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Leading a better life

Springs from the inside

You never know what the future holds. Things have a way to change, for the better or for the worse, based on your mindset, not necessarily based on outside circumstances.

The country can be in turmoil. Marketplaces down. Future prospects of private matter in general shot down or in absolute disarray. But your life truly springs from the inside, not from the outside.

Life then…

Sadly, most people get attached to the environments outside them, and so their minds become lost and enslaved by them. But life begins inside the seed, as in the biggest tree.

Life in the cosmos from a single dot of energy exploding outwards, as in the Big Bang. And so the life you experience, even though you may be lost in your environment, begins inside you, springing from a single neuron to a single thought that spreads throughout your whole body.

From that feeling leading your body and mind, you create your life. So, reality is just the by-product of that single neuron’s content that spreads throughout your body. For good or bad, you project your life and create your future sprouting from that seed within you.

Only in yourself

Sometimes things do not go as planned. Sometimes one works hard to get something without success. Sometimes the environment seems to create life. But the greatest mistake then is to believe this.

If you believe it, your mind then makes it real to you. So believe only in yourself as creator, which means to ignore society, its systems, its events, and all its predictions and opinions.

Letting go to free yourself

The road inwards

Each man’s life is really a road towards himself, and it is in dealing with himself that he discovers that every experience in the world emerges from himself. The way he chooses to think and feel about the breakups, about the loss of his house, about the poverty he experiences, and about everything else entirely is the key to his failure or success.

Because when we meet a person we love or hate, or when we think that we are valued or not valued, or when we feel that we can or cannot do this, or whatever it is, there lies our bias. The mindset we have. The attachment to that mindset. Because it’s all about the content of our minds and the perspective we choose to see and experience from something lived.

Observe yourself

It is these brains we have, they compartmentalize everything. So, if you attach yourself to anything, and it is then not what you expected, you start believing that it is not you but them. But if you become self-aware, you realize that you are indeed your best friend and also your worst enemy. You just didn’t know it before because you were too self-involved.

You are alone in the world, and yet you attach the way you think and feel to others. It is their brains, that confuse people who are not aware, which, sadly, it is most people in the world. So, in living life, do not remain attached to mindsets. Whatever these mindsets are, you can never know the truth of yourself and of life through them.

Let it go

Mindsets are like groups in society. They will enslave you without your knowledge. They will become bias to your thinking and feeling. They won’t allow you to remain open-minded to all there is to understand in life. They will put you in a box and limit the way you see that life. You can’t really expand your awareness like this.

Only in letting go from the attachment to your own mind you can discover happiness. Or you can be like most people, chase money and more knowledge, and more relationships and goals, and more beauty and popularity, and this and that, and then end up frustrated and confused because happiness escapes you. But whatever you choose to do, always remind yourself that it’s all you.

Leading a better life

Failure is not a fact

The very thought of defeat shouldn’t be in your mind. Defeat is failure, which makes it a belief in your mind. A belief is something you choose, and that you might start thinking is a fact. But beliefs are not facts. They are thoughts, feelings, things they have introduced in your mind and that you have chosen as reality.

You see others with great success, and you might feel bad about yourself. You might think that you’re lost, or doing the wrong things, or not capable. But all this overthinking you do is what leads to believing in failure. Failure does not exist outside the mind. It’s not a real thing. In life, you learn, if your mind sees the lessons, if you are positive and strong enough mentally. That’s it. You learn.

Become adventurous

Life is about exploration, and about self-discovery; and all this requires your commitment, your passion, and most importantly your positivity. There cannot be positivity in your mind if there is the thought of fear, the thought of defeat, the thought of failure and self-victimization. This is for all of us, because the thought of defeat can creep in all of our minds.

Now, if life is about exploration, then you must become adventurous. I don’t mean to go bungee jumping, or to go parasailing, or to climb a tall mountain. No, I mean to become adventurous in your mind, in your points of view, in your capacity to be open-minded to new ways, to new strategies, to new horizons.

About that positive self-talk

If something is not working out for you, do not just give up, do not just give in to your thoughts of failure or any fear. First step, stop looking at the life of others, and stop comparing your life to theirs. Second step, seek information, great knowledge, different points of view from many sources.

Whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish, learn whatever you have to learn; and learn it better so you can keep going and modify whatever you have to. Because it’s all about, again, passion and commitment; but, above all, is about that mental positivity, about that positive self-talk, and about not accepting those thoughts of fear.

It took me years and years to learn this, to put it into real practice; but I can tell you that this is the most important thing you can learn in life. To strengthen yourself. To lift yourself up. To lead yourself through the troubles of life. And to remain positive to help others with their own troubles.

Visualization first

The Cradle of Creativity

Visualization is the process of great creativity. Of course, it is extremely powerful when we are children. But, as most of us age, we forget about it and replace it with intellectuality. But an increase in intellectuality lowers intelligence and visualization. So, truly, if a man desires to get somewhere in life, he must envision where exactly.

If we seek something, we must take the time and mentally focus to envision what it is we seek. The first step to get something we want, something we feel passionate about, is to envision it in our minds. And if you want something but you can’t envision it, then first learn about it and study what you really want.

Determination and commitment, that strong, inner drive to pursue something important to us, increases when we can actually see and experience prior to taking the necessary steps. That is why I became an Indie author. And that is why I came up with the unique and very original Dark Fantasy series.

