Mark DeJesus's Blog, page 114

#088: How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself [Podcast]

On this week’s episode we want to address why we are often so hard on ourselves and what to do about it. Sometimes we battle ourselves more than anything else? Why is this and what can we do about it? Do you find that you obsessively think about what you have done or not done in life?

When things go wrong do you beat yourself up and criticize yourself? Are your standards so high that you always end up feeling defeated? Are you so critical about yourself that you can’t find any peace throughout the day? Do you have a mindset of things need to be perfect for you to feel ok? We want to break this down and help you to walk in a greater freedom from this, at times tormenting mindset.

Here is what is included on this show:

Mark and Melissa’s own personal stories in this area.
What does this look like for people so they can recognize that this may be hindering their peace?
How did Mark begin to see that this was something that needed to be addressed and how was it affecting his life?
How can we walk in greater self love and stable mindset when it comes to seeing our own journey?
What are some practical applications to make the change!

We pray our vulnerability is helpful to you and your own journey.

References Mentioned on the Show: 

Kim Walker-Smith Christmas Has Come
Andy Williams – It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year
Possessing Joy by Steve Backlund

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #088: How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself [Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

Your Thoughts Have a Source

Every go through a day and say, “Where in the world did that thought come from?” Or maybe exclaim, “Wow, that thought came out of nowhere!” We’ve all experienced that that from time to time, but most do not realize that thoughts do not just jump out of thin air.

For the most part, we learn many of the ways that we think. When you are born, you needed to be taught, basically everything. Left alone you would die. You are not like an animal, you need to be taught how to feed yourself, think for yourself and live life for yourself.

During the journey, you picked up thought systems and ways of living, behaving and doing things. Some are good, some are great. Some are not so great. Some are not of God at all. Some are down right killing you.

Many don't realize their thoughts are killing them.
Click To Tweet

We have to address how we learned to think, because it set the framework for how we think today. Our parents, teachers and friends influenced not only what to think on, but what thoughts to cultivate in our lives. If you are anything like me, there are some adjustments that need to be made so that you can walk in a more prosperous way.

Of course all of us have a genetic effect, where certain thought patterns are more active in our family line. We may have a genetic bent to certain thoughts, but regardless, we as human beings need to be taught how to think and learn how to process life. If we don’t have proper mentoring and guidance, we can become wide open to thoughts that can paralyze us; with little understanding how to discern destructive thoughts.

One of the most empowering things that every Christian needs to understand is that not every thought is your own thought. In fact, most of your thoughts are not your own! In my Healing and Freedom from the Inside Out training series, I help people understand the four sources of thought:

From God.
From interaction with others and our five physical senses.
From recall of thought patterns that have already been established in our lives.
From the enemy.

If you are not able to dissect which thoughts are coming from the enemy, then you will have deep challenges in life. The biggest problem is that those thoughts sound like your own, as though you came up with them.

Fear can sound like you.

Anger feels like its all you.

Little do we realize that an intruder is getting into our thoughts.

This is why discernment is so important. 

Forget about trying to discern what’s going on in other people. Let’s actually learn how to discern what’s going on in us first. We spend so much time looking at others that we miss our own thought invasions.

The enemy uses subtle thoughts to weave a story about God, yourself and others. He seeks to steal, kill and destroy in every way, by giving you thoughts that give you a distorted lens on life. He uses his megaphone to keep you bound in dysfunctional patterns, and hold you back from wholeness in your life.

So what do we do about this? The plain truth is that you alone are responsible for what you will do with your thoughts. No one can take this responsibility away from you. Many people want to be rescued from the difficult thoughts, but the only way to overcome them is to face them and shut them down from having power in your life. 

You alone are responsible for what you will do with your thoughts.
Click To Tweet

You are the gatekeeper of your thoughts. That is the role your human spirit has to do–decide which thoughts will gain access and which will be torn down. 

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NKJV)

Many have not develop their “taking thought captive” muscles. They go along with whatever thought pulsates through their being. Too many are “too easy” for satan. His army can throw a thought our way. Next thing you know we are riddled in bondage and defeat.

