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January 21, 2011
Porn party and erotic stories
That's it. The first month of 2011 has already flown by and we now realize the year is not going to slow down for us. I usually remember that feeling when I start hearing about Valentine, that far from innocent virtual little cherub who's going to invade our lives for a few days of supposedly romantic fever.
It's not advised to wait for a specific day to enjoy the couple fun, but still, if you want to celebrate it well, I can give you some advice:
- Go to the V-day Romantic Porn Party at the Shag store in NY for an afternoon of sexy films, including a screening of Five Hot Stories for Her and The Good Girl
- After this arousing event you could enjoy Lelo's new bondage set for a very kinky night…
- And if you speak spanish and you like to write erotic stories, you could tell the world about your fantasy day and participate in Las Pornografas' contest.
Until then, keep enjoying every moment…
January 18, 2011
Watching Josephine
Have you heard of the new promo videos by lingerie shop Agent Provocateur?
After the "Private Tapes" striptease videos from a few months ago, they're now recreating a "voyeur" video and letting you watch Josephine, a voluptuous woman who's calmly spending time in her bedroom with her sweet lingerie on.
Very realistic, a bit like Paranormal Activity but replacing the scary stuff by a nice lady wearing arousing lingerie…
I have to say I like these spontaneous ideas as they're always sexy, simple and effective.
What do you think?
January 13, 2011
Female ejaculation and the Easter Bunny
What female ejaculation HAS and HAS NOT in common with the Easter Bunny
Saying this I know that we've just had Christmas and Easter still is quite far, but a rabbit seemed to me more connected to female orgasms than Santa Claus.
Ejaculation is associated with orgasm, or better the male orgasm, and especially in mainstream porn with the so-called money shot or cum shot which is compulsory scene, the proof of male pleasure, the visible truth of sex. The female ejaculation on the other hand is praised and condemned, celebrated and denied, all at the same time. It's been mystified, then clarified, then mystified, clarified again, until the clarification was mystified itself. So still a lot of people even don't know whether it exists or not.
To begin with: YES, some women ejaculate. I don't wonder how hard it is to understand, but I do wonder how hard it is to admit, and the one comes with the other. I guess it's hard to understand because you won't find information on it, and very likely you won't even find detailed anatomical drawings and descriptions, or they're simply wrong. Why is it hard to admin? well… I don't know why. Because we still are afraid of female desire? Did it seem too shocking for generations of physicians to find their ejaculation, which they thought was exclusively male, challenged by women? But sex is not about competition, and ejaculation is not the trophy.
But NO, not all women will ejaculate, and not all women have to. It's not the ultimate liberation, and not necessarily something all women would enjoy to do. So it's neither a race with men, nor a race with women. But it can be a journey, and a nice place to discover – and this nice place to discover is your very own body. The first step would be to gather information about your anatomy; the second would be to try it out yourself. There are some people doing workshops on this, like my Viva-la-Vulva-friend in Berlin, Laura Mèritt. You can go to one of her events, or book a session for you alone or with your partner. She will explain to you in details that the female ejaculation comes from the prostate and through the urethra (that makes it neither pee, nor gross…out of what do men ejaculate again?), and one can have it by stimulation of the prostate with stimulating certain parts of the vulva and vagina, on the upper inner side, near the lips and the opening. And she can explain to you how to approach your own prostate and experiment with female ejaculating. If you're not around Berlin you can even have a phone consultation.
If you surf the web you'll find some advice on what you may use as help like lube, and toys with special ends (you can also check them out on Lust Store. Further you'll find very useful advice like emptying your bladder before trying (not because you could pee yourself, but because you could be too worried about peeing yourself and therefore be unable to relax!), or stories about personal experiences.
To come back to the beginning and my title: female ejaculation is the Easter Bunny because it's still mystified, questioned and doubted on the one hand or praised as if it was magical on the other hand, like the highest gift or empowerment a woman may achieve, because she could do what we've thought only men can do. But ejaculation can be done by women, as well as men can find and enjoy different kinds of orgasms by learning to have it without ejaculating (yeah guys, do you know what it means? Going multiple!). Neither is men's ejaculation super magical, even if mainstream porn tries to tell us, nor is female ejaculation, just because we were not expecting this to be possible. It's based on simple anatomy, and most importantly: it's only a practice. If you're curious, try it, if not, then don't. You neither need to feel ashamed, nor feel pressure to go for it. If it's nothing you would like, then it's a plan to spike – but if you flirt with the idea, a good squirt is nothing to fear!
