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September 26, 2013
To Thine Own Self Be True
This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. - Shakespeare's Hamlet Act 1, scene 3, 78–82This quote from Shakespeare's play means to be true to yourself. Live your life for yourself and do not let others try to influence you to do things you don't want to do.
Most of us have two distinctly different sides to our personalities. One side is what we show the world, our outer authentic self. The second is our inner authentic self. The inner self is the one that only those closest to us get to see in depth. Our outer authenticity is how well what we say and do matches what is really going on inside us. Our inner authenticity is how well we actually know ourselves and are aware of our inner states.
No one is fully authentic all of the time in their outer presentation. Sometimes we need to put on an act to get by. Some people spend more time living unauthentically than others. It is unpleasant and can be damaging to you if you are trapped in jobs or relationships where you rarely get the chance to be yourselves. If you are in this type of situation, you need to start thinking of ways to change your life as soon as possible so that you can be free to express yourself authentically.
Surveys show that, on average, people who scored higher on tests for authenticity are more satisfied with life, have higher self-esteem and are generally happier. As Mohandas Gandhi put it so well, ‘happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony’.
Most people living any form of a BDSM lifestyle are usually not out in the open with their lifestyle choice. Many feel they need to hide this part of themselves from their family and friends due to the moralistic views of society. Some of us are fortunate enough to be able to maintain/practice/live, in part or whole, some form of a BDSM relationship out in the open.
In all of my posts, I try to educate and guide my readers in different aspects of BDSM, but do not push them to live or practice it exactly the same way as we do. Below are two lists of what Padrone Marco and I believe in.
Within a BDSM Relationship:
Respect from both sides of a relationship at all times, during good times and disagreements are a must. Educate yourself on as many different parts of the lifestyle as you can, so you can discover which ones you like. Dominants should help their submissives to grow intellectually, not just in learning and performing their tasks and rules.Always be open and honest and never lie to your partner/s.Loyalty is a must for a true and lasting BDSM relationship.Understanding and flexibility from both sides are needed.There has to always be 2 way communication.Submissives will and do have the right to anger, sadness, or jealousy. But, do not act blindly on these and talk out any and all problems with your Dominant.Emotional support and growth should be nourished always and deeply from both the Dominant and submissive.Having and maintaining patience is a must! Talking and discussing problems in a calm manner versus yelling and screaming at each other.
Globally in the BDSM Community:
Respect and honesty between others in the BDSM Lifestyle as a community.Never judge how others decide to live a BDSM lifestyle by your own standards, because there is no wrong way as long as it's consensual. Even if you don't agree or practice it their way.Respecting differing opinions and not causing conflict within our own community.Helping other people to grow and understand the BDSM Lifestyle from our own experiences and from the way we live it, but leaving the road open so that others can form their own journey. Standing up for the BDSM community rights to be seen and heard, while fighting the moralistic movement that would put us back in the closet.We take the above list very seriously and live by them every day. This post is a clarification for all of our readers in an effort to help you understand where our thinking comes from and why we choose to post the things we do. We use this blog to spread the beauty of the BDSM Lifestyle to those that do not know the real meaning of it, to help educate the curious and new people, as well as to promote a more open policy about living a BDSM Lifestyle in the open versus hiding in the closet.
We hope you continue to follow us and the education we hope to spread through our blogs and books by returning and reading us every day. Thank you for your continued support and we hope that our articles and peaks inside our own lives help you broaden your own knowledge of the Lifestyle.
Padrone Marco and Michelle Fegatofi
September 21, 2013
Freedom of Choice: Interpretations
The following is a poem I wrote about Freedom of Choice. We should be able to live and express our lifestyle on the internet and in the open if we so choose, just as any other group (religious, political, etc...) does.
Freedom to you is the ability to do anything you please. Freedom to me is the ability to serve my Master on my knees.
Freedom to you takes you to any place you want to go. Freedom to me keeps me bound, close to my Master, with my head bent low.
Freedom to you gives you the right to make all the decisions for your life. Freedom to me means that all decisions are made for me to keep me happy, safe and away from all strife.
Freedom to you gives you the right to dress any way you want. Freedom to me is dressing in the clothes only Master has bought.
Freedom to you is expressing yourself in any way, no matter how wrong or right. Freedom to me is always expressing myself in ways that always reflect on my Master in a positive light.
Freedom of expression, choices and life, are vast and different from one person to another. But that Freedom does not give us the right to judge each other.
My choice, my life, my service as a BDSM slaveI should not have to deal with the constant backlash from the huge moralistic wave.
