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Please Destroy Any of My Recorded Sermons

Most of my recorded sermons are on cassette tapes. I know what you are thinking. I am old.

I served as pastor of four churches and as interim pastor of nine churches. Many of the churches recorded my sermons and distributed them via cassette tapes. There are a lot of my sermons out there. I cringe thinking about someone listening to them today.

I am not, nor was I ever, a good preacher. My words are not those of false humility. They are frank reflections of reality. Here are some of the reasons my past sermons are really bad.

1. I did not deal with the biblical text sufficiently. As I have listened to pastors in recent years, I am grateful for their solid biblical exposition. But my sermons mostly did not dig deeply into the text.

2. My sermons had too many illustrations. One of the reasons I did not deal well with the biblical text was my overdependence on illustrations. I told too many stories instead of dealing with God’s story.

3. I was dependent on emotions too often. I used emotional illustrations often. I added humor too frequently. I was sadly dependent on emotionally moving the hearers rather than leaving the work to the Holy Spirit.

4. Some of my sermons reflected insufficient preparation. In most of my churches, I preached two different sermons, one on Sunday morning and one on Sunday night. In addition, I prepared two Bible studies, one for a small group class I taught and one for Wednesday night services. Instead of doing one sermon well each week, I prepared several sermons poorly.

5. I did not give sermons priority in my ministry. Too often I let the tyranny of the urgent replace a needed focus on my preparation and preaching. My use of time in ministry reflected poor stewardship.

I apologize to those of you who sat under my preaching. It is my prayer that God used my preaching despite me. I could have done better. I should have done better.

Somewhere in my house are several boxes containing hundreds of cassettes. My wife probably does not want them destroyed. She will likely want our three sons to have them. I cringe at the thought of the three of them laughing heartily as they listen to their old man trying to preach. I cringe even more thinking about my grandchildren getting the cassettes.

For those of you who are new in the preaching world, please consider my counsel. Do the opposite of what I did, and you will do well as a preacher.

And if you happen to come across one of my old sermons on a cassette, please destroy it immediately.

The world will be a better place for your diligence.

 

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How To Avoid These Costly Financial Mistakes Your Church Could Be Making

At BELAY, we’ve been helping busy leaders for over a decade, and we’ve learned, no matter what organization you lead, finances are paramount to your success – and church finances aren’t any different.

Poorly managed church finances can hurt a pastor’s ability to lead church members and reach the local community.

After all, very little will wreck the movement of God more than weak financial policies and workflows. 

Thankfully, it’s much easier to make changes now — before your church is in the headlines — than to try to reestablish those relationships after they’ve been torpedoed by a costly financial misstep.

We’ve identified some of the costly financial mistakes we see churches make in our resource, 4 Costly Financial Mistakes for Churches.

Here are some of the highlights:

Fraud

Fraud happens in the church because we let our guard down and place too much trust in a person, process, or system.

Without systems of checks and balances, fraudulent activity goes undetected until a major event in the church, such as a load application or audit.

Consistent fraud can be identified in debit and credit card usage and offering counts.

Some quick fixes include dividing and conquering, eliminating debit cards, creating expense reports, eliminating cash apps, and considering third-party support.

 

Payroll

Church payroll is unique. One that most bookkeeping and accounting firms donʼt truly

understand. Partner with a church finance firm that lives and breathes church finance and

church payroll so you can be confident in how your bookkeeping is handled.

More than half the churches we work with had been handling their payroll incorrectly. And itʼs not because they didnʼt care or they didnʼt try – itʼs because church payroll is an incredibly complex issue that most accountants and financial professionals donʼt understand because they donʼt deal with it regularly.

But – and hereʼs the hard truth – the IRS doesnʼt care that your accountant didnʼt understand church tax code or payroll. Your church can still get hit with massive penalties.

 

Designated Giving

If youʼve asked your givers to donate to a particular fund or campaign, that money can be used for that purpose – only.

Itʼs gone into whatʼs called a “restricted fund” and that word “restricted” is no joke.

