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Lessons from my Teenage Daughter

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For so many women navigating a change in our lives is scary, because it doesn’t only affect us. When we leave our marriage, change carriers, embrace our gifts, start fighting back it doesn’t just create change in our lives it also changes things for our children. This is often a reason we hold onto our current situation or avoid making the changes that we so desperately need to.

Our children so often are the teachers we need. On this episode of the When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains Podcast, I interview a very special guest, my daughter Madi. I wanted to share my awakening journey through her perspective to show you that not all change is negative.

In this episode we talk about:

What it is like growing around a mother with depression and what it was like watching me awaken from this.How my self-acceptance has helped her.Madi shares her wisdom on why art and writing are so important.

This interview was such a proud Mama moment for me, to witness firsthand the powerful, courageous young women I had the honour of raising.

You will get tingles…

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As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Do you want to find out how you can be your own hero? Buy My Book When She Wakes She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

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Why We Create Different Versions of Ourselves

Hello, my name is Tanya, have we met?

Some of you may have met me in person. Some of you may be family or friends. Some of you know me from my posts and videos on social media. If we have met, chances are you might have met my avatar.

Don’t be offended. We all have a socially acceptable version of ourselves that we send out into the world to play with the other avatars in the game that we call life.

Constructing an Avatar

When I was a young child in Sunday school, I remember hearing a passage in the Bible that said:

“God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and he became a living soul.” ~ Genesis 2:7

The story goes that for many years, Adam was content, innocent, one with God, and unashamed by his naked form. It was only after their separation from God after eating the fruit of good and evil that Adam and Eve noticed and felt ashamed by their nakedness.

Now, I am not sure if you subscribe to this creation story or not (many cultures have a similar creation story involving Gods forming humans from clay), but one thing that struck me when reading this was that we were all originally made of clay filled with a divine spark, a divine self. We all arrive in this world naked, innocent, and unashamed, connected to our divine selves—our knowing selves.

However, as we grow older, and we start to notice our nakedness, we add more and more clay around ourselves to hide our shame. The more layers of clay we accumulate, the more disconnected we become from our golden, divine selves.

What are we creating with all that clay?

We are creating an avatar. Our avatar is our representative, whose services we use so that we don’t need to be vulnerable and we can protect ourselves from pain. This avatar is a product of the Shadow Maiden or the Nameless Maiden, as we are moulded by our relationships in an attempt to “fit in” and be accepted by others.

Avatars and the Game of Life

Like all good games, we are not restricted to just one character. We can choose different personas to suit different situations. I have often wondered if perhaps this is why so many of us feel as if we are imposters.

I have, over my lifetime, played the role of “good mother,” “dutiful daughter,” “doting wife,” “party me,” “professional me,” and “happy me.”

I have, on many occasions, been approached by someone who has been introduced to me through my work. And even though, at that moment, I smile and act confidently on the outside, on the inside, I am struck with a sinking, sneaky fear at the pit of my stomach.

“What if I don’t live up to their expectation of me?” is inevitably the first thought that goes through my head.

I have sat in my car before parties and work gigs, palms sweaty, heart racing. Even as I am about to step into my home after a long day’s work, I’ve thought: “Okay, which one should I be now? Which one of my avatars will they like the best?”

Perhaps you have experienced this too.

We go through life so invested in these avatars, feeling as if we would die if we let the façade slip, fearful of the perceived rejection from those around us. We get so good at pretending that, often, we ourselves cannot distinguish between what is the “real” us as opposed to our representative.

Our Children and AvatarsPhoto by Elina Fairytale on Pexels.com

As our children grow, we loving parents help them to create their avatars—the version of themselves that we feel will insulate our precious babies from the hard, dangerous world instead of teaching them to stay connected to their authentic selves. We do this because we know, from the lessons we have learnt about being human, that to be without clay is to live in loneliness outside of the dream of our domestication.

In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements, he writes about the domestication that all humans must go through, that hook our attention and tell us how and what to dream.

“As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet via other humans. The only way to store information is by agreement. The outside dream may hook our attention, but if we don’t agree we don’t store the information. As soon as we agree we believe and this is called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally. That’s how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. We agree with them, and our faith is so strong that the belief system controls the whole dream of life. We choose these beliefs, and we rebel against them, but we are not strong enough to win the rebellion.”

As humans, there is no avoiding clay. I have contributed layers of clay to my husband, my friends, my family, and my children, and even to strangers who I have yet to meet, and that is a reality of life. Most of my clay has been contributed with loving intent.

It could be that you have done this too, with equal loving motivation.

A Case for Living Without Avatars

In the world that we live in, our dependence on our avatars may seem necessary. You may ask yourself, “what would happen to us if we all walked around exposing our vulnerable selves to the world?”

“How would we survive our harsh realities if we wore our insides on the outside?”

“Don’t we need our avatars to protect us?”

I hear you. At first, the idea of giving up the protections that they offer us is a scary prospect. We live in a world where social distancing, barriers, and walls are part of normal life and are often required to keep ourselves physically safe.

However, walls do not only keep those out who would seek to harm us, they also keep out things we need, like love and connection. Our armour (because that is what our avatar is) weighs us down, limits us, and holds us back in more ways than we can comprehend. Our avatars also serve as a barrier that keeps us separate from ourselves, our emotional and interior lives, our deep yearnings, and our potential to grow and create real, meaningful connections.

One could even go as far as to say that the reason that there are so many lonely, unhappy people in a world where we are never truly alone is due to our reliance on avatars.

There is a reason we find the genuine openness of authenticity and vulnerability so irresistible. It is our natural state.

Photo by Anna Shvets on Pexels.comYou and Your Avatar

So over to you.

If I were to meet you, would it be a meeting with your avatar?

