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May 23, 2025
The Practice of Effort and Effortlessness
In this episode, we dive into the practice of effort and effortlessness, beginning with a short meditation session. Marc discusses the balance between effort and relaxation, using examples from Zen Buddhism, such as ‘Right Effort’ and the advice of Suzuki Roshi. He shares stories, including a martial arts anecdote, to illustrate how overexertion can impede progress. Listeners are encouraged to let go of unnecessary effort and appreciate being present. The episode closes with an invitation: to experiment with reducing extra effort to achieve greater clarity and connection.
EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
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[00:00:00] Marc: Welcome to Mindful Leadership with Marc Lesser, a biweekly podcast featuring conversations with leaders and teachers exploring the intersection of keeping our hearts open and effective action in these most uncertain and challenging times. Please support our work by making a donation at Marc lesser slash donate.
Welcome to today’s practice session in which the topic is the practice of effort and effortlessness. And we’ll start with a short sitting, uh, do a little practice together. I’ll say a few words about the topic and then maybe we’ll, we’ll end with a few minutes of sitting together.[00:01:00]
And I am gonna begin with, uh, ringing my, my trustee bell, which I, I think of this bell as kinda a priming, priming us to stop and pause.
So inviting us to create this simple and yet, uh, sacred space,
uh, allowing our attention to. Rest [00:02:00] on our body, on the breath,
on being here,
and especially for today. And a letting go of any extra effort, unnecessary effort.
As much as possible, uh, dropping the, uh, busyness or activities of the day, the to-do lists,
a sense of, uh, deep rest, nothing to uh, accomplish,
nothing to change.
Uh, allowing, you know, allowing the [00:03:00] breath to be full and fluid. And so no, there’s no effort, no effort required in breathing, no effort required really in, uh, being here alive.
Interesting how, you know, effortlessness is a lot like kind of, uh, generosity, being generous with our awareness, our listening,
opening, opening to uh, what’s possible.
And, you know, and keeping it simple, [00:04:00] uh, breathing in and breathing out. And, and one way to, uh, to practice is with each, with each exhale a, uh, kind of letting, letting go. A little bit more relaxed, a little bit more alert. Yeah. So this, um, this quality of effortlessness contains I think, both relaxed and alert, right?
Because we’re not not distracted. We can be here ready for anything.[00:05:00]
You know, just noticing, you know, kinda checking in, checking in with the body, with the breath, you know, letting, letting thinking mind do its thing. And gently, uh, coming back
and noticing any feelings. Like what, where, where are you right now? Just tuning in.
I think of this, this practice is, we are, we are like, uh, we’re like scientists. In which our, our laboratory is
the awareness that we bring to our body. Breath, thoughts and feelings,[00:06:00]
and knowing, knowing ourselves, and going beyond, knowing and letting go.
And, uh, let’s just sit quietly and, um, in, I’ll shortly ring the bell. You can, uh, feel free to, uh, continue sitting or, or join me in this, uh, next, next part of this, uh, time together.
So I wanna talk a little bit about the practice of effort [00:07:00] and effortlessness or. Sometimes, you know, in, um, in Buddhism it’s called Right, right. Effort. Uh, and I think of the, the Star Wars film in which Yoda famously tells Luke Skywalker Do not do or do not. There’s no try. Right. And this, and this is, you know, when Luke doubts.
His ability to access the force. And, you know, and, and I love, uh, I love the film, uh, star Wars and in a way, this concept of the force is like in zen practice or Buddhist practice, it’s like your intuition or your true nature. And I like the story. Uh, a, a great story about effort and effortlessness is a.
Martial arts student who asks his teacher, you know, how long will it take me [00:08:00] to become a black belt? And the teacher responds, oh, about about 10 years. And the student looks puzzled and impatient and says, you know what, if I work harder and I push myself to excel, what if I’m the best student, then how long will it take me in that case?
And the teacher pauses to consider this, uh, additional information. Smiles and looks at the student and says, in that case, it will take 20 years. And, um, you know, uh, Aldos Huxley referred to this as, you know, the Law of Reversed effort, expressing that when we, you know, overtly exert or over exert ourselves or try too hard to achieve something, we may, uh, actually, uh, impede our progress.
And Zen Teacher Suzuki addresses this issue by saying the most important [00:09:00] point in our practice is to have right or perfect effort. And he goes on to say, if your effort is headed in the wrong direction, especially if you’re not aware of this, it is diluted effort. Our practice, our effort and our practice should be directed from achievement to non achievement.
You know, usually when we do something, we want to achieve something, but from achievement to non achievement means to get rid of unnecessary effort. When we make some special effort, you know, to achieve something, there’s some, there’s some excessive quality, something, uh, something that we can, uh, let go of.
And people ask, you know, what does it mean to practice meditation with no gaining idea or what kind of effort is necessary? And here it’s the [00:10:00] effort to let go, the effort to let go of doing, uh, anything extra much like we just did in this short, uh, meditation practice. And I love in, um, in talking about, you know, effort and effortlessness.