Some church leaders think that “restricted” is just a suggestion. 

Weʼve worked with churches whoʼve started a capital campaign, but a year later, theyʼd spent the thousands donated for a new building on other activities. They were robbing Peter to pay Paul – and thought it was totally fine to use that money for another purpose.

Itʼs not.

Again, itʼs not that these churches meant any harm; they just didnʼt know that a restricted fund truly is restricted. But theyʼre still responsible for where those funds have gone, and are now in the position of having to explain to donors in all future campaigns that they actually do know how to handle their money now.

Working with a bookkeeping and finance partner who can help you set up accounts properly and make sure withdrawals are happening for the right reasons will keep these situations from happening.

 

Lack of Rules

Your by-laws lay out who in your church is responsible for financial decisions, how those decisions are reviewed and approved, and where accountability falls when it comes to finances.

If your church is named in a lawsuit, the courts immediately turn to the by-laws to figure out whoʼs responsible for what. If your by-laws arenʼt clear – or worse are non-existent, your staff and board members could land in some major hot water.

Find a church leadership and process expert you can trust to walk your church through your existing by-laws, or who can help you create a set of by-laws of your own. Otherwise, you’re essentially sailing your ministry ship without a compass into some choppy waters.

Worse still, dozens of other scenarios could potentially wreck your churchʼs finances.

To help you figure out where to start and get back to growing your church, 4 Costly Financial Mistakes for Churches, will help you dive deeper into the four biggest things we see wreck churches when it comes to their finances – and what you can do to avoid them.

And if you decide you need to hire someone to take over your accounting and financial woes, BELAY can help you with that.

We’ve helped thousands of churches around the country, and weʼd love for you to be one of them. Getting started will be the easiest thing you do all day.

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Leading a Church When the Wrong People Hold Power

Can you lead a church without proper authority? Yes, but it is more challenging and complex. 

I’m assuming most church leaders would rather not step into a situation where they have the responsibility to shepherd without the corresponding authority. But there are churches with misaligned power structures in desperate need of good pastors. What if you end up in such a situation? Leading without power requires informal authority.

Informal authority is earned through social skills, emotional intelligence, and expertise. Unlike being at the top of a chain of command, those with informal authority do not have coercive power. How might informal authority look in a church? When everyone in the business meeting waits on a nod from the matriarch in the back of the room before voting, that’s informal authority.

While much power comes from formal positions with legitimate authority, a different kind of power is found in leadership roles with informal authority. How is this power exhibited?

Informal authority allows leaders to raise difficult questions. Leaders without titles and positions can vocalize the questions everyone is thinking but will not say out loud. Some questions are so difficult that if top leaders began posing them, people might question the organization’s viability. For instance, imagine the media reaction if our president openly began asking about what’s really going on at Area 51.

Informal authority allows leaders to focus on one issue. Top leaders typically deal with a number of issues within an organization. Such is the nature of positions with formal authority. For example, a CEO must be concerned about human resources, cash flow, marketing, and public relations. An individual with informal authority, however, is free to focus on more nuanced and narrow issues, or even a particular issue. If you are a pastor without formal authority, you are more free to focus on one or two issues while letting others continue to lead.

Informal authority allows leaders to break through formal hierarchies, policies, and protocols. Formal authority, by design, has a hierarchy with an expected protocol. A leader with informal authority, however, is not bound by the structure of a formal authority system. A school superintendent, for example, must follow certain protocols in dealing with problems. An informal leader at the school, however, has more flexibility in breaking through these formalities and can deal with the problem in a way the superintendent cannot.

Informal authority allows leaders the flexibility not to be a figurehead for all people in the organization. Top leaders with formal authority must act on behalf of everyone within an organization. They represent the people. They speak on behalf of the people. Leaders with informal authority do not have to act as figureheads. Unlike formal leaders, informal leaders can offend some and favor others to accomplish a goal.

