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Working the Phases of Trauma Recovery After Narcissistic Abuse

We say the words, DISCOVER, UNDERSTAND AND OVERCOME NARCISSISTIC ABUSE often enough that many of you may be very familiar with that phrase. Lets look a bit at how working the phases of trauma recovery after narcissistic abuse might look.  Each of these phases can go on simultaneously because healing from abuse is in layers. Different discoveries, understandings and overcomings happen at different times. There will be times during your recovery where you will feel like you are going backward...

Narcissists Use Guilt and Pity Ploy

Have you experienced the narcissist in your life giving you a guilt trip or using the pity ploy to manipulate your feelings? The narcissist will use this to hoover, to get away with something, to deflect any blame and to play on your empathy to get their way.

Personality-disordered people can not and will not accept accountability for any issue they create and will project the issue in many ways, the pity ploy being one of them. By playing on your empathy to make you feel guilty and using...

Quarantined with a Narcissist? Quick & Dirty Tips to Help You Survive With Less Stress

Stuck at Home with a Narcissist During the CoVID19 Quarantine? Heres How to Deal and What to Expect

Are you stuck at home with a narcissist during this difficult time? If you are, then youll need tips on how to deal and what to expect. This video offers you the honest truth about what you can expect as well as tips and ideas on how to deal with the narcissists manipulation and gaslighting in the moment, and more.

Self-Help Tips for Controlling Panic Attacks in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

How To Control Panic Attacks (For Toxic Relationship Survivors) The AWARE Method for Overcoming Panic Attacks (Actionable Self-Help Tips)

All of us experience anxiety from time to time but this is especially true for people who have been in toxic relationships with narcissists. And, its tougher when it evolves into a full anxiety attack or a panic attack. This is something that most of us will experience at some time in our lives and that can ultimately become crippling as you worry that...

Why ‘Fake It Til Ya Make It’ Isn’t Always Great Advice

Faking Happiness? Why You Need to Stop It, Right Now!

Want to Level Up Your Life? Quit Faking Happiness! YOU really can be happy and fulfilled after a toxic relationship with a narcissist.

Quit Faking Happiness and Learn How to Live Authentically

Many people are content with the lives that they lead on the surface, but deep down, crave something totally different. The most common excuse is that they could have it worse, so theres no point in complaining. You have to be happy by your own...

How to Shut Down the Narcissist During Silent Treatment

If youve ever experienced the silent treatment from a narcissist, youll know exactly why we call it emotional abuse. First of all, silent treatment hurts. Most narcissists that use silence as punishment in what we call silent treatment know they are doing it.

They will justify the silence by shifting blame, playing victim, outright stating why you deserve it or totally ignoring the fact that they did it. The silent treatment is felt by you as pain; it literally registers in your brain the...

6 Unique Eastern Teas that Help with Relaxation and Sleep

What do you do when youre stressed out? Do you grab a cup of tea or decide to take medicine? Regardless of what you do, it is better to grab a cup of herbal tea to provide relaxation to the brain. Teas have always held immense importance in providing calming effects on the brain. The history of herbal teas dates back to thousands of years that is why they are not new to this world. Despite their name, eastern and herbal teas are not true teas. They are made by immersing different ingredients...

End Rumination Now: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Going through a toxic relationship with a narcissist leaves many of us unable to stop overthinking everything. We get stuck in rumination. Do you find yourself spending too much time overthinking and not enough time getting things done?

Rumination and overthinking is common, especially when making decisions. Overthinking wastes time and lowers your confidence. The most successful people make decisions quickly and stick with them. The less successful take too long to decide and quickly change...

When You Feel ‘the Shift’ in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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Throughout the course of my recovery from a toxic relationship with a narcissist, I have found myself experiencing several shifts in mindset moments where it felt almost like some sort of switch had been flipped where I suddeNly understood things differently and recognized that I had been wrong all along in some way or another. Each time, I found myself evolving and growing in new ways.

For example, I have told you the story of how, after a profound betrayal by my toxic...

Recognizing and Overcoming the Pink Cloud in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

We’ve talked before about how the trauma bonds we develop with narcissists affect the same part of the brain as any other addiction. We are literally addicted to our toxic relationships, and that is why it’s so much harder to end a relationship with a narcissist than anyone else.

Just like any addict, we need to recover from our toxic relationships and gain control over our addiction.

There’s one phenomenon that early in recovery puts us at risk, and if we fall for it, we will end up “...