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April 7, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – Deception, by D. B. Reynolds
April 6, 2015
April 2, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – In The Absence of Light by Adrienne Wilder -
March 26, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – Curious by R.G. Alexander
March 24, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – Gyrfalcon by Anna Butler -
March 23, 2015
ManCandy Monday – Is a well dressed man part 2
March 19, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – Bond of the Lycaon Concubine by Talon P.S. & Princess S.O.
March 18, 2015
BACKSTAGE WITH THE TWINS ~ No Plane No Story
March 17, 2015
BOOKS ‘n COZY SPOTS BOOK REVIEWS – How to Be a Healthy and Happy Submissive, by Kate Kinsey
~3.5 Stars ~
Review of HOW TO BE A HEALTHY AND HAPPY SUBMISSIVE, by Kate Kinsey.
Purchased on amazon.com
Non-Fiction / Self-Help / BDSM
Reviewed by Jaycee ~ for Books ‘N Cozy Spots Book Reviews, www.Talon-ps.com
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Beyond Fifty Shades of Grey, there’s an entire kinky world of BDSM, full of real life dominants and submissives enjoying an intimacy and satisfaction in their relationships that vanilla folk only dream of. Whether you want to explore your own submissive fantasies, or you’re just curious about what BDSM is really like, this book will answer all your questions, plus some you didn’t know you had.
Erotic author Kate Kinsey (“Red,” and “The Totally Uncensored Kinky Adventures of Chloe St. Claire, Sex Slave”) brings over a decade of experience as a submissive and kinky educator to this practical step-by-step guide to being a healthy and happy submissive.
Topics covered include: the differences between dominants and masters, submissives and slaves, and tops and bottoms; the different dominant styles; the truth about “training” to be a submissive; how to find like-minded folks in your area; how to negotiate scenes and relationships; what to expect at your first dungeon party; why some people actually enjoy pain; and the warning signs to look out for when talking to potential partners.
“Kinsey has written a no-nonsense guide that thoroughly explains the various kinks and fetishes that come under the umbrella of BDSM. Most importantly, she emphasizes the importance of protecting yourself along the way with knowledge, friends and self-awareness.”
“This is not fiction, but reality. Kate Kinsey has the experience to tell it like it is, not the way some vanilla writer imagines it to be.”
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I have been on the lookout for some time now, for a non-fiction, “here’s what you might want to look for” BDSM primer (for lack of a better word), authored by a submissive. There is a plethora of books out there written by Dominants, most dealing with recognizing Dominance and how to be a Dominant. There are even books about a Dominant’s perspective on submission and submissives, but ever the recalcitrant reader with zero inclination to Dominant outlook or tendencies, which was never satisfactory for me. Even asking from within the lifestyle, most recommended reference material was from a Dominant’s perspective, or at the very least a co-perspective.
I didn’t want to know what a Dominant thought a submissive should think, dammit, I wanted to know what a submissive thought, felt and discovered. I wanted a relatable frame of reference for what was “okay” for a submissive to think and feel and want and do. Even though, intellectually I already knew the answers, I wanted to hear it from the horse’s mouth so to speak; to feel it from the submissive’s heart.
I got that here. There were no great revelations, and as I said, I don’t think I really expected any. But that in itself is a confirmation and a comfort. Ms. Kinsey is a strong, aware and no-nonsense woman who happens to be firmly comfortable with both her journey and her destination. Her sometimes humorous accounts and her words-of-wisdom-to-live-and-submit-by were reinforcement. Yet at the same time she exhibits a sage and understanding look at the interactions of, and with the world around the world in which she lives. So this book itself, while not revelatory, gave me the inputs I was looking for from an insider who remembers what it was like to be an outsider. The truth is, many are and will always be outsiders, but the need for even those people to understand if not embrace the lifestyle is, in a way, almost as important today as for those who do seek to enter in.
As an observation, it has been surprisingly difficult to ask and get answers, particularly when you aren’t even really sure what the questions are. Statements such as those in the Amazon blurb above (“This is not fiction, but reality. Kate Kinsey has the experience to tell it like it is, not the way some vanilla writer imagines it to be” or “enjoying an intimacy and satisfaction in their relationships that vanilla folk only dream of”) are actually barriers to understanding, or more importantly to seeking understanding, at a time when understanding is critical to both those questioning their own orientation and to positively influencing the tide of public opinion for those who are not. As a reader and reviewer of the aforementioned (I’d say ‘aforemaligned’ but its not a word) romantic fiction, I’d like to come to well-informed conclusions as to the merits of the work I review. Nothing is less productive or in fact, more offensive, than uninformed opinion. To imply in commentary that “vanilla folk” are somehow less fulfilled, is to simply apply reverse barriers, and is ineffective in the quest for progress.
Fortunately, Ms. Kinsey herself has filled my personal bill and has relatably illustrated how fundamental both her journey as a submissive has been for her, has provided a sage and sane guide to others so inclined, and has imparted what I hope is seen as one of many wonderful tools of enlightenment for those outside who simply need/want to understand, if not adopt.
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HOW TO BE A HEALTHY AND HAPPY SUBMISSIVE also received the following ratings:
BONUS FACTOR ~ nicely provided the other-side-of-the-whip perspective on BDSM for the questioning submissive as well as the everyman/woman out there ~
March 16, 2015
ManCandy Monday – Is a well dressed man part 1
BOND OF THE LYCAON CONCUBINE by Talon ps & Princess so
Teaser:
Tristan paced the floor, glancing back at the body passed out on the bed. Damn, what the hell had he done? He couldn’t even remember how they got here, but he was pretty sure here, was in her apartment. He’d never been inside it, but the view out the window seemed to indicate that was where they were. He glanced at the large alarm clock next to her bed, still had another half hour before sun up. He’d have to wait until then before he could even call Vashon to tell him what happened. He growled with the aggravation and started up his pacing again.
What the hell was he going to say?
His body tingled, he felt like he had just finished a round of the most awesome sex he had ever had or devoured the richest blood feast, but damned if he could remember that either.
He went to the bed, gazing over Raina’s slumped body and sniffed, his scent was all over her. Damn it, how could he have? He’d never made that kind of slip up before. He pushed her hair from her neck, finding no bite marks there. Then pulled her shirt from her shoulder— none there either. It was the third time he had looked, but nothing was making any sense right now.
He lowered further, touching her with his muzzle, and inhaled deeply. She smelled so good, like starlight at night— and heavy in the sex.
No. He pulled away. This didn’t happen, there had to be some other explanation for it. He would never force a woman, especially one he liked as much as he liked her to endure bestiality. He was an animal, but he’d never lost control like that.
He tossed his head about, he could only remember she had been in danger, there was a fight— she touched him— but he couldn’t remember anything else after that. He had been so jacked up on adrenalin.
He snapped around and started pacing again. This wasn’t good at all. He usually handled the moon spells just fine. What the hell happened differently tonight that he couldn’t remember?
He went to the curtains and glanced out. He noted the grey and yellow colors on the horizon. Felt the releasing power of the moon under his skin. The sun was coming up now. Best he called Vashon and get it over with. Damn— but he was going to be in a lot of trouble.
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