Ambitious leaders often pursue positions with formal authority. It makes sense. Those who desire to lead want the official capacity to do so. Positions with titles imply a legitimate endorsement to lead. But there are some advantages to leading with informal authority. Informal leaders have no official titles and no authoritative positions, yet they can wield much influence.

Informal authority has its limits, certainly, but also its advantages. And organizations need both informal and formal leaders to balance power and authority.

 

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Seven Things We Didn’t See Coming in Churches at This Point after the Pandemic

Admittedly, it’s a tricky thing to find a precise beginning and ending point to a pandemic. We could accept the declaration from the World Health Organization that COVID-19 began on March 11, 2020. But the virus was rapidly spreading around the world prior to that date. The ending date is even more of a challenge to discern.

For our purposes, we look at post-pandemic as that time when churches started regathering in person. Some churches started a lot sooner than other churches, but most churches are back to in-person services today.

As we look back over this regathering phase, we admit that several developments caught us by surprise. Some are good. Some are not.

1. Digital attendance fell rapidly. We continue to be amazed at the dramatic decline in digital attendance in the churches reporting their data to us. We knew it would not be sustained at the same levels as during the quarantine, but we have certainly been surprised that the drop has been so dramatic.

2. Interest in evangelism is increasing. There are two ways to look at this surprise. First, we give thanks to God because more and more churches are responding in obedience to the Great Commission. But we are also aware that the interest is a bit pragmatic as well. Cultural Christians (an oxymoron, for sure) are not returning to church. If a church wants to reach people, evangelism is a necessity.

3. Church finances held well longer than expected. Billions of dollars of liquidity were injected into the market, which helped individuals and organizations, including churches, for a season. But we are surprised that giving has not declined rapidly with the cessation of government support and the onset of higher inflation.

4. The number of full-time church staff has declined more rapidly than expected. Our information is anecdotal at this point, but we believe that the majority of churches have by both necessity and by design reduced full-time personnel. The pace seems to be increasing.

5. Church revitalization has become an accepted discipline and practice much faster than expected. The discipline was growing both before and after the pandemic. But the rate of acceptance and growth of the discipline is nothing short of amazing.

6. Deferred maintenance crises in churches are hindering church adoption. Simply stated, many potential church adoptions have been delayed or dropped because the adopting church cannot afford to upgrade the facilities of the declining church seeking adoption.

7. Most church search committees still search for pastors like it was 2010. We thought we would see pastor search committees (or similar bodies) more willing to change their processes in light of all of the changes affecting American churches. This intransigent behavior portends poorly for a growing pastor shortage in America.

Of all these surprises, my prayer is that the increased interest in evangelism will grow and become an enduring part of our churches. If that obedience indeed takes place, many of the other challenges will be handled well.

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Seven Things You Can Do to Become a Better Leader

If it hasn’t happened already, it won’t be long before a new generation of leaders are being tapped on the shoulder to step into service in their church or organization. In November 2022, the Federal Reserve shared an article titled “The Great Retirement Boom,” which details the rise in retirement during the era of the COVID-19 pandemic and what that means for the future labor force. In many industries and across various organizations, including the church, there is a pressing need to elect new leadership.

Meanwhile, a 2019 study from The Barna Group revealed that 82% of young adults between 18 and 35 years old affirmed that “society is facing a crisis of leadership because there are not enough good leaders right now.” With the number of societal changes happening at a rapid rate and a vast uncertainty in the future of many organizations, it is time to look within. How confident are you with your own leadership skills?

Secular thinking would lead one to believe that additional education and on-the-job training would be enough to get one ready for a leadership position. But as Christians, we know there is much more. Jesus Christ is our greatest example of leadership, and our spiritual development will help us become better leaders. Here are seven things you can focus on to become a better Christian leader:

1. Spend Time with God Daily

Log on to social media, and you may easily find multiple influencers preaching about a morning routine and the importance of it. Whether you choose to pray in the morning or practice gratitude in the evenings, making a conscious effort to spend time with the Lord each day will set you up for success. Talking to him, sharing your intentions, and asking him to guide you will make your day go smoother, and you will be able to see more clearly where your areas of improvement are.

