Priyanka Nair (Joshi)'s Blog, page 31
February 25, 2020
Tuesday Quote -Life Quote
What do you fear the most? What holds you back?
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Much love and gratitude
~Priyanka
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February 21, 2020
Broken and Fixed
It’s empty now
the place which belonged to you
it’s hollow and shallow
it created a deep void and vaccum
which nothing could fill
I tried filling those missing pieces
now I am tired and want to give up
As I feel so mentally ill
I am drained out of emotions
and all those unsung notions
I am tired of presenting that perfect picture
and keep things in it’s juncture
I am done pleasing the society
as no one will care about my sanity
just for the namesake I can’t lie anymore
just for the keepsake I can’t rely anymore
I am done and I know it
now it is time to show it
to care about my feelings
to own how I feel
to overcome my anxiety
to overcome my fear of the unknown
I am waiting dear life
bring it on.
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February 18, 2020
लाल इश्क़!
अरबों की भीड़ में अकेला
स्वपन बिन सजीला
सतरंगी मेरा इश्क़
रूह से गुज़रता हुआ
लहू की तरह बिखरता हुआ
निर्मोही मेरा इश्क़
मेरे महबूब के दीद में डूबा
दर्द की चुनर में रंगा
मेरा रंग-ए-जमाल इश्क़
उम्र भर की फ़िक्र सा
दिल-ए- दुआ की जिक्र सा
बेमिसाल मेरा इश्क़
अपनी ही अस्तित्व को टटोलता
समय की गिरफ्त में
मेरा वजूद-ए-हाल इश्क़
जिस्म से रूह तक
दिल से जेहन तक
रंग-ए-मलाल इश्क़
प्यार से मुहब्बत
मुहब्बत से इश्क़
इश्क़ से भी परवान (हद) मेरा इश्क़
रंजिशों भरा
तमाशेगार मेरा इश्क़
नाज़ुक मिज़ाज़ यह इश्क़
थोड़ा ज़ालिम
थोड़ा बेरी
आखिर क्या कमाल मेरा इश्क़
उफ़! ये मेरा लाल इश्क़
-प्रियंका©
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February 17, 2020
Mental Health Awareness Series ~ Episode -12- Kushal Singhal
Welcome to the twelfth episode of Humanity ki chain, Mental Health Awareness Series with Kushal Singhal.
The importance of being aware and being able to understand the need for mental health awareness is all we need to stress upon. It is important that we talk about Mental Illness and how we as a society can join together to fight against the stigmas attached to it.
The twelfth guest joining us today is Kushal Singhal. Kushal is a passionate mom blogger, a successful parenting coach, a stay at home mom to 2 kids. Founder of Cafewhiz. And also the founder of her new blog called Mom Chipper for SAHMs to reclaim their lost space in the world.
She is also an artisan bread baker and calls herself a life long learner. Understanding the issues that women face in present times, she feels & writes passionately about Moms and raising kids.
She has been published at Naaree, Women’s web, YKA, Momspresso & other online platforms for her amazing work.
Blog Links –
Mom Chipper – https://www.momchipper.com/about-me/
Cafewhiz- https://cafewhiz.com
Her social media handles:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kushal.singhal.71
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momchipper/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Momchipper
This Mental health awareness series is a small attempt from my side to spread some mental health awareness and enable people to talk. The more we talk about it, the more we will be able to break the stigmas attached to it.
Mental Health is as important as Physical Health and it is not possible to drive a massive change alone, so let’s join together and spread some positivity.
Be a part (kadi) of this Humanity ki chain. Contact me – priyanka@sanitydaily.com
Thanks.
Priyanka Nair
Founder
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February 12, 2020
15 Ways To Fight Stress
With the advent of technology and advancement, came competition and then this instinct of survival of the fittest, which ultimately has given boost to a never-ending rat-race, resulting in stress.
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February 9, 2020
मैं लेख़क नहीं
मेरे शब्दों पे न जाओ के मैं कोई लेख़क नहीं मैं तो बस इक आवाज़ हूँ एक अनसुना सा आगाज़ हूँ मैं दबे हुए पन्नों में खोए हुए औंसुओ की धुंदली बुँदे हूँजो पलकों के झपकते ही ग़ुमनामी की सियाही में ग़ुम हो जाते है मैं अपनी ही धुन से
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February 3, 2020
Mental Health Awareness Series ~ Episode -11- Sonam Chamaria
Welcome to the eleventh episode of Humanity ki chain, Mental Health Awareness Series with Sonam Chamaria. The importance of being aware and being able to understand the need for mental health awareness is all we need to stress upon. It is important that we talk about Mental Illness and how
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January 21, 2020
Child Sexual Abuse and Mental Health Preservation
Sexual abuse in children is the worst of worst crime and mostly it is committed by someone known, some creepy relative or some known friend. The best time to talk to your child about sexual abuse is now.
Listen to your child when they try to say something to you in their shaky voices, be present when they need you, be active while you are listening to them, believe in them, read between the lines, use all your senses when you sense something wrong.
Do not leave your child unattended even when you see some differences in their behavior. Some wounds never heal, some trauma are so deeply inflicted that they haunt people forever their life.
A very good friend of mine and a Psychologist/ Counselor at Pathways Psychology Services – Winfield , Swati Bajpai shares some very important facts we all should consider. Sharing this here to spread the message which is vital and invaluable.
What after Sexual Abuse?
How to be supportive to the child in protecting themselves and learning healthy coping skills?
