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Playing Big – What You’ll Learn

Good morning!

Today, I’m excited to share some of what you’ll learn in the Playing Big course, and what will be different in your life and work as a result.

If you aren’t yet familiar with the Playing Big model, you’ll be introduced to a whole new world of concepts and tools for your daily life.

If you’re already familiar with the Playing Big concepts through the book, the course will enable you to more powerfully apply them to your life, put your playing big center stage, and get support from me and our community.

You’ll get:

   • in-depth material on each of the major topics

   • live coaching, discussion, Q&A sessions with me on every topic

   • new material and my latest thinking on the topics, not shared anywhere else

   • support, learning and camaraderie from our global community of participants

   • worksheets and exercises to help you apply the tools in very practical ways

   • fun ways to keep your playing big front and center when life gets busy, from inspirational art downloads to daily reminders to keep you on track

Let me take you through an overview of the course modules …

QUIETING THE INNER CRITIC

Just imagine for a moment – really imagine – what you’d be doing if that voice of “I’m not ready yet,” or “I need to get a PhD in that topic before I can do that,” or “I don’t really know what I’m talking about here,” wasn’t present anymore? Through our work together, you’ll understand how the inner critic skillfully functions in your life (whether in the domains of career, body image, parenting, romantic relationships, finances, or your creative life). You’ll learn what to do in the moment when self-doubt arises, to ensure that it doesn’t hold you back.

DISCOVERING YOUR INNER MENTOR

After doing the Inner Mentor work, you’ll have an inspiring vision for where you are headed. Whenever you are feeling confused, stuck, or overwhelmed, you’ll be able to access a calm, wise voice within you that has a very different perspective on the tough situations you are facing, and that can show you the way forward. I’ve witnessed this happen for thousands of women, and it can absolutely also happen for you. We also cover the latest research on women and mentoring, who you should seek out as a mentor, and the ways in which effective mentoring relationships for women are dramatically different from what the typical advice says.

UNHOOKING FROM PRAISE AND CRITICISM

After this module, you’ll be a lot less dependent on praise, and a lot more comfortable with criticism and potential criticism. This frees us to speak up, share our ideas, be controversial when it’s needed, and in doing all that, make positive change. You’ll also come away with a new and liberating approach to giving and receiving feedback.

YOUR CALLINGS

This is one of my favorite topics to teach about, because we have so many misunderstandings around our callings. And yet with some simple ideas and tools, women can start experiencing the huge joy and fulfillment that our callings bring. If you aren’t sure what your callings are, this module will give you a very specific way to figure that out, with coaching from me to help if you get stuck. If you already know what your current callings are, you’ll learn tools to fulfill them in even more satisfying and bold ways.

THE END OF HIDING

In my work with women, I started to see some very clear patterns in the ways brilliant women hide and stall on playing bigger. These hiding strategies aren’t obvious. They often look, from a distance, like really great career moves. In this module, you’ll discover the unconscious ways you are hiding and start stepping forward instead.

LEAPING: THE ART OF IMPERFECT ACTION

Most women I know hold some false assumptions like these: that the more they prepare for something important, the better that something will go. That the more polished their work is, the more favorably it will be received. These assumptions are misleading (if not entirely wrong), and stem from how women and girls are conditioned to act in ways that don’t serve us. In this module, we’ll take a rigorous look at our default good-girl, good-student ways of working and discover a bolder, quicker, more experimental way of working called leaping. Leaping gets us playing bigger right away.

NAVIGATING NEGOTIATIONS AND DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS

Do you dread negotiation conversations, feel like you aren’t a great negotiator, or simply know you could be a much better one? In this module, I share a powerful framework that can help you love negotiations and difficult conversations. (It really is possible.) A negotiation isn’t only the once a year conversation over your salary, or client rates. In playing big, we explore negotiations as any conversation in which the parties have differing goals and interests. Negotiation is a skill we all need for our careers – and lives – every day. In Playing Big, you’ll learn and practice a positive, collaborative, step-by-step framework for negotiations, with support from me and from our guest expert on women & negotiation.