2. Read a Bible Translation You Can Understand 

There’s no better place to start looking for leadership inspiration than the Bible. Reading the Bible and understanding God’s story will help you become a better leader because it is full of characters and lessons that can be applied to issues faced in our personal and professional lives. However, if you often find yourself getting frustrated because you can’t pronounce certain words or you can’t make sense of how a sentence is structured, you can easily lose sight of the story’s big picture. Reading a Bible that’s clear and easy to understand, like the New Living Translation, will help you find deeper meaning and purpose in your life as you seek to be a faithful servant of God.

3. Seek Solutions in Scripture

Have you ever had a manager or teacher tell you “Don’t bring me problems, bring me solutions?” Well, this is your chance to be more intentional with your Bible reading and to gain from the wisdom in its pages! Rather than stumbling into new situations without any guidance, let God lead you through Scripture. Find passages that relate to your daily struggles. Many Bibles today have additional tools to help you. A simple study note or devotion can give you more confidence in your decision-making.

4. Get Serious About Your Bible Study

Get serious about your Bible study by trying a new, robust study Bible like the Student Life Application Study Bible, which contains a wealth of information, and it includes the Filament Bible app. Simply scan any page number with your mobile phone or tablet to connect to a vast library of related content. This visually engaging Bible gives you access to more than 27,000 on-page and in-app notes; over 300 maps, infographics, and illustrations; and over 350 videos, along with audio content and much more. Studying the Bible in this new way, with so many resources included, will help you connect what the Bible says with your life today.

5. Prioritize Your Holistic Health

Good Christian leaders will prioritize their spiritual health because they recognize that God is their anchor. However, to become a better servant of God and of those around you, a sound body, mind, and spirit are needed. Taking a holistic look at your health, including your physical, mental, emotional, social, and financial health, will help improve your life and leadership skills greatly. Setting specific, measurable goals—like walking 10,000 steps a day, getting at least eight hours of sleep, or sticking to a monthly budget—will enable you to see the benefits. You will feel stronger, be in a better mood, and be ready to tackle the hard things that leaders manage daily.

6. Discover New Perspectives

Leaders often serve people who are diverse in terms of age, ethnicity, and political viewpoint, among other differences. When decisions need to be made for a diverse group, having background knowledge on a variety of topics and perspectives is helpful. With much more content available at your fingertips than ever before, go in search of new viewpoints through a blog, podcast, or social media influencer. You don’t have to agree with everyone; think of it as research. You will be amazed at how much this will help you grow your relationships with others because you will be able to understand various perspectives.

7. Spread the Word

You can certainly share with others the Good News about God’s love. But you can also share your experiences. What has worked for you, and what hasn’t? Share what you’ve learned with others so they can improve as well. Share your favorite Bible verse and why it has made an impact in your life. Volunteer. Become a mentor or counsel someone if you feel like you have the capacity. Lift someone in prayer—that can make all the difference in their day. And if you’re ever stuck regarding how to lead others, just remember: What would Jesus do?

Need additional inspiration? Read the Book of Psalms.

Psalm 119:15-16, NLT:

I will study your commandments

and reflect on your ways.

I will delight in your decrees

and not forget your word.

 

Psalm 100:5, NLT:

For the Lord is good.

His unfailing love continues forever,

and his faithfulness continues to each generation.

 

Psalm 40:8, NLT:

I take joy in doing your will, my God,

for your instructions are written on my heart.

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Churches Are Getting Less of Total Charitable Giving—Here’s Why (And What You Can Do About It)

For decades, the church has lost ground with overall charitable giving.

Charitable giving is up—a near record of $485 billion in 2021, despite surging inflation.Giving to churches has dropped even though giving to non-profits is up by 4%.In the early 1980s, churches received over half of all charitable giving.Today, churches receive less than a third of all charitable giving.

