Roxanne Roberts's Blog, page 8
September 27, 2012
Being strong...
One of the most difficult life lessons for me has been in those moments in time when I really should be allowing myself to show "weakness" (as I perceive it) and giving others the opportunity to help me, that I insist on "being strong."
In actual fact, this is not strong, and it's not even particularly intelligent...if it goes on too long, it is quite possibly harmful as well.
The lesson for me, is the fact that knowing my own boundaries, knowing where to draw the line in helping others and in having time for myself and my own needs is not only beneficial, but essential!!!
Knowing that I have reached the limit of what I am actually capable of doing without harm to myself, and loving and respecting myself enough to say "no, with all the love in my heart, no" is a life skill I was slow to learn, and one I am still actually working on.
There is a sense of "selfishness" and "guilt" and a whole heap of other humanly constructed emotive responses that flit across my conscious mind in these moments.
I have had to/and sometimes still have to, ask for some divine assistance in order to put a lid on the guilt, shame and sense of selfishness in order to take the time I need to do what I need to do for me and to say "no" to the people who perceive they need me.
At times, I have even gone as far as to break an agreement with another person in order to look after myself. That is, I have said I will help with this bake sale, or I will show up to that public appearance or whatever the case may be, and I have had to call and cancel. This is also very difficult for me.
The end result though is that if you continue to do things just because you said you would, because you would feel guilty or selfish if you didn't or some other form of obligation then I am not giving a gift of my time and services....only resentment can grow.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
In actual fact, this is not strong, and it's not even particularly intelligent...if it goes on too long, it is quite possibly harmful as well.
The lesson for me, is the fact that knowing my own boundaries, knowing where to draw the line in helping others and in having time for myself and my own needs is not only beneficial, but essential!!!
Knowing that I have reached the limit of what I am actually capable of doing without harm to myself, and loving and respecting myself enough to say "no, with all the love in my heart, no" is a life skill I was slow to learn, and one I am still actually working on.
There is a sense of "selfishness" and "guilt" and a whole heap of other humanly constructed emotive responses that flit across my conscious mind in these moments.
I have had to/and sometimes still have to, ask for some divine assistance in order to put a lid on the guilt, shame and sense of selfishness in order to take the time I need to do what I need to do for me and to say "no" to the people who perceive they need me.
At times, I have even gone as far as to break an agreement with another person in order to look after myself. That is, I have said I will help with this bake sale, or I will show up to that public appearance or whatever the case may be, and I have had to call and cancel. This is also very difficult for me.
The end result though is that if you continue to do things just because you said you would, because you would feel guilty or selfish if you didn't or some other form of obligation then I am not giving a gift of my time and services....only resentment can grow.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
September 25, 2012
The leap of faith....
There have been some amazingly trying times within my human contract where I have found myself wondering if I had the chance for a cooling off period after I signed...I mean REALLY, who would volunteer for some of this stuff?
One of these times, is the moment of fear or indecision that comes before a really big decision, life change or choice. It happens, I am human so I have to have conversations with my brain and tell it to mind it's own business because heart is in control; I have to see at times through the eyes of comfort and fear before I come to the reality of intuition and divine guidance. I have terrible self doubt at times (I mean...I talk to angels...to most people, that's NOT normal *laugh*) and also times where I feel that life is a bit black and bleak and despite all my efforts and those of my divine team, I have to ride it out.
One of the most frightening moments is to be standing on the edge of a drop off (metaphorically) and seeing that across the chasm is the goal or aspiration where the journey continues.
What I was told/reminded of today was that I can, if I choose, just jump, I may start to fall a bit; in that moment, all I have to do is believe, have faith in myself and the divine team guiding my journey. I imagine as I am standing at the edge, that I have wings, sometimes I see them clearly and then I can take a running jump off the edge and soar across...not hard when you have wings. In those moments when I can't feel my wings and I am plagued by self doubt, fear, anger, guilt...I make the choice to jump anyway and feel them growing as I learn...
It sometimes takes courage to be great and live your choice....but as you jump off the edge of the precipice, you will feel your wings start to grow, tested by your circumstance, you find the strength you need.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox
Today's remembrance was delivered to me by the faery who visited for a bit while I sat at the hairdressers today.