COMMUNICATING WITH POWER

You’ll learn how you can come across as more competent, compelling and confident in your written and spoken communications. You’ll also learn about important new research on gender and communication in the workplace, and what it means for you. We cover what speech and writing habits to let go of, and what new language you can use instead. I’ll also support you in a day-by-day habit change process, so that your communication is truly more powerful by the time this module comes to a close.

PLAYING BIG WHILE CAREGIVING

I’m the mother of young children and am also involved in caring for my parents. The past few years have been a deep dive for me into the dance of pursuing my aspirations, while at the same time, showing up in the ways I want to for those I love. In this module, we’ll look closely (and realistically!) at how you can weave together caregiving and playing big.

LET IT BE EASY

We’ve all been there: we tried to accomplish something simply out of willpower and self-discipline, failed to do so, and then ended up disappointed in ourselves. This module is about alternatives to self-discipline. I’ll take you through setting up a “success architecture” of supports and routines that allows you to achieve any goal in a sustainable, kind-to-yourself-way.



This is a snapshot of our course modules (you can review the full curriculum HERE), but I hope this gives you a sense of some of the ways your work and life will be different after Playing Big.

If you’re ready to play bigger, we would love to have you join us!

Love,

Tara

 



 

Get Curious

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Many years back, during my coaching training, one of our teachers gave our class an unusual assignment.

“I want you to open up the cabinet below your kitchen sink,” he said, “and spend 15 minutes looking at what’s there. No distractions. Your job is to bring as much curiosity to those 15 minutes as you can.”

The following week people came back with their reports from the exercise, and they were fascinating.

Some people’s curiosity had led them to all kinds of questions about the plumbing. How did it work? What was the whole system that the pipe they could see was connected to?

For others, the questions were about the people. Who had made the cabinet? Who had fastened the pipes together? What were their lives like?

And for others, their curiosity led them to the water. What path did it travel to get to them? Where did it originate from and where did it end up after going down the drain?

Everyone found a tremendous amount to get interested in, focusing on this seemingly mundane thing – because they brought curiosity to the fore.

For us as coaches-in-training, the point of this exercise was to strengthen our curiosity muscle, because as a coach, you’ve got to bring intense curiosity – rather than your own assumptions and stories – to your client conversations.

For me, the exercise was incredibly energizing. I was traveling at the time, staying in an old hotel in rural Italy. That may sound fabulous, but I was struggling. I’m an extrovert, and I like structure and people to talk to and stuff to do, and I didn’t have much of any of those things there. I was feeling isolated, out of my flow, and restless.

I started to bring curiosity to the fore. I suddenly had so many questions about the place we were staying: Who created it? Why? What was its history? Who else was staying here? What were they all about? The questions gave me a huge surge of energy. I started to talk to the people around me about them. It felt like finding my own path, my inner life again. Through curiosity, I had found my path of pursuing and discovering for the trip.

In the personal growth world, we talk so much about energetic states like joy, peace, acceptance. We also talk a lot about more challenging ones – like guilt, shame, pain, resistance, and suffering. Curiosity absolutely gets short shrift. It’s essential.

For this week, our practice is to start to do a mini-version of the exercise that my teacher gave me. Pick a mundane object in your house and spend 5 minutes sitting in curiosity about it. See what happens.

And then as you move through the week, keep asking yourself – what if I can be curious in this moment?

A few examples:

What if instead of being annoyed about this traffic I can be curious about what’s causing it, or about what comes up for me sitting stuck in it? What if I could just get super curious about everything I can notice about the car next to me and the people in it?

What if instead of being afraid of writing this important email I can get curious about the whole process – curious about what I really want to say, curious about the emotions it raises in me, curious about how things will unfold once I press send?

What if instead of rushing my child through the morning or being frustrated with them I can get incredibly curious: What is happening for them in the morning? What is happening for me? What might work better? What are they really saying to me?

Let curiosity lead.

I look forward to hearing your reports back! Join our private Weekly Practice Facebook group to share your experience and read others’ accounts. Or share on Instagram and tag me @tarasophiamohr with #WeeklyPractice. I’ll see you over there!

