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Why Are We So Obsessed with Kpop Idols? Understanding the Allure and Keeping It Healthy

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The Kpop world is more than just music. For many fans, idols represent a kind of perfection that pulls us into an almost addictive fascination. It’s not only about catchy tunes or vibrant visuals; it’s a fantasy world that captivates fans across the globe. But what makes these idols so enticing? And how can fans maintain a healthy balance in their admiration?

The Carefully Crafted Illusion of Perfection

Kpop idols seem almost flawless. Their polished appearances, c...

Why Are You Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People? Uncovering the Root Causes (For Limerents)

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In today’s world of screen-based interactions, social media, and filtered communication, emotional unavailability is a common yet complex relationship challenge. If you’ve ever been magnetically drawn to someone distant, hard to reach, or ambivalent in their feelings toward you, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in cycles of attraction to emotionally unavailable partners, often without fully understanding why. Here, I’ll break down some of the reasons behind...

How to Stop Limerence and Take Back Control from being obsessed with your crushes

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Limerence, an intense emotional obsession with another person, can make you feel like your happiness, self-worth, and even your daily thoughts are bound to how they perceive you. While it’s a common experience, limerence can be exhausting and make you feel disconnected from your own life. The good news is that you can stop limerence and take back control over your emotions, energy, and self-esteem. In this article, I’ll share actionable steps to help you reclaim your foc...

Can Limerence Become True Love? Exploring the Difference and Path to Healthy Relationships

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Many people experiencing limerence ask a crucial question: can their obsessive feelings ever transform into genuine love? This question arises frequently, as limerence—an intense longing for someone who might not reciprocate or even know about our feelings—can feel deeply emotional and consuming. To understand if limerence can evolve into love, let’s dive into what sets limerence apart from love and what it takes to cultivate a fulfilling, reciprocal relationship.

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Why Some People Get Caught Up in Limerence: Unpacking the Psychology and Emotions Behind Romantic Obsession

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Have you ever found yourself obsessively fixating on someone, constantly checking your phone for a text, or over-analyzing every small interaction? If so, you might be experiencing limerence—a term used to describe a state of intense romantic obsession where every gesture feels loaded with meaning, and the object of your affection occupies your mind constantly.

But why do some people become trapped in limerence, while others experience love more smoothly? Let’s break ...

Spring & Autumn Equinox – Tarot & Oracle Card Readings for all 4 elements

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Here is the transcript for you to follow along, courtesy of Tactiq!

00:00:01.719 hey welcome back to my channel my name
00:00:04.040 is Sonia um today I would like to do
00:00:06.640 something interesting for you because in
00:00:09.240 um the spirit of um
00:00:11.519 celebrating um spring/ autum Equinox I
00:00:14.920 like to do a little bit of a cut poool
00:00:16.480 and to talk about how this time of the
00:00:19.119 year um can be l...

How Shadow Work Can Help You Heal From Limerence

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If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of obsessive love that you can’t break free from, you’re not alone. Limerence, that deep, all-consuming infatuation, can feel like a powerful force that takes over your thoughts and emotions. But why does it seem so impossible to let go, even when you know it’s unhealthy? The answer might be hidden in the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding—the parts that make up your shadow self.

In my latest video, I dive into the po...

Feel lonely and invisible? Working on healing your limerence?

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Have you ever been in love with someone who didn’t seem to notice you, no matter what you did? The pain of feeling unseen can be overwhelming, leaving you questioning your worth and wondering why love always feels just out of reach. This is the reality for those experiencing limerence—a form of emotional obsession where love feels almost like a fantasy, but never fully materializes.

In my latest video, I dive deep into the connection between limerence and feeling invi...

You want love yet you entertain breadcrumbs and incompatibility

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Recently, a friend was narrating some events from her dating life. She had met a guy recently and after chatting for a month.. he suddenly went AWOL. Basically he ghosted her.

She was troubled by it, saying they actually had a good connection and

But then, he came back. He apologised for ghosting, said it was a bad thing to do and proceeded to start sending incredibly romantic texts to her. She is now feeling troubled about the fact that she doesn’t feel the same...

Limerence vs Twin Flame – What is actually going on?

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Have you ever felt an intense, all-consuming attraction that left you questioning whether it was true love or something else entirely? Limerence and the concept of twin flames are two such experiences that often get intertwined, leaving many confused and yearning for clarity.

But they are actually quite different – at least their original meanings are and I will share my opinion on what I think is really going on as well when someone says they can’t be with their twin...