When that choice is constantly challenged, trying to silence my right to be heard,Then Freedom of choice is no freer than a beautifully caged bird.
My right to be heard, my right to be proud, My right to live openly as the collared submissive slave that I am.
To me this is real Freedom and this is my right.And until we as a community are either accepted or left alone, I will not bow down or give up the fight.
Freedom to you is the ability to do anything you please. Freedom to me is the ability to serve my Master on my knees.
Freedom to you takes you to any place you want to go. Freedom to me keeps me bound, close to my Master, with my head bent low.
Freedom to you gives you the right to make all the decisions for your life. Freedom to me means that all decisions are made for me to keep me happy, safe and away from all strife.
Freedom to you gives you the right to dress any way you want. Freedom to me is dressing in the clothes only Master has bought.
Freedom to you is expressing yourself in any way, no matter how wrong or right. Freedom to me is always expressing myself in ways that always reflect on my Master in a positive light.
Freedom of expression, choices and life, are vast and different from one person to another. But that Freedom does not give us the right to judge each other.
My choice, my life, my service as a BDSM slaveI should not have to deal with the constant backlash from the huge moralistic wave.
When that choice is constantly challenged, trying to silence my right to be heard,Then Freedom of choice is no freer than a beautifully caged bird.
My right to be heard, my right to be proud, My right to live openly as the collared submissive slave that I am.
To me this is real Freedom and this is my right.And until we as a community are either accepted or left alone, I will not bow down or give up the fight.
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September 19, 2013
A Loving Master
A Loving Master
by Michelle Fegatofi
When I am serving Him, I am free,When I am kneeling to Him, I am me.
When I feel His pride in my submission, I am elated,When I know He is happy, the pride I feel inside can’t be stated.
When He looks at me with love and authority, my soul soars,When He puts His hand on my head, he touches me to my core.
When I’m flying high, He tethers me to the ground,When I am scared, He protects me all around.
When I am weak, He always gives me His strength,When I need to talk, He always listens to me at length.
When I doubt myself, He always holds me high,When I am in tears, He holds me tight and lets me cry.
He is my Master, my one and true guide, He is the only one from whom I will never have a reason to hide.
He is the center, the one that my world revolves around, He is the one to whom I will always and forever remain bound.
When I am serving Him, I am free,When I am kneeling to Him, I am me.
When I feel His pride in my submission, I am elated,When I know He is happy, the pride I feel inside can’t be stated.
When He looks at me with love and authority, my soul soars,When He puts His hand on my head, he touches me to my core.
When I’m flying high, He tethers me to the ground,When I am scared, He protects me all around.
When I am weak, He always gives me His strength,When I need to talk, He always listens to me at length.
When I doubt myself, He always holds me high,When I am in tears, He holds me tight and lets me cry.
He is my Master, my one and true guide, He is the only one from whom I will never have a reason to hide.
He is the center, the one that my world revolves around, He is the one to whom I will always and forever remain bound.
A Loving Master
A Loving Master
by Michelle Fegatofi
When I am serving Him, I am free,When I am kneeling to Him, I am me.
When I feel His pride in my submission, I am elated,When I know He is happy, the pride I feel inside can’t be stated.
When He looks at me with love and authority, my soul soars,When He puts His hand on my head, he touches me to my core.
When I’m flying high, He tethers me to the ground,When I am scared, He protects me all around.
When I am weak, He always gives me His strength,When I need to talk, He always listens to me at length.
When I doubt myself, He always holds me high,When I am in tears, He holds me tight and lets me cry.
He is my Master, my one and true guide, He is the only one from whom I will never have a reason to hide.
He is the center, the one that my world revolves around, He is the one to whom I will always and forever remain bound.
When I am serving Him, I am free,When I am kneeling to Him, I am me.
When I feel His pride in my submission, I am elated,When I know He is happy, the pride I feel inside can’t be stated.
When He looks at me with love and authority, my soul soars,When He puts His hand on my head, he touches me to my core.
When I’m flying high, He tethers me to the ground,When I am scared, He protects me all around.
When I am weak, He always gives me His strength,When I need to talk, He always listens to me at length.
When I doubt myself, He always holds me high,When I am in tears, He holds me tight and lets me cry.
He is my Master, my one and true guide, He is the only one from whom I will never have a reason to hide.
He is the center, the one that my world revolves around, He is the one to whom I will always and forever remain bound.
September 18, 2013
How to be the Perfect House Wife
This was taken from Helen B. Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood, published by Pacific Press in 1965.
The course was designed to teach women how to be happy in marriage.
I posted an article a couple of months ago about being a 1950s style Housewife in today's world and thought this article would fit perfectly as a second installment.