Love,

Tara

 

Playing Big Registration is Open!

From the age of about 5 or so, I would sit down with my mom at the breakfast table in the morning and, over oatmeal and orange juice, we would analyze my dreams. My mom believed dreams were important, and that even at a young age, a person could start to understand themselves better through them.

And if I came home complaining about a kid at school teasing me, my mom would say, “What do you think is going on for her at home that would cause her to tease other kids?”

I was raised in a house where I was encouraged to look at my life, and the world, through a psychological lens. I grew up immersed in learning about the inner life, psychology, and spirituality from all traditions.

But that was only one-half of the worldview I was being taught. The other half was very different.

I went to school in competitive academic environments. There, I was being educated in a culture that sharply contrasted with the one I’d learned about at home. School emphasized mind over heart, learned knowledge over intuitive knowing. I went to Yale, I went to Stanford Business School. I learned how to play by the world’s rules.

This is my hybrid path, and it informs the approach I now use throughout my work. Mind and heart. Practical but not cynical. Knowledge and wisdom. Outer action and inner reflection.

The tension between two worlds that was often difficult for me to navigate when I was growing up is no longer a tension, but a fusion. I’m so happy that this fusion is one of the things people find most helpful in my work.

I know this: When you mix inner work with practical skills training, you get power.

Being alive in this remarkable time of new possibilities for women, we benefit so much from doing inner work in areas like unhooking from praise and criticism, clarifying our callings, and learning to manage self-doubt and fear.

But if we only have those tools, we can’t play to our full potential. We also benefit tremendously from learning “skills for world-changing” — such as how to communicate effectively, negotiate without apology, deal with feedback (and pushback), and get our messages out.

Registration opens today for the Playing Big program, my course for women who want to play bigger in their work and their lives.

The Playing Big course offers this hybrid of both inner and outer work. It includes powerful training to manage self-doubt and fear, connect with your inner wisdom, and uncover your right next steps. It also includes training in essential skills like negotiation, communication, sustaining personal motivation, and innovation – how to test, hone and scale anything new – whether a new career direction or a new offering in a business.

Playing Big is for you if you want to make a greater impact, and experience more joy and fulfillment in your work. It’s for you if you want to experience less fear, stalling, and self-doubt around going for your big aspirations, and instead, get going on what you most what to contribute and create.

In my next couple posts, I’ll be sharing about our program curriculum and how we combine inner work with skills training to help you play bigger.

To learn more about the Playing Big program and to get your spot, click here.

Love,

Tara

 



 

When you are stuck, procrastinating, or perfecting …

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Think of something in your work life that you want to do, but that you are not yet doing – something you want to bring into being, but that you are not taking much action around.

Maybe it’s writing the book, or applying for a job at a company you love, or taking steps toward starting the business. Maybe it’s reaching out to a potential mentor in your field, or pitching a partnership to a colleague you’d love to work with.

You know what it is for you.

Play out the movie in your head. Imagine yourself doing that thing. Writing the email asking to meet up for coffee with that potential mentor, or sitting there at the café talking with them. Sending off the book proposal. Being at the job interview.

But don’t imagine your ideal version of it. Live into what it would be like if it was you just as you are now – you with all the difficult feelings and nerves and fear that would show up for you as you do that thing.

What are those uncomfortable feelings for you?

When I ask women this question, they often say things like:



Feeling like I might fail

Feeling like I have no idea what I’m doing

Feeling foolish after making a big mistake

Feeling afraid that people won’t like what I have to offer

Feeling arrogant or ridiculous for trying – like who do I think I am?

Feeling selfish, like I’m putting myself before others as I pursue this

What are the uncomfortable feelings that would come up for you if you started to take purposeful, direct action toward that goal you feel stuck or blocked around?

You might not know what they are until you really imagine yourself doing that thing, so live into your imagined version of it now.

I’ve stalled for months on sending stretch emails that could significantly move my work forward. Why? Not excuses-I-tell-myself-why but really why? Because I didn’t want to feel the fear and nervousness and thoughts of my less-than-ness that would be running in my head as I sent them.