Churches are getting less of the total charitable giving. Overall, charitable giving is on the rise in the United States, but churches are receiving a smaller and smaller portion. The bottom line is simple. People who give see the church as merely one option among many places to give.

Why? I believe Barna provides good insight into this question.  

Only 35 percent of Christians “completely trust” Christian churches with their financial support. This is important for churches to recognize because over one-third of Christians (37%) see their donations outside of the church as part of their tithe, and some Christians may decide to redistribute their charitable dollars elsewhere, depending upon their level of trust.

It’s a well-documented trend that charitable giving is up in the United States while the portion churches receive is dropping. Again, a lack of trust is a significant concern.

What can you do to help build trust in your church finances? Small steps can make a big difference.

1. Print regular financial statements for church members. Quarterly is preferred. Make these statements available during your most active times, like Sunday mornings. If there is nothing to hide, then why not distribute financial statements?

2. Explain the financials to your staff. Make sure they have a basic understanding of the budget. For example, part of my weekly report to the staff includes an update on the numbers of the church. Staff must help build this culture. Mistrust among staff will lead to mistrust among congregants.

3. Celebrate ministry successes and remind people their generosity is one of the reasons for the success. Guilt is a terrible motivator. Making people feel guilty about not giving will change behavior for a couple of weeks. Your main worship times are an excellent opportunity to inspire people to give by focusing on how God is working through the church.

4. Make biblical giving an expectation of membership, and explain generosity in the membership class. For many years, I recoiled at the thought of telling new members our expectations of generosity. Now I joyfully teach it. Why the change? I found many new members are eager to give! They are excited about what’s happening in the church. That’s why they’re there!

5. Make biblical giving a requirement for church leadership, especially staff. We do generosity checks on staff and key leadership positions in our church. It’s done discreetly and without sharing any detailed financial information. Our paid staff are required to tithe, and giving patterns are checked annually.

6. Pray through your budget process and call your people to do the same. The budget process should be guided by prayer! I’m all for churches using sound business principles to guide their finances. Issues of liquidity, debt service, and cash flow are critically important to church health. But prayer is even more important! So don’t forget to pray over your budget.

Good stewardship practices build trust, and people are inclined to be more generous with non-profit organizations they trust. It’s time for churches to start regaining this trust and do more for God’s kingdom.

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My Greatest Surprise about Churches Seeking Consultations

I’ve done church consulting for decades now. Over the years, I’ve worked with churches of various sizes, multiple denominations, differing polities, and diverse locations. I’ve learned a lot over the years. 

Some patterns are generally the same among these churches, which doesn’t surprise me. Some examples are that most churches are not doing evangelism well, that most do not have a clear discipleship strategy, and that most tend to have a low percentage of members serving in the church. These issues are common enough that I assume we’ll need to address at least some of them in a consult. 

What’s been most surprising to me, on the other hand, may be a surprise to you, too: the number of pastors and church leaders who really don’t know the community they’re called to reach. 

In almost every consultation I’ve done, I’ve asked the leaders to give me their ministry area so we might complete a demographic study of that community. To my surprise, though, many church leaders are surprised by my very request. That’s because they assume all their issues are internal ones, and the consultant’s job is to help them fix those areas. They’re not even thinking  about whether they’re set up to reach their community—which immediately indicates a problem in the church’s focus. 

Then, when I do secure a demographic study for a church, I seldom give the report to the church leaders immediately. Instead, I study it first and then ask leaders questions like these before they ever see the report:

What percentage of people in your community are under age 65? Age 40? Age 18?What’s the fastest growing ethnic group in your community? Is your community projected to be larger or smaller in the next five years? The next ten years? What percentage of your community is single? What’s the average household income in your community? What percentage of the people are not attending church? 