Children often react to traumatic events like physical and sexual abuse with anxiety and distress. Other common reactions are disruptive behavior, acting out, aggression, anger, or having trouble following rules.
While the child is undergoing therapy, parents and caregivers play an important role in helping out children struggling with trauma.
It’s done by Praise, Active Ignoring, Time-out .
Praise is a valuable tool parents can use to increase their child’s desirable behavior. Most children respond well to praise or positive attention.
It is better to use labeled praises instead of unlabeled praises. A labeled praise is specific.
An example of a labeled praise is: “I like how you cleaned the table the first time I asked.” This example is clear in terms of what the parent was praising.
It is also important to praise desirable behavior as soon as possible after it happens. The more immediate the reward, the more the child will be affected by it.
Be consistent with the praise as children’s behavior is most difficult to manage when they have unpredictable rewards and consequences for their behavior.
Avoid criticizing when praising the child.
In the above example the child might have ignored earlier requests for help. Therefore don’t praise by saying, “Thanks for cleaning the table. Why aren’t you this responsible all the time?”
Bring emotions in praise. Don’t sound robotic in your praise. An enthusiastic praise can go a long way toward rewarding your child’s desirable behavior.
Ignoring
Children do undesirable things to get attention even though it’s negative attention. For this reason, it is important to use praise for desirable behavior and active ignoring for undesirable behavior. Very importantly, NEVER ignore dangerous or unsafe behavior. You should only use active ignoring to decrease undesirable, non-dangerous behavior.
Timeout
The primary goal of timeout is to remove a child temporarily from a reinforcing environment or situation in order to decrease an undesirable behavior. Timeout should not be done in a crowded room. It should be done in a quiet, un-stimulating room, and should last only a few minutes.
For Behavior Management
Be consistent
Frame goals positively
Set short-term goals (use one day or one week rather than one month)
Follow through with rewards
If the reward at the end of the week is ice cream, be prepared and avoid postponing the reward. The behavior chart is most likely to be effective if parents follow through consistently and predictably.
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Identify Feelings
For many children who have experienced sexual abuse, some feelings may feel very strong and may be difficult to cope with at times. Learning how to talk about these feelings can help you talk to others about these feelings and can help you learn to cope with them better. Teach children to identify as many feelings as possible.
Teach the children to express the feelings in physical indicators. Like being means happy or when others know you are happy means smiles, eyes squint, laughter, etc.
Sad- crying, redness in face, tears, sobbing, etc. Mad- frowns, feeling tense, yelling, heart beating fast, redness in face, etc. Scared- frightened look, heart beating rapidly, shaking, cold clammy hands, sweating, shortness of breath, screaming, crying, etc.
Teach the child how to rate the intensity level of an emotion. Sometimes there are strong feelings and sometimes they are not so strong. For example, sometimes we feel a little angry and other times we feel very, very angry. Ask them to rate in on the scale of 1 to 10.
Children struggling with extreme emotions need to develop relaxation skills to calm down.
Deep Breathing
Demonstrate proper breathing technique.
Now, let’s concentrate on the breathing. Sit in a comfortable position.
Put one of your hands, right above the belly button, and the other up on the chest.
When we breathe in, the hand on our tummy should move up, and when we breathe out it should move down. The hand on our chest should stay still and not move the whole time. This means we are breathing correctly.
Also read: How to nurture a child’s Mental health?
Introduce relaxing word
Like the word ‘Calm’. Try to concentrate on the word calm. If other thoughts pop into the head besides ‘calm,’ try to picture them floating away with the breath as one exhales.
Enhancing Safety in children
Enhancing Safety
Teach the child that their body is very special and it belongs to them.A body has all kinds of different parts-some parts of the body don’t need clothes all the time, but other parts need clothes most of the time, even when one goes swimming. These are your private parts.
What do you call your private parts?
Teach correct naming of body parts—can use diagrams and/or drawings to facilitate. But no words which don’t make sense as then the child won’t be able to tell accurately about the abuse.
Healthy Sexuality/Body Awareness
Tell the child that his/her body is very special and, it’s ok to have sexual feelings. When they become an adult, they can enjoy having sex with someone who they love. That will be a very special thing. Sex with someone you care about is a positive, loving thing.
OK and Not OK Touches
Teach the child besides the doctor, nurse during checkup and parents at home, NOBODY should touch their private parts for other reasons, even if it is someone they know and love.
If they feel funny, strange, or uncomfortable about the way someone’s touching them , they can tell that person, “NO!”
Also, make sure to tell them to tell an adult about what happened, like a parent, or relative or teacher or friend—someone who they trust. Keep telling until someone listens to them.
Just to review—what are the 3 things they should do if someone tries to touch their private parts?
1. Say “No.”
2. Get away from the person.
3. Tell a grownup you trust about what happened.
4. Tell another grown-up if the first one doesn’t do something.
Remember, if someone tries to touch you, it is not your fault. Never be too afraid to tell what happened.
Much love and gratitude
Priyanka Nair
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Child Sexual Abuse and Mental Preservation
Children often react to traumatic events like sexual abuse and physical abuse with anxiety and distress. Parents and caregivers pay attention.
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January 19, 2020
Mental Health Awareness Series- Humanity ki Chain – Episode 10- Shweta Soni
Welcome to the tenth episode of Humanity ki chain, Mental Health Awareness Series. The importance of being aware and being able to understand the need for mental health awareness is all we need to stress upon. It is important that we talk about Mental Illness and how we as a
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