I have skipped out on opportunities to speak to certain audiences because I didn’t want to feel the nervousness and narrative of less-than-ness running through my head leading up to the event.

I have ignored professional conversations that needed to happen simply because I didn’t want to feel the fear of being “not nice” or of being selfish that comes up for so many of us women when we own even a little of our power.

On the one hand, it’s the most obvious thing in the world that we don’t do certain things because we don’t want to experience the uncomfortable feelings that come with them.

On the other hand, this – avoiding what we don’t want to feel – is the invisible drive that shapes our lives, often unconsciously. We can tell ourselves it’s about lack of time, or knowledge, or tools, but often it’s simply this: there is something we don’t want to feel.

It’s our capacity to sit with the uncomfortable – not how many to-do items we can check off in a day – that circumscribes the boundary on how much we are able to move forward.

So this week I want to invite you to ask this question.

If you are procrastinating, avoiding, or perfecting, ask yourself: What is it I don’t want to feel here, that I would feel if I did this thing?

Notice what it is you don’t want to feel.

And then, here’s the good part, the juicy gold thing we’ve all been gifted:

We can decide it will be okay to feel that thing. We can choose to experience it, and breathe through it. We can even choose to be students of it – to investigate – what is this feeling about? What earlier feelings in my life does it connect back to?  What happens if I sit here through it for a few moments?

Most of the time, when we lean into the feeling we thought we had to avoid, it feels quite intense for a few moments but then it passes. We learn we have the capacity to feel it and make it through. When we know that, a whole new realm of choices opens up to us: I can do that even if it will feel very uncomfortable to me as I do it.

This week, where you are stuck, procrastinating, perfecting, distracting, not taking the action toward your goals, ask yourself, “What is it that I don’t want to feel?”

Join us in the Weekly Practice Facebook group to share your experience and read others’ accounts. Or share on Instagram and tag me @tarasophiamohr with #WeeklyPractice. I’ll see you over there!

Love,

Tara

Can You Have Both?

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I recently met a woman who was considering a major career change. She’d worked in finance for three decades, but had always – always – wanted to do something more creative.

“The part where I get stuck,” she said to me, “is the money piece. Can I do something that I love, and be financially okay?”

Later that day, I had a different conversation, with a woman who’d just had her first child. She shared, “I’d always planned on being a full-time mom, but now I’m finding I don’t want to give up my work. But, can I be there for my kids in the way I want to, if I’m still working? I just don’t know if I can.”

Now, these two women live in different parts of the country. They are more than twenty years apart in age. One is worried about money. The other about balancing work and family. They’ve got very different lives and challenges going on.

But something was exactly the same about these two conversations, and about what these two women were struggling with – did you notice?

Each woman was asking herself:

Can I have both x and y?

They were each asking the question over and over again, to no avail, and suffering in their worry over it. Both of them were doubting the answer could be yes.

We all hold beliefs about two things we want that we think can’t coexist.

I can do work I love or I can be financially stable.

I can be a great mom or have a thrilling career.

I can eat whatever I want or I can be healthy.

I can take care of my own sanity or be tuned into world events.

I can be more authentic at work or I can work the politics.

I can say what I really think or I can continue to be liked by the group.

We get stressed and confined by these kinds of beliefs. And we torture ourselves with the repetitive, go-nowhere question, “Can I have both? Can I have both? Can I have both?”

So, here’s the practice for this week: change the question.

Instead of asking, “Can I have both?” ask yourself:

“How can I have both?”

That is a generative question. It takes for granted there is some way to have both, and gets your mind looking for creative solutions as to how.

 

That’s our simple practice for this week:

STEP 1: Notice one major either-or belief or worry you’ve got going on. For you maybe it’s about money vs. passion, or family vs. work, or adventure vs. stability.

STEP 2: Throughout the week, instead of living in the land of “Can I have both?” or “I can’t have both,” ask our new question: “How can I have (or do) both?”

Simmer on the answers.

