Aynoit Ashor's Blog, page 3
April 14, 2014
I Choose to Love Life
That's me,on the far left,
in the purple shirt. :)On April 2, 2014, I shared my story on Gloria Taylor-Edwards' show and spoke about overcoming abuse and starting the healing process. I will continue to speak about healing after hurting. It's important that we do not let past experiences and hurts control our lives.
During my teen dating abuse workshop, I tell the teens, "violence is a choice". I believe misery is a choice, too.
I challenge you to be happy on purpose! There are many who have been hurt. It's what we ALLOW that hurt to do to us that makes or breaks us. I am not saying that we deserved the hurt or we allowed someone to abuse us or that what happened to us is okay. I am saying that if we continue to live in misery, we are letting that abusive, hurtful person keep control over our lives. I will no longer let ANY of my abusers have control of my life. I have made the decision to LOVE LIFE.
Won't you join me?
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April 11, 2014
I'm So Blessed.... Yes, Yes!
Yesterday was my first time seeing this video. My 17 year old daughter said to me, "Look mom, Jill Scott and a Muppet. Two of your favorite things."Presenting: Jilly from Philly
I am Blessed and loving life. I've been through so much in life and I am SO thankful God is allowing me to use my story to empower others. I used to allow the things that I've been through control my life. I felt pitiful and had a "whoa is me" mentality. I have chosen to make changes and stop doing things like I always had. I knew my children and I deserved better so I had to change my mindset to change my life. It was not easy and included letting some people go. Those changes were for the better and Blessed me.
I'm so Blessed... Yes! Yes!
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I am Blessed and loving life. I've been through so much in life and I am SO thankful God is allowing me to use my story to empower others. I used to allow the things that I've been through control my life. I felt pitiful and had a "whoa is me" mentality. I have chosen to make changes and stop doing things like I always had. I knew my children and I deserved better so I had to change my mindset to change my life. It was not easy and included letting some people go. Those changes were for the better and Blessed me.
I'm so Blessed... Yes! Yes!
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Share your Blessings in the comments section.
April 9, 2014
Holding on to Pride
Early this morning, I spoke to someone I now consider a dear friend, I will call her "Anna". After sharing something very personal I was going through, Anna read a passage from the Daily Devotional, Jesus Calling*.
As Anna read page 188, it seemed as though the birds in the backyard stopped singing and the refrigerator stopped humming.... God wanted me to hear from Him. The reference verses for page 188 are: Psalm 5:3; Psalm 63:1; Philippians 4:13.
I chuckled after Anna told me she was reading from Jesus Calling* because I have a copy of the book on my bookshelf. "God is funny like that", Anna laughed. Her laughter filled me with deep joy. It was the laughter of a Christian woman who truly wanted to help comfort me.
After telling Anna, again, why I was hurting she said to me with her beautiful Latina accent, "Do you have faith?" I told her I did, but I also had too much pride. Anna said, "Pride is not of God. Pride is from the devil." She continued, telling me the devil tries to discourage us when God has something GREAT on the horizon. (Funny, I had a doctor tell me this a year ago right before I resigned from my job.) Anna said, "Aynoit, stop holding on to that pride. Open your hand and receive His Blessing."
God, my hand is open to receive and I thank You for speaking through Anna this morning.
If this post has helped you, feel free to post comments in the comment section.
*If you would like a copy of Jesus Calling, I have seen it on sale at many thrift stores/second hand stores.
As Anna read page 188, it seemed as though the birds in the backyard stopped singing and the refrigerator stopped humming.... God wanted me to hear from Him. The reference verses for page 188 are: Psalm 5:3; Psalm 63:1; Philippians 4:13.
I chuckled after Anna told me she was reading from Jesus Calling* because I have a copy of the book on my bookshelf. "God is funny like that", Anna laughed. Her laughter filled me with deep joy. It was the laughter of a Christian woman who truly wanted to help comfort me.