One of these times, is the moment of fear or indecision that comes before a really big decision, life change or choice. It happens, I am human so I have to have conversations with my brain and tell it to mind it's own business because heart is in control; I have to see at times through the eyes of comfort and fear before I come to the reality of intuition and divine guidance. I have terrible self doubt at times (I mean...I talk to angels...to most people, that's NOT normal *laugh*) and also times where I feel that life is a bit black and bleak and despite all my efforts and those of my divine team, I have to ride it out.
One of the most frightening moments is to be standing on the edge of a drop off (metaphorically) and seeing that across the chasm is the goal or aspiration where the journey continues.
What I was told/reminded of today was that I can, if I choose, just jump, I may start to fall a bit; in that moment, all I have to do is believe, have faith in myself and the divine team guiding my journey. I imagine as I am standing at the edge, that I have wings, sometimes I see them clearly and then I can take a running jump off the edge and soar across...not hard when you have wings. In those moments when I can't feel my wings and I am plagued by self doubt, fear, anger, guilt...I make the choice to jump anyway and feel them growing as I learn...
It sometimes takes courage to be great and live your choice....but as you jump off the edge of the precipice, you will feel your wings start to grow, tested by your circumstance, you find the strength you need.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxox
Today's remembrance was delivered to me by the faery who visited for a bit while I sat at the hairdressers today.
September 24, 2012
Savour the light
I know I have said this before, but I am going to say it again, and again, and again *laugh* Our life, all of our lives, are designed to be joyful, bring us love and vibrant energy. THIS is what we all signed the contract for, THIS is why we are here and aside from any other purpose we feel in our soul, having joy, light and laughter is ALL of our life purposes and our birth right.
You can begin to enjoy this principle by simply savouring the joy and love you already have in your life. The rich and beautiful relationships with friends. loved ones and family. The view outside your window, the texture of the colours and the play of the light. The finer details of enjoyable conversations, day dreams and interactions. All of the things that bring joy to your life.
Give thanks for the joyful moments, savour the beauty and the wonderful moments in gratitude.
Continue to do this daily.
Make a mental catalogue of all the wonder and excitement and dwell on these moments.
Keep giving thanks, keep dwelling on the beauty.
Before too long, the beauty, the wonder and the joy increase.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
You can begin to enjoy this principle by simply savouring the joy and love you already have in your life. The rich and beautiful relationships with friends. loved ones and family. The view outside your window, the texture of the colours and the play of the light. The finer details of enjoyable conversations, day dreams and interactions. All of the things that bring joy to your life.
Give thanks for the joyful moments, savour the beauty and the wonderful moments in gratitude.
Continue to do this daily.
Make a mental catalogue of all the wonder and excitement and dwell on these moments.
Keep giving thanks, keep dwelling on the beauty.
Before too long, the beauty, the wonder and the joy increase.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
September 23, 2012
be....just be
A few human moments lately, and I know I am not alone here; my human self is frustrated and "over it" and just wanting to move to the next stage. This has manifested itself with me pacing the house, starting and as quickly abandoning a lot of little jobs and activities, wandering as though lost and having no enthusiasm for things I usually throw myself into. I can't even seem to muster the energy to be "mad" about anything.
My brain automatically went to the phrase, "Life is only hard when you're on the wrong path," which while true, is somewhat of a trap at times too... I started to second guess, to doubt, to "rethink" and all of those other things that can happen when the brain starts to override the heart...
I was sitting at the beach side markets I attend once a fortnight with my books and faeries and I started to draw. Out came this delightful faery with the most amazing message...she was quite firm in her wording and VERY imperious in her commands and instruction...the message though was clear...
JUST BE!
I laughed and laughed; this is not a moment of confusion or time for a life review" I thought to myself, this is time to "just be;" to live moment by moment placing no particular importance on any one thing or any obligation or job, but just take time to reconnect and be.
Thank you faery *smile*
I don't think we should ever underestimate the healing and soothing impact of just being... and the knowledge that all the "stuff" that makes up life are really just moments to be enjoyed. The old adage of "If it's not fun, don't play" springs to mind today...so I changed the game and just sat and did nothing!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
forget the human, ego based moments where your brain tries to convince you that you should be sad and afraid...be joyful and heal
♥ ♥
My brain automatically went to the phrase, "Life is only hard when you're on the wrong path," which while true, is somewhat of a trap at times too... I started to second guess, to doubt, to "rethink" and all of those other things that can happen when the brain starts to override the heart...
I was sitting at the beach side markets I attend once a fortnight with my books and faeries and I started to draw. Out came this delightful faery with the most amazing message...she was quite firm in her wording and VERY imperious in her commands and instruction...the message though was clear...