See what ideas and images come.

Take a few minutes to brainstorm some thoughts on paper.

The question I’ll be working with for this week is “How can I be a present, involved mom and have an exciting, fulfilling, career? What could that look like for me?”

What either-or belief will you be working with?

Join us in the Weekly Practice Facebook group to share your experience and read others’ accounts. Or share on Instagram and tag me @tarasophiamohr with #WeeklyPractice. I’ll see you over there!

Love,

Tara

I also want to remind you about our 2017 Playing Big Scholarship Program. Every year we make a group of scholarships available for the Playing Big program. While we recognize there are so many incredible women in all fields who would benefit from a scholarship, this year we are focusing on supporting women who work in social justice, activism and public service. If you 1) work in one of these fields 2) are interested in the Playing Big program and 3) would need financial assistance to participate, please sign up here to receive our 2017 scholarship application. Thank you!   ~ Tara & team

Do That.

A few weeks ago, I was talking with a woman who wanted to start her own business. “I know I want to do something entrepreneurial,” she told me, “but I just don’t have an idea for a business, for what it should be.”

“Are you sure you don’t have an idea?,” I asked her. “Is there any idea that has come up from time to time, or images you get in your mind of doing something in particular, but for some reason you’ve pushed away?”

“Well, yes,” she said.

She went on to tell me, in quite specific terms, about an area she’d been interested in for a long time, the sense of calling she had to create something around a community need.

What if I hadn’t asked, “Are you sure? There’s nothing that’s been coming up that you’ve been pushing away?”

I knew to ask because this precise conversation has happened for me hundreds of times in my coaching, in my courses, in the Q&A sessions after speaking events.

I have learned when a woman says she feels some general longing for a change but just doesn’t have any specific idea what she wants to do next, that is almost never the truth.

There is something – some idea, some calling – that has lived so close to her heart and soul, that has come into her thoughts again and again but she has turned away, saying – No, it can’t be that. Not viable, not practical. Or … No, not me. I couldn’t be the one for that.

The calling was so nearby to her thoughts – so familiar and aged in her thinking, so available to her and ready to be brought to life – that a part of her believed it had to be more complicated, more remote.

It is not only easy to say, “It couldn’t be that,” it is convenient, and soothing to do so. Then we don’t have to do the scary thing of trusting that calling and starting to take some small action toward it. Instead we can keep on searching and re-searching, and researching, walking in circles, ruminating.

There is a beautiful poem, Start Close In, by David Whyte that speaks to this:

Start close in,

don’t take the second step

or the third,

start with the first

thing

close in,

the step

you don’t want to take.

The step close in – the idea that has already visited you, the calling that’s always been there – is always the one we really don’t want to take. It can make us tremble, it can make us nauseous to consider taking it.

And our abilities to avoid it are impressive.

We are desperate to brush it away, but have you noticed how it returns, asking again and again for your devotion?

And have you noticed how no matter how much you try, you can’t replace it with something else?

Please, start close in.

Pay attention to what has been knocking at the door of your heart.

That thing that seems too familiar, or old, or wrong, or wild to be it.

Go with that.

The book that wants to be written, the business that wants to be started, the community project that wants to be birthed. The new art form or pursuit that is beckoning, the trip that wants to be taken, the move that wants to be made.

You may not know all the details, or the how, or how this fits into how you’ve always thought of yourself. That is all okay. Mystery is your companion on this path.

And still you can honor what has come to your heart’s door, and open it.

Love,

Tara

Do you know someone who is not going for that calling that is close in? Please share this with them, and cheer them on.

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I am also excited to share today about our 2017 Playing Big Scholarship Program. Every year we make a group of scholarships available for the Playing Big program. While we recognize there are so many incredible women in all fields who would benefit from a scholarship, this year we are focusing on supporting women who work in social justice, activism and public service. If you 1) work in one of these fields 2) are interested in the Playing Big program and 3) would need financial assistance to participate, please sign up here to receive our 2017 scholarship application. Thank you! Tara & team

How Can I Relax More Right Now?