After telling Anna, again, why I was hurting she said to me with her beautiful Latina accent, "Do you have faith?" I told her I did, but I also had too much pride. Anna said, "Pride is not of God. Pride is from the devil." She continued, telling me the devil tries to discourage us when God has something GREAT on the horizon. (Funny, I had a doctor tell me this a year ago right before I resigned from my job.) Anna said, "Aynoit, stop holding on to that pride. Open your hand and receive His Blessing."
God, my hand is open to receive and I thank You for speaking through Anna this morning.
If this post has helped you, feel free to post comments in the comment section.
*If you would like a copy of Jesus Calling, I have seen it on sale at many thrift stores/second hand stores.
April 8, 2014
Dusting off this blog!
It's been YEARS since I posted to my blog, which now has a new name....
ALL THINGS AYNOIT ASHOR.
Much has happened in the past 2 1/2 years:
March, 2013- I left my job to be a full time author & speaker!!! Since 2010- My first novella, I Wish I Would've , which is five this year and has a new cover, had over 20,000 Kindle downloads and is still my #1 seller.
NEW COVER!October 2013- I published an advice book/journal for women who are in the planning stages or have recently left an abusive relationship:
I Have Been There: Sisterly Advice from One Survivor of Abuse to Another
. It is available as an eBook, but I suggest you purchase a hard copy, if it's safe to do so, to use the journal.Sixty-7, has a been republished as,
ProtectHer
. I have been interviewed by many radio personalities and television hosts. Visit my website's homepage to hear one of my favorite interviews.I designed The Healing Keys Collection TM as a way to bring awareness to Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault. All sales are used to help fund my teen dating abuse, Survivor Series and Awareness educational workshops/presentations.This is not everything, but as you can see I've been busy. Many wonderful things have happened. I know God is Blessing me because I walked out on faith and in to His purpose for my life.
The following is my planned posting schedule for the All Things Aynoit Ashor blog:
Motivational MondaysWhatever WednesdayFun Friday
So I Welcome you to the new ALL THINGS AYNOIT ASHOR. Thank you for joining my journey.
I am not my hair!
ALL THINGS AYNOIT ASHOR.
Much has happened in the past 2 1/2 years:
March, 2013- I left my job to be a full time author & speaker!!! Since 2010- My first novella, I Wish I Would've , which is five this year and has a new cover, had over 20,000 Kindle downloads and is still my #1 seller.
NEW COVER!October 2013- I published an advice book/journal for women who are in the planning stages or have recently left an abusive relationship:
I Have Been There: Sisterly Advice from One Survivor of Abuse to Another
. It is available as an eBook, but I suggest you purchase a hard copy, if it's safe to do so, to use the journal.Sixty-7, has a been republished as,
ProtectHer
. I have been interviewed by many radio personalities and television hosts. Visit my website's homepage to hear one of my favorite interviews.I designed The Healing Keys Collection TM as a way to bring awareness to Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault. All sales are used to help fund my teen dating abuse, Survivor Series and Awareness educational workshops/presentations.This is not everything, but as you can see I've been busy. Many wonderful things have happened. I know God is Blessing me because I walked out on faith and in to His purpose for my life.The following is my planned posting schedule for the All Things Aynoit Ashor blog:
Motivational MondaysWhatever WednesdayFun Friday
So I Welcome you to the new ALL THINGS AYNOIT ASHOR. Thank you for joining my journey.
I am not my hair!
December 17, 2011
Christmas Shopping
Yup. I haven't started Christmas shopping yet. I do have a few odds and ends for the teens but other than that nada.
It seems like Christmas is not as magical as it was in the past. The teens give me a(n expensive) list of items which may or may not show up under the tree. I think we may need to start a new tradition next year, like skiing or something. When they were kids they waited for Santa to show up and were on their best behavior for weeks before Christmas. Things have changed.
Now that Santa is no longer in their lives I hope they are learning the true meaning of Christmas. It's not about gifts, it's not about toys. It's about loving one another. Maybe our tradition shouldn't be skiing. Maybe it should be helping those in need.
