Asa Rodriguez's Blog, page 5

Two Become One

What is a Given

In this life, nothing external is a given. You never know what will happen, or how it will happen. It’s important to know that your mind, your desires, your wants are not facts for the future.

But there is something in you that is a given, if you allow yourself to discover it. This something has always been there, in you, even when you felt hurt and lost for so many years.

What is Wholeness

And it is something that has to be separated from all the influence coming from the exterior–from your family, from your religion, from your philosophies, from the dreams and machinations of your own ego, etc.

A person, doesn’t matter how sweet and nice, cannot be whole if there is fear, or doubt, or any obstacle in your mind stopping self-discovery. To discover yourself is to free yourself from the chains of society, of the world.

What is Infinite Intelligence

You may see and feel yourself flowering when you fall in love. Truly in love, without desperation, without anxiety, without fear of rejection. Only then, when you find yourself, you may find someone else in the same path.

And so, now you can be 100% sure is true love. This is to truly discover yourself in another, not just due to attraction; but due to the Infinite Intelligence awakened in you, which is called Oneness/Wholeness/Two that become One.

How life gets better

Accept it

Failure is just another concept. Failure is just another belief. Failure is not real unless your mind gets attached to it. The only way you do not succeed is if you ignore the lesson in life.

Whatever it is, accept it. Keep going. Try and try again. Do it not attaching yourself to an outcome.

But do it learning in each moment. If you do accept the lesson, however painful, however small it might be, then you can expand your understanding and better yourself.

How life gets better

And that’s how life gets better. Because that’s when and how things start working out for you. When your mind expands in understanding. When your mind does not deny.

When your mind is not overwhelmed by anxiety anymore. That is when life gets better; and love, blessings and happiness start pouring in. I know this from personal experience.

The Heaviest…

Denial

There is something heavy upon the soul who seeks self-improvement, love, happiness, freedom to be him/herself. There is such a thing as judging yourself based on your past, based on who you were, based on the burdens you may carry.

This is not self-love, but self-denial. Denying who you are. Ignoring who you are to remain attached to who you were. This denial is the heaviest burden, because it is deceitful. You are a moment in evolution, this moment.

Just observe

Life is moment after moment after moment. You are but one moment, which means the only burden guiding human beings to failure is the attachment to the past. You were is gone. You are is now. You will be is about who you are now.

There is no burden like this one, the one your mind creates and brings upon you making it real. Just observe who you were, smile at the experience whatever it was, and detach yourself from it. How??

Detach yourself from it by loving who you are now, which means forgiving and letting go who you were. Because the only freedom you can get lies in the you who is now. The person you are now cannot remain tainted with the person who you were/with all the screaming remnants from the past.

The exploration

When there is true love

When there is true love, there is a way. Where there is true love, you transform your fears into great possibilities.

When there is true love, you seek no excuses for change. When there is true love, you open yourself to the mystery and to the new that lies ahead.

All about mindset

Love must be an exploration in you, something that gives you freedom from the chains of the past, from the chains of old habits and traditions, from the chains of self-victimization and prejudice.

You cannot change everything in your life. You cannot control everything around you. But you can choose to love, because love gives you a positive and optimistic mindset, because that is what you need to attract better things into your life.

What changes you

Everything has a ripple effect. Kindness and compassion, that feeling born from choosing to see the positive and the good side of things. This will change you.

This will change the way you see and experience your life. This will transform you into a magnet for better things. Through patience, faith and commitment all is accomplished.

Initiating change

Find the Strength

Overthinking is what creates confusion and fear. Change must be an act. Don’t think about how hard, or how strange, or how challenging it will be. But find the strength in your heart, not in your mind.

I know from personal experience that one must initiate change without analyzing to death every scenario that could or could not happen. The intellectual mind has no chance of self-fulfillment.

This overthinking cripples you, it makes you find excuses, it strengthens your ego to create biased “logic” to keep you chained to old habits. You really go nowhere like this.

Act on It

Love and happiness is in you, but is known through a mental expansion, an open-mindedness, new perspectives and experiences. You only find these when you welcome and initiate change in your life.

Needless to say, nobody knows for certain what the future holds, because it is a creation based on choices you must make now. New, bold, challenging choices that lead to great change. More than dreaming it, acting on it.

A New Way

The easy path

It’s easy to remain the victim. It’s easy to harden your heart. It’s easy to hold on to the pain, the sorrow, and to the injustice of the past. It’s easier to lock yourself and hide from what’s new and unknown to you.

Because you instinctively seek self-preservation, don’t you?? Yes, the mind has a way to seek the easy path, to stay on what you know, and to mask your pain. It is a vicious cycle that consumes you and your life.

The discovery

Unless you break that cycle and take off your mask by welcoming the unknown into your life. That’s how you evolve, progress, and discover yourself. You cannot do it by choosing to stay safe in your cocoon.

Love, if true, is a discovery. It moves you from within. Then it moves you from without, in your choices, in your actions. It moves you to do new things, to challenge yourself, to create a new path that may scare you a bit.

The Courage that comes…

Yes, a new life that you, deep inside, really want but feels overwhelming right now. And it is why true love, true happiness, requires courage. This courage comes not from analyzing and thinking obsessively.

No, this courage comes from new choices, new actions, from letting go of your past, letting go of the fear, letting go of the intellectual persona you always adopt to mask your pain.

