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The Mindsets to Win At Life (& Crush the Competition)

Winners think differently than losers.

It’s a paradox of sorts.
While to win you need to beat the competition, winners don’t think that way.

This article explains how winners think about the competition.
Adopt these mindsets, and you too can crush the competition.

1. It’s Always About The Game, Never The Players

Here’s the principle:

Losers don’t compete. Average men focus on beating individuals. Winners focus on dominating the game

The “game” is the ecosystem of end...

Too Much and Never Enough: Summary & Review

Too Much and Never Enough (2020) provides an insider view of Donald Trump, and the Trump family. The author, who is Trump’s niece, paints a dark picture of the former US president as a callous, selfish, and manipulative personality.

Exec SummaryDonald’s father Fred Trump was a sociopath who ruined Donald’s psychological development Donald Trump is a narcissist at a minimum, probably a sociopathTrump’s re-election could mean the end of democracyFULL SUMMARY

About t...

How Power Dynamics & Populism Explain The Trump Phenomenon

Populist political leaders leverage the discontent and disenfranchisement of the low-status “losers” and give a voice, conduit, and megaphone to that anger.

What changes is the type of discontent they leverage.

But, usually, it revolves around the basics of:

SurvivalReproductionStatus Racial/inter-group dynamics

Political populism is a charismatic leader, often a dark triad, acting as focal conduit for people’s discontent. The leader stirs emotions for the votes and...

Political Strategy & Childless Women: Democrats Need Power

Why it’s always conservatives who worry about birthrates?

And why is it always conservatives who shame childless women, while women resent it?

Well, you’d never guess, but the reason is power.
And we’ll explain it in this article.

Conservative Power VS Liberal Compassion

Conservatives value power, masculinity, and victory.

Righ-wing conservatives are also closer to social Darwinism, including:

Winners must be rewardedLosers should not be supportedLife is compet...

Built From Scratch: Summary & Review

Built From Scratch (2001) chronicles the story of Bernie Marcus and Arthur Blank, and how they went from being fired to founding the multi-billion home improvement chain Home Depot when Marcus was 50 years old.

Exec SummaryKeep your successful business secret, or you will attract competitors  Learn to read peopleGet equity if you plan to work hard and bring lots of moneyWrite a biographical book for PR, but spin it like you’re sharing your business secretsVideo R...

How to Make High-Quality Friends, In 10 Simple Steps

Making friends is simple.

I’ve traveled all around the globe, and made friends whenever I went, in all possible ways.

Anyone with these basics can do it:

Acceptable social skillsIs somewhat likableIs not a net-negative, and can add some value

If you have the above, this is all you need to do:

Rinse and repeat, until you have a small circle. Then, you can cross-meet everyone in it

The rest of this article flashes out the details for you.
And by the end of it, you wi...

How to Make High-Quality Friends, In10 Simple Steps

Making friends is simple.

I’ve traveled all around the globe, and made friends whenever I went, in all possible ways.

Anyone with these basics can do it:

Acceptable social skillsAre somewhat likableAre not a net-negative, and can add some value

If you have the above, this is all you need to do:

Rinse and repeat, until you have a small circle. Then, you can cross-meet everyone in it

The rest of this article flashes out the details for you.
And by the end of it, you ...

How to Save People’s Faces & Be Socially Effective

To save face means to “avoid embarrassment and humiliation”.

Good social strategists help others save face because it helps them achieve goals, and maintain better relationships.

This article will teach you how to save people’s faces with 6 simple techniques.

1. Relieve Them From Blame & Guilt

Here are 5 simple and effective techniques:

Normalize it: say that whatever “bad thing” happened, it happens frequently, or to many peopleRelate: sharing something similar that ...

How to Be Assertive In 7 Simple Steps

Assertiveness is an interpersonal approach and communication style that voices concerns, opinions, and requests clearly and respectfully.

It wins people’s respect, and it makes you a high-value man.

So in this article, you will learn how to communicate assertively.

Let’s start with the basics:

1. Gain Self-Esteem & Self-Love

This is the true foundation of it all.

We have a whole course on it called Confidence University.
But for a quick starter, adopt for these values:

I te...

Psycho-Cybernetics: Summary & review

Psycho-Cybernetics (1960) compares the mind to a machine and teaches readers how to develop a positive self-image to increase self-esteem and confidence. Maltz, the author, insists that psycho-cybernetics is a “scientific discipline” that can make readers happier anf more successful.

Exec SummaryThe mind works like a computer (note: you can see some overlap between human mind and computers, but they are fundamentally different)We all have installed a “success programming” we ...