Do you let yourself and others around you know your true authentic self, or are you, too, buried under layers of clay?

Who would you be without your representative?

What could you achieve in your life if you were free from your avatar?

Let me know in the comments

Do you want more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want? Buy My Book When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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Questions to Myself

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I regularly write letters to myself.  

We spend so many years trash-talking ourselves and so this is one way that I can intentionally work on building my trust in the most important relationship I have in my life.  The relationship that I have with myself! 

I know that this may sound weird or selfish, but really… In the end, all we have is ourselves so we may as well be friends with her!

Earlier this week when I was out walking I thought, “If I would interview myself, what would I ask myself?” and so the idea for this episode was born.

In this episode, I talk about:Why I use Archetypes in my Work and my Book – When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains.My own Spiritual Awakening story.The many changes that I have navigated through the yearsWhat I have learnt along the way.

This episode seriously made me think.  

I would love to hear what you thought!

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As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Do you want to find out how you can trust yourself and follow your bliss? Buy My Book When She Wakes She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

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The Magic of Trusting Yourself with Jen Sievers

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In this episode of When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains, I talk to the amazing Jen Sievers.

Jen is an incredibly talented and successful artist, entrepreneur, author, mum and wife.  

In 2020 Jen was diagnosed with breast cancer. Instead of allowing her diagnosis to defeat her, Jen turned one of her most terrifying moments into the call she needed to back herself, resign from her day job and follow her calling to become a full-time artist.  What happened afterwards is truly something spectacular…

Some of the things we chat about are:How well-meaning adults can inhibit creative children by encouraging them to take “sensible paths”.The healing power of letters to your younger selves.How tragedy can be blessings in disguise.How trusting yourself and following your bliss can lead to extraordinary places.

Be prepared to be inspired!

To contact Jen or to explore her beautiful art please go to:

Website: https://jensievers.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jensievers_art/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jensieversart

For FREE Artist Resources: https://jensievers.com/pages/artist-resources

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As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Do you want to find out how you can trust yourself and follow your bliss? Buy My Book When She Wakes She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

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7 Guiding Principles for an Intuitive Self-Care Ritual

You may have heard about self-care and how we should practice more of it. Many women when hearing the word “self-care” would conjure up trips to the spa or bubble baths and think that this is what is meant by self-care.

Self-care can be those things. However, what I have discovered when working my own healing of my Shadow Mother archetype, is that when it comes to nurturing and caring for ourselves, this is a highly personalised experience.

What constitutes one woman’s idea of self-care may not be enjoyable to another. A point that was highlighted to me with my teenage daughters’ first experiences at a day spa.

Let me tell you what happened:

A couple of Christmases ago I thought it would be a good idea to plan a mum and daughter spa day as a special treat for my two teenage daughters. I booked and paid for massages, facials and mani-pedis. I was so excited to share this decadent treat with them! However, although this felt like an ultimate indulgence for me, they hated it!

You see, it turns out that they didn’t like to be touched by a stranger, something I had not considered!

Another thing that I have discovered about self-care is that mindset is key. The energy that you approach any experience where you care for and meet your needs makes all the difference. And this is where the beauty of a self-care ritual comes in.

What are Self-Care Rituals?

The difference between a routine and a ritual is not necessarily the action, but the attitude behind the action.  On the face of it, a routine and ritual have the same physical outcome.  However, on a deep human, spiritual and emotional level it couldn’t be more different.

A routine has little intention and can often be tedious and meaningless.  Take for example having the self-care routine of having a shower. It is something that “has to be done”. It focuses on the “what” – a completion of tasks.

A ritual on the other hand is all about love and connection. As opposed to routines, rituals focus on the intent behind the tasks, the “why” and “how” they are performed.  If we turn taking a shower into a self-care ritual, we may take time to enjoy the water and to savour how this feels in on our bodies. We may dry ourselves with a thick, luxurious towel and rub our bodies with beautiful body oils. We may take time to look at ourselves appreciatively in the mirror, noticing ourselves and feeding ourselves loving thoughts and compliments.

There is thought, preparation and care put into every part of the ritual.  A good self-care ritual makes you feel loved and special. Rituals offer a sense of wonder and delight. They turn the everyday mundane routines into something magical and full of love.

Through the use of rituals, you communicate to yourself that this is your time and that value yourself. When you take the time to plan prepare execute something that is meaningful and heartfelt your soul feels this on a deep spiritual level.

 When we create a self-care ritual for ourselves, we communicate “I see you, you are special to me, I care about you.”

Photo by Taryn Elliott on Pexels.com7 Guiding Principles for an Intuitive Self-Care Ritual

These principles are adapted from the work of Dr Emmi Pikler, a post-WWII Hungarian Paediatrician who created an intuitive and respectful way to nurture the body, mind, and spirit of infants. These are principles that I share in my book When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains.

Several of us, although some of us may already be grandmothers, we may not have received nurturing in a motherly way, and this has deeply wounded you, a characteristic of the Wounded Mother archetype. However, it is never too late to mother yourself.

I share these principles with you so you too can practise self-care and self-love and heal the Wounded Mother archetype in yourself. When you follow these 7 principles you will be able to embody the energy of your Wise Woman archetype and connect intuitively with yourself and give yourself what you need in your self-care ritual.

Principle One: Give Yourself Your Full Attention

Give yourself permission to be your sole priority– to lovingly provide yourself with the gift of your full attention. Ensure to choose a quiet time when you know you will not be interrupted. Remove any distractions from the room. Turn your phone on silent, switch of any music or TVs. This is your time to receive the full expression of your love– a gift you are able to share so freely with others. This is your turn!

Principle Two: Make Sure You Slow Down

In the fast-paced environments, we are surrounded by, our lives become so busy that we can so easily get caught up in the temptation to rush, compare, and compete. This is not one of those times. Take your time. Resist the urge to rush. Feel into yourself, go at your own pace.

