Ernest Wamboye's Blog, page 19

How did you get out of porn and masturbation?

Hi Ernest, your blog articles have helped me a lot. Please don’t stop writing. Often we criticize men of Godwhenthey fail and keep mum when they do well. I think it is a disservice to the Body of Christ. I’m learning to appreciate the people God is using to build me. But that’s not why I am writing. I have a personal question, drawn from one of your confessions, and I know you won’t mindanswering it. This is the question: How did you get out of porn and masturbation? I know you’ve written...

Should I marry a partner who has cheated on me?

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Hi Ernest. I would like to say thank you for the ministry that you and your wife are doing. I have personally been blessed and I have learned to put my trust in Christ whenever I face obstacles in my life. But I’m writing to you on a different note. I am a born again Christian and I was in a courtship relationship that was leading to marriage. I say “was” because the relationship ended one month ago. I found out from a friend that my fiancé had slept with another friend of mine. Ap...

Fighting fires, fostering foundations

In January we received an email that signed off like this:

“I have started reading Lust and the City. I’m happy to have the book with me. But one thing is that I want God to deliver me for this porn and masturbation problem. Please support me in prayers.”

My wife and I get many emails like those. During the month of February, she and Iget invited to preach and teach in many campuses in Kenya about Love, Sex and relationships. It is usually the busiest month as far as our ministry is concerned...

You must be born again

“She doesn’t drink, she doesn’t smoke, she doesn’t sleep around. She must be a born-again Christian.”

How many times have you heard that? Too many people in our post-modern culture would agree with that statement. Too many people are wrong. The truth is that our world is filled with many morally upright people who believe that their good behaviour equals good standing with God. The term “born-again” has been associated with strict moral conformity and conservatism. As a result, many people v...

A working marriage is a working marriage

The gender wars on how men should love women and how women should love men have flooded the blogosphere. Often, several readers inbox me soliciting my advice as well. I frequently point them to the scriptures and the responses are not very exciting. Perhaps they wanted some avant-garde view that had never been heard of before. They hoped I would quote Oprah and not Jesus. They wanted some fresh relationship mojo, maybe. But the truth is there is nothing new under the sun. My wife and I point...

5 things every born-again believer needs to know in the new year

It’s a new year and I know that many are excited. For the follower of Christ we know the scriptures that teach“The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.”Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NIV). The quality of the year is not evaluated by our new year plans and promises. Rather its quality is determined at the end when we look back and see if we lived the life we ought to have lived. The end is better than the beginning. Therefore Solomon in Ecclesiastes compels us...

Idolizing the good things: Relationships

Exodus 20:3 has the first commandment of the Decalogue:“You shall have no other gods but me.”With the biblical and historical background of Israel written for us, we can easily point out the idols- the golden calf, the Baal statues, the asherah poles and the moulded pagan deities. It is easy to look at all those and think, “Well, I definitely have no idols.” However the truth, Beloved, is that the command of idolatry applies today just as it did with Israel in the desert. You see an idol is...

4 things you need to do when your spouse hurts you

On September 1st 2015, my wife and I celebrated three years of marriage. I have attended many weddings since our own and I can’t help but notice something key in the fantastic sermons prepared by pastors for the bride and groom. Pastor John Wesley Nguuh preached in our wedding from Colossians 1 and 2 and he too did a great job at giving us last minute pieces of advice before we became man and wife. One common theme in all those sermons I have heard is this: your spouse will hurt you.When I he...

Good works can't take you to heaven

Man's natural response and disposition to sin is to look for dos and don’ts to justify or rectify his moral status. He can dismantle a sermon by deriving little implied though inconclusive commands-do this, do not do this. After he sits for the moral test that he himself has prepared and invigilated, he grades it as well with his perception of goodness as the marking scheme. In light of grand evils such as rape, racism, adultery, paedophilia and murder, he passes his own test and is rather pl...

FOR MEN ONLY: Protect your woman

FOR MEN ONLY: Protect your woman My wife and I have had several born-again young women write to us about the ups and downs of dating and young marriage relationships in the 21st century. One particular recurrent issue we keep hearing is, “I don’t feel protected by him” or “I just don’t feel safe with him.” When the young Christian man hears the term “protect your woman” from us, what inevitable comes to the minds of most is a picture of a gang versus the man. In the imagined scenario, the...