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When the Narcissist Doesn’t Come Back

Today, Im answering a question from a viewer named Mariposa, who asks why sometimes narcissists dont hoover. She also wants to know how to stop thinking about the fact that the narcissist left you and is now living happily ever after with a new source of narcissistic supply. You can also see this video on why the narcissist doesnt hoover, right here.

This is a great question. First, lets define hoovering.

What is hoovering?

Named after the famous vacuum cleaner company, Hoovering is what we...

How Long Does It Take to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse?

There is no set time frame for healing from narcissistic abuse. It is important to be patient with yourself when healing from toxic abuse and understand that healing is not a linear thing that can be measured.

Narcissistic abuse recovery takes time and effort at regaining self-love as well as focusing back onto yourself and your life. Recovery is a process, it is going to be different for each person and each situation.

Comparing your own healing with another survivor is really not an...

5 Examples Of Narcissistic Behavior

You may think that someone who is constantly sharing selfies is a narcissist. In fact, you may think that is the only sign that someone could be a narcissist if they are always putting up the flawless filtered selfies all over their social media channels only to get plenty of likes.

In some cases, that could be a sign. But not always taking selfies does not make one a TOXIC narcissist. In any case, that is not the only sign, and that is not the most concerning sign that someone is a...

Why do narcissists want monogamy?

Is there such a thing as a monogamous narcissist? Why do narcissists want monogamy when they really want attention from everyone else? Today, Im answering a question for a viewer, Shawna, who asks: Please do a video on why narcissists attempt monogamy when they really want attention from so many different people. I dont understand their over the top fixation on one person but playing the field.

Helpful Resources:

Can Narcissists Love? Narcissists and the Double Life Why Narcissists Cheat ...

Coronavirus Stay-Home Order Presents Unique Challenges for Narcissistic Abuse Victims

While the idea of sheltering in place is meant to keep us safe and help our communities flatten the curve of the coronavirus that is threatening our population right now, there is one part of the population that may be in more danger than ever and which continues to suffer in silence despite growing awareness of its concerns.

As it turns out, not all of us are truly safe at home. While everyone is talking about domestic violence victims, not many people are mentioning those who are suffering...

Why Do Narcissists Lie?

Most any survivor of narcissistic abuse knows the frustration, hurt and anger of catching the narcissist in a lie. We also know the feelings that arise when we see the truth that it is not just one lie but a series and pattern of lies. And eventually, we usually come to the realization that life with the narcissist was entirely made up of lies and that the nature of the relationship itself is one giant lie.

Did this happen to you? Did you begin to question everything after that?  Why is it...

5 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for Expedited Healing

After enduring abuse from a narcissistic partner, youll have a long road to recovery. But having the courage to leave an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist (whether it was from a partner or a parent, or anyone else significant) is a big deal you should pat yourself on the back! That was the hardest thing to do. Believe me, I know.

Still, recovery and healing are possible! Whether you choose a therapist or a coach (or even a free online support group), or you choose to go it alone,...

What Is Gaslighting?

Many people have been victims of gaslighting without even being aware of it. You may have been a victim of it as well. How would you have known? Firstly, lets go over what gaslighting really is and then you will be able to determine if this is something you have been a victim of.

What Exactly Is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a tactic that someone will use in order to become more powerful that causes you to wonder about your sanity. It is pure brainwashing. Many narcissists, abusers, and cult...

5 Tips To Spot A Narcissist

A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing peoples true colors. ~Karla Grimes

You already know that some narcissists can be extremely charming and likable. Some are loud and some are not. Does that mean that everyone who is charming is a narcissist? Not at all. Some people are simply very extroverted and are great with other people in...

Setting Boundaries with Toxic People

Setting boundaries is the first step toward taking back your power after narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship. I cant think of a quicker way to regain personal power and your own sense of self in a situation than knowing what your boundaries might be and being able to set them with others. Toxic people notoriously will try to destroy your boundaries. They will use many forms of manipulation to make sure their will is asserted over yours and push your boundaries farther and farther back...