Principle Three: Build Trust and Your Relationship with Yourself During These Care-Giving Times

Over time, through constant and repeated breaks of agreements that you have set with yourself as well as perceived failures in life, we are often left with very little, or no trust left in ourselves. My mission is to support you in rebuilding that trust so you can fulfil a strong and rooted relationship with yourself again. A “ritual” is an expression of love and self-care. By creating a ritual, you are able to lovingly tune into giving yourself what you need, and in doing so restoring the trust that you have in yourself.

Principle Four: Do Things “With” Yourself and Not “To” Yourself

We frequently drown out what feels right for us and continue to do what we think we “should” be doing instead of doing what we “know” is right for us. Self-care can be like this too. We can get so caught up in other people’s ideas of self-care that it can cause us to compare and doubt ourselves. Instead, make a commitment to yourself to only do what feels right to you during your self-care ritual.

Principle Five: Allow Yourself Freedom to Move

During the process of life, we are constantly growing and evolving. Give yourself permission to enjoy this freedom. Freedom to choose, freedom to think, freedom to feel, freedom to decide, freedom to grow, freedom to change, and freedom to become. Your ritual, your way!

Principle Six: Allow Yourself Uninterrupted Time for Play

For me, “play” means any time you experience that beautiful, euphoric feeling of flow. You may have experienced this “flow” before, or “being in the zone”, while sharing laughing with friends, dancing, cooking, gardening, singing, painting, writing, sex, or exercising. Ask yourself, what feels like play for me? And then be sure to include this in your self-care ritual.

Principle Seven: Our Bodies, Hearts, and Souls Continuously Sends Us Cues. Take Time to Tune in Respectfully

As mentioned above we are in a constant state of flow. As women, due to our cyclic natures, what feels good to us and life-affirming one day, may not feel right to us on another day. Take time to tune into what your body needs and honour these cues. I have prepared a FREE 5-day ritual for you to support you to start and enrich this practice for yourself. You can download it HERE.

I would love to hear about your experience.

Please let me know about your favourite self-care rituals in the comments below.

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Would you like to find out how to AWAKEN Your Own Queen? Buy My Book When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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How To Awaken Your Own Queen

There is a lot of buzz in social media at the moment about female sovereignty, empowerment for women and embodying Queen energy.

If you follow this blog, have seen a post about my book, or read some of the content on my website you may have noticed that I speak about how to AWAKEN Your Own Queen.

You may be wondering what all of this means.

Who is a Queen?

The short answer is, YOU!

The Queen archetype is a mature energy that is alive and available to every woman. It is the energy we use to lead, speak up, delegate, set boundaries and claim the truly magnificent, powerful beings we are! The Queen is a highly influential archetype. She is extremely polarising as many women want to be her, but are at the same time, extremely intimidated by her.

Every woman has a Queen already in her waiting to claim her power!

Listen to Imagine a Queen, by Tanya Valentin, to hear the qualities of the Queen Archetype.

So, if this energy is in us and available to us at any time, why don’t we claim it for ourselves? Why do we find it so difficult to AWAKEN Our Own Queen?

Here are 10 reasons why you may not have claimed Your Crown yet.

You Have Been Taught Not to Trust Other Women

Many of us have grown up with stories about how we can’t trust other women. In fact, the treachery of women goes right back to the creation story. Myths and legends are full of cautionary tales too.

Women are catty. Women are difficult. Other women will steal your man. Women are the competition!

You may have had experiences that you took as evidence to confirm this “truth” for yourself. These experiences may have cast you in the shadow of the Wounded Warrior (the Shadow Huntress archetype) where we feel that we can only depend on ourselves. Or the Fragile Lover (the Shadow Lover archetype) where the need for drama feeds our fragile self-esteem.

You Have Been Taught Not to Trust Yourself

Additionally, when we are under the influence of the Nameless or Shadow Maiden archetype, we believe that we must conform and seek approval from others to be accepted. This causes us to stop looking inward for direction. Instead, we focus all our energy externally in the hopes of pleasing others or being rescued by “our prince in shining armour”.

A Queen surrounds herself with a team of advisors, mentors, and ladies in waiting.

A Queen trusts herself and her decisions.

A Queen trusts her team, not only outside of herself but also within.

It is Easier to be a Protector of Other Women or to “Fix” Others Than to Accept Other Queens as an Equal

When we are influenced by the wound of the Shadow Mother archetype, we can feel the need to control others and the outcome. The Wounded Mother likes to “fix” people or take everybody’s problems on as if they are her own.

The Huntress is the natural protector of other women and an advocate for them. The Wounded Warrior has put up armour to protect herself due to woundings she sustained in past experiences. She finds it safer to protect herself by, saving and advocating for other women. She does this instead of healing herself and accepting them as a fellow Queen!

A Queen knows that when she heals and uplifts herself, she makes it possible for other Queens to rise with her.

You Find Other Queens Intimidating

We may know other Queens. Women who have already claimed their crown and have stepped into their sovereignty (women who have embraced and accepted their true selves and live their lives with authenticity on their own terms). You may look at these Queens, who radiate self-love, self-confidence and self-worth and feel a bit intimidated by them.

We are not taught to value powerful women. A Queen values her own energy, and she sets and maintains firm boundaries in order to preserve these for herself. This can be hugely confronting for someone who identifies strongly with the Shadow Maiden or Shadow Mother Archetypes.

Everybody falls under the shadow of the Imposter Queen Archetype sometimes and this is normal. However, you do not have to be like other Queens, being yourself is enough! You can choose how you AWAKEN Your Own Queen!