GET YOUR WORK DONE Plan your tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before he is expected. Your anguished cry, "Are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome.
HAVE DINNER READYPlan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
PREPARE YOURSELFTake 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. This will also make you happy to see him instead of too tired to care. Turn off the worry and be glad to be alive and grateful for the man who is going to walk in. While you are resting you can be thinking about your Fascinating Womanhood assignment and all you can do to make him happy and give his spirits a lift. When you arise, take care of your appearance. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. in a bucket or wastebasket and put them in the back bedroom for sorting later. Then run a dustcloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. Having the house in order is another way of letting him know that you care and have planned for this homecoming.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small) comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them look the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE Especially give heed to this if your husband has to join rush hour traffic. At the time of his arrival eliminate noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet at the time of their father's arrival. Let them be a little noisy beforehand to get it out of their system.
BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. Tell him that it is good to have him home. This may make his day worthwhile. If there is any romance left in you, he needs it now.
SOME DON'TS Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Solve the problems you can before he gets home and save those you must discuss with him until later in the evening. Also, don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as a minor problem when compared with what he might have gone through that day. Don't allow the children to rush at him with problems or requests. Allow them to briefly greet their father but save demands for later.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Don't insist on this however. Turn on music if it is one of his pleasures. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - to unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first, then he will be a more responsive listener later.
MAKE THE EVENING HIS Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and to relax. If he is cross or irritable, never fight back. Again, try to understand his world of strain.
THE GOAL Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Then add to this the application of all the principles of Fascinating Womanhood and your husband will want to come home. He will rather be with you than with anyone else in the world and will spend whatever time he can possibly spare with you. Try living all of these rules for his homecoming and see what happens. This is the way to bring a man home to your side, not by pressure, persuasion or moral obligation.
What do you think? As submissive women, do you agree with any of what is said? What do you do differently? I do believe in a lot of the things it says, but know that in reality a lot of the tips presented in 1965 can not be incorporated in today's family setting.
Let me hear your thoughts! Comment below!
The course was designed to teach women how to be happy in marriage.
I posted an article a couple of months ago about being a 1950s style Housewife in today's world and thought this article would fit perfectly as a second installment.
GET YOUR WORK DONE Plan your tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before he is expected. Your anguished cry, "Are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome.
HAVE DINNER READYPlan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
PREPARE YOURSELFTake 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. This will also make you happy to see him instead of too tired to care. Turn off the worry and be glad to be alive and grateful for the man who is going to walk in. While you are resting you can be thinking about your Fascinating Womanhood assignment and all you can do to make him happy and give his spirits a lift. When you arise, take care of your appearance. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. in a bucket or wastebasket and put them in the back bedroom for sorting later. Then run a dustcloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. Having the house in order is another way of letting him know that you care and have planned for this homecoming.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small) comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them look the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE Especially give heed to this if your husband has to join rush hour traffic. At the time of his arrival eliminate noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet at the time of their father's arrival. Let them be a little noisy beforehand to get it out of their system.
BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. Tell him that it is good to have him home. This may make his day worthwhile. If there is any romance left in you, he needs it now.
SOME DON'TS Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Solve the problems you can before he gets home and save those you must discuss with him until later in the evening. Also, don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as a minor problem when compared with what he might have gone through that day. Don't allow the children to rush at him with problems or requests. Allow them to briefly greet their father but save demands for later.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Don't insist on this however. Turn on music if it is one of his pleasures. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - to unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first, then he will be a more responsive listener later.
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MAKE THE EVENING HIS Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and to relax. If he is cross or irritable, never fight back. Again, try to understand his world of strain.
THE GOAL Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Then add to this the application of all the principles of Fascinating Womanhood and your husband will want to come home. He will rather be with you than with anyone else in the world and will spend whatever time he can possibly spare with you. Try living all of these rules for his homecoming and see what happens. This is the way to bring a man home to your side, not by pressure, persuasion or moral obligation.
What do you think? As submissive women, do you agree with any of what is said? What do you do differently? I do believe in a lot of the things it says, but know that in reality a lot of the tips presented in 1965 can not be incorporated in today's family setting.
Let me hear your thoughts! Comment below!
How to be the Perfect House Wife
This was taken from Helen B. Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood, published by Pacific Press in 1965. The course was designed to teach women how to be happy in marriage.
I posted an article a couple of months ago about being a 1950s style Housewife in today's world and thought this article would fit perfectly as a second installment.
GET YOUR WORK DONE Plan your tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before he is expected. Your anguished cry, "Are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome.