Uh, Sri Suzuki and Zenin beginner’s mind says, you are living in this world as one individual, but before you take the form of a human being, you are already here. Always here. We are always here. So he’s talking about, you know, from a very kind of deep and non-dual way of. The, the underlying, the deep practice of effortlessness is to return to our essential oneness, you know, the oneness with everything.
And he goes on to say, [00:11:00] you know, in describing, you know, that how we are always here and a, a different way of looking at, uh, birth and life and death. He says, this is the magic. We ourselves cannot put any magic spells on this world. The world is its own magic.
So let’s maybe just do, uh, a few minutes of, uh, sitting quietly, uh, together, practicing this again, coming back to letting go of doing anything extra.
So I like you don’t, you know, we don’t need to call this meditation. You don’t need to even, uh, even stop just right now letting go of doing [00:12:00] anything extra. I invite you to be here just, uh, simply. Appreciating being alive. And no matter what, you know, whether you are feeling happy or sad or grieving or excited, you just noticing, just bringing awareness to whatever’s happening right now
effortlessly, uh, wholeheartedly. Something about. Wholehearted practice and nothing to change. Nothing to get
is to hear breathing alive[00:13:00]
and with a sense of a sense of wonder.
Uh, I also sometimes, uh, call this, uh, warm-hearted curiosity. Warm-hearted curiosity is a great path of discovery and, uh, effortlessness and, and also I think the path of being more. Uh, grounded, clear, and effective in, in the world. So, you know, this is the, uh, suggested homework for today or the week. Uh, experiment.
Experiment with noticing any extra effort and see if you can, [00:14:00] uh, let it go. End. And notice if that supports you to be a bit more clear and connected. Connected with yourself and, uh, connected with anyone who you are, uh, interacting with from your family members to people at work, to the checkout. A person at the checkout counter, at the grocery store to, um, this deep sense of, uh, connectedness and respect for everything.
Yeah. The practice of, uh, effort and effortlessness. And I think I’ll as a way of, uh, closing, just, uh, ring my bell.[00:15:00]
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May 15, 2025
Catching Sparks
“Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.”
–David Whyte
Insights Into Practices — Catching Sparks
A Favorite Quote, Thich Nhat Hanh on Right View
What I’m Reading
Podcast
I love the opening scene to the recent film, A Complete Unknown, a biopic about the early days of Bob Dylan’s emergence as a music icon. He seeks out and finds Woody Guthrie, one of his heroes, hospitalized in New Jersey, unable to speak. When Dylan enters the hospital room he is greeted by Pete Seeger, playing music for Guthrie. Seeger asks Dylan, “What are you doing here?” Dylan responds, approaching Guthrie, “I was struck to the ground” hearing Guthrie’s music and “I’m here to catch a spark.”
This week I led a short mindful leader training with a group of Hospice staff and volunteers. I could feel the “sparks” in the room; something about sitting in a circle of people who are deeply engaged with death and dying. I began the training by acknowledging how unbelievably lucky I feel, that I’ve had the opportunity to “catch sparks” from many colleagues, friends, mentors, and teachers and students in the Zen world, the business world, and many other worlds. I stated that my intention for our time together was that perhaps they would catch some sparks from me, and that I was there to learn from them and to catch some of their sparks. I don’t exactly know what happened in our short time together but I felt “struck to the ground” by the energy and meeting that occurred, and caught a bundle of sparks from teaching and learning from with this group of caretakers.
Catching a spark is a valuable and healthy way to approach our work, relationships, and all parts of our lives. It feels like a vital approach or practice — wherever you go, being open to what sparks you might catch – not only from the people, but from the clouds, mountains, rivers, and ladybugs too. And, at the same time, bringing some awareness to what sparks you might be offering.
[image error](Tassajara, Zen Mountain Center; A place I go to catch sparks.)
One of the reasons I’ve relaunched my podcast, (formerly Zen Bones) now Mindful Leadership with Marc Lesser is to catch some sparks from my guests. I’ve just opened the first episode with poet David Whyte. During the first week of June you can listen to my conversation with Oliver Burkeman, bestselling author of 4,000 Hours; Time Management For Mortals.
Practice: Catch Some Sparks
This practice reminds me of a line of David Whyte’s poetry: “Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.” It’s the sparks that we catch and give that brings us alive.
Bring consciousness, awareness to the people that you choose to spend time with. Seek out people where you might catch a spark.
And, make yourself into someone who has sparks to offer.
A book about the practice of “catching sparks” is Inner Gold: Understanding Psychological Projection, by Robert Johnson.
A Favorite Quote: Right View, by Thich Nhat Hanh
“When one person comes up to us, the very sight of him makes us uncomfortable. But when someone else walks by, we like her right away. Something in each of those touches a seed in us. If we love our mother deeply, but feel tense every time we think of our father, it is natural that when we see a young person who looks like our mother we will appreciate her, and when we see a person who evokes the memory of our father, we will feel uncomfortable. In this way we can “see” the seeds that are in us…When we become aware of the seeds in our storehouse, we will not be surprised by our own behavior or the behavior of others.
At the base of our view are our perceptions… Buddha advised “Where there is perception — there is deception.”… We have to ask ourselves again and again. Am I sure?
