Angela Atkinson's Blog, page 20
April 28, 2020
Narcissistic Friends
The sad truth is I have had to let go of a lot of people in my life in order to be free from abusive situations and toxic relationships. Narcissistic friends can be so hard to see and very challenging to remove from your life. I know I doubted the narcissism I so blatantly saw and wrote it off as just how they are in an effort to let people be themselves and be a friend anyway. Once I saw the patterns I was repeating with similar people to the narcissistic abusers I had as partners it became...
The Altruistic Narcissist Gives With Strings Attached
Have you ever met someone who was always happy to help you out of a jam, but who always did so with strings attached? You know the kind I mean. The ones who will cover your rent when you lose your job, or who will loan you a few bucks for groceries when youre a bit short because you had to pay for something unexpected. Or maybe you know someone who gives big, expensive gifts, or who makes generous, sweeping gestures that impress everyone they know. Or someone who would literally give you the...
April 24, 2020
Confusion in Toxic Relationships: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
After my first marriage, I found myself missing my toxic ex. It was the strangest thing! I knew logically that it was not healthy for me to feel this way but I couldnt stop remembering the good times. The longer I was away, the more the bad times seemed to slip my mind.
As it turns out, Im not alone here.
So often, I hear survivors of toxic relationships are sad about the loss of a narcissist not the toxic person they currently know, but the person they thought theyd known or the person...
April 23, 2020
Narcissist Mothers When Their Kids Hit Puberty
Original Question on Quora: Why do some narcissistic mothers only enjoy having children until they reach puberty?
My Answer:
I see this in both sons and daughters of narcissistic mothers but the effect is different for each. Puberty leads to physical development and when the child is a female, a narcissistic mother is often threatened by her. The mother may feel less attractive or even feel like she wants to compete with the daughter. In the more covert/cerebral narcissist, this will be a...
5 Simple Self-Care Tips That Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Forget
I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival. ~Audre Lorde
After breaking away from a toxic relationship with an abusive narcissist, you may find that you have forgotten how to treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated. You may not know how to nurture yourself properly, because you have not been nurtured. And because youve spent so much time focused on someone elses needs while ignoring your own. Fortunately, there are...
The Covert NarcNessMonster (Narcissism Revealed)
*Editors Note: This story was submitted by a fellow survivor of narcissistic abuse. Read more stories right here, and submit your own here.
An Original Poem
Life isnt the same, Your mask has been removed,
And I know your game.
Youve manipulated my life,
Given me a bad name & turned it into strife.
Youve turned my family & friends against me,
all for your own glory.
May the truth be revealed,
that you are only an imitation of love & empathy.
They will come to find your connection with them...
April 22, 2020
5 Warning Signs That A Narcissist Is Serving You Word Salad
When you hear of the term word salad, you may think that it is a bunch of edible scrabble pieces literally thrown into a salad. As cute as that sounds, a word salad is anything but cute. Narcissists and sociopaths will throw out a bunch of words that dont make sense if they are feeling threatened. They do this to purposely confuse you and it is a gaslighting tactic.
In other words, word salad is a narcissistic manipulation tactic that manifests as a confused or unintelligible mixture of...
33 Things Narcissists Say (And What They REALLY Mean)
Just call me the narcissist whisperer. Here are 33 more things that narcissists say in a relationship along with translations of what they really mean. See the full video here.
April 21, 2020
50 Red Flags That Should Make You Run the Other Direction: Narcissists and Toxic People
How can you avoid letting a narcissist (or other toxic person) get close to you? What are some things you can watch for when you meet someone new? And what if youre already dealing with someone who makes you wonder? You start by learning the red flags and watching for them.
First: Trust Your GutBefore we get to the list of some of the red flags to look for, one thing to learn about yourself is how to trust your gut. Your gut, your instinct, intuition, ability to discern will often guide you...
April 20, 2020
5 Weird Things That Narcissists Do
You already know of some signs that someone is a narcissist by how they make themselves seem as they are the most important thing of all. But what about other things that narcissists do that you would not even expect? There are things that they do that are quite unsettling and just strange.
Lets go over the 5 weird things that narcissists do in addition to the behaviors that they typically display.
1. Narcissists Never Blink While Looking At YouThink about someone who never blinks as they...
