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Narcissists Put You in the Middle of Their Arguments (Narcissist Triangulation Tactics)

Ever been stuck in the middle of an argument between two people? If so, you know exactly how gut-wrenching it can be – and that could not be more true when one or more of these people is a toxic narcissist. That’s because toxic people have a tendency to use triangulation, which is a manipulation tactic often employed by narcissists.

What is narcissistic triangulation?

More specifically, triangulation is what we call it when the narcissist communicates as a third party between two people but prev...

Why Do People Fall For The Narcissist’s Smear Campaign?

Narcissists have a funny way of doing anything they can to maintain appearances to people who aren’t really very important in their lives, while at the same time, caring very little about how they’re perceived by the people closest to them. One way they show this is through the liberal use of smear campaigns used against loved ones as part of their relationship cycles. The worst part is that people often believe the lies the narcissist spreads and this can lead to the complete destruction of you...

Common Behaviors of Toxic People – Narcissistic Deflection

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Narcissistic Deflection

Have you ever been upset with something someone did or said, and when you went to confront them, they turned the tables on you? Then suddenly you found yourself being the one begging for an apology? If so, stick with me, because this video is for you.

This behavior is an incredibly common manipulation tactic called deflection, and it is often used by narcissists to sort of get out of trouble as in, to avoid taking any responsibility for their...

Narcissistic Recycler (Why Narcissists Recycle Their Former Partners)

One of the most common questions people ask me early in their narcissistic abuse recovery is Will the narcissist come back to me? And sadly, I can often tell them yes, its highly likely. (See video here)

See, there are some narcissists who are infamous for their recycling habits but not the good kind of recycling that helps save the earth. Instead of recycling garbage, these narcissists recycle people specifically, people with whom they have relationships.

You might say that narcissists...

4 Things That Happen When You Ignore A Narcissist

What happens when you ignore a narcissist? In the narcissistic abuse recovery community, we often suggest that survivors go no contact and essentially ignore the narcissists in their lives in order to begin to heal.

But what should you expect when you try to ignore a narcissist?

We all know how desperately a narcissist wants to have all of the attention of anyone who might be willing to dole it out. And who of us doesnt realize that they demand attention from us their sources of narcissistic...

Am I Codependent? The 5 Signs That Point To That Strong Possibility

When you think of the term codependency, you may think about someone who is relying on substance abuse. But that isnt always the case.

What is Codependency?

Codependency is a toxic emotional and behavioral condition that makes it nearly impossible to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as relationship addiction because people with codependency often form and stay in relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.

In laymans terms,...

Healing the Inner Child After Narcissistic Abuse

Im not enough.

I dont fit in.

I cant seem to be heard, no one listens.

No one really knows me or wants to.

Nothing I do is right.

No one will love me, Im unlovable.  

Who taught you these were truths? Why cant you think differently even if you know they are not true? Why do you believe these limiting statements? How can you move past these beliefs? Im sure you can see how gaining perspective and changing these beliefs could improve your life. Lets talk about a few ways to understand and...

Narcissists Are Predictable: Here’s the Playbook!

Are narcissists all the same? I have had so many people read my books or articles, or watch my videos and say things like, I cant believe how accurate this is for my situation, or Have you been spying on me? This is my life! Ive even heard people say we must have the same parents or ex because my situation sounded identical to theirs.

Ive been researching and writing about narcissism and narcissistic abuse recovery pretty extensively for over a decade now.

One thing that has always stood out...

Narcissism Traits

How do you identify a narcissist? What are the toxic traits that best identify narcissism in a person? This guide will give you the answers you need to easily spot a narcissist in your life.

What is narcissistic personality disorder?

Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by a number of qualities, including one very important one that is shared by all toxic narcissists: the marked lack of empathy.

Narcissism first identified as a mental disorder in 1898 by a British...

There Are Two Pandemics Happening: Coronavirus And The Rise Of Mental Illness

Youre aware of the risks when it comes to not social distancing right now, as well as not wearing masks and gloves when you are out. Maybe youre young and healthy, but youre still trying to be extra careful with not putting yourself at risk for catching the virus. You may be not so much concerned about yourself. But you may be worried about passing the virus onto those who are physically vulnerable such as the elderly and those who have weak immune systems.

The goal is to protect yourself as...