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Social Exchange Practical Takeaways: 10 Laws of Success

From social exchange theory, the main practical laws for social success are:

1. To get what you want, give others what they want

Asking without giving is the equivalent of a social overdraft.

Your request is likely to be denied for “insufficient social funds” (“socially imbalanced requests”). If instead, you give what others want, you are far more likely to get what you also want (“socially balanced requests”).

2. To be successful, become high value

If there was one life hack,...

Galisghting: 17 Signs You’re Being Manipulated

Gaslighting is a loosely defined concept covering toxic and manipulative behavior to make the victim doubt reality, lose track of ethical standards, and abandon self-interest.

See this article for an overview on what is gaslighting and gaslighter’s psychology:

What is gaslighting

Here we show the signs of gaslighting with examples for each.

Lying that something has never happened is one of the most stereotypical gaslighting examples

1. Lying

Gaslighters have no respect fo...

10 Steps to Be A Good Machiavellian: Your Secret Playbook

After we learned the Machiavellian traits and advantages, it’s time to get practical.

Power University shows all the examples and how to internalize these skills.
But for a solid foundation, here are 10 steps.

1. Always Ask: What’s In It For Me?

People in your life either give, or take.

And different courses of action either make you better off, or worse off.

And the best way to grow better off is to ask yourself “what’s in it for me“?

This website believes that a “WIIFM” ap...

How to Be A Good Machiavellian

After we learned the Machiavellian traits and advantages, it’s time to get practical.

Power University shows all the examples and how to internalize these skills.
But for a solid foundation, here are 10 steps.

1. Always Ask: What’s In It For Me?

People in your life either give, or take.

And different courses of action either make you better off, or worse off.

And the best way to grow better off is to ask yourself “what’s in it for me“?

This website believes that a “WIIFM” ap...

Andrew Huberman: When Bro-Science Gets A Ph.D.

Andrew David Huberman is an American neuroscientist, podcaster, and popular “optimization guru“.

In this article, we review Huberman and one of his videos.

We’ll be looking for potential red-flag power moves.
And for techniques that may be used to acquire power, fame, and authority.

Andrew Huberman Power Moves

Huberman:
Welcome to The Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science and science-based tools for everyday life.
I’m Andrew Huberman and I’m a professor of neurobiology...

The 10 Steps of Self-Empowerment Everyone Must Follow

We list here the foundations of self-empowerment.

The list goes from most foundational, to most advanced.

P.S.:
See this post for the basic strategies for social power.

1. Start With The Mind

The mind is the foundation

A healthy, confident mind includes:

1.2. Accept Yourself

You accept who you are, despite your natural flaws

It does NOT mean you make no effort to change.
Instead, you accept your flaws while you work at them.

1.2.2. Accept Your Shortcomings

It...

Red Flags: Book Summary & Review

Red Flags (2015) teaches readers how to recognize Frenemies, Underminers, and Toxic People with Wendy Patrick’s simple approach by looking at just four major signal clusters.

Exec SummaryLook at the 4 FLAGS. What they focus on, how they live, who they associate with, and what their goals areMorals and values are important to choosing great people in your lifeTakers come disguised as givers, so be careful. Especially about your needs and emotional needsFULL SUMMARY

About t...

Ceiling Effect: Why 99% of Self-Help Leads to Plateaus

The glass ceiling effect refers to habits, skills, and advice that got you at your current level, but prevent you from moving to the next level.

It’s “glass” because whatever it is that you’re missing, you don’t yet see it.

Luckily, this article is here to help.
You will learn what ceilings are, how to spot them, and how you grow past them.

INTRO

The definition of ceilings is:

The ceiling effect refers to advice, behavior, or mindsets that help some people up to a certain lev...

Neuroplasticity: How To Rewire Your Brain – Review

In Neuroplasticity: How To Rewire Your Brain, instructor Gregory Caremans explores the topic of neurology and seeks to explain how to rewire the brain for more life satisfaction and success.

Summary

This course is aimed at creating structural change in the brain.
Structural change leads to long-term improvements.

When new neural connections are being made, structural change happens. So, much of this course focuses on creating new neural connections (i.e. neural pathways).

Structural ...

Biohacking Porn: Quit OCD, Embrace Life

Optimization is great.

It allows you to be more efficient, doing more, with less.

As for everything though, you can go too far.
And today the old ineffective “hustle porn” has been replaced by “optimization porn”.

It’s just another “feel busy but go nowhere trap”.
We explain why:

Intro

We define both “optimization porn” and “biohacking porn” as:

To spend time and resources learning, acquiring, and implementing sub-Pareto (80-20) improvements (“hacks”) for small-ish, dubio...