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Planning a godly stag party for a groom

Our friends are having their wedding. My wife and I are the best couple. As usual the girls planned a bridal shower for the bride-to-be.

I have seen this happen when ladies make transitions into marriage, motherhood, moving houses and other significant family-related activities. Nothing much happens for the guys. So I rallied up the groom’s groomsmen and some of his close friends and decided to do something equivalent.

We had what the culture would call a stag party.

When I posted a photo of...

Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual?

Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutual?

Hello Ernest, I am a single Christian lady. I sense that I am getting into a season where the LORD is preparing me for marriage.  There is a man who claims he loves me. We are both born again. He is mature in his faith and I like that. But I hold no feelings for him. He is a nice guy though. Should I just proceed with a relationship with him simply because he is a nice guy? Should I start a relationship when the feeling is not mutu...

Gratitude in marriage

Gratitude in marriage

Marriage vows are a powerful set of words. When a man and woman state them at the altar, some get teary and emotional. Some are filled with a tremendous feeling of devotion and loyalty. The vows are arguably the most important part of a wedding because they offer a look into the future- the marriage. And in the early months and years of the marriage, spouses treat each other as the most important person on the planet.

Men feel like kings and women feel like queens. The c...

A conversation about personal purity

I met a young man recently who was struggling with porn. He professed to be born again. He wanted to be free. I asked him how his entertainment was. I threw a few popular titles his way. He admitted to being a consumer of all of them.

“Are you aware that the trailers alone show that those programs are rated to have nudity and lots of sexual perversion?”

“Yes, but I ignore those parts.”

“How do you ignore them?”

“I just focus on the rest of the series.”

“Forgive me for saying this but that’s c...

PARENTING AND THE HOPE FOR OUR CHILDREN

PARENTING AND THE HOPE FOR OUR CHILDREN

We just got a new bundle of joy. Ivanna Njeri Wamboye. The name Ivanna is of Hebrew origin. It means gift from God. Turi and I are blessed to usher in our second born into this world. We are eager to see our first daughter’s reaction when she sees her new sister. Our first born is Thandiwe (Xhosa for loved one). We call her Thandi for short. Throughout the pregnancy we have been preparing her. I showed her two videos on my phone of Ivanna crying; Thandi...

Fantastic five: rekindling the romance in your marriage

Fantastic five: rekindling the romance in your marriage

When speaking to newly married couples on the intimacy of their marriage, we often ask about the depth of their friendships. We draw three circles of friendships for couples to consider: A supernatural friendship, a natural and a romantic friendship. We derived these three circles of friendship from Timothy Keller’s book, The Meaning of Marriage. A supernatural friendship is based on the depth of a couple’s mutual spirituality and abilit...

Avoiding the marriage comparison trap

When my wife and I got married, we constantly heard certain questions from other married couples. Where do you live? Where do you work now? Are you still doing that? Where are you going for holiday? At the onset we didn’t think much of it. However with time, we would almost sense a comparison game going on with some (not all) of the questions. We talked about it as we drove home one evening. We had just bumped into a couple that had openly asked us where we lived at the time. When we responde...

Assignment

Israel

3 BC

Gabriel dropped into the earth’s atmosphere at neck-breaking speed. The small blue and white bead in his view was growing larger by the second. The closer Michael approached, did more distinct colours of the planet Earth emerge- fields of blue ocean, patches of brown and green and scattered white. Today’s cloud cover was heavy. Despite it, landing would not be challenging for him; he had the room. He wasn’t too sure about the rest of the 72,000 Guardians in flight behind him. The...

Is the death penalty moral?

Is the death penalty moral?

Hello Ernest! I trust you’re doing well. I had an intense argument with some acquaintances today concerning the capital punishment sentence for Ruth Kamande’s murder charge. All of them were in support of the sentence. It would be a major understatement to say that I was both rudely shocked and deeply pained. I really don’t understand why anyone would support the murder of anyone regardless of how “major” the crime they’ve committed is. I have been brought up on a...

Having an affair

Having an affair

You don’t need to live past a week in this world as a married man without being riddled with thoughts of illicit sex. It is in our movies, our newspapers, our grapevine, our offices, the Internet and in the lives of people we know. Husbands who fall into the trap of marital infidelity may have given in because of the thrill that adultery and affairs promise. But the thrill never lasts. History proves it. The husband who loves the LORD must count the cost whenever tempted. Ult...