It seems like Christmas is not as magical as it was in the past. The teens give me a(n expensive) list of items which may or may not show up under the tree. I think we may need to start a new tradition next year, like skiing or something. When they were kids they waited for Santa to show up and were on their best behavior for weeks before Christmas. Things have changed.
Now that Santa is no longer in their lives I hope they are learning the true meaning of Christmas. It's not about gifts, it's not about toys. It's about loving one another. Maybe our tradition shouldn't be skiing. Maybe it should be helping those in need.
December 16, 2011
One Door Closes, Another Opens
Well I finally got my notification from Hedgebrook. I wasn't accepted. Well, that's how the old ball bounces. Am I upset? No. Am I disappointed? Yes, but not enough to beat myself up over it. Everything happens for a reason, this I know.
I was invited to apply again in 2013 when they open registration to new residents (2012 will be dedicated to alumnae). They were also kind enough to send me link for a few retreats I could take (that I didn't have to be accepted to).
What did I learn from this process? Be thankful for everything and every opportunity. Do my best no matter what. My husband always asks me what I would do differently, if anything. I don't know what I would do differently. I think I did the best I could with what I had.
On another note: I have been invited to speak at three different events in 2012. That's really exciting.
So why did I title this entry One Doors Closes, Another Opens? I know God is still working in my life. His plan is perfect. (Even though I don't know what it may be.)
I was invited to apply again in 2013 when they open registration to new residents (2012 will be dedicated to alumnae). They were also kind enough to send me link for a few retreats I could take (that I didn't have to be accepted to).
What did I learn from this process? Be thankful for everything and every opportunity. Do my best no matter what. My husband always asks me what I would do differently, if anything. I don't know what I would do differently. I think I did the best I could with what I had.
On another note: I have been invited to speak at three different events in 2012. That's really exciting.
So why did I title this entry One Doors Closes, Another Opens? I know God is still working in my life. His plan is perfect. (Even though I don't know what it may be.)
December 5, 2011
Christmas Time is Here
Yesterday I posted that I wasn't in the Christmas spirit. But today after watching A Charlie Brown Christmas and putting up the tree I am now in the spirit. But I still want some snow.
December 4, 2011
Let it snow!
I haven't put up my Christmas tree and have only bought one gift. Not quite in the Christmas spirit (yet). I think if I had a little bit of snow my "spirit" will change. So I will sing these songs in hopes to conjure up some of the cold white stuff.
Frank Sinatra
Boys II Men
Frank Sinatra
Boys II Men
December 3, 2011
#80 UK Kindle Movers and Shakers
Just wanted to share the good news with you all. I am on the Movers and Shakers list in the UK. I am selling more kindle copies of I Wish I Would've in the UK than in the US. This is an awesome feeling but I know it's God moving, not me. Here's the screen shot for anyone who would like to see it.
I'm just proud of this accomplishment because I have been doubting my work lately. I also received an email from a reader in the Netherlands this morning. She is patiently waiting the release of 2 Young 4 What. Guess I better get a move on it, huh? I want to thank you all for your support and encouraging words. Peace.
I'm just proud of this accomplishment because I have been doubting my work lately. I also received an email from a reader in the Netherlands this morning. She is patiently waiting the release of 2 Young 4 What. Guess I better get a move on it, huh? I want to thank you all for your support and encouraging words. Peace.
December 1, 2011
Grant Funds- Denied
I got an email from the Sustainable Arts Foundation informing me I didn't make the cut for the 2011 Winter Award. I wish all of the current recipients much luck and continued success. (Their projects look great!)
These funds must not be in my plan and I'm okay with that. So I am waiting to hear back from Verizon Hopeline and Hedgebrook. I checked Hedgebrook's website and saw that I should expect word from them sometime this month.
The wait continues.....
These funds must not be in my plan and I'm okay with that. So I am waiting to hear back from Verizon Hopeline and Hedgebrook. I checked Hedgebrook's website and saw that I should expect word from them sometime this month.
The wait continues.....