The source of our perception, our way of seeing, lies in our storehouse consciousness.
No view can ever be the truth. The quality of our views can always be improved. From the viewpoint of ultimate reality, Right View is the absence of all views.
”What I’m Reading
Radical Candor, by Kim Scott – An excellent book that emphasizes honest, compassionate communication, encouraging feedback, building trust, and empowering teams. The book offers practical tools to foster strong relationships and better results at work.
The Heart Of Buddha’s Teaching, by Thich Nhat Hanh – That basics of mindfulness practice with lots of depth and heart.
Have a listen to my recent conversation with David Whyte and many others.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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May 8, 2025
Poetry, Leadership, & the Power of Invitation
““One line of poetry can transform a life.”
– David Whyte
We’re thrilled to kick off Season 2 of Mindful Leadership with Marc Lesser (formerly Zen Bones) with none other than poet, philosopher, and author David Whyte.
In this deeply moving conversation, David reflects on his journey from working with global corporations like Boeing to returning to the revelatory edge of poetry, Zen, and contemplative leadership.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
· Why poetry belongs in the boardroom, and the break room.
· How deep conversation begins with real invitation.
· The surprising truth about stopping as a path forward
· What Zen and heartbreak teach us about leadership.
· A powerful reminder: “Not knowing is most intimate.”
[image error]This episode is a poetic exploration of meaning, vulnerability, and the lifelong practice of staying open—especially when our hearts are broken.
Listen now and join us in welcoming a new season of insight, heart, and human spirit.
Mindful Leadership With Marc Lesser, David White episode
A core theme throughout David Whyte’s talks is the human ability to hold and live two contrasting worldviews. This theme presents itself in my conversation now available in this podcast “The World Was Made To Be Free In.” Due to popular demand, (and because I find it extremely nourishing), I’ve launched Season 2 of Zen Bones podcast under a new name: Mindful Leadership with Marc Lesser. Here these two “worldviews” of Zen and Leadership are woven together to create a tapestry of depth, sacredness, and effectiveness.
Here are a few lines from this new podcast conversation:
“The whole dynamic is about making real invitations to yourself, to another, to a group of people. You can call it an organization or a business. The way poetry touches people when I’m out there is that you will often get people who would come into a corporate room because they have some goal, something they want.
But actually what happens in that room is it’s way beyond that goal. It is touching something way underneath that goal too. If I’m doing my work properly, it’s touching people at a deep foundation. Years ago at Oxford Business School I had a man from a major telecommunications company run up to me after my session and said, I don’t know whether to buy a Harley Davidson and drive off into the sunset or redouble my efforts in my work.
And I said, well, just hold those two things together because you’ve got exactly what I was talking about, you know? All of us have that conversation between these polarities. There’s that gorgeous line by Rilke where he says, stretch your well disciplined strengths between two opposing poles.
Because inside human beings is where God lives. We use this word God, but it really means anything far over the horizon, as you could ever imagine: imagine or engage with. So, what calls us also lives within us at the same time.”
If you haven’t listened to Season 1 of the Zen Bones Podcast, do check it out. I appreciated and enjoyed my many conversations including Jon Kabat Zinn, Jane Hirshfield, Joan Halifax, Parker Palmer, and many others. There are also several “practice episodes” containing guiding meditations and short talks on work, Zen, and life. Zen Bones Podcast is here.
Mindful Leadership With Marc Lesser, David White episode
With appreciation
Marc
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April 24, 2025
Are You Living with A Closed Fist Or An Open Hand?
Insights Into Practices: Closed Fist or Open Hand?
A Favorite Quote
What I’m Cooking – Asparagus Soup
Half-Day Retreat, July 13th
“Stopping, calming, and resting are preconditions for healing…The world needs healing. Individuals, communities and nations need healing.”
– Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh
A worthy experiment is to make a fist with one hand, closing your fingers really tight and notice how you feel. Then, slowly open your hand with fingers extended and be aware of how this influences you.
It can be easy, especially these days, to live our lives with a closed fist, and not even be aware of it. Every day, sometimes every hour, there is more alarming news coming out of Washington.
A closed fist or an open hand is a useful and important way of noticing your approach to whatever you are doing and more broadly, how you are living, right now. Metaphors are powerful and the language we use to think about ourselves, describe our actions, and view our lives can have real impact.
The metaphor of comparing your life to “juggling lots of balls” during a particularly full day, can be self-fulfilling. Ball juggling, or plate juggling can be frenetic, and often the balls or plates come crashing down.
Instead, I prefer the metaphor of “planting lots of seeds.” Ahhh, seed-planting is much slower, more conscious, and gentler than ball juggling. You can decide what seeds to water or not. I much prefer my life be more like gardening and less like juggling. It’s “just” a shift in language, and yet it can shift our approach, from a closed fist to an open hand.
This week I’ve been studying the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh. He brings a good deal of accessibility, warmth, and practicality to the practice of noticing when we are sad, lonely or angry and describes practices for bringing understanding to when we are tight or stressed. Here is his five-step approach to working with a closed fist:
[image error]1) Recognition – I’m living with a closed fist (or any kind of stress, anxiety, or anger) and I bring awareness to it.