Where do you need to be more aware of your thoughts? 

Where can you be more aggressive in taking your thoughts captive; fighting the good fight of faith? 

The post Your Thoughts Have a Source appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

6 Ways Your Thoughts Influence Your Life

Studies show us that we can have anywhere from 20,000 – 50,000 thoughts in the span of one day. Our thoughts have such a deep impact in our life, so its important that we pay attention to the affect they can have in our lives. If we don’t, we will end up with very toxic thought patterns that will hinder our health and keep us from walking in our fullest potential.

Do you know how the thoughts you have can affect your life? Whether or not you realize it, here are some things that thoughts are doing in your life on a daily, hourly and minute by minute basis.

1. With every thought, comes an emotion with it.

When you feel a thought, you are processing the emotion that is connected to that thought. Every thought that we have has an emotional attached to it. You would never feel a thought, nor would any thought mean anything to you if it did not produce an emotional response in your body.

When you have a thought, you are actually connecting to the feeling associated with it.
Click To Tweet

You have glands within your body, (the amygdala especially) that process the emotional feelings associated with your thoughts. Humans are not responding to our thoughts, we are responding to the feelings associated with those thoughts. The more we allow certain thoughts to have our attention, the more our body’s chemistry will live in the emotional atmosphere that thought carries.

The more we allow certain thoughts to have our attention, the more our body’s chemistry will live…
Click To Tweet

2. Thoughts form our habits.

The more a thought is stimulated in our mind, the more it becomes ingrained. Over time, the thought process becomes a habit. Whenever a situation presents itself, the thought process you have cultivated will become your default response. What we focus on and give our attention to will drive the habits we cultivate in our life. All our habits pay investments into who we are and where we are going.

All our habits pay investments into who we are and where we are going.
Click To Tweet

3. Thoughts form our perceptions in life.

How we see God, ourselves and others becomes formed from the thoughts we give room to on a daily basis. Our perception is our view and lens on life? Every body carries a certain kind of filter. This is the perception we have developed, based on the thoughts we have accepted, giving us a view on life. When you watch the news, what filter do you read it with?

Our perceptions come out of the thoughts that have become trained within us. Some of our training was based on toxic thoughts, but they are our perception nonetheless. Many times we will not have breakthrough unless we adjust our perception from a bitter and hopeless one to a view that carries faith, hope and love.

Many times we will not have breakthrough unless we adjust our perception.
Click To Tweet

4. Thoughts form our beliefs.

Your beliefs are the core thoughts that drive what you do and how you end up doing it. They drive the convictions by which we act in life. Your beliefs start becoming formed at the eariest of age, so its important that they are based on solid truth.

Many times our beliefs come out of hurts in our past, because the pain of those thoughts hit deeply in our lives. The emotions connected are very deep, because those hurts wedged into our hearts.

Your beliefs create a story over your life. Everyone has a story–a narrative they carry about how their past went, what their present offers and what the future holds. How we let that story plays out in our minds will determine whether or not we will live to our fulest potential.

We all carry a story over our life. What does your story say?
Click To Tweet

5. Thoughts form who you are.

Proverbs 23:7 tells us “As a man thinks within his heart so is he.” Basically, you are the culimination of all the thoughts you have allowed to become the predominant ways of thinking in your life. They formed your perceptions and beliefs.

We have to understand that who you are is summed up by what you truly believe about God, yourself and others. The good news is that the toxic areas can be changed. If you want to see change in those areas, you will have to make a decision to cultivate a new thought life based on what God says about you.

Who you are is summed up by what you truly believe about God, yourself and others
Click To Tweet

To be effective in this world, we need a strong identity. The only way to develop a strong identity is to develop on a daily basis, thoughts that reinforce the God-given identity we have been given. We must come into agreement with what is good and break agreement with what keeps sabotaging our identity.

