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Life

Vital Focus

Remind yourself: Living a better life is about appreciating what you have. And living a happy life is also about appreciating what you have. Society, and our individual intellectual mind, makes us lose focus of what really matters.

All true love is born in you when you are fully satisfied with your life as it is, which means focusing and appreciating what you have in this moment–whatever that is. There is no true joy without this vital focus.

And that is what life is; namely a moment of focus in what we call time, space, or evolution. But if you focus on the stress and the bad things that could happen, then you are not fully enjoying life.

As You Make It

Being alive without enjoying life brings all sorts of mental and physical distortions and illnesses. Accept yourself, your situation, others, as they are; but do not dwell on the negativity or in the unpleasantness, instead focus on your own well being and on moving on.

At the end of the day, life is as precious as you make it. The worst anyone can do is to wish this, that, or what others have. Wishing, and attaching yourself to this wish, inevitably brings feelings of suffering and self-victimization.

It leads to feelings of jealousy and regret, and these paralyse you while taking away your capacity for growth. Life becomes worthless if you feel no capacity for growth, which is lack of value and confidence to work on yourself and on what you want.

The Reason You Create

Nobody likes to feel like this, because it changes your mood, because it makes you see life as being unjust, and because it makes you feel like you do not matter in the world. This creates a void in your heart, which is the kind of loneliness that makes you suffer and even makes you question the reason for existing.

And, of course, existing in itself has no reason. The “burden”, or greatest challenge in our lives, is to give our existence, our life, meaning. But I am talking about the kind of meaning that rises from your own mental wellbeing.

“Being born again”. So, forget about your past, what you’ve suffered, what somebody else did to you, and be born again. This is done by training your mind to appreciate what you have now, by not comparing yourself or your life, and by patiently taking steps to build more of what you want/to bring more meaning into your life.

The True Gift

Strength & Health

Any true affection must be demonstrated by letting the other person be who they are. And when they are upset or anxious, be there for them; but also know when to give them space, and when to walk away.

It’s not just in the words or in the time together; but in the time apart and in the times of silence as well. Because what connection and all affection, if real, need to grow strong and be healthy is freedom.

The Only Gift

The gift of freedom. If there is no freedom to be who you are, then there is no space for growth, either as an individual and/or together as a family. Always seek to feel free.

And if you don’t feel free, ask for the respect of freedom to be given to you. Otherwise, don’t waste mental health and time, walk away and seek freedom as an individual. Make no excuses for this.

Your Life To Live

Excuses make the disease grow stronger, and in time having no freedom will seem normal; and your mind and heart will be affected, as your belief in yourself and self-respect will be damaged irreparably as well.

This is no life to live. Because life is about enjoying yourself, and about discovering yourself. If you are enslaved, if you have no freedom within you, then you cannot discover yourself and your worth.

The Only Constant

The Self That I Am

Who am I…?? I am not a man of many words really. I do like to write my thoughts and feelings, perceptions and discoveries; however, in person, I’m not really into chit-chatting or talking too much. Not even with my neighbors, friends, or even family. I like to be direct and blunt when I speak.

I like to observe and keep my personal, innermost discoveries or thoughts to myself, unless I feel a need to make myself heard by others, which it rarely happens because I don’t really concern myself with what others think or feel about my behavior or the way I am. And it is so because I value my mental freedom more than anything else in life.

What I Know For Certain

And I know that in society it is promoted and influenced in us to always be extremely friendly, and smile a lot, and to be very kind, and to be accepting of everything in terms of other people’s behaviors. But this is why most people, without knowing, fall into fakeness.

Not being yourself entirely, or adjusting yourself to your surroundings or to the feelings of others, is just very exhausting and damaging to your own mental wellbeing. This inevitably leads to physical illnesses and traumas, no matter your age or emotional strength. It is just not me, because it is not freedom.

The Heights of Self

What I am, what I seek, what I value the most above everything else is freedom. Freedom to tell it how it is. Freedom to control my failure and success. Freedom to control what I choose, what and how I feel, and what I want in my path and direction in life.