You Value Masculine Ways of Leading

We as young girls and indeed even as women grow up with the male-dominated example of what it means to lead. We have been taught the value of “going it alone”, competing, “selling ourselves”, “working till we drop”, scarcity, domination and hustling for our worth.

This is very much a characteristic of the Wounded Warrior, who because of previous injuries has learnt that the only way to protect herself is to armour up. Or even the shadow Queen archetype who feels that she must compete against other Queens.

A Queen knows that there is enough room, gold, and treasure in the world for all to share and that she doesn’t need to hustle, compete, or put others down in order to be a Queen.

A Queen uses her life lessons and shadows as tools from which to grow with wisdom and humility and for the greater good.

A Queen learns from her mistakes and practices using her Queenly skills, because she knows this makes her a better Queen.

You Believe That it Safer to Stay Small

When we claim our Sovereign Self and everything that this entails, we open ourselves up to be both celebrated and criticised.

Either way, being visible can be terrifying!

This is especially true if you have been raised to be “seen and not heard” or spent your life safely tucked away in the shadow of the Nameless Maiden. When we have come to associate approval and fitting in with love, connection and survival, going against this programming can be petrifying. It is also far easier to abdicate decision-making to others and to blame them when things don’t go to plan.

A Queen stands sure and true in the confidence of her worth and divine sovereignty.

A Queen is whole and does not need the approval of others to lead or define her.

A Queen does not discount herself, diminish who she is, or hide behind her clay, but vulnerably and courageously allows herself to shine in all of her golden splendour.

You Have Been Given Poor Examples of “Queendom” and Have an Unhealthy Relationship with Power

In a culture that values the Maiden and Mother archetype, we have been given little to no example of what it means to be a Queen. The majority of Queens represented in our culture, are what I call the Evil Queen archetype. Just think about the stories of your childhood, how was the Queen portrayed?

We are warned repeatedly about the dangers of being “too powerful”, “too successful”, “too sexy”, “too emotional”, “too opinionated”, “too wealthy”. We have had significant warnings embedded in our collective psyche, such as the Salam witch trials, about what will happen if we deviate from the “path”. You may have interpreted these warnings to mean that your personal power is “unsafe” or “too much” for you to handle.

In movies, books, and even on social media we are shown the example of what it means to be “wealthy and successful”. We are told that “power corrupts” and that power is going to change us into someone who we don’t like. We are fed a “cookie-cutter” version of what it means to embody the Queen archetype, and this may not fit in with who you are.

This is why in my work I speak about Awakening Your OWN Queen. Being a Queen is a coming into yourself, deciding who you are authentically and living your own life on your own terms.

You decide what being a Queen means to you!

You Don’t Value Who You Are

We put so many limitations on ourselves.

When we stay small in the shadow of the Maiden or are influenced by the Selfless Mother Archetype, we defer our power to others. This can lead us to believe that the highest virtue for us to aspire to is being selfless, compliant and helpless.

As I mentioned previously, there is tremendous safety in this learnt helplessness. However, the sense of security we experience with being a powerless ‘damsel in destress’ comes with a hefty price tag. The price we pay is the lost connection with who we are.

So many women after spending their twenties, thirties and even forties in the role of Mother or Maiden reach a tipping point. A stage in their life where we can feel so lost and stuck and which can weigh heavily on our sense of wellbeing and enjoyment in life.

I recall my pivotal moment. Standing naked in front of the mirror, looking at the woman in the reflection before me and not even recognising who she was anymore. It was as if there was a wild woman inside of me, who was banging her fists against the walls I had built around her and screaming at the top of her lungs for me to let her out! (Read more about this story in my book)

You Have an Unhealthy Relationship with Money

Like many of our stories and beliefs about power, all of us grow up with limiting stories and beliefs about money. This can limit you when you try to AWAKEN your own Queen.

Just as we inherit our sense of self-worth from our parents, we also inherit our money stories from our parents. Additionally, we may have had setbacks that led us to create self-protecting behaviour patterns, which block our wealth and abundance.

You may have heard or believed stories such as “People in our family aren’t rich or successful”, “Money is the root of all evil”, “Money will change me into someone I don’t like”, “I don’t deserve money”, “Money is dirty and sleazy” or my personal favourite, “We’re not Rockefellers we’re the other fellers!”

When our money stories are running the show, this can be detrimental to us claiming our own wealth, success and abundance as an awakened, powerful Queen!

You Think That You Have to be Chosen

Think back to the fairy tales you grew up with. The fair Maiden waiting to be picked by the Prince, so that she can become a Princess and live happily ever after…

Many of us are still that Maiden, are waiting to be chosen. Waiting to be given permission to AWAKEN your own Queen. Waiting for something outside of ourselves to happen so that we can live our most abundant life. This could be waiting to “lose the weight” so that we can be happy. Waiting for “the one” to come along and save us so that we can live happily ever after. Waiting for the person who upsets us at work to leave so that we can finally be promoted and have job satisfaction…

The truth is that you do not have to wait to be chosen!You can choose yourself! You can back yourself, and choose to rise as the Queen you already are!AWAKEN Your Own Queen

Did any of these points resonate with you? Which of these areas do you most need to heal?

I would love to hear from you in the comments!

Are you wondering how to AWAKEN Your Own Queen?

You can heal these Shadow Archetypes that are keeping you small and claim your crown for yourself! In my book, When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains I guide you through a journey of self-discovery to heal your Shadow Archetypes and reconnect you with your wild, authentic, inner Queen who is already inside of you.

You can be the Queen of your own life!

Buy my book When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains.

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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How To Awaken Your Own Queen and Why You Haven’t Yet

There is a lot of buzz in social media at the moment about female sovereignty, empowerment for women and embodying Queen energy.

If you follow this blog, have seen a post about my book, or read some of the content on my website you may have noticed that I speak about how to AWAKEN Your Own Queen.