2) Acceptance – Being tight or closed is what is present.
3) Embracing – Not pushing away these strong feelings but appreciating what is.
4) Looking Deeply – Bring curiosity to what is the cause of these feelings and emotions.
5) Insight – Touching understanding and bringing more choice into our daily lives.
He goes on to suggest that these practices can shift our energy from striving to resting. “Stopping, calming, and resting are preconditions for healing…The world needs healing. Individuals. Communities and nations need healing.”
The Practice
Notice: Are you living, working, communicating, with a closed fist or an open hand? What supports you to be more open?
Notice how the quest for perfection is a noble idea, except when it leads you to tighten and close. Explore enjoying imperfection; being less caught, less tightening around ideas of perfection.
[image error]A Favorite Quote
“If you try to adjust yourself in a certain way, you will lose yourself. So without any intentional, fancy way of adjusting yourself, to express yourself freely as you are is the most important thing to make yourself happy, and to make others happy. You will acquire this kind of ability by practicing meditation.”
– Shunryu Suzuki, from Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind
What I’m Cooking This Week – Asparagus Soup
It’s easy these days to become separated or distant from the food we eat, that nourishes and sustains us. Very few of us grow our own food, and I’m often surprised how many people rarely cook. I like to make it a point to make bread, soup, or salad as often as I can.
Explore the practice of cooking as a creative and nourishing process. Let your hands and mind open; just chopping, cooking, and loving…
Here is a simple recipe for Asparagus Soup
Saute 1 onion and a leek in olive oil. (salt and pepper to taste.)
Add about 1.5 pounds of chopped asparagus.
Add one small potato, in small pieces.
Put in 6 cups of water, cover and simmer for 10 – 15 minutes.
Cool briefly and puree.
(You can hold back some of the asparagus tips and add after you puree.)
Season with salt and pepper, and perhaps some lemon juice.
Half-day Retreat, In-Person and Online, July 13th (Mill Valley)
In our world of busyness, of more/faster/better, this half-day retreat offers time to stop, reflect, and renew. We will explore the practices of effort and effortless as a path to well-being and “stepping into your life.” Together we’ll follow a gentle schedule of sitting and walking meditation, a talk, and some discussion. Anyone looking to begin or deepen a meditation and mindfulness practice is invited to attend. What is meditation? I like a definition proposed by Dogen, the 13th century founder of Zen in Japan: “The practice I speak of is not meditation. It is simply the dharma gate of repose and bliss…It is the manifestation of ultimate reality…Once its heart is grasped, you are like a dragon when he gains the water, like a tiger when she enters the mountains.”
[image error]Warmest regards,
Marc
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April 10, 2025
Less Catastrophizing: More Not Knowing
Insights Into Practices: Staying With Uncertainty
A Poem, by William Stafford
What I’m Watching
“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will get you everywhere.”
– Albert Einstein
I almost quit watching the game. In a recent Final Four college basketball match, Duke was leading Houston by 7 points with just over a minute to play. Duke was ahead the entire game and seemed like the better team. Houston won 70 – 67.
Our brains can’t help make predictions. In daily life, predictions make it possible to survive. When we get out of bed in the morning we predict where the floor will be, and where the bathroom door is located. We predict (consciously and unconsciously) who we are, what will happen next, and what our life will look like for the day, weeks, and future. We are amazing predictors, and at the same time we are terrible at predicting the future, especially as we move away from our own lives to other’s lives and to the larger events of the world.
Human thinking, and especially predictions are flawed when it comes to understanding randomness, risk, and uncertainty. We tend to:
Over-rely on what we know
Underestimate what we don’t know
Assume the future will look like the past
Catastrophize during times of uncertainty
Who would have ever predicted Donald Trump as president. Trump was elected president once — impossible. Twice, incredibly impossible. And who would have predicted Barack Obama. Barack Obama was elected once, and twice — also impossible! Who would have predicted either of these events?
Right now, (and almost always) it is easy, and perhaps prudent to predict catastrophe. It’s better to be prepared than unprepared for catastrophic events. That’s the beauty and importance of the negativity bias – it’s better to predict the worst and have these predictions not come true. The problem with this is the toll it takes on our nervous systems, our sense of ease, and in our ability to see more clearly. And, it gets in the way of seeing and appreciating the countless positive things in our lives.
Right now, during these particularly chaotic times, I’m doing my best to not avoid seeing and feeling as fully as possible, and at the same time staying with uncertainty.
We really don’t know what will happen next. This is always true, but this truth comes into play as more important during less predictable times, like now. Donald Trump is many things, but one of his real talents is his ability to create chaos.
So what?
Practice
Notice how you predict the future, usually with a good dose of negativity bias and fear. We humans are hardwired to scan for threats. It’s essential for keeping us safe and alive.
At the same time, explore staying with uncertainty. Try on staying with not knowing what will happen next. Start with yourself, with how you think about your own success and failure, or any limited story that you tell about yourself.
Then, extend not knowing to the people around you. Be more curious. What is your partner’s experience, or your children, parents, friends? Explore making less assumptions and more real inquiry.