JUST BE!
I laughed and laughed; this is not a moment of confusion or time for a life review" I thought to myself, this is time to "just be;" to live moment by moment placing no particular importance on any one thing or any obligation or job, but just take time to reconnect and be.
Thank you faery *smile*
I don't think we should ever underestimate the healing and soothing impact of just being... and the knowledge that all the "stuff" that makes up life are really just moments to be enjoyed. The old adage of "If it's not fun, don't play" springs to mind today...so I changed the game and just sat and did nothing!
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
forget the human, ego based moments where your brain tries to convince you that you should be sad and afraid...be joyful and heal♥ ♥
September 21, 2012
Acknowledge that you have all you need
We are, each of us, born with all the knowledge we need in order to be our perfect divine selves, and to live our perfect divine life.
It is a sad shame sometimes, that along the path of living this human life, that we sometimes forget what we know, and sometimes we bury it so deep that we feel lost and confused.
This is why instead of saying, "I learnt" something, I say that I "remembered" it.
All that is required to tap into this store of remembered information is to learn to listen to the messages our body and soul send us. To follow the little impulses and instincts that each of us feel every day within every situation. Sometimes, I have been so good at burying or ignoring these messages, that it will take an event for me to remember to listen again.
It is so easy to let the business and noisiness of life get in the way; to establish routines of safety and to not operate outside them. Our brain is, of course, also adding to the confusion and attempting to add fear, guilt, shame and hatred to blur the message as well....no wonder I feel a little lost sometimes *wry smile*
All that we need in order to live the perfect and joy filled life that is our birthright, is to remember to listen...or, as the case may be, relearn how to listen...all that we need is encoded within us, all the knowledge, wisdom, experience and courage...we just have to remember.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
It is a sad shame sometimes, that along the path of living this human life, that we sometimes forget what we know, and sometimes we bury it so deep that we feel lost and confused.
This is why instead of saying, "I learnt" something, I say that I "remembered" it.
All that is required to tap into this store of remembered information is to learn to listen to the messages our body and soul send us. To follow the little impulses and instincts that each of us feel every day within every situation. Sometimes, I have been so good at burying or ignoring these messages, that it will take an event for me to remember to listen again.
It is so easy to let the business and noisiness of life get in the way; to establish routines of safety and to not operate outside them. Our brain is, of course, also adding to the confusion and attempting to add fear, guilt, shame and hatred to blur the message as well....no wonder I feel a little lost sometimes *wry smile*
All that we need in order to live the perfect and joy filled life that is our birthright, is to remember to listen...or, as the case may be, relearn how to listen...all that we need is encoded within us, all the knowledge, wisdom, experience and courage...we just have to remember.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Eternal love
So much to say about this topic, and yet, there is so much I would rather not say simply because it is a very personal and deep topic.
I spent my childhood dreaming of the love I would have and the amazingness of the "perfect man" and all that entails. I fantasised through my teenage years about being swept off my feet by a man who would love and cherish me and with whom I could share every part of me with unconditional love, respect, friendship and a sense of peace and completeness.
I am fairly sure I am telling everyone's story here...it is not until later that we find ourselves becoming a little cynical and jaded about this thing we call "love".
What I have discovered along my journey is that love, true and eternal love, actually begins with the self.
I know, not very earth shattering is it? I am sure it is not the first time you have heard this particular statement, and I bet, if this is a concept that crosses your mind regularly that you're not all that happy about hearing it again.
However, I believe it IS quite earth shattering, it is momentous, and so VERY, VERY important.
No one will love you more than you love yourself. Making an agreement with yourself, your team and your "mate" whether future or now is more important than you might think.
I read some beautiful words just recently written by a lady called, Oriah Mountain Dreamer from a text called "The Invitation" and it really solidified this concept for me. Basically it wrote an invitation, with an open and loving heart, not tinged with regrets and bitterness from past loves, to the person she wished to have in her life. It was a soulful communication to the universe, her divine team and the lover than was yet to be in her life about the way she would chose to think, be and feel in eternal love. To e, it was also an agreement to let go of past experiences, to open her heart and soul to invite the love in.
In order to have eternal love, it is first important to be willing to receive it by loving yourself.
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxoxoo
I spent my childhood dreaming of the love I would have and the amazingness of the "perfect man" and all that entails. I fantasised through my teenage years about being swept off my feet by a man who would love and cherish me and with whom I could share every part of me with unconditional love, respect, friendship and a sense of peace and completeness.