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Good morning! This email is the first in our new Weekly Practice series. Each Monday, I’ll share a practice with you for the week – a simple action to take, a question to ask yourself, a new idea to apply in your life. (For more on the series, read the intro here).

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How Can I Relax More Right Now?

During the past few months, I’d sometimes notice I was getting stressed about the small stuff.

Is the baby falling asleep? Am I going to get to my appointment on time? Is this work partnership going to work out the way I want? Is this conversation unfolding how I hoped it would?

There are infinite moments to tense up about each day, each hour.

In the midst of noticing my own stress, I started asking myself a question – a question I want to share with you today.

The question is simply this:

“How can I relax more right now?”

How can I relax more as I write this?

How can I relax more as I wait at this red light?

How can I relax more as I feed this child, or try to move us to the next step of the bedtime routine, or explain why we can’t go to a toy store right now?

How can I relax more as I have this work meeting, or look at this budget?

How can I relax more?

What happens for you when you ask yourself this question, right now?

I notice that when I ask that, there is a physical change into a state of relaxation. My shoulders drop a little. I exhale.

There is also a mental change that I find quite interesting.

When I ask, “How I can relax?” my mind seems to start looking for all the reasons why it’s okay to relax, so I start remembering all that is already good in the situation and start feeling a whole lot of gratitude.

The spirituality of relaxation lies here: relaxation connects us to all that is already sound, good, blessed in the situation – starting with our basic aliveness.

In our push push push, go go go culture, sometimes we get confused about what relaxing is. Relaxing isn’t being passive or doing nothing. It doesn’t mean letting go of aspiration or drive or fierce energy. We can still do our achieving and working and communicating and being in the world – but from a different place, from a place of spaciousness and rest – not from tense attempts to control.

It means going from a clenched fist to an open hand, a racing heart to a calm one, a shallow breath to a deep one.

How I can relax more right now?

Ask yourself a few times today, and each day throughout the week. Let me know: In what situations did you ask this question? What happened? What shifted? You can join our Weekly Practice Facebook group to report on your experiences, or share about your experiences on Instagram using the hashtag #weeklypractice.

Love,

Tara

 

 

Get On The List!

The next session of my Playing Big course is coming up! This is my course for any woman who wants to play bigger in her life and work.

If you would like to know more details about the Playing Big course and have access to our early bird discount, sign up here.

You’ll be added to our special list for course information and you’ll start receiving great info from me about what we’ll cover and how to discern if it’s the right fit for you.

 

 

Are You Feeling the Call to Play Bigger?

Over the years, I’ve learned this: there comes a time in our lives when the life we’ve been living doesn’t quite fit anymore.

What felt fine before starts to feel constraining, or dull, or gray. We slowly come to realize that one chapter of our lives is ending – or has ended – and it’s going to be up to us to create the next chapter, or to discern what path is calling us.

Although these moments can be uncomfortable, they are incredible opportunities. That part of you that yearns for more authenticity, more impact, and an intensified desire to do what holds meaning for you? In these moments, that part is speaking louder, and you have the opportunity to listen.

If it’s one of those times for you, I want to invite you to join me for the upcoming Playing Big Course and sign up for our Early Information list. This is my pioneering class for women who want to play bigger in their work and in their lives. It happens online and by phone, so you can attend from anywhere around the world.

We are now entering our eighth year of making a global impact in teaching women to play much bigger.

I’m always honored by what people have to say about their experiences in the course. Here are just a few examples:

“I have gained so much more out of Playing Big than I ever expected. I came in hoping that Playing Big would help me tap into my calling and provide some motivation and tools to pursue it. I did not expect the transformational power of this series. Tara’s tools and exercises get at the heart of playing bigger in a way that is sustainable and that I can keep going back to. I feel that I own my voice more confidently, that I’ve accessed the wisest part of myself, and that I’m showing up more authentically throughout my life. I have strongly recommended this course to all of my friends.” – Betty Chen, Director of Family Engagement at Summit Public Schools

“After attending the Playing Big course, I am much better at communicating from a place of strength. I mentor several colleagues. So often now, concepts we discussed in Playing Big jump out when I’m coaching these ladies. I’m glad I can share some ideas to help them play bigger in their careers. I feel much better about my abilities and contribution in the world. But most of all, I am happier about what I am doing.” – Meg, Finance Executive

“I now have a vision that propels me forward every day. I know that my voice is needed and that I have a duty to play big in this life, to heal the world in the way I know best, no matter what my inner critic voices are telling me.” – Amanda Vella, Yoga Teacher and Writer

Our next session starts in mid-May.