HAVE DINNER READYPlan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
PREPARE YOURSELFTake 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. This will also make you happy to see him instead of too tired to care. Turn off the worry and be glad to be alive and grateful for the man who is going to walk in. While you are resting you can be thinking about your Fascinating Womanhood assignment and all you can do to make him happy and give his spirits a lift. When you arise, take care of your appearance. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. in a bucket or wastebasket and put them in the back bedroom for sorting later. Then run a dustcloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. Having the house in order is another way of letting him know that you care and have planned for this homecoming.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small) comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them look the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE Especially give heed to this if your husband has to join rush hour traffic. At the time of his arrival eliminate noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet at the time of their father's arrival. Let them be a little noisy beforehand to get it out of their system.
BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. Tell him that it is good to have him home. This may make his day worthwhile. If there is any romance left in you, he needs it now.
SOME DON'TS Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Solve the problems you can before he gets home and save those you must discuss with him until later in the evening. Also, don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as a minor problem when compared with what he might have gone through that day. Don't allow the children to rush at him with problems or requests. Allow them to briefly greet their father but save demands for later.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Don't insist on this however. Turn on music if it is one of his pleasures. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - to unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first, then he will be a more responsive listener later.
MAKE THE EVENING HIS Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and to relax. If he is cross or irritable, never fight back. Again, try to understand his world of strain.
THE GOAL Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Then add to this the application of all the principles of Fascinating Womanhood and your husband will want to come home. He will rather be with you than with anyone else in the world and will spend whatever time he can possibly spare with you. Try living all of these rules for his homecoming and see what happens. This is the way to bring a man home to your side, not by pressure, persuasion or moral obligation.
What do you think? As submissive women, do you agree with any of what is said? What do you do differently? I do believe in a lot of the things it says, but know that in reality a lot of the tips presented in 1965 can not be incorporated in today's family setting.
Let me hear your thoughts! Comment below!
I posted an article a couple of months ago about being a 1950s style Housewife in today's world and thought this article would fit perfectly as a second installment.
GET YOUR WORK DONE Plan your tasks with an eye on the clock. Finish or interrupt them an hour before he is expected. Your anguished cry, "Are you home already?" is not exactly a warm welcome.
HAVE DINNER READYPlan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
PREPARE YOURSELFTake 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. This will also make you happy to see him instead of too tired to care. Turn off the worry and be glad to be alive and grateful for the man who is going to walk in. While you are resting you can be thinking about your Fascinating Womanhood assignment and all you can do to make him happy and give his spirits a lift. When you arise, take care of your appearance. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. in a bucket or wastebasket and put them in the back bedroom for sorting later. Then run a dustcloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. Having the house in order is another way of letting him know that you care and have planned for this homecoming.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN Take just a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small) comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them look the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE Especially give heed to this if your husband has to join rush hour traffic. At the time of his arrival eliminate noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet at the time of their father's arrival. Let them be a little noisy beforehand to get it out of their system.
BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM Greet him with a warm smile and act glad to see him. Tell him that it is good to have him home. This may make his day worthwhile. If there is any romance left in you, he needs it now.
SOME DON'TS Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Solve the problems you can before he gets home and save those you must discuss with him until later in the evening. Also, don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as a minor problem when compared with what he might have gone through that day. Don't allow the children to rush at him with problems or requests. Allow them to briefly greet their father but save demands for later.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE Have him lean back into a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to massage his neck and shoulders and take off his shoes. Don't insist on this however. Turn on music if it is one of his pleasures. Speak in a soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax - to unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first, then he will be a more responsive listener later.
MAKE THE EVENING HIS Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and to relax. If he is cross or irritable, never fight back. Again, try to understand his world of strain.
THE GOAL Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. Then add to this the application of all the principles of Fascinating Womanhood and your husband will want to come home. He will rather be with you than with anyone else in the world and will spend whatever time he can possibly spare with you. Try living all of these rules for his homecoming and see what happens. This is the way to bring a man home to your side, not by pressure, persuasion or moral obligation.
What do you think? As submissive women, do you agree with any of what is said? What do you do differently? I do believe in a lot of the things it says, but know that in reality a lot of the tips presented in 1965 can not be incorporated in today's family setting.
Let me hear your thoughts! Comment below!
September 14, 2013
Help! I'm Surrounded by Vanilla!
Everyday, we go through our daily lives in the vanilla world. When we go to work, take the kids to school, go shopping, visit friends, or just go about our routines, we are surrounded by normal or "vanilla" people. We all maintain some level of "normal/vanilla" so we don't draw undue attention to ourselves or our lifestyle.
