T. Strange's Blog, page 37
February 3, 2014
It’s BDSMonday! Today I have a special guest, Dena Celeste, with a blog post about some of the...
It’s BDSMonday!
Today I have a special guest, Dena Celeste, with a blog post about some of the different kinds of marking that can be part of BDSM.
Personally, I -love- being marked…which means that a lot of my characters do, too! Besides actually participating in a scene, one of my favourite parts of BDSM is having my bruises, cuts, burns, etc. tended to. From bite marks to brands, I’m there!
February 2, 2014
Man, the battle version of Oh Canada from the South Park movie is about…La Marseillaise times...
Man, the battle version of Oh Canada from the South Park movie is about…La Marseillaise times better than the actual anthem.
(Also, I would like to take a moment to once again be astounded by the fact that the man who wrote La Marseillaise—who you’d think would be Monsieur Liberté Égalité Fraternité—was guillotined.)
"If [my fans] stuck with me through Equus, they’re not gonna find a problem with this. And if they..."
- Daniel Radcliffe, discussing his gay sex scene in Kill Your Darlings. (via bjorklift)
February 1, 2014
Pope may be sneaking out at night to give the poor money - Independent.ie
This is a Les Mis AU waiting to happen.
…I would read that.
wait, who elected Valjean pope?
January 31, 2014
vastderp:
ceruleancynic:
teratocybernetics:
lifewithkaz:
avic...
Tarantula tootsies appreciation post
i like the spider paws!
January 30, 2014
Wife: I crush this snowman
Me: ...you crush cis snowmen?
smoofsite:
airpunchingacademic:
Can we just take a moment to...
Can we just take a moment to appreciate the fact that the part of this comic Tumblr has chosen to use is the last frame
WHAT
THIS WHOLE COMIC IS SO QUALITY
FUCK
I said “I want this because reasons” the other day and I had NO IDEA!!!
January 29, 2014
This is a description of subspace that I originally found when I first experienced subspace and was...
This is a description of subspace that I originally found when I first experienced subspace and was very new to BDSM. This isn’t my writing, and I don’t recall the source (It might be from The Fetish Information Exchange). Enjoy!
Subspace has another meaning which is considerably more difficult to define, especially for those who have never been there. The best way I know how to describe it is that it is like a spiritually transcendent state of complete and overwhelming bliss, the after effects of which can last for hours and even days. I have heard it referred to as “a spiritual high.” While this is happening, the submissive/bottom is often said to be flying. It is similar to, but exponentially more intense and powerful than, what is often called “runner’s high.”
There are deeper reasons why the variety is so diverse. A whipping scene will often start off very lightly, with the top using a small whip to sensitize the bottom and get them into the rhythm of the scene, switching to heavier and heavier whips as the bottom gets deeper and deeper , more and more receptive to additional sensation.
This word we use to describe the psychological (mental) and physical state the submissive can - but does not (always) have to - reach as a result of BDSM interaction. On the Internet especially you will a lot of stories and articles about “subspace”. Most of these unfortunately got it dead wrong. This leads to a lot of confusion. For example “subspace” and orgasm are often mixed up.
One thing we do know: having an orgasm while in “subspace” is biologically next to impossible!
Now is where we can see the fundamental differences between “subspace” and other BDSM-experiences (driven by other motives). If and when the body decides not to go for the orgasm, but instead to go for “subspace” we are getting to the “deer in the headlights”. And also the point where the dam breaks.
If endorphins production continues - remember, we still do not know exactly why - trance and light forms of hallucination occur. THAT is “subspace”!
Someone “in subspace” is easy to recognise from the outside. They are no longer able to drive a car, or even a bike. They seem silent, absent-minded, slow responding, uninterested. In other words “not really here”. That again is not the same as the warm, glowy, dreamy feeling after an orgasm. Somebody ”in subspace” is “not on this planet”, so to speak.
"Subspace" is dangerous in some ways. People "in subspace" have very
different levels of perception and awareness. They will see a traffic light
as interesting colors that changes all the time. They do NOT see it as a
warning signal. To them, a house is a fascinating stack of bricks with
intriguing patterns - NOT something people actually live in. If you would
slit the throat of someone “in subspace” they’d probably tell you they’d
consider that an interesting and fascinating experience. They do NOT
recognise the life threatening situation. Someone “in subspace” is
INTOXICATED! Intoxicated as in: under influence of drugs.
"Subspace" is a form of trance. Trance in its essence is a state of being,
different from your “normal” state of being. During trance your mind
excludes most of its input and concentrates on just one or only very few
impulses, completely disregarding all others. There are many ways in which a trance can be induced. Prolonged dancing for example, or hunger, prolonged physical activity. Hypothermia, recreational drugs, high fever, lack of nutrition, dehydration AND BDSM-activity all can induce trance. Just like repeated physical activity
"Subspace" can last for anything from several hours to several days. For the duration of "subspace" reflexes slow down severely (this is the
result of the slightly intoxicating effects of enkephalins on the cortex)
and much of normal, everyday logic no longer works. Someone in
subspace cannot make responsible, consensual decisions.
As said, subspace is easy to spot from the outside. Pupils widen, responses slow down, appear illogical or simply do not occur. Food and
sustenance is no longer important, people hear you, but do not understand you, they cannot find the right words and some submissives
even stop breathing temporarily. Someone “in subspace” - as far as physical behavior and signals are concerned - is very similar to
someone, under the influence of recreational drugs. The trance itself is
important to them, feeds them and leads them. Nothing else matters and
that - for example - includes sexual arousal. Colours, sounds, scents are
individual, seemingly incoherent experiences. if you have never been
here, you haven’t been “in subspace” (yet). And that’s fine. it is just that
"subspace" is very different from everything else.
maymay:
There are now four dating websites that have Predator...
There are now four dating websites that have Predator Alert Tools:
Predator Alert Tool for OkCupid
Predator Alert Tool for FetLife
Predator Alert Tool for Facebook
Predator Alert Tool for Lulu
These tools are inspired by the academic works of David Lisak and Paul Miller, “Repeat Rape and Multiple Offending Among Undetected Rapists,” 2002, and the academic works of Stephanie K. McWhorter, “Reports of Rape Reperpetration by Newly Enlisted Male Navy Personnel,” 2009. See “Repeat Rape: How do they get away with it?" for details.
SPREAD THE WORD: there is no good excuse for not building sexual violence prevention tools into every social network on the Internet.
