Erika Lust's Blog, page 12

X-Femmes and Tuppersex

Today is full of goodies!

First I would like to let you all know that the series of erotic and explicit short movies X-Femmes are now available on LustCinema!

Several female directors with different carreers and visual imaginaries were offered to take the challenge of expressing their personal views on women's erotic universe. Set out as a series of nine short films, X-Femmes reveals one sex and several real fantasies, played by women and men of flesh and bones who alternate erotic dreams and their daily lives.

Watch the trailer and download the film

Then I would like to talk to you about the first official Tuppersex meeting of my online erotic store: Lust Store. The idea is to gather people around and present new sextoys, talk about the new trends, about pleasure… It's for Girls and Boys! so guys don't be shy because there will be stuff for you too!

Besides, we'll give out free DVDs, wine and exclusive discounts… so if you don't know what to get your girl/boyfriend for Christmas, you might want to drop by…

It will take place in Barcelona on November 27th at 8pm. It would be great if you could come!

To participate you just need to send your confirmation to tupersex@lustfilms.com with your name and phone number and we'll send you all the details (postal address etc…)

Let's exercize our female gaze

It's been a while since we launched Lust Film Fest, a collection of the best free erotic clips that the internet has to offer. In Lust we're constantly searching for nice sexy videos including videos of men, which is easier said than done…

I'd like to swap places with you for a while, so you can exercize your female gaze, or consider it a little help from my friends…. Let me explain:

We live in a world where men look, and women are being looked at. Yeah, of course there's some sexy men a woman might gaze at, but speaking about the majority of images, you don't really want to argue, do you?

When you're looking for sexy videos with women, it already takes some time to eat the best and stew the rest, but looking for sexy men in videos is like looking for your contact lense on the dance floor of Razzmatazz on a Saturday night.

This observation led me to some thinking…

In general there's nothing bad about men looking at women. Come on, you're talking to a sex-positive feminist, not to mention to a pornographer too! But I'll even dare express it more controversially and say: men objectifying women is ok – but not all the time (for example if a business partner doesn't take me seriously and only sees me as a sexy object) but leave the straight girls some sexy men to objectify too.

So you might get my point: there's nothing bad about being objectified, whether you're a woman or a man, as long as you have the opportunity to gaze back.

>> But back to my problem: finding sexy men <<

Let's take the "men do something to women" thingy out of the equasion. We are used to looking at women, even women are used to looking at women, and we do it from a straight male perspective, as we got used to those images in tv shows, movies, commercials and music videos day after day. You doubt it? Than just ask yourself two easy questions:

1. How do they try to sell a product for a male target audience? With a sexy woman.

2. How do they try to sell a product for a female target audience? With a sexy woman.

And don't tell me this simply works best in advertising – the point is that advertisers are like directors, musicians, etc: there are few innovators and many plagiators.

Boys, I don't wanna take away your images of sexy girls, but you don't really think straight girls would rather look at sexy girls than sexy boys, do you?

The thing is we freakin' lack competence to gaze at men from a female perspective. Not because we would not want to, but there's hardly any images for us to do it. At this point, most female gaze revolutions are fangirl revolutions. Time after time, the most popular examples of female gazing are regularly ridiculed. Like in many images of men being sexy just for the sake of sexiness, we hardly let them without ridiculing the boys for being sexy, or ridiculing the kind of sexiness itself, or the female viewer, remember this viral video?

Making fun of fangirls, one fails to understand their motives. Let's take 'Twilight' – first a lot of guys get it wrong saying the film was bad because the Vampires were too soft – you really think an abusive controll-freak and stalker like Edward is too soft on his girlfriend? Think twice my medieval-friend and watch this video about the wrong and right reasons to hate Twilight:

Meanwhile from a feminist perspective one might criticize the 'revoltingly sexist passive boy-worshipping of an abusive guy', forgetting that Bella and her fangirls were not only bitten by a Vampire, but also bitten by the female gaze – I can only add another two or three question marks:  why it is so hard to accept viewpoint of the world's biggest group of people: women.

I'm always up for a good laugh, and of course I'd rather take images of sexy men good-humouredly than not to take them at all. And no, I don't want to see men only as warriors, fighters, strong and brave policemen, firemen or sailors. There must be some more than those dull ol' boys. There's not only one single female gaze, they vary as the desires of the women gazing.

So what next? Prove me wrong! Send me links of your favorite free clips of sexy men that you think can serve a female gaze and go beyond the old "it's enough if a guy is strong, has muscles, money, status, …" and help the collection grow for the benefit of everybody. Hey guys, you're invited too, prove to me that boys can have a sexy look too – but I guess you already know me a little and know that I don't really doubt that you can.

If a clip impresses me, you might find it on Lust Film Fest. But of course all your links posted can be followed and discussed here.

Love In Style Issue #11

The new issue of the Love In Style magazine is out! At Lust Films we write and produce this publication for La Maleta Roja, a Spanish website and erotic online shop for women.