The majority of people following BDSM blogs or sites are entirely vanilla except for the brief moments in time when they are online or in the bedroom and get to explore the BDSM side of their personality. Now, there are many people and couples like myself that live the lifestyle 24/7, but the majority do not.
So, if you want to incorporate more of the Lifestyle into your daily life, without upsetting your vanilla world too much, how would you do that? The following tips can be used in cyber or real life relationships.
Dominants
Have your submissive use text messaging or email to check-in with you certain times of the day to let you know where they are.Give your submissive specific orders of what to wear (color of panties each day; heels or flat shoes; dress or pants, etc...)Give your submissive a token of her position to wear as a reminder (collar, bracelet, ring)Give her orders of what color to paint her nails each weekGive her reasonable tasks to follow each day
SubmissivesKeep a photo record of the places you go or tasks you accomplish during the day and send them to your DominantUse a GPS tracking software on your cell phone to allow your Dominant to see your whereabouts anytime they want to. Send a text message when you arrive and when you leave a new locationWrite an email of what your daily schedule for that day and send it to your Dominant either the night before or first thing in the morning
These are but a few of the rules you can incorporate into your relationship to help you feel more submissive or Dominant in a vanilla world.
If you have any other suggestions, please comment below. We love hearing from you!
The majority of people following BDSM blogs or sites are entirely vanilla except for the brief moments in time when they are online or in the bedroom and get to explore the BDSM side of their personality. Now, there are many people and couples like myself that live the lifestyle 24/7, but the majority do not.
So, if you want to incorporate more of the Lifestyle into your daily life, without upsetting your vanilla world too much, how would you do that? The following tips can be used in cyber or real life relationships.
Dominants
Have your submissive use text messaging or email to check-in with you certain times of the day to let you know where they are.Give your submissive specific orders of what to wear (color of panties each day; heels or flat shoes; dress or pants, etc...)Give your submissive a token of her position to wear as a reminder (collar, bracelet, ring)Give her orders of what color to paint her nails each weekGive her reasonable tasks to follow each day
SubmissivesKeep a photo record of the places you go or tasks you accomplish during the day and send them to your DominantUse a GPS tracking software on your cell phone to allow your Dominant to see your whereabouts anytime they want to. Send a text message when you arrive and when you leave a new locationWrite an email of what your daily schedule for that day and send it to your Dominant either the night before or first thing in the morning
These are but a few of the rules you can incorporate into your relationship to help you feel more submissive or Dominant in a vanilla world.
If you have any other suggestions, please comment below. We love hearing from you!
BDSM Basics for Beginners Book Now Available on Kindle!
Many of you have asked me when my first book,
BDSM Basics for Beginners - A Guide for Dominants and Submissives Starting to Explore the Lifestyle
, will be available on Kindle and I am proud to announce that it finally is!
Follow this link to Kindle books to download your copy today! http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F6K25WU
If you don't have a Kindle, and want to purchase it in a different format, it is available in paperback from Amazon, but also in ebook format for Barnes and Noble Nook and Apple ibooks. For pdf or epub formats, please click on the link to Lulu.com
Below are the links that will take you directly to the book on the various sites.
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Bdsm-Basics-Beginners-Dominants-Submissives/dp/1300837101/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369180725&sr=8-1&keywords=michelle+fegatofi
Barnes&Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bdsm-basics-for-beginners-a-guide-for-dominants-and-submissives-starting-to-explore-the-lifestyle-michelle-fegatofi/1115085227?ean=9781300838609
Apple iBooks: https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/bdsm-basics-for-beginners/id627641268?mt=11
Lulu: http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/MichelleFegatofi
Follow this link to Kindle books to download your copy today! http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F6K25WU
If you don't have a Kindle, and want to purchase it in a different format, it is available in paperback from Amazon, but also in ebook format for Barnes and Noble Nook and Apple ibooks. For pdf or epub formats, please click on the link to Lulu.com
Below are the links that will take you directly to the book on the various sites.
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Bdsm-Basics-Beginners-Dominants-Submissives/dp/1300837101/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369180725&sr=8-1&keywords=michelle+fegatofi
Barnes&Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bdsm-basics-for-beginners-a-guide-for-dominants-and-submissives-starting-to-explore-the-lifestyle-michelle-fegatofi/1115085227?ean=9781300838609
Apple iBooks: https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/bdsm-basics-for-beginners/id627641268?mt=11
Lulu: http://www.lulu.com/spotlight/MichelleFegatofi
September 12, 2013
Musical Butt Spanking Video!
Someone posted this in a group that I'm in on Facebook. Normally, we don't share posts like this we found around the internet, but this was too funny not to share! Hope you all enjoy!