You may be wondering what all of this means.

Who is a Queen?

The short answer is, YOU!

The Queen archetype is a mature energy who is alive and available to every woman. It is the energy we use to lead, speak up, delegate, set boundaries and claim the truly magnificent, powerful beings we are! The Queen is a highly influential archetype. She is extremely polarising as many women want to be her, but are that same time, extremely intimidated by her.

Every woman has a Queen already in her waiting to claim her power!

Listen to Imagine a Queen, by Tanya Valentin, to hear the qualities of the Queen Archetype.

So, if this energy is in us and available to us at any time, why don’t we claim it for ourselves? Why do we find it so difficult to AWAKEN Our Own Queen?

Here are 10 reasons why you may not have claimed Your Crown yet.

You have been taught not to trust other women

Many of us have grown up with stories about how we can’t trust other women. In fact, the treachery of women goes right back to the creation story. Myths and legends are full of cautionary tales too.

Women are catty. Women are difficult. Other women will steal your man. Women are the competition!

You may have had experiences that you took as evidence to confirm this “truth” for yourself. These experiences may have cast you in the shadow of the Wounded Warrior (the Shadow Huntress archetype) where we feel that we can only depend on ourselves. Or the Fragile Lover (the Shadow Lover archetype) where the need for drama feeds our fragile self-esteem.

You have been taught not to trust yourself

Additionally, when we are under the influence of the Nameless or Shadow Maiden archetype, we believe that we must conform and seek approval from others to be accepted. This causes us to stop looking inward for direction. Instead, we focus all our energy externally in the hopes of pleasing others or being rescued by “our prince in shining armour”.

A Queen surrounds herself with a team of advisors, mentors, and ladies in waiting.

A Queen trusts herself and her decisions.

A Queen trusts her team, not only outside of herself but also within.

It is easier to be a protector of other women or to “fix” others than to accept other Queens as an equal

When we are influenced by the wound of the Shadow Mother archetype, we can feel the need to control others and the outcome. The Wounded Mother likes to “fix” people or take everybody’s problems on as if they are her own.

The Huntress is the natural protector of other women and an advocate for them. The Wounded Warrior has put up armour to protect herself due to woundings she sustained in past experiences. She finds it safer to protect herself by, saving and advocating for other women. She does this instead of healing herself and accepting them as a fellow Queen!

A Queen knows that when she heals and uplifts herself, she makes it possible for other Queens to rise with her.

You find other Queens intimidating

We may know other Queens. Women who have already claimed their crown and have stepped into their sovereignty (women who have embraced and accepted their true selves and live their lives with authenticity on their own terms). You may look at these Queens, who radiate self-love, self-confidence and self-worth and feel a bit intimidated by them.

We are not taught to value powerful women. A Queen values her own energy, and she sets and maintains firm boundaries in order to preserve these for herself. This can be hugely confronting for someone who identifies strongly with the Shadow Maiden or Shadow Mother Archetypes.

You value “male” ways of leading

We as young girls and indeed even as women grow up with the male-dominated example of what it means to lead. We have been taught the value of “going it alone”, competing, “selling ourselves”, “working till we drop”, scarcity, domination and hustling for our worth.

This is very much a characteristic of the Wounded Warrior, who because of previous injuries has learnt that the only way to protect herself is to armour up. Or even the shadow Queen archetype who feels that she must compete against other Queens.

A Queen knows that there is enough room, gold, and treasure in the world for all to share and that she doesn’t need to hustle, compete, or put others down in order to be a Queen.

A Queen uses her life lessons and shadows as tools from which to grow with wisdom and humility and for the greater good.

A Queen learns from her mistakes and practices using her Queenly skills, because she knows this makes her a better Queen.

You believe that it safer to stay small

When we claim our Sovereign Self and everything that this entails, we open ourselves up to be both celebrated and criticised.

Either way, being visible can be terrifying!

This is especially true if you have been raised to be “seen and not heard” or spent your life safely tucked away in the shadow of the Nameless Maiden. When we have come to associate approval and fitting in with love, connection and survival, going against this programming can be petrifying. It is also far easier to abdicate decision-making to others and to blame them when things don’t go to plan.

A Queen stands sure and true in the confidence of her worth and divine sovereignty.

A Queen is whole and does not need the approval of others to lead or define her.

A Queen does not discount herself, diminish who she is, or hide behind her clay, but vulnerably and courageously allows herself to shine in all of her golden splendour.

You have been given poor examples of “Queendom” and have an unhealthy relationship with power

In a culture that values the Maiden and Mother archetype, we have been given little to no example of what it means to be a Queen. The majority of Queens represented in our culture, are what I call the Evil Queen archetype. Just think about the stories of your childhood, how was the Queen portrayed?

We are warned repeatedly about the dangers of being “too powerful”, “too successful”, “too sexy”, “too emotional”, “too opinionated”, “too wealthy”. We have had significant warnings embedded in our collective psyche, such as the Salam witch trials, about what will happen if we deviate from the “path”. You may have interpreted these warnings to mean that your personal power is “unsafe” or “too much” for you to handle.

In our movies, books, and even on social media we are shown the example of what it means to be “wealthy and successful”. We are told that “power corrupts” and that power is going to change us into someone who we don’t like. We are fed a “cookie-cutter” version of what it means to embody the Queen archetype, and this may not fit in with who you are.

This is why in my work I speak about Awakening Your OWN Queen. Being a Queen is a coming into yourself, deciding who you are authentically and living your own life on your own terms.

You decide what being a Queen means to you!

You don’t value who you are

We put so many limitations on ourselves.

When we stay small in the shadow of the Maiden or are influenced by the Selfless Mother Archetype, we defer our power to others. This can lead us to believe that the highest virtue for us to aspire to is being selfless, compliant and helpless.