The general topics are sex, health and women, and more precisely, in this issue, you will be able to know more about Alicia Gallottim, writer and journalist specialized in sexuality, and about her new book 69 secrets to enjoy sex. You'll also get tips, testimonies, news, tours through trendy erotic products and fashions, and more and more!

If you speak Spanish you can read it online for free here

Here's a sneak peak…

The AntiPornMenProject

As I was browsing the Internet I discovered this new initiative called the Anti Porn Men Project. So of course, I had to check it out.

It turns out to be, in my opinion, a sincere and genuinely-concerned project in which a group of about 10 men (and more in the future) talk about their use of porn.

Most of them started watching mainstream porn when they were teenagers but ended up spotting the humiliations, the stereotypes, the violence and in the end the harm it can cause many people.

Although I don't like the "Anti Porn" approach, which I'll explain later, it's important to add that the Porn they refer to in their name refers only to the mainstream porn and to avoid confusions they add that they're "pro-sex".

Here's their definition of mainstream porn:

It's probably useful if we attempt to clarify a little what exactly it is we mean by 'pornography'.

If you look, you'll see there are a variety of different definitions of pornography. The 'porn' in the 'Anti Porn Men Project' is -generally speaking- sexually explicit material that is characterised in some way by cruelty, humiliation, or degradation of women. This kind of material constitutes the vast majority of so-called 'mainstream pornography'. A definition that we find useful is that pornography is that which 'sexualizes hierarchy, objectification, submission, and violence' (Andrea Dworkin).

Of course, porn in itself is not bad, sexual stimulation isn't bad and learning about our pleasure isn't either. People can (and they should!) watch porn as long as it doesn't convey ideas of violence, sexism… So although they clearly explain that their definition applies to mainstream porn only, I think they should call themselves the ProGoodPorn (or something like this…) than AntiPorn which sends the message that ALL porn is bad. We need to send a positive message, that we can make porn better, instead of "going against", or "anti" or "prohibiting".

Still, it's a nice initiative which opens dialogue and debate. Personnally I know many men watch my movies and it makes me really happy. I can't stress enough that my films are not ONLY for women, they're open to anyone who wishes to see something different and doesn't feel satisfied with what they're used to watching.

The members of the group update the website with news about sex health and porn around the world.

If you wish to participate you can register to write posts or comment the entries.

Salon K … where seduction begins

A special place in a special city.

Salon K is out of time and out of space. A place that is now well-known for its class, its sensuality, its ambiance, its sex appeal…

I love the quote they chose to put on their website:

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel, Maya Angelou.

It reflects perfectly what you will find in Salon K. Art, dance, acrobatics, literary readings and sensual play with champagne and dessert… Guests sharing conversations with artists from the Stuttgart Ballet, the Cirque du Soleil, the Paris Opera… and entering their world.

This private salon is perfect to enjoy some quality time in a sensual atmosphere.

If you like this kind of events you should definitely check it out – more info on their website

Niqab Bitches

In France they've recently passed a law that prohibits the wearing of a burka, this veil many muslim women have to cover their faces with. This law reflects perfectly the conflict between France's beloved secularism and the principle of freedom.

Many find this law unconstitutional, and two young women decided to take an initiative in order to "dedramatize" the situation. So they've been strutting past prime ministerial offices and various government ministries with a black veil but with their long legs naked wearing only tiny shorts and high heels.

"To put a simple burka on would have been too simple. So we asked ourselves: 'how would the authorities react when faced with women wearing a burka and mini-shorts?" asked the students, one of whom is a Muslim.

"We were not looking to attack or degrade the image of Muslim fundamentalists – each to their own – but rather to question politicians who voted for this law that we consider clearly unconstitutional," they said.

Their initiative was highly provocative (and genius!) and effectively made people, among them politicians, ill-at-ease so that they would question their reasoning.

This post is not to debate this law in particular but to focus on a powerful individual initiative.

Have a look at the video, it's really interesting to see how a policeman kindly asks them to leave…

via telegraph

Share your fantasies with me

A few months after the release of my latest movie, Life Love Lust, I am now thinking of my next movie called Six Female Voices. It will be a compilation of six short movies (20-25 minutes each) and it will be shot at the beginning of next year.

I was thinking it would be interesting if you could participate! I know many of you who follow my updates like to write erotic stories, so if you have original ideas of texts about women and sexuality, I advise you to write it up (one page more or less) and send me your text to erikalust@lustfilms.com

Creativity is no monopoly that's why I think the result from a collaboration could be great.

If I like it and if it goes well with the general style I will be happy to consider your story and bring it to life with images.

Remember: elegance, sensuality, characters with a background story, originality. I want it to come from your deepest fantasies…

Inspired?

Discover Margarita Bonita's erotic furniture

Last July I was hired to shoot a series of videos for Margarita Bonita, a new Spanish brand of erotic furniture… So I spent two days working in Barcelona and shot four videoclips around three original pieces of furniture: the Movement Bed, the Tantra Sofa and the Secret Cube.