“I found myself completely invested in the characters. Perhaps the most compelling thing for me is how I can connect emotionally with the character’s very plight. You got to read this story!”  ~ Marlow Reads.

“A great book. Fellowship, ghouls and the quest to find one’s true self. I can’t wait to read Author Asa Rodriguez other books in the series. An indie author to follow!!”  ~ TC Lovejoy.

Contemplation

What is unique

The individual who shows courage, individuality, character, always seems odd, cold, even heartless to the rest. This is because all society gives you is groups: Political parties. Religions. Cultures.

Gangs or friendship perspectives. Family traditions and beliefs. The spiritual woke nonsense. The conspiracy theorists. Every group carries its own version of what morality is, of what values are, of what the truth is.

What is within

But no group understands what reality is, because each one of them creates what fits its own mindset. But opinions, beliefs, traditions mean nothing, because these are based on each group’s points of view.

The deity, the value, the reality is in you; not in groups and in their established norms, not in books or in what the ancients have said. The whole world is lost, because people are divided in groups.

And it is in the use of great self-awareness that one can contemplate oneself. If one successfully contemplates oneself, then that one has no need, no want for groups. Groups seem dull, archaic, a waste of time now.

What is whole

Because in the contemplation of oneself one finds one’s true identity, which brings absolute freedom and confidence to that person’s very mind. This expands such mind and life begins to be seen as a whole.

Life being seen as a whole now makes the false idea of any group’s validity vanish completely. When this happens, one adopts and shows courage, individuality, character. Traits that do not exist in the obedient group and its agenda.

Being happy

What it is

Many of you won’t understand. But, instead of just pursuing, have you really thought about what being happy really is??

-Being happy is not about the things you have. Because things can be exciting and fulfilling at first, but this won’t last and won’t change how you feel about yourself.

-Being happy is not about holding certain beliefs and following the path set by others. Because this does not make you unique, it just makes you another cog in the machine.

-Being happy is not about the right moment, the right people, the right place. Because all these are egoistical demands that your mind makes in its anxiety, in its emptiness, in its frustration now.

Being

We all seek happiness. And that’s the problem, in seeking it. When you seek something, your mind attaches itself to a vision, to a goal, to an influence of what happiness should mean for you.

This process of seeking makes you frustrated, anxious, even less capable than others. So, happiness has nothing to do with seeking; but everything to do with being. And what’s being??

Being is discovering yourself. But we cannot discover ourselves if the most important thing for us is position in society, or money, or traveling, or family, or relationships. Because, although great things, such things are seeking what has been already established out there for you, stealing your own uniqueness.

The motivator

Superior-minded people

Small-minded people blame others, like the government, the elite, the wealthy, etc. Average-minded people blame themselves, but they do not take the necessary steps to actually change.

Superior-minded people see that blaming is wasting time, and they take the needed steps to actually change. They see that the origin of everything in existence is health. From feeling healthy (in mind and body), a person feels good about himself.

Feeling good about himself then, he treats others better, he feels good about his life and about his capacity to be successful in the future. This empowers him in the present, to keep being positive and motivating himself to be better and better.

That mysterious allure…

That unique degree

Don’t run away from it. Run to it. Because it’s a matter of attitude. All of it! Attitude in your writing. Attitude in your speech. Attitude in your behavior. Attitude in your gaze.

It’s about reaching that degree of unique intensity, the one which only belongs to you and feels intimate to you. Don’t fall into fakeness. Nobody can teach you this.

That truly great value

If you try to copy the style of others, that’s when you begin to distance yourself from your identity, from your capacity to become attractive and relevant, intriguing and mysterious to others.

‘To others.’ Yes! Because we all have to bring something unique to society, in order to stand out, in order to accomplish great things, in order to increase our value to ourselves and feel empowered to be always more.

It’s about you, not them

Action

Don’t self-deceive and aggrandize your ego. The impediment or reluctance to action is an action itself. If you stay silent and you don’t speak up for yourself, you are telling others that you do not respect yourself, so why should they respect you.

If you do not speak moral attitude and claim the group’s decisions wrong, then that makes you ignorant and immoral just like them. If you don’t communicate your feelings to the person you love or admire, then don’t victimize yourself and suffer because you don’t feel loved by others.

Right action

Taking responsibility is about increasing your own self-awareness in the daily, even trivial things you live. Being of moral character means displaying moral attitude. If you must be alone in this, then be alone and become better for it.

Society, and obviously the pitiful systems in it, cannot flourish if the individual does not take a stand. So take a stand and stop the excuses. Thoughts and feelings do not matter, not in the least, if you are reluctant to do what’s right.

Un-caged

A prison of fear

There’s not a worse prison than the mental prison, because this prison paralyzes you, stops you from pursuing and reaching your goals, and even makes you unable to trust yourself. And how can you live a good life like this??

Fear of not fulfilling the expectations of others. Fear of what your family would think. Fear of not being liked and accepted by them. Fear of not following the popular path. Fear of not being good enough in the eyes of others.

Becoming free

I say better live satisfied with doing well, knowing that you are doing what makes you happy, what gives you independence of mind and trust in yourself. Let others worry about themselves, and if they want let them talk and criticize you.

You spend your time in this life worrying about you. Life is too precious to live it in a prison. Each one of us, no matter who we are, is meant to be unique, which means different, which means being ourselves. Because it’s about becoming free.