We must come into agreement with what is good and break agreement with what keeps sabotaging our…
Click To Tweet

6. Thoughts Feed Our Potential and Destiny

You will go as far as you are allowed to think and grow in your thoughts. This is something that no one else can do for you. What we think on is our own personal decision. your relationships are all affected by how you process your thinking.

You will go as far as you are allowed to think and grow in your thoughts.
Click To Tweet

So today, we have to begin setting the compass of what we will think on. Those minute by minute investments pay dividends into who you are and where you are going. Determine today to develop a focus on thoughts that will breathe life into yourself and your world. Go get em!

The post 6 Ways Your Thoughts Influence Your Life appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#087: Addressing Fear in Troubling Times [Podcast]

On this week’s episode we want to address fear in troubling times! This is a major theme for people. Whether you are being tormented in your mind over the situations happening in the news or you are struggling in how to talk about the news with your children, we need answers for overcoming.

Maybe you are manifesting fear in your physical body and begin shaking when you have to go into a public place. We also need to know how to talk about the times we are living in with wisdom. How can we tackle fear so we are living in current times and take our place of authority over fear and put it in it’s place?

What do you say with what is going on, we have seen, terrorist attacks, murders, crazy things w children.. how do we begin to deal with this in our hearts, as society and as Christians.

How do we deal with the rising fear regarding these troubling times?
How do we talk about these issues with our children?
What do we say to those who are looking for answers?

Recommended Resource:

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #087: Addressing Fear in Troubling Times [Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#086 How Destructive Thoughts Get in Our Lives and What to Do About It [Special Edition Podcast]

Current events are causing more and more people to face the thoughts in their lives, especially fear, dread and despair. I believe that now more than ever, we need to face the negative, destructive and unhealthy thoughts in our lives with a new tenacity. If we do not address these thoughts, we can become crippled by them.

In our next upcoming episode, we want to address the current events of violence, including terrorist activity around the world and murderous acts on a local level. How do we deal with this? How do we deal with the fear that seems to be rising? What do we tell our children? What do we tell others who are asking?

If you have questions or feedback that you are hearing from others about these battles, send them to us using our contact form.

But this special edition episode is going to help us prepare for next week’s show.

This episode covers the subject of “where do these destructive thoughts come from?” Where do these murderous thoughts come from? What about the fear that we are feeling?

And what do we do about them? You don’t want to miss this episode as we equip you for freedom in your life.

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #086 How Destructive Thoughts Get in Our Lives and What to Do About It [Special Edition Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#085: Why Do I Feel Far From God [Podcast]

In today’s episode, we want to tackle the issue of “Why Do I Feel So Far From God?” One of the major complaints in the church today is wanting to feel God’s presence more, wanting to hear His voice speaking to us.

I hear a lot from people, “Why can’t I feel His presence?” So, What happens when we are having times of “dry seasons’ where we feel like we can’t feel God’s presence? What can we do when we feel like we can’t get it right with God because in our view we aren’t hearing from Him? So today we want to walk through this in a practical way of how we can remove some unhealthy lens we might be having and help bring more of His love in our life.

We will cover the following points in this episode:

Walking in rest in during the holidays.
What are some examples of feeling far from God?
What are the reasons that we feel far from God?
How can we better fight this problem?

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #085: Why Do I Feel Far From God [Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#084: Answering Tough Questions on Animals Going to Heaven & More Heavenly Questions [Podcast]

Today, we address tough questions regarding heavenly things. Do our animals go to heaven? What about getting council? What is a wicked person? We address questions on angels, wisdom and why the Bible uses female pronouns in certain description of heavenly things, like wisdom?

We also talk about the real struggles in parenting children on days when it doesn’t go as planned.

You don’t wanna miss this episode.

Here are today’s topics we talk about:

What is a wicked person?
What are our thoughts on getting counseling or therapy?
Do animals go to heaven?
Why is wisdom described as a “she?”
What about angels and celestial beings?

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #084: Answering Tough Questions on Animals Going to Heaven & More Heavenly Questions [Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

Our Culture Has Become Obsessed! Healing for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

I’m having an OCD fit.