Try extending not knowing to the world around you.
And, explore noticing and appreciating the “little” things – the taste of an apple, the movement of the clouds, your feet touching the floor.
The Practice is to be really good at predicting the future, and at the same time to stay with uncertainty; and appreciating being alive.
[image error]A Poem
Our Story, by William Stafford
Remind me again—together we
trace our strange journey, find
each other, come on laughing.
Some time we’ll cross where life
ends. We’ll both look back
as far as forever, that first day.
I’ll touch you—a new world then.
Stars will move a different way.
We’ll both end. We’ll both begin.
Remind me again.
What I’m Watching
Dying For Sex – I’ve only watched the first few episodes and am really enjoying this series. It’s based on a true story. With heart and humor, it portrays the quest to be fully human in the midst of impermanence.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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March 27, 2025
The Overview Effect
“Zen Is Meant To Destroy Your Common Sense”
– Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Teacher
Perhaps it is our “common sense” that has gotten us into this mess – in our leadership, politics, and our planet.
NASA astronaut Ron Garan spent 178 days aboard the International Space Station. Upon his return he said that from space Earth appears as an “iridescent biosphere teeming with life.” He was struck by the “unbelievable thinness of our planet’s atmosphere, which keeps every living thing on our planet alive.” Several astronauts have shared profound insights about viewing Earth from space, emphasizing its fragility and the interconnectedness of humanity
Garan went on to describe experiencing what is called the “Overview Effect,” a cognitive shift in awareness that many astronauts report.
“We’re living a lie,” he stated. “We have our priorities completely upside down by emphasizing economic systems over planetary wellbeing.”
Lies seem particularly popular right now. Lies are now being touted as truth, or as common sense:
– There is no climate change.
– We don’t have any issues (historically or currently) with racism and bias.
– Integrity, values, and morality don’t matter in leadership.
– Wise government is not possible.
– Capitalism doesn’t require regulations.
You don’t need to go to outer space to experience the beauty and fragility of our planet, of humanity, and of all of life. And you don’t need to go anywhere to see how so-called “common sense” is made up of greed, hatred, and delusion, lacking in honesty, transparency, and wisdom.
The overview effect in some way is simply washing away ego, turning away from greed and hatred, and seeing ourselves and our world with the eyes of reality, of care, love, truth, and wisdom. It provides perspective and puts truth and lies into greater clarity.
(A Leaf, Photo Taken In Mexico)
The Overview Effect is a type of awe experience, as described by scientist Dachner Keltner. In our podcast conversation Awe In Everyday Life, he describes the practice of seeing things fresh, as though for the first time. He says, “One of my favorite studies is we find that brief experiences of awe lead people to reduced polarization of their political opponents and less polarized debates over abortion or gun rights. What that means is awe is an antidote to polarizing conflict, which is one of our real social problems today.”
We can use more truth and perspective; less lies, and more courage to see and speak from a perspective of awe, clarity, and compassion.
Practices
Meditation – With each exhale let go of expecting anything, including another inhale. This is a practice from Shunryu Suzuki, from Zen Mind Beginner’s Mind. If there is another inhale, you might be surprised. “Oh, here I am, alive…”
Awe Walk – Experiment with seeing everything as though for the first time – trees, flowers, cars, clouds, other people, yourself.
A Poem, by Rainer Maria Rilke
I want to unfold
I don’t want to stay folded anywhere,
Because where I am folded, there I am a lie.
And I want my grasp of things
true before you. I want to describe myself
like a painting that I looked at
closely for a long time,
like a saying that I finally understood,
like the pitcher I use every day,
like the face of my mother,
like a ship
that took me safely
through the wildest storm of all.
A Favorite Quote (How To Work Skillfully With Our Anger)
“Our zazen (meditation) is a unique thing. We face the wall with an object. Still, many things rise in our consciousness. For example, I might think about an incident that made me angry, maybe yesterday. That event may be so powerful that no matter how many times I have tried to let go it still comes up. Actually, when I am sitting and facing the wall the incident is already over. It’s not reality anymore. But it continues in my consciousness as if it were real. During zazen I can see clearly that there’s no object, no person in front of me now. It’s an illusion, just energy that still remains from those seeds in my storehouse consciousness. So I let it go.”
– from The Mountains and Waters Sutra, Shohaku Okumura
Half-Day Meditation Retreat, Sunday, March 30th. (This Sunday.)
In person in Mill Valley and online. Open to anyone. Excellent way to get a taste of extended meditation practice with a supportive community.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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March 13, 2025
Selling Water By The River
The effectiveness of an intervention is in direct proportion to the quality of the state of mind of the intervenor.”
– Otto Scharmer
Selling Water By The RiverA Favorite QuoteWhat I’m Watching; Two FilmsHalf Day Meditation Retreat (Sunday, March 30th)Tassajara Workshop, A Zen Inspired Retreat (August 26 – 31)“Selling water by the river” is an expression that pokes fun at ourselves for failing to recognize what is right in front of us, and can be a gentle reminder to ask yourself – what if nothing is missing? What if we begin from a place that we have what we need?