January 11, 2011
"Opt-in" on porn?
Today I would like to react on a news article I read today on aolnews.com. The title says: "Will 'porn-lock' in UK and France lead to Internet Censorship?"
It's pretty sad we still find this kind of news nowadays…
It basically talks about the will of most conservatives to completely block the access to porn so that the risk of children finding and watching it is totally suppressed. In France, a bill, which is to be passed as a law next year, would allow the Government to put ANY website on a black list and thus block it completely. British officials say they want to block ALL porn on the web. You know, just in case…
The intentions are good. Childporn is to be fought against. Of Course! But it shouldn't be used as an excuse to take over the control of the web and let censorship spread along the will of narrow-minded officials! Just to try maintaining obsolete values about family and "good behaviour", some politicians would ban the right that every adult has, which is to enjoy his freedom and his sexuality. It's always the same excuses. Think of the children. But teaching children that sex is bad, that it's taboo and shouldn't be talked about isn't going to help them but lead them onto a path of frustration.
Among this chaos of wanting to control the Internet, between the music copyright debacle, and the porn situation, politicians just have to pick their excuse and make their critics look bad for wanting to preserve our freedom and right to express ourselves.
As Gilles Lordet, the Paris-based chief editor of Reporters Without Borders, says: "Nobody wants to be seen as fighting an attempt to cut down on kiddie porn or on children watching porn online. But it's a very slippery slope to more censorship. We know that in a lot of undemocratic countries they start with censoring porn and they move on to other sites," Lordet said.
We'll see where it all goes but it's important that all of us stay active on the web and keep creating original and good content.
What do YOU think about all that? What would YOU do?
January 7, 2011
New year – New porn
The holidays are over, we ate the cake, opened the presents, watched the same old movies on TV, and enjoyed this well-diserved pause in our daily life.
More than a few resolutions, I'm going to express a few wishes and projects for this new year:
- You know a new movie is on the way, and I'm going to take this opportunity to do something new, different from mainstream porn but also different from my previous movies. I'll try to challenge myself and explore new ways of making you horny and expressing sexuality…
- I'll also try to dedicate more time on my side projects. The Erotic Bible to Europe website is having a facelift, XConfessions.com might be given professional illustrations and designs… And of course the writing and publishing of Shooting Sex which is an important project for me.
- I'll keep browsing the web and search for erotic photography and male eroticism which, as you know, isn't that easy.
- Maybe cook more?
Anyway, this new year is going to be intense and I hope I'll get your feedback and your opinion on these projects. And of course,
I wish you all a very sexy, open-minded, respectful and kinky new year!
January 4, 2011
Casting for my next movie Six Female Voices
Hey guys!
As you know, I've already started working on my next adult movie, Six Female Voices, so now is when I need you guys to participate…
I'm looking for ACTORS: men and women, extroverted and uninhibited, who live in Spain or in a country which has easy air access to Barcelona, and who would be ready to work with us on the set as an actor or actress.
Ideally, I'm looking for non-professional porn actors, I'd rather see someone attractive, natural and with charisma… Are YOU in?
It is going to be a huge project for Lust Films since it'll be a pretty big production. Six different stories with different actors and sets… The shooting will be around Spring.
If you're interested, then please send me an email at erikalust@lustfilms.com
December 30, 2010
Introduction and… action!
Ever thought about shooting a sex movie? Ever shot you and your girl/boyfriend while having sex and thought "hmm, this is cool"?
My next book, Shooting Sex, will be a guide on how to shoot your own explicit movie and it'll be out in 2011…
Until then, here's a preview of the book and its introduction so you can know more about the project and start thinking about your future creations…
Open publication – Free publishing – More lust films
SHOOTING SEX – INTRODUCTION
Already some years went by since I finally succeeded in doing something that I had been obsessed with for quite a time: doing an explicit movie matching my requirements, trying to change the very foundation of conventional porn. The story was called The Good Girl and was about a sexual encounter of a normal girl – could have been one of your friends or even yourself – and the dreamy pizza boy that fulfills all her expectations. I relieved myself from the clichés of porn and started to design my master plan to show the world that a different kind of porn was possible; a cinema with a female touch, with elaborated esthetics and characters with credible motives and real feelings. The Good Girl was a great success career-wise as well as artistically.