I’m a little OCD.

I am so OCD.

Obsessive Compulsion Disorder or as it is often called, OCD, has now become a cultural term. What can be a diagnosed mental illness is also used to describe a fit one may be having in the mind. People can even use OCD as an adjective to describe someone else.

I’m going to have an OCD fit!

He is really OCD.

The word obsession has become an acceptable cultural term, especially if you are obsessed about things that seem harmless. People become obsessed over their jobs and get promoted. Quite often, obsession becomes rewarded, as long as one is obsessed over the “right” thing. But it is healthy to be obsessed about anything?

I meet Christians who say they addicted to Jesus or obsessed with Him. Yet obsession is really a dysfunctional term, eluding to the realty that one has a unhealthy dynamic towards God.

Love in a relationship stabilizes us. Obsession drives us, consumes us and controls us without any groundedness. You can have a deeply passionate relationship with God, an all consuming fire working within you, without being obsessed.

We’ve Become Obsessed

The reality is that our culture is obsessed. Anything we do has to be over the top or nothing at all. Our thoughts match the speed of our lives; endless stimulation and constant hurriedness.

Our “love” relationships are not based on true love, but a desire for constant intensity, so we never settle into the peaceful groundedness that healthy relationships can bring. The reference for relationship becomes based more on lust than anything else.

Our obsessive thinking compels us into quick actions that lack wisdom, impulsive decisions driven by obsession and careless behavior. OCD has become a way of life. Like King Saul in Old Testament, we become driven by compulsion, rather than led by grounded thought patterns.

Somewhere between 2.5 and 3.5 million people are diagnosed with OCD, but this is more than just a diagnosable issue. Its a modern plague of thought. People have become slaves to the thoughts that consume them. Most live their whole lives in silent torment, while others know of nothing else but to act on their endless ruminations.

As we move along I’m going to spiritually break down where OCD comes from and how it builds upon each other.

Two Main Areas

The first part of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is the obsession. This is the repeating and revolving door of though that has a very narrow focus. It repeats so much that it becomes tormenting. It has captivated the attention of the person and has deeply woven itself into the neuro-pathways of the mind.

This obsessive thought pattern becomes so constant that it eventually demands action, which leads us to the compulsion, the second part of OCD. This obsessive thought needs an outlet, so it trains us to act compulsively.

Compulsion steals our ability to live with self-control, regarding our emotions. We become under its power, so instead of living out of self-control, we become controlled by compulsive living. The compulsion may be an act, having to constantly talk something out or ruminating over the same thoughts and issues over and over endlessly.

There are different extremes of this battleground. Many OCD issues can lie underground, as people utilize coping skills to keep this torment at bay. But they are never really at peace. Others see this build up so strong they have to act on it so constantly that it disrupts every day life.

A Modern Plague

Many are getting to the point where they are getting clinically treated for obsessive thoughts, because it has bound them so deeply. Their daily life is so interfered with and they don’t know what to do. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders used to classify OCD as an anxiety disorder, but has now place this in its own category. I believe this is due to the rise of obsessiveness in the minds of our modern culture.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD, is characterized by recurrent unwanted thoughts. They involve obsessive thoughts and repetitive behaviors. There is first an obsessive way of thinking, followed by a compulsion, a need to act on the recurring thought, with the hope it will be resolved or go away. Yet the compulsive acts only empower the obsession further. 

The compulsions mirrors the thoughts—they constantly repeat. Repetitive behavior such as hand washing, counting, checking, cleaning are often performed with the hope of preventing obsessive thoughts or making them go away. Performing these so called rituals however, provides only temporary relief and not performing them noticeably increases anxiety. Most people who struggle with obsessive compulsive usually don’t really see it as a problem until it gets way, way out of control.

Maybe the obsession will cause the person to “over-talk” their thoughts with others. Their struggle can often consume the conversations with their friends, therapists and family. Loved-ones can often be at their wits end, because they have heard the problems a million times and don’t know what else to say. 