It’s easy to focus on the many problems of our lives and the world, to see only what is lacking, the numerous challenges and the gaps between the world we want and know is possible and the world we have. It’s easy to get caught up in the daily routines; aiming to get to the next task or event and missing or not appreciating what is right in front of us.
As Zen teacher Shunryu Suzuki suggests — practice (mindfulness practice and mindful leadership) is more like finding things, or discovering things in our sleeves and less like collecting things in our basket.
A variety of leaders that I’ve worked with over many years assume they need to be self-critical, judgmental, and be hard on themselves in order to get things done and to succeed. I often suggest, as an experiment, the practice of generosity, and kindness; “Instead of being critical explore being more generous and kind with yourself and see if this negativity impacts your productivity and effectiveness.” This is a lot like discovering that you are already in the stream you’ve been searching for.
The voice of self-criticism is part survival mechanism and part negativity bias. From an evolutionary perspective, scanning for threats, for what is missing, for what can go wrong is an essential quality.
It can be surprising to discover and experience that we are more effective when we begin from a place of acceptance and appreciation. It is a shift in attitude to envision what we want to accomplish without self-criticism and from a place of generosity.
We have more inner resources and can cultivate more possibilities when we are open, curious, and generous.
Practice:
Experiment with the phrase: Selling water by the river, as a reminder that despite all the of challenges and problems, it’s possible to appreciate being here, now, alive.
Explore the approach of finding and discovering, instead of only adding more things to your list of what needs to get done.
What might the practice of generosity look like in your work and life?
(Walking in Central Park, NYC)
A Favorite Quote:
The effectiveness of an intervention is in direct proportion to the quality of the state of mind of the intervenor.”
– Otto Scharmer
What I’m Watching
A Complete Unknown – I loved this film about the genius of Bob Dylan. Set against the backdrop of 1960s America, it follows Dylan’s rise from a wandering folk singer to a cultural icon.
Still Here – Powerful film about Brazil’s military dictatorship. Tells the story of those who resisted oppression and fought for justice.
Half-Day Meditation Retreat, Sunday, March 30th
In person in Mill Valley and online
Tassajara, Step Into Your Life Workshop, August 26 – 31
Come join me at Tassajara, Zen Mountain Center for a 5-day retreat. Together we’ll follow a gentle schedule of sitting and walking meditation, interspersed with talks and discussions from the wisdom of Zen teaching as we explore how these stories and dialogues may be utilized in our relationships, our work, and our lives.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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February 27, 2025
Hate, Love, and The Practice Of Wonderment
“I did not ask for success. I asked for wonder.”
– Abraham Joshua Heschel (1907 – 1972)
Hate, Love, and The Practice Of WondermentA Favorite Quote, The World Is Its Own MagicWhat I’m ReadingHalf Day Meditation Retreat (Sunday, March 30th)Tassajara Workshop, A Zen Inspired Retreat (August 26 – 31)I once took a writing and improv class in order to help get unstuck with my writing. It was during a time when I felt blocked, in the midst of having signed a contract to produce a book. The need to create “book worthy writing” can be stultifying. I appreciated this class where I could write freely, without concern about judging the quality of my writing.
However, I was somewhere between nervous and terrified at the improv portion of the class. Sensing my caution, and my attempt to hide in the back of the classroom, one afternoon the teacher called me to come to the small stage at the front of the room. She looked at me and wondered how to begin an improv experience.
She suggested that I say the words “I hate.” I was surprised and curious about her choice, and went with it. Then, she asked me to repeat this phrase, again and again, with feeling. I could feel myself both opening and tightening, with some anger building. Then she added to the words, the direction to stomp my feet, along with the phrase “I hate.” After several rounds of this, she stepped back and said “go!”
From somewhere deep inside me I blurted out “I hated high school graduation where they lined us up according to height.” I went on for a while about various events in my life that I associated as being awful, unfair, or connected to emotional pain. Then, little by little, without thinking or conscious effort, I began expressing things that I was fond of and then the many people and events that I loved came into focus. “I loved going golfing with my father when I was 13,…I loved being the bread baker at Tassajara…”
It was powerful to experience how feeling and expressing pain transformed into feelings and expressions of love.
There is no shortage of things to hate these days; no shortage of uncertainty, and of pain. I find myself often noticing or saying “This being human is a tough gig.” Without avoiding or suppressing pain, difficulty, and the things we hate, it’s important to remember how much goodness, creativity, and love there is — at the same time.
I’ve been studying a Zen text called the Harmony of Difference and Equality. It contains a series of phrases about the practice of integrating the dark and the light of our human experience:
“In the light there is darkness.
but don’t take it as darkness;
In the dark there is light,
but don’t see it as light.
Light and dark oppose one another
like front and back foot in walking.”
Practice
I’ve also been thinking a lot about wonderment as a practice. There are events and how we interpret these events. An important practice is to be curious about how we experience ourselves, others, and the world — with a bit more wonder – approaching what we hate and what we love, with a sense of wonderment.
A book I read many years ago is I Asked For Wonder – A Spiritual Anthology by Abraham Joshua Heschel. A quote that has stayed with me is: “I did not ask for success. I asked for wonder.”