I am a political scientist, so I was more than familiar with the academic world, and I never studied cinema. That is to say that I always liked to write and I enjoyed the long nights in winter in Stockholm watching films in my room. I started to build my own small film archive in my restless adolescent mind, and to shoot the most memorable sequences from Pasolini, Bergman or Spielberg with my retina. Stories are nutrition as needed as proteins, I thought.
As new sexual feelings awakened in me, I started to study the imaginary porn of the beginning of the 90s. I was curious about what I found, but at the same time repelled by the lack of imagination and the repetitive stereotypes of the sex industry one takes from the other and reproduces over and over again. Because of me moving to Barcelona, basically to learn Spanish, I started to work in audiovisual productions – something not very difficult if you have common sense, talent for supreme organization and a lot of empathy to your disposal – and, inspired by the enthusiasm of my colleagues, I started to study auto didactically how to make a whole film. In the end and at long last I saw it every day and only needed to mentally associate the scenes we worked on in our every day life, and the films I used to watch all those years. The moment came when I counted all my lucky stars and had a go at shooting The good Girl, and I had no doubt about it, not even one moment. It was time to give birth to a new kind of adult cinema, less sexist, in higher quality, imaginative and modern.
This is more or less the story I tell when I am asked in interviews about how a Swedish girl with university degree became director of adult entertainment. Director of adult entertainment. Sometimes it still astonishes me to read this in one phrase with my name. But it's true, and even if you don't believe me right now, all you need is a good idea, effort, a dream and to surround yourself with a good team to make your own movie.
Throughout these pages I would like to share with you all the keys to create your own sex film. Adult cinema that will excite you, excite the audience, that will make true your most secret desires, that helps you to fall in love even more with your partner, that will make you understand the functioning of cinema, that will enchant the audience, that is worth being called 'cinema', that will stay in your hard drives forever or run in alternative festivals, that will surprise your friends, that will make you change your job, that makes money, that shows your exhibitionist and nasty side, that explores your sexuality and the one of others, that reveals everything or only implies it.
It all starts with a moving fantasy born in your imagination. It's your choice whether you want to keep it for yourself or show it to the world. What are you going to do?
December 28, 2010
Do your Dirty Laundry with Nadine Thornhill
I recently discovered Dirty Laundry, Nadine Thornhill's sex column on Apt613 and after reading quite a lot of it I decided it was worth spreading here.
Let's start at the beginning.
Nadine Thornhill is an award winning playwright, actor and spoken word poet. She lives in Ottawa and she is the Program Co-ordinator for Planned Parenthood's Insight Theatre, a unique non-profit, public education theatre program created by, for and about youth.
Committed to connecting people to their neighborhoods, Apt613 is Ottawa's digital alter ego, a platform for participation and community building, a place where you can learn and talk about new and exciting people, places, and goings on.
Every last Friday of the month you'll find the Dirty Laundry sex column on Apt613. Relationships, sex, porn trends, contraception… Nadine talks about everything with a simple, fresh, natural and down-to-earth style. Far from Cosmo's 10 tips to lose weight, Nadine stays real and provides us with a pleasant and useful column.
Single, in a relationship or even unable to define your "status", you should check it out.
December 23, 2010
Give male eroticism for Christmas
A while ago I talked about the female gaze and about how real male erotiscism is hard to find… That's why I would like to share with you some pictures to exercize our female gaze, as a Christmas present…
You're free to send me your pictures and findings and of course to comment…
You may also submit your creations to XConfessions.com by sending me an email: erika@lustfilms.es
Enjoy! and Happy Holidays to all!
by Dilan Ricci
from Descomposed blog
by Will McBride via Descomposed Blog
via Descomposed Blog
by Antonio Betancur via El Diván Rojo
via Geeky Porny Girl
via Sex Is Not The Enemy
via wwtt
December 21, 2010
The Erotic Bible to Europe on iPhone/iPad/Android
Good news!!
My latest book, The Erotic Bible to Europe, is now available as an App on iPhone, iPad and Android!
So from now on, everywhere you go you can take with you a whole guide of the best erotic places in Europe!
On holiday? On a business trip? Or in your house? You can instantly find the erotic places that are closer to you and which will satisfy your needs and expectations according to your mood: nudist beaches, love hotels, erotic boutiques, lingerie, sexy restaurants, art galleries… coming with pictures, descriptions, maps and everything you need to choose the perfect destination for a sensual moment.
I wasn't sure Apple would accept an erotic app but I was pleasantly surprised to see it on iTunes. The App is worth 4,99€ and of course you need to be at least 17 to download it :)
Here's a preview…