As I mentioned previously, there is tremendous safety in this learnt helplessness. However, the sense of security we experience with being a powerless ‘damsel in destress’ comes with a hefty price tag. The price we pay is the lost connection with who we are.

So many women after spending their twenties, thirties and even forties in the role of Mother or Maiden reach a tipping point. A stage in their life where they can feel so lost and stuck which can weigh heavily on their sense of wellbeing and enjoyment in life.

I recall my pivotal moment. Standing naked in front of the mirror, looking at the woman in the reflection before me and not even recognising who she was anymore. It was as if there was a wild woman inside of me, who was banging her fists against the walls I had built around her and screaming at the top of her lungs for me to let her out! (Read more about this story in my book)

You have an unhealthy relationship money

Like many of our stories and beliefs about power, all of us grow up with limiting stories and beliefs about money. This can limit you when you try to AWAKEN your own Queen.

Just as we inherit our sense of self-worth from our parents, we also inherit our money stories of our parents. Additionally, we may have had setbacks that led us to create self-protecting behaviour patterns, which block our wealth and abundance.

You may have heard or believe stories such as “People in our family aren’t rich or successful”, “Money is the root of all evil”, “Money will change me into someone I don’t like”, “I don’t deserve money”, “Money is dirty and sleezy” or my personal favourite, “We’re not Rockafellers we’re the other fellers!”

When our money stories are running the show, this can be detrimental to us claiming our own wealth, success and abundance as an awakened, powerful Queen!

You think that you have to be chosen

Think back to the fairy tales you grew up with. The fair Maiden waiting to be picked by the Prince, so that she can become a Princess and live happily ever after…

Many of us are still that Maiden, are waiting to be chosen. Waiting to be given permission to AWAKEN your own Queen. Waiting for something outside of ourselves to happen so that we can live our most abundant live. This could be waiting to “lose the weight” so that we can be happy. Waiting for “the one” to come along and save us so that we can live happily ever after. Waiting for the person who upsets us at work to leave so that we can finally be promoted and have job satisfaction…

The truth is that you do not have to wait to be chosen!You can choose yourself! You can back yourself and choose to rise as the Queen you already are!AWAKEN Your Own Queen

Did any of these points resonated with you? Which of these areas do you most need to heal?

I would love to hear from you in the comments!

Are you wondering how to AWAKEN Your Own Queen? You can heal these Shadow Archetypes that are keeping you small and claim your crown for yourself!

In my book, When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains I guide you through a journey of self-discovery to heal your Shadow Archetypes and reconnect you with your wild, authentic, inner Queen who is already inside of you.

You can be the Queen of your own life!

Buy my book When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains.

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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Heart Opening Self-Love Cacao Ritual (recipe included)

Are you wanting to open your heart to more self-love and self-acceptance?

This delicious ritual can be used for yourself or a loved one. Use it any time you wish to open your heart and create more love and connection within yourself or with others. Cocao is a natural heart opener and can support you to deepen this practice for yourself. (I like to add rose and honey to my cacao as rose is associated with self-love. Honey is a food of the Gods and Goddesses and so this is a perfect combination for a Queen!)

Before you make your cacao, take a moment to reflect on areas in your life where you experience joy. You may wish to notice or to give thanks for all the blessings you already have in your life. I invite you to write these down in your journal or take a moment to repeat this Loving Kindness Meditation.

May I be filled with loving-kindness

May I be happy and healthy

May I be calm and connected

May I be free from suffering

May I live my life in peace.

Metta

Repeat this meditation to yourself and imagine your heart slowly opening.

Repeat this meditation for others in your family and life, slowly opening your heart to accept love and radiate love out to others.

Cacao Recipe

Ingredients:

30 grams of ceremonial cacao1 TBSP of rose water250ml plant milk (I used almond)1 tsp of honey

Method:

Gently heat the milk and pour it over the cacao and the honey in a blender.Add the rose water and blend until creamy.

If you do not have a blender you can use a stick blender.

Sit in a quiet place and intentionally sip your cacao and focus on being in this moment.Enjoy each sip – savouring the taste and aroma of this magical drink.

What is your favourite way to practice self-love? Please let me know in the comments

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you as a Mum, can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Feeling stuck and overwhelmed? Buy My Book When She Wakes She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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Beat Your Overwhelm With Small Positive Changes

For many of us, the impacts of COVID 19 have been HUGE. What an emotional roller coaster it has been for many of us.

Never in our lives have we felt so uncertain and navigated so much change. It can feel scary and totally overwhelming.

If you have gone to a dark place mentally, don’t be hard on yourself. Your brain is just doing its jobs as nature intended – we are wired for the worst-case scenario. Which is meant to fire on alert, to keep you safe as you try to make sense of everything.

Overcoming Guilt and Shame About Feeling Lazy and Unproductive

You might also be feeling guilt and shame in yourself for wasting this time. Or for not being as productive as you feel that you should have been. Well-meaning social media posts have fuelled these feelings of shame by informing us that lockdowns were the perfect time to learn a new musical instrument, a new language or to write a book.

If you are feeling guilt and disgust in yourself for being lazy and unproductive at this time let me stop you right there! If you don’t feel more enlightened, more knowledgeable or have a new skill or new side-hustle you are 100% normal.

We have been going through a collectively traumatic event. Your body is still processing what has happened to it at a subconscious level. So give yourself a break.

Shifting Gears

If you find that you are still processing, notice this without judgement and accept it. This doesn’t mean anything about you, nor does this mean that you will stay stuck here forever.

You can choose to stay here if this feels right for you. However, realise that you have the power to move out of this place if you so choose.