(Cataract Trail, Mount Tamalpais)
A Favorite Quote
“You are living in this world as one individual, but before you take the form of a human being, you are already there, always there. We are always here. Do you understand?
…We ourselves cannot put any magic spells on this world. The world is its own magic.
…So try not to see something in particular; try not to achieve anything special. You already have everything in your own pure quality. If you understand this ultimate fact, there is no fear. There may be some difficulty, of course, but there is no fear.”
– Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Mind Beginner’s Mind
What I’m Reading
Steppenwolf, by Hermann Hesse – An oldie but great book.A journey into the realms of self-discovery, non-duality, and the transformative power of art and spirituality, provoking radical transformation.
Question 7, by Richard Flanagan – Part memoir, part novel and historical fiction. Beautifully written exploration of memory, moral ambiguity, and power dynamics.
Half-Day Meditation Retreat, Sunday, March 30th
In person in Mill Valley and online
Tassajara, Step Into Your Life Workshop, August 26 – 31
Come join me at Tassajara, Zen Mountain Center for a 5-day retreat. Together we’ll follow a gentle schedule of sitting and walking meditation, interspersed with talks and discussions from the wisdom of Zen teaching as we explore how these stories and dialogues may be utilized in our relationships, our work, and our lives.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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February 13, 2025
What Do You Call The World?
The Art and Practice of Perspective-Taking
What Do You Call The World?A Poem, by RumiWhat I’m WatchingHalf Day Meditation Retreat (Sunday, 3/30)Tassajara Workshop, (August 26 – 31)There is a story about a rabbi who carries two slips of paper in his pocket. One said “The world was created for me.” The other slip of paper said “I am but dust and ashes.” His practice is to know when to reach for which message.
We all live in many, many worlds. Have you noticed? What are some of the worlds you live in?
My worlds this morning include the world of reading and writing. Right now, here I am at the keyboard, aware of the connection between thoughts, feelings, body, and hands. I woke up this morning aware that it was dark and 5:25 a.m, and before that I was in the world of sleeping and dreaming. I dreamt that I was in my 20’s running through city streets and then streets from the neighborhood in New Jersey where I grew up, followed by a dream wondering how I could be running so unencumbered given the state of my artificial hips. (I actually do have titanium hips.)
Then waking up, standing with these feet touching the floor, I entered the world of a hot shower, a cold shower, and then hot shower. And then the world of reading the New York Times. What a world that is. Dramas upon dramas, mostly bad, awful events, domestic and international. Then some slight relief exploring the arts, business, and sports sections.
This question, “What do you call the world?” comes from a classic Zen story from a collection of Zen stories from the Golden Age of Zen in China (600 – 900 CE) called The Book of Serenity.
The story is a dialogue between two renowned Zen teachers:
Teacher A asks: How is Zen in the South these days?
B responds: There is lots of study, practice, and discussion
A: How can you compare to my temple where we plant fields and grow rice?
B: What are you doing about the world?
A What do you call the world?
I feel a good deal of curiosity and affection for story, especially this line, this question: What do you call the world? It highlights the reality that we all live in many worlds and that our freedom lies in our perceptions, perspectives, and choices.
The practice of perspective taking, is noticing that we exist in many worlds and being aware of where we put our attention, our thoughts, and our life energy. It’s a choice, and it’s a practice. It is the aspiration to see, think, and act with as much clarity as we can muster – not avoiding what is painful, but not causing unnecessary pain.
Right now it can be daunting to know how much attention to give to the geopolitical world. It can be deeply disturbing. Avoiding and denying don’t appear as good options, nor is being submerged and thrown around by the negative energy.
I find myself aspiring to lean in to and bring forth the worlds of uncertainty and of kindness. We don’t know what will happen next, really. It is easy to catastrophize and imagine and feel what could go wrong. To me, Trump being elected once was impossible, twice, even more impossible. Obama being elected was also impossible. So, we don’t know what will happen next. I aspire to live with a sense of uncertainty over pessimism.
And, choosing kindness, is a world I want to inhabit as much as possible.
One way to contend with the difficult, daunting worlds is the perspective of Winston Churchill, from a time where London was being fire bombed. His approach, in how to think and lead during horrific times revolved around three practices:
1) No sugar coating – not turning away from what is difficult and painful. Seeing and feeling what is, as much as possible.
2) Cautious optimism – bringing attention to what’s possible, exploring what a positive outcome might look like, and developing a plan of action of how you might get there.
3) Purpose and meaning – returning to the questions and issues of what matters most. Asking the “why” and the “what” questions. Why are we doing this, really? What’s possible?
Practice:
Explore asking and answering this question: What do you call the world?
Bring attention to the worlds of:
· Uncertainty – try on not knowing what will happen next, combined with not-sugar coating.
· Kindness – at home, work, and especially with ourselves, with a touch of cautious optimism.
· Ordinary and sacred – what if everything is ordinary and sacred?
Collections of Zen koans often include some commentary by the collector of the stories. A short poem that is a commentary on the story between two Zen teachers goes like this:
Everything is made up;
Daily life is filled with ordinary matters;
Only those who investigate fully can distinguish the ordinary from the sacred;
Once you investigate fully, you discover there is nothing to seek.