People with OCD struggles may be plagued with persistent, yet unwelcomed thoughts or images. They may feel obsessed with germs or dirt and they wash their hands over and over. They may be filled with doubt and feel the need to check things repeatedly. They may have a need for cleanliness that goes beyond helpful organization. The obsession overrides relationship with people and normal living.

They may struggle with thoughts that seem so real, but are filled with torment. Thoughts that they might cheat on their spouse, hurt someone, hurt themselves, engage in inappropriate behavior or commit some immoral act can flood their minds and convince them they are just a nanosecond away form committing those acts.

They are them driven with the urgent need to engage in rituals, with hopes to relieve themselves of torment. Its a terrible place to be in when you become ruled by thoughts that create a horror-filled scenario. Most would say just stop thinking this way, but by this point, the person has become dominated by these thoughts. They are not just singular thoughts that vanish, they have become groves in their thinking that occupy most of their time.

Religious Obsessions

People who grew up with a religious spirit are very prone to obsessive thinking. The religious pressure they were raised under makes them more prone to OCD-like ways. In fact, I have found those who grew up with a legalistic pressures, black and white thinking and law-based living struggle deeply. They see everything as all evil or all good, with no room for grace or process. They struggle with having a thought that would displease God.

I have sat down with countless people who struggle with this kind of lens. I developed this in my own life, and it took some for me to unwind myself out of it. I lived thinking that my every decision carried a weight of obedience or disobedience to God. I even got to the point where I would buy something at the store and come home thinking I disobeyed God in purchasing it. I became legalistically tormented by a simple store purchase. Too often, because of a religious spirit I carried, I always felt that if I wanted something, God did not want it for me. So I lived in endless double mindedness. This caused me to obsessed over many things in the day that did not matter.

So my heart goes out to people who battle these religious obsessions. I have sat with people who fast endlessly, with the hopes they will get breakthrough. Their desire to break free has become a dangerous obsession. Some go into deep seasons of separated prayer, while they neglect their families for weeks on end. I have counseled people who were convinced they committed the unpardonable sin. Others felt they had blasphemed the Holy Spirit and were doomed for hell.

Its so common to have these religious obsessions that they are now documented in mental health manuals. People fear they will commit a horrific sexual act, destroy their own marriage or urinate on the church wall. Every crazy thought that can be thrown at people is hitting them with vivid imagery, convincing the person this thought is actually a reflection of who they are. So people inevitably conclude, “this must just be the way that I am.”

This is why I believe many people act on dreadful thoughts. They cannot shake them, so they act on them to ward off the nagging images. This is why taking thoughts captive is more important than ever. The enemy is keen at giving you a a thought, while convincing you  that the thoughts originated with your own mind. 

Fear’s Role in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Understand the battleground of what the enemy is doing. He sends a thought and then makes you fearful of the thought. The fear increases a narrow focus. Fear also convinces us to live in a false peace. We try to create an entire world around us, base on the obsessions, that will help us find peace. But it is not a real peace, but a false peace. It’s a temporary relief, but because that monster is being fed. It keeps going and it builds the next time.

Our lack of safety fuels this fear. We become convinced, “if I just keep everything around me feeling okay, then I will feel at peace” but you’re never truly at peace. So then control becomes a way of life. The person becomes consumed with controlling; not their thoughts, but their environment. They become hostile with friends and family when that aura is messed with. Their preoccupation with order, cleanliness and symmetry become the dominant priority.

The Root Behind the Obsessions

The compulsion is driven by fear. The obsession is driven by addictions. The addiction is not to a physical drug, alcohol or habit. The addiction is a thought. The enemy uses an addiction spirit to fuel the obsessiveness. That’s the nature of addictions. When it gets fed, it only wants more the next time.

The OCD person is convinced the more they think and meditate on the obsession, they will eventually solve it. When in reality, they only make the thought worse and more tormenting. In order for me to get free of my obsessive patterns, I had to repent and renounce the ways of addictions. Most people with OCD have addictions in their family line, so addressing addictions and rejection are important. The person has been trained to cope with their brokenness by obsessing.