I am fairly sure I am telling everyone's story here...it is not until later that we find ourselves becoming a little cynical and jaded about this thing we call "love".
What I have discovered along my journey is that love, true and eternal love, actually begins with the self.
I know, not very earth shattering is it? I am sure it is not the first time you have heard this particular statement, and I bet, if this is a concept that crosses your mind regularly that you're not all that happy about hearing it again.
However, I believe it IS quite earth shattering, it is momentous, and so VERY, VERY important.
No one will love you more than you love yourself. Making an agreement with yourself, your team and your "mate" whether future or now is more important than you might think.
I read some beautiful words just recently written by a lady called, Oriah Mountain Dreamer from a text called "The Invitation" and it really solidified this concept for me. Basically it wrote an invitation, with an open and loving heart, not tinged with regrets and bitterness from past loves, to the person she wished to have in her life. It was a soulful communication to the universe, her divine team and the lover than was yet to be in her life about the way she would chose to think, be and feel in eternal love. To e, it was also an agreement to let go of past experiences, to open her heart and soul to invite the love in.
In order to have eternal love, it is first important to be willing to receive it by loving yourself.
With love and lightxoxoxoxoxoxoxoo
September 20, 2012
True friends are like diamonds
When I was a teenager I heard this saying, and it has come up again and again throughout my life. Today I was reminded of it again, it goes:
"Acquaintances are like autumn leaves, plentiful.True friends are like diamonds, rare and precious."
The message this saying gave me then, and continues to give me now is that while you may have many people around you that you see, work with and talk with, it is important every now and again to assess those relationships and to look at what they mean to you.
Relationships, whether friendships, a life partner, with family or your own children really require one key ingredient...mutual caring. We have all had people in our lives who ring up, off load all the problems of the day on you and then say, "Gee, I feel so much better now thank you" and then hang up having NEVER once asked what might be happening in our world. We have all had people we have opened up to, told our story to only to find later that they didn't really care, they were just looking for some gossip to pass on.
There are these people in the world...they exist and make these choices for themselves.
In terms of you (me) I choose relationships that bring me joy, make me laugh, sing and dance most of the time. There are times I may be the strength and wisdom, and times where I may be safely vulnerable, but mostly, there is joy and laughter.
Periodically I do a "friends check" I look to see if the relationship is one of joy and love, or whether we have moved apart and our lives consist of only mutual grief sharing. Then I make the choice to cut the chords to those people with whom my relationship is harmful (whether to me or them) and move foreword, sending them love and light and just distancing myself from close contact.
YOU get to choose the people in your life that make you happy and help you grow, choose them wisely, and remove your energy from those with whom your relationship is unhealthy.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoox
"Acquaintances are like autumn leaves, plentiful.True friends are like diamonds, rare and precious."
The message this saying gave me then, and continues to give me now is that while you may have many people around you that you see, work with and talk with, it is important every now and again to assess those relationships and to look at what they mean to you.
Relationships, whether friendships, a life partner, with family or your own children really require one key ingredient...mutual caring. We have all had people in our lives who ring up, off load all the problems of the day on you and then say, "Gee, I feel so much better now thank you" and then hang up having NEVER once asked what might be happening in our world. We have all had people we have opened up to, told our story to only to find later that they didn't really care, they were just looking for some gossip to pass on.
There are these people in the world...they exist and make these choices for themselves.
In terms of you (me) I choose relationships that bring me joy, make me laugh, sing and dance most of the time. There are times I may be the strength and wisdom, and times where I may be safely vulnerable, but mostly, there is joy and laughter.
Periodically I do a "friends check" I look to see if the relationship is one of joy and love, or whether we have moved apart and our lives consist of only mutual grief sharing. Then I make the choice to cut the chords to those people with whom my relationship is harmful (whether to me or them) and move foreword, sending them love and light and just distancing myself from close contact.
YOU get to choose the people in your life that make you happy and help you grow, choose them wisely, and remove your energy from those with whom your relationship is unhealthy.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoox
September 18, 2012
Anything is possible
"It would be lovely to just live the life I want without a thought in the world for everything else wouldn't it? But THIS is my reality, like it or not, these are the cards I was dealt and the hand I need to play."
This statement was made to me just recently...my heart sank, my throat grew tight and I managed to mumble some appropriate reply before I walked away.
Another person who has decided to "settle" for what they think they were given.
The truth is, whether you wish to believe it or not, we have a choice in how we live our lives AND we were given the power to change it.