Margarita Bonita is one of the first brands of erotic furniture and they build their identity out of elegance, modernism and sensuality.

They just opened a new store in the centre of Barcelona and if you pass by you will definitely be struck by their classy style.

You can check out all three videos on Margarita Bonita's website.

Below you can already see the Making Of video as well as exclusive photos from the shooting!

Let's do it European style!

Have you ever wondered about all the sexual vocabulary we use? Where does it come from? Is it specific to our region, our society, our culture? Here are a few interesting videos I found and my interpretation.

A thing about words is that they are flexible, languages are alive, and they are vivid systems of interaction.

Let's take expressions for oral sex:  "Fellatio" may also be referred to as "giving head", "blowjob", "go down on", or simply: "suck dick"or "Cunnilingus" also known as "to eat somebody", "to eat at the Y", "suck on a pussy" or simply: "eat pussy".

Fellatio, which I think is in variations like Fellació, Felación, Felação, Félation, Felacija is a known expression in many languages; it comes from Latin and simply stands for 'to suck'.

Cunnilingus stays the same in most languages, and sometimes may slightly vary, like in Kunilingus, or Cunilíngua, but it all comes from Latin as well, from the words "cunnus" ("vulva") and lingua ("tongue").

However there are other expressions for oral sex which have an interesting similarity among European languages, while they still differ strongly in certain ways. It's all about connecting sexual practices to a certain nation. I'll explain it with examples:

in German, oral sex may be referred to as "French sex" ("Sex auf Französisch") with the expressions "to blow it French" ("Französisch blasen") or "do it French" ("es Französisch machen"), whereas in English the "French kiss" refers to something completely different: a kiss (with much tongue) – and even that seems to make them nervous.

Seems like the main difference is where the kiss goes.

The only kiss term I remember now in Spanish is the "black kiss" ("beso negro"), which places the French kiss at a completely different place of the body (anus). Remember the terms – you wanna know where the kiss is supposed to be! In Spanish there are also expressions including the French sexual fantasy like in "French drink" ("francés bebido"), of which you can easily guess the meaning. There are also expressions like "deep French" ("Francés profundo"), which is "Deep Throat", or with "natural French" or "French without" ("Francés natural" or "francés sin").

What do we get from that? Well, that maybe the Spanish only care about the man getting it off… and they say it quite directly.

More implicit and maybe romantic our polish friends who call oral-sex "French love" ("miłość francuska").


One connection in English between nation and sex I found is "egyptian" or "egyptian rape" for a forced blowjob. If it was the only one, I would have to think that they like to have their nation-sex phantasies either too soft or too hard for their European colleagues, but there's also "Greek Love" or "doing it Greek" which is: anal-sex. In German it's the same ("Sex auf Griechisch", "es auf Griechisch machen"), as well as in Spanish "Greek sex" ("sexo griego").

This modern expression might refer to the ancient Greek philosophers and stories about them having sex with boys, and show the cliché that anal-sex is a practice mostly done by gay men, which is a widely spread prejudice. It gets clear in this context because our still homophobic society projects their own ignorance into the ancient Greek context, not knowing that while having a sexual relationship with boys was acceptable, to have anal-sex with them was not. The term "europroktoi" ("wide-arsed") was an insult for people practicing this act, as such words are nowadays among insecure straight guys referring to gay men. Even more ignorance shows the Spanish "bujarrón" ("fag-sex") to refer to anal-sex, in medieval times used as a suspicious or criminal term for homosexual practices. Some day even our straight pals will be able to relax and experiment freely, even if they can't imagine it now.

When it comes to enjoying anal pleasures, there's nothing bad about it, and it's evident that not all gay men enjoy anal-sex, as well as also quite a lot of gay and straight women, and straight men too do (actively as well as passively) enjoy it.

Anyway, again over here in Europe we seem closer than we sometimes think we are, and even our languages – the most obvious difference – shows that we've always been connected, always been close, like bodies having sex with each other.

Note: Neither do I speak all European languages, nor am I a linguist, so if I missed something, or didn't cover a certain language, please don't take offence. You can put it right commenting more "dirty talk" – what other expressions do you know from languages you speak?

Naked Girls Reading

On October 29th will be taking place the second annual "Naked Ghouls Reading", a group of naked girls reading horror stories.

The event got pretty famous, especially since the whole idea came from Michelle l'Amour, a famous modern burlesque dancer from Chicago.

While I think the idea is pretty original, a bit provocative and very sexy, I keep wondering why there are only women, and no men.

Unfortunately, a message that contains the words "Girls" and "Naked" is all you need to catch people's attention, and it travels much faster than "Naked Couples reading" which sounds like a dodgy swinging invitation.

But I think there should be naked guys reading as well, don't you think?! Because women also have the right to enjoy this kind of show, to watch, to enjoy the bodies of naked men, and get pleasure from it.

Wouldn't it be even more daring?