Rituals that Torment

Let me clarify something: healthy people have their rituals. Checking the stove to see if it’s off is ok. The question is are your tormented by it? Do you lack peace until you deal with it, only to deal with it over and over. Are your rituals interfering with your daily life and your ability to cultivate healthy relationship?

With obsessive compulsiveness, they perform the rituals even though doing so can often interfere with their daily life, while the routines become repetitive and distressing. Their relationships also suffer.

Even though they recognize what they’re doing is senseless, fear has trained them in compulsion to keep acting. The addiction spirit keeps drawing the person’s attention to  the same thoughts. If that thought does not work, addiction will drive the person to another thought. Whatever it takes to keep the person in obsession. 

Immersion and Facing the Problem

For those who compulsively act on cleanliness. The only way they’ll get free is if they want to be free. The more they justify their way of living, the more they will stay planted in their bondage.

But if they want to get free, they need to be immersed into experiences that break the pattern. For example, back when the Oprah show was on TV, they walked some people who struggled with cleanliness OCD out to the woods into a cabin. They had all the people put their hands on the floor of the cabin, kneel down and put their hands on the floor. After that, each person had to stand up and do the unthinkable. They had to lick their fingers.

You could see their bodies pitch a fit with the mere thought of licking dirty fingers.   All of hello was breaking lose. At that point, they had a decision to make. Will I remain in my stubborn habits or am I going to take my life back?

OCD had trained them to become so germophobe, even though their actions did not even line up with science. Washing your hands over and over and using hand sanitizers every 5 minutes actually makes you more prone to sickness. People who use hand sanitizers too much are actually killing some of the good bacteria that actually help your immune system fight off bad bacteria. You might be destroying the bad with some Purel, but you’re also destroying the stuff you have on your skin intended to fight off good bacteria. But again, we have to remember, obsessiveness doesn’t always make sense. We think, I’m truly clean if I do this. 

Dreadful Thoughts

You have to understand that in your lifetime, you will be hit with the craziest thoughts known to man. Satan authors this, hoping at least a few will stick. It could be frequent violent thoughts of violence, harming somebody, persistent thoughts about horrid sexual acts, things that you dislike, thoughts that you’d be ashamed if somebody knew. One of the most helpful thing I am able to do for people, is that I am not thrown when they share with me the thoughts they have, of which they are so ashamed of. The first step to deliverance is actually disarming the power of those thoughts, and do it right off the jump. The more we are afraid of those thoughts, the more we empower them.

The enemy can project anything into your thoughts. If you give him room, he’ll take more room and send more. He will give you the thought, then make you feel condemned for having the thought. This is the one-two punch of the enemy.

You see, if you’re not discerning you’ll fail to realize this when the thought comes. It’s just a thought. Just because you have a thought does not mean you are that thought. You do not have to base your identity on the thoughts that come your way.

Cast them down and get on with your life. You can have the worst thought on the planet, but if you disempower the thought, by removing your fear and focus, you cause the thought to lose its power.

What I did was I gave myself a time limit over the thought. I could only dwell on it for a second and that was it. I did not allow myself to give anymore life to that thought. Even if my body was pitching a fit. Sometimes it would take a few days, but I refused to give anymore life to obsessive thoughts. Eventually the thought died and the enemy along with it.

Jesus Was in All Ways Tempted

Jesus wasn’t always tempted, so when we access the throne, He knows every temptation that comes to us because He faced them too. There’s no brand new temptation. The enemy is not creative. He’s been doing this for thousands of years. The thing that he knows works against you is probably what worked in your family line. He’s been following your family for thousands of years and he knows the dominant snowball traits of iniquity that are traveling down the line. But our Savior has overcome the enemy and made a way for you to do the same. Rest in Him. Allow yourself time where you are not thinking about a million things. Be content in the day to sit and think of nothing. It takes practice, but it is what is needed to change your chemistry to a rest-filled lifestyle.

