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Cabaret Desire is here!

Tomorrow I'll be receiving freshly baked DVDs of my new film Cabaret Desire! The DVD includes a nice packaging, a booklet with pictures of the making of, and several bonus videos…

Here's a little video I made because I'm really excited! Half a year of work will be in my hands tomorrow. Many people have already pre-ordered it, I hope you'll all enjoy this film, my most ambitious project so far…

More info on www.cabaretdesire.com

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Feminists or feminazis?

The awesome website Feminist Frequency recently published a video about The Straw Feminist ie all these clichés that are spread in the media, films, TV shows… that represent feminists as a group of angry, irrational and stubborn women on a war against men in order to exagerate and make them look ridiculous.

Think about it, how many times did you see the supposedly "feminist character" in a film or a show? The completely irrational women with stupid revindications.

In this video, Anita Sarkeesian talks about different TV shows that actually talk about current gender issues but that usually discard a rational outcome because what's actually worse than being a woman in our society, is being a feminist.

The result is that many young women are in favor of equal rights but they don't consider themselves feminists because they want to avoid this social caricaturisation of feminism.

So according to the media, I can't be a feminist, I can only be anti-feminist or "feminazi". I've actually encountered myself with this phenomenon with people who are unconsciously victims of this cliché: for example in some articles they've referred to me as "Erika Lust: THE ULTRA feminist". What does that mean? Can't I be a regular woman fighting for my rights? Do I have to be categorised as an irrational woman who fights for unimportant issues?

You should watch the video it is really very interesting.

Farmer wants a Prostitute

Hi everyone,

Yesterday, between work and family time, I found myself with a little while to rest, so I got myself a cup of tea and turned the TV on, hoping to find something entertaining. Unfortunately this nice moment didn't last long, since I ended up watching "Granjero Busca Esposa", the equivalent of reality show "Farmer wants a wife".

I already knew about the show but watching it after a long day of work just made think my job was completely useless since that show had millions of viewers and shamelessly spread sexism every Wednesday night.

Beside the usual drama of these shows, this one in particular takes us back 50 years in the past.

A farmer with a nice house, some money and pets welcomes 2 o 3 women ready to fight to be the final farmer's lover. A real fairy tale, isn't?

But let's point out first that these women compete for a man they don't know, hence my question: Why?

Well, the concept of the show is apparently based on the fact that we, women, are ready to prostitute ourselves for a nice house and financial security. You know, because we can't get it ourselves, we have to look for a man to provide for us.

This show is so obvious it makes me sad: Do women have to be with a man to accomplish something? Do they only have their sex to help them get things in life? Is being with a man our ultimate goal in life? And is that what we want to raise our kids with?

Pucker up on Lust Cinema

I'm happy to announce that you can now find almost all movies by Tristan Taormino on Lust Cinema, my online erotic theatre.

They're educational films that show you techniques about how to explore your sexuality, and there is a wide selection of videos: oral sex, positions, threesomes, bondage… all the trailers are here.

But who is really Tristan Taormino?

She's an author, columnist, editor, pornographic film director (and occasional actress) and self-styled "anal sexpert." Taormino is the author of four books, including the Firecracker Book Award-winning The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

I think she has a very interesting view on sexuality: "I don't really identify with the label 'bisexual,' nor does it feel like it accurately describes me…I see myself as queer, since queer to me is not just about who I love or lust, but it's about my culture, my community, and my politics. The truth is, even if I were with a heterosexual guy, I'd be a queer dyke. People want to call me bisexual or pansexual or whatever, but I believe in people's power to self-identity."

She's a woman who makes things happen, she's an entrepreneur, and she's not afraid to break the taboo on female sexuality.

Check out her trailers and films!

The pressure for orgasm or the "mirror effect"

There was an interesting article on Jezebel about orgasm the other day. It seems that orgasm is the endpoint, the mandatory finality of sexual intercourse.

Since the general pre-conceived idea is that women don't come that easily and that men always get off no matter what, there is now a big pressure on performance for men. They have to use all their tricks so the woman comes, and this is as much about the woman's pleasure as the proper ego-satisfaction: if she comes, then I'm a good lay. It also works the other way around: when men have trouble having an erection or an orgasm, many women automatically associates it to the fact that the guy isn't attracted to them.

So in some way the ability of your partner to orgasm is somehow the reflection of yourself, of your hotness, your looks…

But the more pressure, the less fun!