A new mind

Letting go you discover so much more about yourself, about who you really are. Believe me, nothing is as beautiful as freedom. To be able to let go and not take yourself and that pain you carry so seriously all the time.

The truth is that your mind is useless if it is allowed to hold on to memories, because discovering a new life, a new love, requires a new mind, a new mindset. So, open your mind and your heart to the mystery, to the unknown, to the new in life.

Your own cage

Freedom

Think about this. Think freely, without crutches or bias. After all, freedom is what matters in this life. Without it, obviously, you are just living a lie, pretending just to fit in, disrespecting yourself and losing yourself. In losing yourself, you distance yourself from you and from what you seek.

People that feel like they need to hide the truth, lie, cheat, pretend, have no freedom. They desperately seek it, through sex, through many ideology groups, through exaggerated romantic gestures; but this is their cage, over and over again.

Purpose

And they never understand why it is their cage. They certainly fail at life. And they fail because life is only a period created in existence to discover your humanity, your mind, your heart. That is the only true purpose of life.

That purpose being an inner discovery, and the rest is just a choice, thrilling or not, to play games created by your own anxiety. The anxiety that comes from not understanding life’s purpose and why you have a mind and a body.

Games

Who gave you the mind and the body you have?? How to use them to find that freedom/that love and happiness you seek?? How to create your purpose and leave a legacy on this earth??

The games of the mind brought by your anxiety. Games that make you act out. Sometimes you’re the victim of another anxious person who plays games. Sometimes you’re the anxious one playing these games on another, maybe without knowing.

Everybody wants to take a look in the mirror and learn/better themselves/leave the games for the sake of a better humanity. But most never do, keep failing and failing. In order to not fail though, obviously, you have to actually change the way you do things–the small, day-to-day things. So, think about what this actually means.

Energy & Choices

A thing needed

In life, in all aspect, nothing is needed more than patience. Most of the time, that is what is required to move on. To start anew, things need to evolve at their own pace; and all questions will be answered at the right moment.

We are capable of doing anything, but the mind must be disciplined through patience first. That is rising above your own psychological and emotional misery, which is attachment to pleasure and to pain from your past, and attachment to your desires and frustrations about what may or may not come.

A thing we choose

The path is whatever you choose, wherever your actions take you, and it involves the state of your mind first. What creates your life is your actions, but the source of that life is the energy you create. Positive energy will create positive actions. Negative energy will create negative actions.

That is how one creates one’s life. A good life, a life we want. A not so good life, a life we learn to despise. It all starts in Creation. Creation begins in the mind. The mind is its own content. The content is based on your positivity or negativity. That is why choice is each moment, and it begins in the mind.

Finding Balance

Balance

What do women (the feminine) bring to the world?? Perhaps beauty, inspiration, empathy, patience, hope, creativity, etc. What do men (the masculine) bring to the world?? Perhaps Stubbornness, ideals, ambition, impulsiveness, courage, etc.

Imagine a world without women–a world lacking those traits. Imagine a world without men–a world lacking those traits. If we really think about it, without our own pride getting in the way, they both bring balance to each other.

Details

Although one can seem much more important than the other. But is it?? Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect. Each one of us carries influence from another, from a man, from a woman.

The devil is in the details. God too. Watch your own thoughts, your own way of thinking, your own behaviors and habitual ways. Find out who you are and why you may hold and carry grudges from your past, from other persons–whether men or women.

Freedom

So many mental distortions and illnesses are born from not knowing who we really are. Childhood traumas or influences seep into our unknown psyches (subconscious), then come out in our known psyches (conscious).

Freedom, the capacity to experience happiness and love. This comes only to us if we are absolutely honest with ourselves. I’m talking about that self-exploration that goes beyond the opinions, ideas, influences, and “prescriptions” society offers us to keep us subservient.

Questioning

Subservient because, the way society is formed, it all runs on profit. Financial profit. Religious profit. It is all about mental (emotional) manipulation disguised as freedom, as love, as happiness.

So, what happens?? The weak-minded, the ones who lack that self-exploration, chase, and chase, and chase what they offer. The pursuit of happiness. Without ever questioning. But is there really freedom in this prison??

The One Bad Habit

So much of it

And why is it…? ? Over and over again. So much thinking, pondering, trying to resolve, demanding ourselves to know why it isn’t working. Most of our lives is spent like this. Most of the time we are not even aware of this damaging habit.

Damaging habit because it stresses us, it might make us create false scenarios in our heads. Then negative feelings, depression, doubt, self-victimization. These make our lives seem like a burden, like something that cannot be changed. I’ve been there. You’ve been there.

But it’s about listening

It is not really nature to fall for this trick, this programming of the mind, instead of listening to intuition, to the buried voices of nourishment, hope and positivity that we all have deep inside.

It’s easy to listen to intuition when everything goes as expected in your life though. It’s not that easy when events deviate from what we want, right?? So, this is the challenge we all face. Look at it as a marathon, not a race.

And it is always there

Don’t rush yourself. Take your time. Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. The key is to go back and remind ourselves to become aware, to stay aware. Each time, like this, we strengthen this muscle of the mind, like we can strengthen a muscle in the body by repetition.

And so, that is how intuition is strengthened, by slowly and patiently getting rid of the clutter in your mind, by weakening the programming/the habit of the mind of overthinking. The power is always there, just buried deep under intellectual layers that make us question our own capacities to feel accomplished and happy.