story.

If it’s the distance that is unbearable - the waiting until you meet (or meet again) that is unbearable, that is normal. Just because you’re not with the person all the time or sometimes doesn’t mean what you have isn’t real. As long as you both are there for one another, support one another and are willing to wait for one another, that’s as real as it can get. There is always distance put between us. Even if we’re right next to each other. Miles can’t separate your love (it sounds cheesy but it’s true). Don’t let others get you down either. I was in a long distance relationship before where I hadn’t met the person face to face and the people around me said it wasn’t real and that I was crazy but that didn’t make my love any less true. If you feel like this is the person for you, wait and be patient.

I wish I knew more about the manner of your relationship and the treatment because it would be even easier for me to answer this but I hope I’ve helped. Even a little.