Not fitting into philosophies, and into groups, and into systems, and into romantic ideals. Because fitting into these, whether you understand it or not, means you are enslaved, which means you cannot be entirely yourself because somebody else controls you. Once you fully accept yourself, and put yourself above everything else, is simple really.

A new year

The Start of A New Venture

Hello, good people:

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The Only Way

Seeking Our Worth

Relationships are difficult. Life is difficult. But, as I see it, it doesn’t have to be. People hide things from each other. People fear being themselves. People judge others based on their past experiences–past hurt and otherwise. We all do this at some point in our lives. The worst we can do is try to make up excuses for it, or even deny it.

And, I have been there as well, where sometimes one feels unworthy, or depressed about how things are going in life, or somewhat afflicted by society and by the pressures of it. Maybe finances are down. Or something very personal affects us in a way that makes us feel negative in terms of who we are. And I think this comes due to seeking our worth in the exterior.

Falsity in Exterior Pursuits

How others are doing. The latest fashions being worn. The greatest techs. Examples from celebrities and what not. A sure way to lose our identity in the vast sea out there. But we are really meant to discover ourselves, which is the only purpose in life. Forming relationships, family, kids, our jobs, money, career, traveling, etc–it all comes second because these are just exterior pursuits.

And why are these exterior pursuits?? Because, as great, noble and pleasurable as these are, these cannot bring true happiness. They are tethered to the roller coaster of life. One day we can get all we want and be joyous. Another day everything brings us down because it doesn’t result as expected. The rate race, in a manner of speaking. Great experiences, but the wrong place to seek happiness.

The Truth About Happiness

Because happiness is something we are always in control, because we choose it. It is not chosen based on our relationship satisfaction level. It is not chosen based on how much money we make or the life we can afford. And it is definitely not based on the success we have in society–in any of its terms. Happiness is of our minds. Happiness really is a mindset. Your life can be in shambles.

People do not like you. You hate your job, your boss, your hours, your pay. Still, you choose to be happy and contented with your life currently. You try to excel at something you like. You pursue your passions with all your might. But you don’t complain and make excuses in your mind. Keep your mind negativity free.

Physical Health is First

Then you train your mind to always be happy. Now, I am not saying is easy. Obviously it is not. But, that’s what it takes to be truly happy. Self-discipline. Promise yourself that no matter what happens around you, or outside you, you will choose to be happy. There is no more than that really. Self-love. Of course, you must watch what you eat and be healthy.

If you feel sick, in physical pain in any way, then it’ll be almost impossible to keep that promise to yourself. When we are physically sick or in pain, then our minds become full of tension and anxiety. In this chaotic mind, we cannot choose positivity and happiness. So, be kind to yourself. To your body and mind. And no excuses–do that favor to yourself.

Your unique direction

Igniting action

The more frustration, complain, fear, anxiety in general our mind carries, the more we tend to make bias and wrong choices. And life is all about choices, because choices ignite action; and like this, action creates our direction in life.

Our financial system, our spiritual life, our mental and physical health–all about direction. You cannot just wish health, and good finances, and love, and happiness. No, you need direction to obtain all of it in life. We all need to find our own unique direction.

Discover beyond it

So, do no fall into the mediocrity taught by religion from the beginning of times, that if you have good intentions and you pray then everything will turn out great. Leave your ego aside. Detach yourself from your old ways of thinking and believing.

Discover yourself and life beyond religion, beyond prophets, beyond other people, beyond what society says. Find your unique direction in life by shifting your attention and time to learning things that can get you where you want to be.

Relevant information

Maybe for you that means spending less time on social media. Perhaps it means to learn something new and lose your fear of something specific to you. But, whatever it means for you, seek to fill your head with good and relevant information.

In this way, you can discover new things, expand your mind, and be able to make better choices in the many aspects regarding your direction in life.

Power of The Heart

The greatest obstacle in your life is fear. Of course, there is the fear you recognize. And there is the fear you don’t. The fear you don’t recognize is subconscious, which is your habit, the way you respond and react, and the robotic thinking that originates from the way you’ve been taught as a child.