And if you feel that you are ready to start shifting gears, but not sure how here are some things that you can do to start creating a positive change in your life:

Acknowledge the feelings

Take the time to notice the feelings that are coming up for you, the fear, the anger, the disgust and thank them for such an amazing job of keeping you safe. Then gently tell your feelings that although you acknowledge how helpful they have been in the past at protecting you, you are in fact safe and ready to move on. You might need to release them through journaling, talking about how you feel with a loved one or through exercise and movement.

Start Small

You might be tempted to move into “fix-it” mode and set yourself all kinds of goals, but start small. Choose just one new positive habit that you would like to embrace.

In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear, highlights how making just a 1% change can have a huge impact. For instance, an aeroplane that makes just a 1% course deviation could end up in a different country compared to its intended destination.

Another reason I suggest that you start small, with just one thing is that you want the change to be sustainable.

Starting too big can lead to self-sabotage, failure and more overwhelm. This can reinforce negative thought loops or a fixed mindset that you have about yourself and your abilities.

Ultimately you want to reinforce an identity as a capable, competent person. You want to be able to trust yourself and your ability to succeed. Most sustainable changes start small which gives us the foundation on which to stack future successes upon. Good habits are the building blocks of a healthy lifestyle. When we automate something as a habit it allows our brain space to engage in higher function thinking such as learning a new skill.

Just Start

What you choose to focus on is up to you. It might be the smallest thing that will give you runs on the board so that you can get a taste for success. Or it might be the thing that is causing you the most pain. It is not important where you start as much as that you start.

You can easily get stuck in preparation or planning because this feels like you are taking action. However, this is motion and a form of procrastination triggered by the fear that you will fail.

Don’t wait for perfect – Just start!

Set Yourself up for Success

In the book, Atomic Habits mentioned above, James Clear identifies four things that we need to do in order to successfully adopt a new habit. Make it Obvious, Make it Attractive, Make it Easy and Make it Satisfying.

When we make a habit obvious we first need to identify the habit that we would like to adopt and why, and then we need to create an environment for success.

Say for instance you would like to adopt the habit of drinking 8 glasses of water a day you can make it both obvious and easy by ensuring that you place a glass next to each tap in your house as a reminder about your intention to drink more water. And so every time you wash your hands you are reminded to pour yourself a glass of water and to drink it.

You can make the habit of drinking water more attractive and satisfying by adding slices of fruit, cold brew herbal teas or infusions to your water.

Another way of making the habit of drinking more water attractive and satisfying might be to track your progress on a habit tracker and reward yourself at the end of the week after completing your new ritual seven days in a row. (I have a FREE tool that you can download here.)

You can also make this easier, more attractive and satisfying by implementing this change as a member of a group as nothing keeps us motivated like being part of a tribe.

How could you use these four principles to create success for yourself when embracing a new healthy habit?Keep Going

We have all been there. You start implementing a new habit and for a couple of days or even weeks. You are doing really well… And then for some reason, you stop and all your good work is lost. You then use this as evidence that you can’t make the change, or even as a self-torture device to prove how useless you really are.

You are not alone in this. Keeping the momentum going on a new habit can be challenging especially if you don’t see immediate benefits. Most of us get stuck in the “Plateau of Latent Potential”. This is often what happens during the “in-between”. This is the time between starting a new healthy habit and seeing physical results or benefits.

What to do if you need an Extra Bit of Motivation?

It is important to be prepared for setbacks to happen. We often have the hardest time sticking to commitments to ourselves. However, you can give yourself a bit of extra motivation by using a commitment device.

A commitment device is something that you create to make it easy for you to stick to your goals.

For example, you might enlist the help of a friend as an accountability buddy and give her/him permission to say or do certain things if you don’t stick to your commitment to yourself. There may be certain consequences if you don’t follow through on your commitment. You might even formalise this in a written contract.You might delay gratification by not allowing yourself to do something you want to do unless you have completed your healthy habit. Such as no social media unless you exercise.Or you might create cue cards reminders to yourself to reinforce why you are committed to this new action for when you are tempted to go off track. For example, your new healthy habit is to take a lunch-break away from your desk. You might make yourself a little card and stick it to your computer that says, “Hey you, I know that you think that you are too busy to have a lunch break, but remember this break is going to make you a healthier, happier, more resilient and productive person. You will have more energy and be nicer to be around Xx”.

So where will you start?

What can you commit to?

Remember that every day you practise your new habit is a vote for the person that you would like to become.

Where you are going and who you would like to be is way more important than how fast you get there. Progress might be slow but you can do this!

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Feeling stuck and overwhelmed? Buy My Book When She Wakes She Will Move Mountains – 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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How To Practice Self-Acceptance

A few years ago I invested in a photoshoot for my business. Despite my awkwardness of being in front of the camera the photographer, Nykie Grove Eades did an amazing job. However, the first thing that I did when I saw this photo was cringe.

My smile, my attitude, the look of confidence on my face, it was just plain embarrassing.  I confess that although this photo was taken two years ago, until today, I have been too ashamed to share it with a living soul.

“What will people think?” I asked myself, “Will they think that I am full of myself?” “This is so cringy!”

“Who am I to be this confident?”

At the time when this photo was taken, I used to colour my hair brown even though it was mostly grey.

I used to put off buying new clothes until I “lost my weight”. 

If I bought clothes they would be size 16 instead of the size 18 that I really am, just in case someone would see the label and think that I was fat.

I used to step off of the scale or look in the mirror at my extra chins, my saggy boobs, my stretch marks and my rolls with a sigh of disgust – just wishing that I were different.

Just wishing that I were younger, skinnier, firmer, sexier.

I used to tell myself what a lazy, unmotivated, undesirable, undeserving slob I was all the time.

I did not accept or love myself and I was miserable.

serendipity: (n.) finding something good without looking for it

And then one day I saw an ad on Facebook for a plus size clothing brand.  I fell in love with the stunning dress that the model was wearing. It was feminine, floaty, colourful, just stunning. The model, roughly a size 18, looked exquisite, confident, radiant – comfortable in her own skin. 