If you are interested, all you need to do today is sign up HERE. This will put you on the list to receive details about the course, and give you access to our fabulous early bird discount. Sign up for our Playing Big Early Information list here.

With love & gratitude,

Tara

 

 

My New Project – You’re invited

Good morning everyone!

I’m back from maternity leave – still savoring precious time with my kids each day, but also happy to be using my professional brain a little more, getting back into creating with words, and generally reacquainting myself with the parts of Tara that faded into the background these past months.

Today I am thrilled to share with you about a new series that I want to invite you to join along with – it’s entirely free and it is fabulous.

I’m calling it Weekly Practice.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fascinated by this: we can make little internal shifts – thinking a new thought or asking ourselves a new question – that have huge results in transforming our moods, our sense of possibility, and the actions we take.

To me, this is one of the big secrets of life. It is the moment-to-moment inner things we do (not the big external things that happen to us) that bring us joy, clarity, and peace. And despite how impossible a situation or dilemma or heartbreak seems, there is an inner shift we can make that can transform – dramatically and immediately – a constricted or stuck inner state.

Starting next week, each Monday morning I’ll share a practice – a simple thing you can do that doesn’t take much time – that can help move you from worry to calm, frustration to gratitude, confusion to clarity, stress to joy.

Sometimes it will be a new question to ask yourself. Sometimes it will be a new lens through which to look at a situation. Sometimes it will be a simple action to take.

All of the practices will be easy to do in a mere moment and incredibly powerful in bringing more good into your life.

Then each week, we’ll go on an adventure together, using the practice in our lives, experimenting to see what happens, and reporting on the results. You can do that on your own, reading the new practice each week in your inbox (it will come to you as a subscriber of my blog), or you can also join our community in a private Facebook group for more discussion and to share your experiences.

Request to join the Weekly Practice with Tara Facebook group HERE, and stay tuned for our first practice next Monday!

Love,

Tara

 



 

The Playing Big Course is Coming Soon!

Good morning,

I’m thrilled to share with you that the next session of my Playing Big course is coming up!

This is my course for any woman who wants to play bigger in her life and work.

It’s for you if you know you have a message you want to share, a creation you want to bring forward, or a higher level of impact you want to make and … you know you’d really benefit from some support and structure to help you get there.

In this course, you’ll learn the skills and tools that have helped thousands of women play much bigger:

– how to determine what playing big looks like uniquely for you, in this particular season of your life

– how to move past the self-doubt and fear that comes up for all of us as we play bigger

– how to unhook from praise and criticism so you can do your best and most high-impact work

– how to reliably access your own inner wisdom and discern the right answers for yourself

– how to communicate with power and grace

– how to negotiate more comfortably and effectively (and recognizing that you are negotiating every day!)

– how to approach concerns of not being qualified, expert enough, or “ready” to do what you long to do

– and that all important one … how to play big while caring for others

and … much more.

This is an online and webinar-based training, so you can attend from anywhere in the world, and in a way that works with your schedule.

I am live with the group every week, so there is lots of time for discussion, Q&A and coaching. And, you will be able to download all the course materials so you have lifelong access.

The Playing Big model has been featured in venues ranging from The New York Times to The Today Show and has brought about powerful life and career changes for thousands of women around the world.

 

Get On The List!

Here’s what to do next: If you would like to know more details about the course and have access to our early bird discount, sign up here.

You’ll be added to our special list for course information, and next week, you’ll start receiving more information from me about what we’ll cover, and how to discern if it’s the right fit for you.

With love,

Tara