The only dictate, the only "thing" we were dealt, is the power and ability to choose. The only instructions we were given is to live happy and joyful lives, and in so doing, bring the light and love of our joy to others.
I don't really know how to go about changing the mind of someone who chooses to believe there is nothing else for them, and I don't think it is even my right to try. Change is a personal thing, something that happens only from within.
I know, and believe that we have the power to change the way our life is currently and create the future we desire...for me...this is EVERYTHING.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoox
September 16, 2012
You did your best
Sometimes we get so caught up in our journey and our need to remember or learn new skills that we forget something REALLY important.
Every now and again it is a great and amazing part of our journey to stop and take a quick glance behind us. Think of it a little like driving a car; there is the front windscreen, but there is also a rear view mirror. While it is essential to keep eyes forward most of the time in order to navigate and to keep focused on where we're going, just like driving a car, it is just as important to take a quick glance to the back and sides on occasion in order to be able to see our progress!
Take a minute or two to really LOOK at how far you have come. SEE the journey you have made and give yourself a pat on the back. ACKNOWLEDGE the effort you went to and the moments that have been and gone. Even if you perceive you have failed, give thanks for and credit to, the effort and learning that have happened along the way.
We aren't required to be perfect. My goal is to be the best example of a HUMAN BEING that I can be.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
P.S. I was thinking of a gorgeous being I know who loves all things car, and I couldn't stay away from this analogy...you know who you are ;)
Every now and again it is a great and amazing part of our journey to stop and take a quick glance behind us. Think of it a little like driving a car; there is the front windscreen, but there is also a rear view mirror. While it is essential to keep eyes forward most of the time in order to navigate and to keep focused on where we're going, just like driving a car, it is just as important to take a quick glance to the back and sides on occasion in order to be able to see our progress!
Take a minute or two to really LOOK at how far you have come. SEE the journey you have made and give yourself a pat on the back. ACKNOWLEDGE the effort you went to and the moments that have been and gone. Even if you perceive you have failed, give thanks for and credit to, the effort and learning that have happened along the way.
We aren't required to be perfect. My goal is to be the best example of a HUMAN BEING that I can be.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
P.S. I was thinking of a gorgeous being I know who loves all things car, and I couldn't stay away from this analogy...you know who you are ;)
September 14, 2012
When you are afraid
One of the most insidious of all human constructs is fear. It can get in under your skin when you least expect it and make you feel as though you "can't" as though there is "danger" as though you are not "worthy" and all of those other things that go with fear.
NONE of these things are real, they are illusionary. While I know this is a really easy thing to say, it can be just as easy to put into place and remember in those times when fear seems to be taking over.
Change in sometimes uncomfortable, and difficult (well seemingly anyway) and these are the times when fear will start to make itself known and try to stop you. This is your brain talking, not your heart; it is the ego, not pure love and definitely not from a divine origin...my rule of thumb? If it's negative, it is not divine.
I have a sure fire strategy that works for me when I feel the tendrils of fear start to creep into my thinking...I sing.
Yep, loudly (and badly sometimes) I sing and sing and sing. It is really hard to focus on fear when you are singing. I pick a song that motivates and inspires me, that matches the mood of where I choose to be, and I sing it. Sometimes inside my head, sometimes out loud, but I sing.
Fear is a defence mechanism our brain uses to keep us firmly in our comfort zone. Letting go of fear means embracing the magnificence of the world and all that it offers those who walk boldly.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
NONE of these things are real, they are illusionary. While I know this is a really easy thing to say, it can be just as easy to put into place and remember in those times when fear seems to be taking over.
Change in sometimes uncomfortable, and difficult (well seemingly anyway) and these are the times when fear will start to make itself known and try to stop you. This is your brain talking, not your heart; it is the ego, not pure love and definitely not from a divine origin...my rule of thumb? If it's negative, it is not divine.
I have a sure fire strategy that works for me when I feel the tendrils of fear start to creep into my thinking...I sing.
Yep, loudly (and badly sometimes) I sing and sing and sing. It is really hard to focus on fear when you are singing. I pick a song that motivates and inspires me, that matches the mood of where I choose to be, and I sing it. Sometimes inside my head, sometimes out loud, but I sing.
Fear is a defence mechanism our brain uses to keep us firmly in our comfort zone. Letting go of fear means embracing the magnificence of the world and all that it offers those who walk boldly.
With love and light
xoxoxoxoxoxo