I decided, even though the dress was more than I would usually spend on myself, to place an order. 

I waited in anticipation for my frock to arrive. 

A couple of weeks later I found a parcel in my letterbox addressed to me.  I excitedly ripped open the package and gleefully put the dress on.

It was perfect!

For the first time since could remember I looked in the mirror and felt gorgeous.

That small moment was a huge turning point for me.  I dawned on me that I could look beautiful no matter the size I was. 

You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.

Oprah Winfrey

flawsome: (adj.) an individual who embraces their “flaws” and knows they are awesome regardless.

From that day on I vowed to (and religiously stuck to) only buying clothing that made me feel good. Outfits that made me feel like I did in that dress.

Slowly but surely I bought more clothes that made me feel beautiful. I stopped dyeing my hair brown and let myself go lighter until I made grey my friend.

Instead of using the mirror, the scale and my too tight clothing as a way to confirm my “not good enough” status or wishing that I was different, I started looking in the mirror and choosing to see myself as beautiful.

It wasn’t easy. Some days I could find one small thing about myself to like. 

Giving myself compliments and choosing to see the beauty in me felt so unnatural – I just wasn’t raised to think that way. As girls, we receive the message very early on in our lives that we have to act or think a certain way.  We are admonished for being vain, we are taught to be ashamed of compliments.  We learn that the most desirable feminine attribute is selflessness…

Perhaps the reason why this photograph bugged me so much was my lack of humility – my apparent lack of selflessness?

metania: (n.) the journey of changing one’s mind, heart, self, or way of life

However, I persisted through the discomfort and I started practising radical acceptance. And what I found was that the more I accepted myself, the more joyful, confident and comfortable I felt in my own skin. 

Once I was no longer at war with myself, I had so much more energy to create the types of things I wanted in my life, and I could make space to discover new things about myself.

I recognised that if I was having a thought that hinged around “I am not good enough” or “Who am I to do this?” then I was experiencing shame.  I started to challenge my thinking and getting curious about the things that triggered my feelings of shame.

I became a shame detector. 

Everyone experiences shame. Unchallenged, shame can be so disempowering especially we use it to cause harm to ourselves. This can hold us back from living the life we want to live or from being the best, truest versions of ourselves.

Radical acceptance is not saying that the thing that happened to us or what we are currently going through is “okay” or that we shouldn’t take action to improve.  Radical acceptance is simply surrendering to the reality of “what is” at this moment in time and making peace with yourself.  As Byron Katie says in her book, Loving What Is;

When you argue with reality I lose – but only 100% of the time.

Byron Katie

Radical acceptance is simply deciding to stop the war that makes reality and yourself your own enemy and deciding that you are enough! Radical acceptance means of locating yourself – putting an emotional stake in the ground and saying to yourself;

“I am here. I am human, messy, full of flaws and imperfect in many ways and I am worthy of love and acceptance.”

Radical acceptance is a way of taking responsibility for yourself where you are in life as well as the energy that you put out into the world!

I realise now that what I was doing in this moment, was stepping into the power of my Queen. Queens know their worth and are not afraid to invest in themselves.

Our children are watching

In his book, I Heart Me, David R Hamilton PhD, states that children of a parent who has low self-worth, will inherit their parent’s sense of worth. He calls this the Self-Worth Contagion. He also states that people with low self-worth tend to marry a person with a similar sense of self-worth.

This means that unless we work on our own self-acceptance and self-love we unwittingly pass this onto our children. Our children are always watching. They watching what we say, how we act and how we treat and speak to themselves and then model this behaviour. Now if this makes you feel that pesky emotion of shame – there is hope!

When a mother steps into her own self-worth she models this for her children too. Self-acceptance and self-love are contagious!

sophrosyne: (n.) a healthy state of mind, characterised by self-control, moderation, and a deep awareness of one’s true self, and resulting in true happiness

If you want to transform your relationship with yourself then you have to transform your thinking.

The first step to transforming your thoughts is to become aware of them.

My challenge to you, for the next 24 hours is to intentionally eves drop in on your thoughts.

Set a timer on your phone for hour intervals. Carry a notebook around with you and each hour when your alarm goes off stop what you are doing.Observe your thoughts you had in the previous hour.Record them in your notebook.Review your thoughts at the end of the day – were they motivating and empowering? Could your thoughts makeover?Take stock of your thoughts, decide what you can intentionally say to yourself instead.Keep going, challenging yourself with new thoughts can be a bit tricky at first and takes practice, but just keep going.

“Part of being human is being entitled to be happy. We don’t need to earn the right, just as we don’t need to earn sunlight or oxygen. We’re also entitled to love and health. And we’re entitled to thrive. And when I say ‘entitled’, I mean that there are no questions about this, no arguments, no debates. It just is!”

David Hamilton,  I Heart Me: The Science of Self-Love

So how about it? Are you up for the challenge of radical acceptance?

In My Book, When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains: 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen I guide you along your path towards self-love and acceptance and help you to step into the power of your Queen.

If the answer is “yes” and you are ready, then Buy My Book, When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains: 5 Steps to Reconnecting With Your Wild Authentic Inner Queen.

As an Archetype Mentor, I offer support and guidance for Mothers of tween and teen girls who are navigating change in their lives. So that you can have more choice, freedom and possibilities to create the life that YOU want.

Are you looking to Belong to a Community of Women who think the same, feel the same and are going through similar experiences as you? Join my FREE Women’s Archetype Community and Enjoy Monthly New Moon Women’s Circles and Monthly Archetype Masterclasses!

If you would like to share your Awakening story with others please contact me to be a guest on my podcast.

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