The thing is that orgasm isn't a button to push. Depending on the time, the thoughts in your head… you might come easily or not, if you're a woman or a man.

What I'm saying is that this orgasm-based measure of self value is based on pre-conceived ideas about orgasm. Of course getting off is important, but the journey is all the more crucial, having a good time and enjoying the moment is what it's all about, that's what I try to show in my movies – sex as an experience, not a race for orgasms. We're not robots, and sex isn't mechanical, so we shouldn't try to act as some kind of athletes.

I would also like to add that it's great that guys care for women's pleasure. Sex is more open, more honest and more mutual. Way to go guys!

How to look for the perfect sextoy

I'd like to talk today about the great variety of toys and tools women and men have access to now. I mean, we've all seen annoying ads on the Internet for sextoys and the famous fleshlight…

But I'd rather talk about the real research that is put into place to understand better how to trigger pleasure. There are a lot of different creations that give a real choice to people when searching for the best toy or accessory, and sometimes it's even difficult to choose what is best for you: materials, colours, effect… Let's try to study this up and help you make the best choice for you.

Dildos, vibrators and stimulators

Luxury for your intimacy

There isn't only the Pink Rabbit from Sex & the City, there are a lot of different dildos and vibrators, even many are home-made.

The famous Swedish brand called Lelo is one of the world leaders in the making of quality and even luxurious toys. Ergonomic, skin-respectful materials, high-tech and shapes that will trigger every bit of your special parts. Vibrators, massagers, rings… The price is a bit spicy but the quality is definitely worth it.

They even offer a 10,000€-vibrator covered in gold, for the most VIP clits of course…

Home-made pleasure

Many artisans have put their work into making the most refined and adapted toys. Icicles make hand-blown glass dildos that are both beautiful and handy. These massagers come in several shapes that will give you much pleasure.

BS dildos are also very nice. They're home-made, hypoallergenic dildos by this brand from Madrid. The traditional techniques and the constant research result in original and body-like toys, for oral, vaginal or anal use.

Modern toys

The toys from Fun Factory are very modern and come into various shapes and colours. Their range include lots of different toys, stimulators, vibrators… that include high technology and fantasy designs.

You also have the posibility to connect your Naughtibod to your iPod and enjoy the vibrations to the rythm of your favourite music.

You may also make your partner vibrate with a remote control with the famous French Déclic for example.

For men

Men also enjoy using toys, and not only for their partner's pleasure. Many different toys are developped everyday to improve their sexual experience.

The Tenga Eggs are now pretty famous, courtesy of Japan. These revolutionary toys for masturbation or foreplay with inside veins simulate real intercourse.



Vibrating cockrings like Lelo's will prolongue sensations. Furthermore, there are also a lot of anal toys, such as the Bendybeads by Fun Factory, that many men usually find satisfying.

Couple love

Of course with your partner it is also nice to enjoy a little game or massage. There are millions of different gels, lubricants…

I personally love the massage gel by Lelo or the silk gel by Bliss Bliss

I would also advise for water-based lubricants to ensure the best quality of condoms.

The body to body massage gel by Shunga is also pretty fun. It comes with a water-proof blanket for you the rub yourself on with your partner with the gel.

Of couse there are many more toys and I can't review them all here, but it's importante to know that there are a lot of different toys that are actually good quality and made for seeking the optimal pleasure for every situation. It's ok to spend time looking for the perfect accessory.

To conclude this post, October isn't only about Hallowe'en and zombie dildos, it's also Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so remember to do the regular check-ups!

Mutantes – Punk Porn Feminism

Mutantes, Punk Porn Feminism, is a documentary by Virginie Despentes, as the continuation of her book the King Kong Theory. Years of exploration, interviews and testimonies have finally come into the shape of a daring, violently rebelling piece, that was released last year. I don't know if you've heard about it, and since feminism is subject to far too many clichés, taboos and controversy, it's interesting to see with this kind of work that feminism isn't always what we see in the news, what we see in films. It's easily portrayed as a useless and angry movement from unreasonable women. Its relationship with sex and porn is often misunderstood, misinterpreted. Feminism is too often reduced to few topics that hide the infinity of other issues, such as sexwork. Virgine Despentes unveils this debate in Mutantes.