Whatever It Takes

You have to have a “wahatever it takes” attitude with getting free. That made the shift for me, when I recognized what caused the OCD and how to really get free. But I needed to develop an “all-in” mentality to get free.

I said, alright God, if it takes me 3-4 years, I’ll do it.

Then the process clicked in and then I started making strides because I was in this like I need to get over this yesterday. I gave myself time to get free. You need to as well too. The good news is, freedom is available.

Summary of Steps to Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Here are some practical, yet very spiritual positions you can take when overcoming Obsessive Compulsive tendencies.

Begin acknowledging areas of brokenness where obsessive thoughts come in to provide a false reality of finding peace.
Begin breaking agreement with addictions in your life and your family line. Verbally repent of them and move your heart and mind in a new direction of peace and grounded thinking . . . one thought at a time.
Break agreement with fear and this includes anxiety, worry and insecurity. Tear down the fear that drives you to find peace in obsessing or acting on those obsessions.
Disempower the thoughts, knowing they are just thoughts. Disconnect them as being your thoughts or how you feel. Make them an enemy and see yourself separated from those thoughts. Let the thoughts just float right on by.
Let God heal you in His love to fill the voids that obsessions consume. Rest in His safety.
Face the fear that drives the obsessiveness. You repented of it, now face it! See every facing as an act of deliverance.
Take in God’s grace and get out of black and white thinking that binds you to legalism. People who live in black and white thinking often fall into self-accusation and condemnation, as if heaven and hell are weighing over the smallest issues.
Get around people who will partner with you in your freedom; those who will hold you accountable to disempower these destructive thought patterns.
When others tell you to stop thinking about it and talking about it, don’t see it as a mean thing. See it as a act of love towards you.
Allow yourself time to get free. Develop patience and learn to become your own best friend in this process. Stand your ground and don’t ever quit.

Recommended Resource: 

The post Our Culture Has Become Obsessed! Healing for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#083: How We Are Made and Where Thoughts Come From [Special Edition Podcast]

In this special edition episode, I want to give our many listeners a taste of one of the teachings I bring everywhere I go: Understanding how we are made in spirit, soul and body, while also knowing the power of how thoughts affect us in those areas.

But where do these thoughts come from?

In this segment, you will hear a teaching from me on this very subject:

How we are made in spirit, soul and body.
How thoughts affect us.
Where thoughts come from.

Listen in today!

We plan on doing a Q&A episode soon, so feel free to send us your questions.

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #083: How We Are Made and Where Thoughts Come From [Special Edition Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.

#082: What Keeps You Angry About Your Life? [Podcast]

In today’s episode we want to ask the question, “What Keeps You Angry About Your life?” We want to uncover the root of envy and jealousy and how it steals so much of our freedom.

Are you someone who looks at others and gets angry because they appear to have it easier in life because they have money? . . . They vacation every year . . . They got a new car . . . They have a husband who loves them . . . Their kids seem to act well . . .someone else’s ministry is succeeding. Do you find yourself saying, “If I had all that my life would be fine too” or “it would be a lot easier!”

Do we carry a root of envy and jealousy in our lives without realizing it?  How do we begin to identify it, confront it and remove it? Is this keeping you angry about your life and preventing you from being fruitful? Listen in . . .

Things we discuss in this episode: 

What envy and jealousy is.
Biblical examples of envy and jealousy.
How we personally have experienced envy and jealousy. What we have done to overcome it.
Picking out the common signs of envy and jealousy.
How envy and jealousy influences modern wars and conflicts between nations.
Find out who we in hollywood we get jealous of at times.
Steps you can take to begin walking free!
And we have a whole lot of fun!

 

Sites & Products Referenced in Show:

Melissa’s Blog
Rocky Movies
Rocky IV Soundtrack
Bulletproof Coffee
Nutrabullet Blender
Rejection Mindset Book
Katie Linendoll

Listen by Using the Player Below or with the Following Platforms

The post #082: What Keeps You Angry About Your Life? [Podcast] appeared first on Mark DeJesus | Transformed You.