I could add other questions, but you probably already know what I learn. Many church leaders, beginning with pastors, cannot answer these questions with any sense of accuracy. To this day, that still surprises me. Here are my concerns in those situations: 

A generic “burden” for a community that leaders don’t really know is not much of a burden. Unnamed, unidentified burdens may be no burdens at all, actually. A lack of accurate knowledge of a community hinders the church’s outreach efforts. We would expect an overseas missionary to spend significant time getting to know his people group if he wants to reach them; but, for some reason, we don’t see as much need if the people around us already seem like us. That means we’re aiming our outreach (if it exists at all) at assumed—and sometimes inaccurate—targets. Current knowledge of a community should lead to current prayers for that community. Imagine, for example, the pastor who calls his church to pray after learning that more than half of the ministry area are under age 25. Knowledge focuses a burden, and the burden strengthens the prayers. 

How well do you know your community? If you’re not sure (or even if you are sure but haven’t reviewed it for some time), I encourage you to check out Church Answers’ Know Your Community resource. It’s worth the expense.

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Five Reasons Why the Disappearance of the Offering Plate Is So Significant for Churches

My childhood memories are vague. Still, I do recall with some surprising detail the passing of the offering plates in my first church. I never questioned its validity or efficacy. It was just something churches did.

Most churches used an offering plate or its equivalent prior to the pandemic. Now, most churches do not. It has been that stark and sudden.

The offering plate is disappearing.

One of the members of our Church Answers community conducted a simple poll that asked other members of the community if their church still passed an offering plate. The results were clear and profound. Seven of ten churches no longer pass the offering plate.

While the sample size and selection of the poll would not pass scientific rigors, the numbers are telling. Even among smaller churches, the offering plate is disappearing.

Rather than analyzing the reasons for the disappearing offering plate, let’s take a look at some of the implications of this dramatic shift. There is more to it than a mere removal of a traditional element of worship service. Indeed, the change is very important. Here are five reasons why the disappearance of the offering plate is so significant.

1. Online giving is now the default of the majority of churches. When COVID dictated that most churches would not be open for a season, there were no worship services to pass offering plates. In a figurative blink of an eye, churches that never considered online giving made the move. This change is not trivial. It means that church leaders must continuously point church members to digital giving as their means of stewardship. The offering plate served as the visual reminder to give generously. That void must now be filled.

2. The offering plate communicated clearly that the act of giving is an act of worship. Indeed, this reason is the most often articulated rationale of the remnant of churches that still pass a plate in worship services. Church leaders now must find and communicate ways to remind church members that the act of giving is an act of worship. A number of churches have a stewardship generosity moment during all of their worship services.

3. The offering plate will not return. While churches have resumed a number of pre-COVID practices, don’t count on the return of the offering plate. Once a church member gives online, he or she is unlikely to change behaviors. And church leaders now see clearly that online giving is more dependable. If a church member is out or if the church has to cancel a worship service, digital giving means that the funding will not stop.

4. Millennials do not like the passing of the offering plate; Gen Z abhors it. Though this statement is based on our anecdotal research only, I believe a scientific study will validate our observations. Millennials are not comfortable touching a plate touched by many other hands. Gen Z will avoid it completely.

5. The disappearance of the offering plate provides churches an opportunity to rethink all aspects of the worship services. While the offering may be the most visible change in church worship services, it would serve church leaders well to ask serious questions about other elements or aspects of the services. What are we doing because we’ve always done it that way? What could we change? What do we do that is non-negotiable and must not change? Why?

It happened so quickly. Soon, over 90 percent of churches will not pass an offering plate. The change is profound and sudden. Other changes are taking place as well. For example, the “stand and greet” time in worship services is all but gone as well. We will return to that subject in a future article.

On that latter note, I feel a smile coming to my face.

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The Public Nature of Pastoring and the Inescapable Reality You Always Represent Your Church

“. . . because you’re the pastor.”

Most pastors have heard the end of this sentence at some point. Perhaps you bristled at hearing it. Maybe your feelings were justified, depending on what preceded the phrase. But there’s truth in “because you’re the pastor.” The call to shepherd a church is a call to shepherd a community. People expect you to represent your church. And you should. If you’re a pastor, you’re also a statesman—there’s no way around it.  