So, in order to truly understand and know yourself, and in order to be a success in life and grow as a better human being, you must work on the subconscious fear you carry. And it is a very personal quest, self-discovery, lifestyle change. You know the fears you carry.

These fears create your shame, your insecurity, and all your negative thoughts including those feelings of being unable to accomplish something (not good enough for something). Are you making excuses for this right now?? Because excuses are what makes us weak. Excuses are what blind us from true greatness.

The whole problem starts when you analyze things to death. We all do at some point. In all honesty, through effort and patience, anything can be accomplished; however, the power of the heart, to go on, to be confident and achieve, usually is ignored and buried under the millions and millions of thoughts/overthinking/fears we carry.

Out of comfort

A game to be discovered

Life is its own experience in you. Life is the constant feeling in you. There is no more to life than this. The economy. Politics. Friendships. The ups and downs. The chaos and also joy in the daily events. It is all a game that we have to discover how to play.

Because all is our minds. The way we choose to analyze our experiences. Everything is a test, and everything requires deeper understanding. So to explode and get upset, to lose control and even victimize ourselves, is all pointless and it doesn’t really help.

Always search more

That is why everything must be questioned and analized with clarity of mind. If you must gain knowledge outside your comfort zone–outside your beliefs, outside your mindset, outside your routines–then seek that knowledge. Because knowledge expands your mind.

In any aspect of your life, when stuck, when suffering, when feeling lost, always seek knowledge first. The search for knowledge keeps you busy, it shakes you out of your comfort zone, and it gives you confidence in you own potential.

Books. Videos. Podcasts. Documentaries. Whatever it is. Get out of your own head, out of your own self-pity, and empower yourself. Don’t remain attached to feelings of failure, to thoughts of negativity, to stubborn beliefs and habits. Expand the understanding of your own life.

Life Over Death

In those moments of anxiety, of trying to figure out what will happen next, allow your mind to let it go and focus on giving your best in the present. What is the point of stressing about something that is not yet here?? Death is a state of the mind that cripples the ability to live daily with joy.

There is no mastery of anything in life if man cannot master his own moment. Living life is an emotional roller coaster, filled with its ups and downs, guided by the behavior of our minds. So, the mind must be in peace with itself in order to enjoy life and its moments.

The mind must not struggle with anxiety. The mind must be a place where one can carefully think, analyze without bias, and find freedom to create feelings of joy regardless of the events happening in our lives. Beauty exists only in freedom. Beauty is what, consciously aware or not, we all seek in life.

But beauty is something which is only discovered when you pause and reflect, when you stop dying and growing mentally old. Age is something of the mind. One can remain young, creative, energetic, attractive, charming, even if the body becomes old. The passage of time has no control of the moment. It is only when you are living in the past and in the future that you bring aging to your mind.

And what makes the mind age–get stressed, unattractive, slow, judgmental, negative, dull, etc–is anxiety and all its effects. Effects that actually change our mental and physical structure, that also make us dull and unable to love and live our best life. Because death is a state of mind that cripples the ability to live daily with joy.

A better approach

A better approach

Composure and emotional control. There are things we cannot control, events we cannot even see coming, and tragedies we cannot avoid. It is pointless to argue and whine about it, and even more pointless to victimize ourselves and stay angry at the world.

Assume a better approach. Ease your mind. Strengthen yourself by controlling your thoughts, your reactions, and your expectations. Tell yourself that nothing is a given, that anything can happen, and that you are okay with any outcome. Because it is about relaxing your mind and adapting to the situation.

Whatever the event. Whatever the loss. Whatever the tragedy. Whatever the injustice. Move on. Detach yourself from any strong desire, need, expectation. If to be happy means anything is freedom. Freedom to let go. Freedom to adapt to whatever life throws at you.

A better mind

If you pursue something–a relationship, a financial situation, a very personal event in your life–do it without attachment. Attachment is born from obsessing over something, from overthinking, from desiring too much, from putting your entire mind, heart, and hope into something.

You could accomplish and have all you want. Absolutely everything in this life. But if your mind does not have freedom, then you really haven’t accomplished anything at all. The freedom to let go and adapt. The freedom to accept and move on. This is the source of all happiness.