This is the description of the documentary from the Dissidenz label website:

Unlike the abolitionist feminist movement, the pro-sex feminist movement, which began in the United States during the 1980s, asserts that representations of the body and of pleasure are areas that must be taken over by women and sexual minorities and that pornography must not be subject to control by the patriarchal state. It also calls for the legalisation of sex work; female sex workers, porn actresses, strip teasers and lesbians have begun to speak out and to talk about themselves, generating a new culture that includes articles, books, films, documentaries, music, comics, artistic performances, etc.

Made up of about 20 interviews filmed in the United States, France and Spain, the documentary gives the floor to pro-sex activists and follows the evolution of the movement from the 80s to the present, from its pioneers and its successors to its proactive activists in France and Barcelona. It also reveals previously unknown images directly tied to the subject (excerpts from films produced by activists, updates on their activities, archives of their works, performances and street demonstrations, etc.)

Whether it's referred to as Pro Sex, Post Porn or queer, the movement is a creative and revolutionary one that calls on us to reflect on what a pornographic image is, what sex work is, what gender is, and what the whole point of feminism is.

Disturbing, provocative and innovative, 'Mutantes' aims to play a saving role as it splits from popular discourse, which would have it that sex is best practiced in the bedroom, that women's dignity depends on their 'good' behaviour and passivity, that the only feminist themes to be debated are gender violence and the wearing of headscarves.

'Mutantes' allows us to see that activists are already occupying other playing fields, inventing other ways of having sex and of thinking of sexuality and gender.

Watch the trailer below

6th Porn Film Festival in Berlin

From October 26th to 30th the famous Porn Film Festival will take place in the inspired city of Berlin. The Festival started in 2006 and over five years they managed to make an international success. Last year, more than 4.000 people attended the event. The contest includes a wide selection of feature films, documentaries, short films… and I'm glad to announce that Room 33 will be part of the competition. Independent films, famous directors… and content for everyone!

Download the pdf of the program, it's in German but the website will soon be translated into English.

Below you'll also find a few trailers of the feature films that will be shown during the festival. Enjoy!

My Own Master – Watch the trailer on LoveSick Robot

Miss, Mrs and Mr

There currently is a debate in France about the use of the term "mademoiselle" (Miss). Feminists, backed by the famous movement "Osez le Féminisme", claim it is condescending and shows gender inequality, and thus should be banned from our dictionary in favour of the use of "Madame" (Mrs). You can visit the official website of the campaign.

I thought that debate was very interesting, here's my point of view:

I'll start by saying that we may not be aware of the gender inequalities in our society, but they do exist. This kind of debate may seem a little "far-fetched" but it is essential to put into consideration these aspects of our life to make things and people evolve and wonder about what really is.


"Miss" originally means "unmarried" and thus "virgin". This is simple: why would anyone want to make this distinction today? Unmarried doesn't mean virgin anymore, so the term "miss" is basically obsolete.


Then, men aren't subject to this distinction, men are not judged upon their marital situation, why should women be? Maybe because even today women's capacities are judged only on their relation to men, because we apparently aren't worth anything without them. Our credibility shouldn't rely on whether we are with a man or not.


I agree that many people aren't aware of the original meaning of the word since it's more a habit than anything else, but changing wrong habits is a way to evolve. Besides, women's credibility is sometimes altered by the use of this term, meaning they're often seen as teenagers, silly, or simply incompetent.


And finally, I think people criticize too easily this kind of initiative saying it's not important, that they should focus on something else, but making us think about what our daily habits hide is the best way to rethink our behaviour and change into a healthy and equal one.

I would very much like to know your opinion! So don't hesitate to post a comment.

Via Global Spin

Abortion on television

You've probably noticed that abortion isn't the favourite topic of TV show producers. It's always represented as something wrong, or something we shouldn't talk about, and somehow we're always expecting the character to admit that deep down she wants the baby or to finally change her mind at the last minute.

Well, on the first episode of the new season of Grey's Anatomy, we see a young woman who clearly said she did not want to have kids and went through with the abortion, during the episode. I think it's a real progress to admit on TV in front of thousands of spectators that abortion is real, and that it concerns all of us, ie regular people who deal with today's society. In that episode Christina made a choice and stuck to it because that's what is good for her, and the people around her finally accepted her decision.

It's is also nice to see this time a character that is not a teenage girl who accidentally fell pregnant, but a grown woman who's capable of making her own decisions. It's doesn't tell the audience that sex is bad, but that choice is a fundamental right.

Don't get me wrong, abortion isn't easy, but it's a choice we should all have the right to make without suffering prejudice.

You can watch a sneak peek of the episode here.