(Muir Woods, first week of February 2025)
A Poem by Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)
Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things
have gone with others. Unfold
your own myth, without complicated explanation;
Give up wanting what other people have.
that way you’re safe.
This is not a day for asking questions,
not a day on any calendar.
This day is conscious of itself.
This day is a lover, bread, and gentleness,
more manifest than saying can say.
What I’m Watching
September 5 – Great film about the hostage crises during the 1972 Munich Olympics. It raises important questions about media, ethics, truth, and courage. “A tense ethical showdown with the racing pulse of a thriller, “September 5” revisits the day in 1972 when the Munich Olympics became a very different kind of international spectacle.” – Manohla Dargis
Half-Day Meditation Retreat , Sunday, March 30th
In person in Mill Valley and online
Tassajara, Step Into Your Life Workshop , August 26 – 31
Come join me at Tassajara, Zen Mountain Center for a 5-day retreat. Together we’ll follow a gentle schedule of sitting and walking meditation, interspersed with talks and discussions from the wisdom of Zen teaching as we explore how these stories and dialogues may be utilized in our relationships, our work, and our lives.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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January 31, 2025
We Have No Idea How Much We Influence Each Other
“You are living in this world as on individual, but before you take the form as a human being, you are already there, always there. We are always here.
Do you understand?
– Shunryu Suzuki, Zen Mind, Beginners Mind (from a talk called Right Effort)
We Have No Idea How Much We Influence Each OtherWhat I’m ReadingA Poem, by RumiHalf Day Meditation Retreat (Sunday, 2/2)There is a study in a recent Harvard Business Review that compares two methods of problem solving. One is with a person plus an Artificial Intelligence partner. The second is two people working together to solve the same problems. These methods are tested extensively and though the AI partner brings a ton more knowledge, two people are consistently more effective at solving problems. Interesting.
We have little idea how profoundly we influence each other, in healthy and in less than healthy ways.
I’ve been reflecting on a time when my mother was dying. She chose to spend the last few days of her life in my home, on my living room couch. My son was 12 and my daughter was 7 years old. They were both very connect to and enjoyed taking care of their grandmother. During this time we received a call from our daughter’s 3rd grade teacher telling us that our daughter was limping.
We explained that this might be connected to her grandmother being in the process of dying. A few days later the teacher called to say that most of the children in the class were now limping. (And, I too was limping.) The limping all stopped as soon as my mother died.
We are connected to each other and influence one another in ways that are difficult to understand or explain. This event with my mother appears to me as a kind of empathic contagion.
I use this as an example of the power of connection and at the same time, we also positively influence each other in important and significant ways. I see and experience this influence in the work I do with business executives and in mindfulness trainings, and as a Zen teacher. This positive influence is inherent in therapy and coaching. I also experience it in people meditating together as well as in groups where people come together with the spirit of caring and with open hearts.
What I’ve noticed is when we create a safe, supportive, and caring environment we lift each other up emotionally and spiritually. We are changed by others and we change others. Whenever I’m teaching or leading mindfulness sessions or retreats I feel pulled, called or inspired to show up as my best, most authentic, caring self. And I notice and am told that others also feel this. When we care about others and show up for them, we create more freedom, there is less scanning for threats, and more being open to possibility.
There are many studies demonstrating the fact that our emotions are contagious. In one such study one person (an actor) acting with negative energy, grumpy and blaming, influences the group’s negative energy, and lack of effectiveness. In this same study, one person acting with positive energy, upbeat and curious, influences the group’s more positive energy, as well as more effective problem solving.
What does this have to do with radical change during difficult times? Everything! This most uncertain, challenging time feels like an important window to connect, to be together, and to open our hearts and minds. It is a way of supporting our common belief in the goodness of humanity, the goodness of each other. Even when, or especially when we see so much greed, hatred, and delusion around us.
Practice:
Bring more awareness to how you are influenced by others and how you influence others – in speaking, listening, and in silence.
Spend more time with people who want the best from you, who care about you, and believe in you. (And be such a person for others.)
(Bancroft Ponds, Missoula, Montana)
What I’m Reading
A Beginner’s Guide To Japan, by Pico Iyer – An insightful exploration of Japan’s paradoxes, traditions, and modern quirks. Blending personal anecdotes with cultural observations, a unique perspective on Japanese etiquette, aesthetics, and daily life.
Meditations For Mortals: Four Weeks To Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time For What Counts, by Oliver Burkeman – Simple practices for working with stress and getting things done with greater ease.
A Poem, by Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)
Be empty of worrying.
Think of who created thought!
Why do you stay in prison
when the door is so wide open?
Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking.
Live in silence.
Flow down and down in always
widening rings of being.
There’s a strange frenzy in my head,
of birds flying,
Each particle circulating on its own.
Is the one I love everywhere?
Half Day Meditation, Sunday February 2nd
From 9:00 a.m. – 12:30, sitting, walking, a short talk, and discussion.
In person, Mill Valley and Online. Register here.
Warmest regards,
Marc
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