I use the term “statesman” not in a political sense, but pastors are statesmen in that they must realize they always represent their churches. That hat never comes off.

You live in a fishbowl. You’re constantly—and justifiably—being observed. If it grates you whenever someone stops you in the grocery store, then get over yourself. You’re the chief servant of your church, and you don’t get the luxury of telling people, “Leave me alone.” Are there times to withdraw? Yes. Jesus took time to be alone with God. Do some people place too much scrutiny on you (or worse, your family)? Of course. But projecting the abuses of some on the rest of your people is short-sighted. Complaining about the fishbowl does nothing for you or your church.

Your opinions affect your church. You’re entitled to them but know they will reflect on your church. I find it humorous to read disclaimers on some pastors’ social media bios: “These thoughts are my personal opinions. They are not necessarily the opinions of my church.” Yeah, right. If you say something foolish, mean, heretical, or illegal, it will reflect poorly on you and your church. Before you speak out, ask, “Will this hurt or help my congregation?” You always represent the bride of Christ, especially the local church you shepherd.

You’ll never be part of the crowd. By design, pastors are set apart. It’s one of the toughest aspects of ministry. Leading a church can be quite lonely. You’re never “just one of the friends.” Since you represent your church unlike anyone else, you must always consider that your words carry more weight. Quite frankly, it’s viewed differently if you tell a crass joke or cross the line of decency.

Pastors are public figures. It’s an inescapable reality. Is it fair? Not really. Your calling as a pastor is not based on being treated fairly. You must embrace the fact that you are a figurehead—in your church and community.

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Ten Suggestions for Church Members When They Read Negative Things about Their Pastors on Social Media

It will happen to most pastors. They will wake up one morning to texts or emails. The wording will say something like,  “Pastor, you need to see what Mike Smith wrote about you on Facebook.” The pastor’s day is already messed up. Most pastors will feel the need to read the post. Many will feel sick to their stomach.

But this article is not as much about the pastors who get criticized; it’s about church members who see such negative posts. How should they respond? While my list is not exhaustive, I suggest the following ten action items.

1. Immediately begin praying for your pastor. They are under spiritual attack. No godly person would bring a complaint to a forum like Facebook or some other social media channel. The enemy is at work.

2. Don’t assume any or all of the post is true. In fact, it is usually the opposite. But the venomous critics can sometimes use half-truths, innuendo, and false piety to sound convincing.

3. Most of the time it is best to ignore the post and move on. The more attention you give it, the longer the issue will remain open for argumentation, fighting, and more innuendos.

4. On occasion, you may need to write a word of defense and support for your pastor on social media. Critics hurt pastors. But those in the church who are too weak and fearful to stand up to bullying critics are sources of deeper pain.

5. Send your pastor a note of encouragement. It could be something brief like, “Don’t let Mike Smith bother you. We know you are a person of honor. We’ve got your back.”

6. If other church members contact you about the post, let them know that you support the pastor, and they should as well. It only takes one or two strong and supportive church members to bring the discussion to a needed ending.

7. Find a way to show support in a setting in the church. I am familiar with one church member who stood up in a prayer meeting and asked everyone there to support and pray for their pastor. That church member is still a hero to the pastor who was criticized.

8. On occasion, you might be the person who needs to confront the critic. There are no clear guidelines for who should confront a critic on social media, but you may sense your call to this task. Don’t take the confrontation to social media, though. Call or meet with the antagonist.

9. Find ways to encourage the pastor’s family. It’s not unusual for the pastor’s spouse and children to be aware of the attack. They hurt too. Communicate to them your love for both the pastor and them.

10. It might be best to block the critic on the social media account. Again, there are no clear rules for blocking a critic, but it would send a clear message if enough people blocked him or her.

So, what if the pastor is really in the wrong and the critic is right? Well, I know the critic is wrong in a big way for the way he or she vocalized the issue. Social media is not the place to address these issues.

I would love to hear your perspectives on this matter. What are some experiences you’ve had as the pastor who received criticism or the church member who read the criticism online?

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