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October 23, 2020
What I have Been Reading Lately.
Lately, I have been getting quite overstimulated. And so, I have been jumping among different books and doing little “book tastings” instead of reading in one go. Books of essays and trivia are especially suited for a mood like this.
And of course, I have been reading books on writing to get some perspective as I write my book for highly sensitive writers.
Bibliophile: I bought an ebook version of the beautifully illustrated Bibliophile on sale at BookBub recently, but this is a ...
October 20, 2020
My Next Book is for Highly Sensitive Writers!
I can’t believe I haven’t mentioned the subject of my next book here! I have talked about it on the newsletter but I have somehow forgotten to talk about it here. Part of it is because I am the kind of person who likes to let ideas grow before I talk about them.
The idea has a life of its own, and as it grows, it shape-shifts many times inside my head. It’s almost as if it is going through one of those wizarding school-type metamorphosis as it changes from an animal to a wizard.
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October 19, 2020
5 Things Highly Sensitive People Need to be Happy.
If you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), you are built a little differently from non-HSPs. Because you process information deeply, you see details and nuances that others miss, but you might also get overwhelmed when there’s too much happening all around you.
Hectic schedules and too much caffeine can leave you feeling overstimulated. And when it comes to dealing with images of violence and chaos in the outside world, it can feel downright emotionally exhausting.
As someone who ...
October 16, 2020
Are you highly sensitive and feeling like you want to leave your body & float away?
If you are a highly sensitive person, you might be feeling drained and exhausted right now. Maybe, you have tried doing grounding exercises (like visualizing your roots going down into the earth) but your attention is so fragmented and so scattered that you just can’t establish that connection with the earth.
Nothing seems to work.
So, what are you supposed to do when you are feeling like this as a highly sensitive person?
We are many months into the pandemic and the uncerta...
September 23, 2020
How do you stand your ground if you feel pushed around by other people’s feelings?
In my last post, I talked about how energetic boundaries are crucial for highly sensitive people who want to start setting practical boundaries like saying no to someone. This is because if you can feel the energetic hit of someone’s anger almost in your body when you say no to them, then actually saying that no is a lot harder.
When other people’s energy — their anger, their expectations, their worry — easily invade our space, we can almost feel compelled to give them what they want jus...
August 21, 2020
Are you a highly sensitive person who gets flooded with other people’s feelings?
If you are a highly sensitive person or an empath and have trouble with boundaries, you might have had an experience like this. You are talking to someone who is having a strong feeling — anxiety, anger or fear — and “suddenly,” it feels as if you have taken on their feeling.
It might be that your friend is feeling anxious about a health issue or your dad is expressing anger at a boundary you’ve set.
In situations like these, you might find that you not only empathize with them, you ...
July 27, 2020
Come Home to Your Sensitive Self: Online Zoom Event on August 14.
Hello kindred spirits and fellow sensitive souls. I wanted to tell you about an online Zoom event I am doing on August 14, hosted by East West Bookshop. If you are a highly sensitive person looking for more tools for your journey and are based in the United States, you might really enjoy it!
This talk will have new information and will be different from my previous talk at East West Bookshop, in case you attended that and were wondering.
I have been doing research for my next book fo...
July 24, 2020
3 Things about being a Highly Sensitive INFP that might help you.
A lot of highly sensitive people are INFP and INFJ personality types. This post is for all you kindred spirits out there who feel like they are a walking contradiction. As a sensitive, creative INFP, these are a few of the things I have learned about my own confusing, bewildering, sensitive self.
They might help you as well. So, here we go!
Throwing our hat over the fence and burning some bridges can be good for highly sensitive INFPs.
As a multipassionate creative person, I s...
July 10, 2020
Are you thinking of yourself with a “fleeting, dismissive mindset?”
From author Peg Cheng’s Newsletter.Highly sensitive people who can’t give themselves importance tend to struggle a lot. I know this because I see it in many sensitive people I meet. I also know this because I am a “recovering nice person.”
What tends to happen with emotionally sensitive people when we don’t have good boundaries is something like this: We put others first. They put themse...
June 25, 2020
Handling feelings that you will never be good enough.
One of the things that comes up repeatedly in my work with highly sensitive creatives & INFP and INFJ writers is a pervasive sense of not being good enough. This tormenting feeling rises up every time we come close to expressing our true stories and our real voice in the world.
It’s that thing that stops us from even trying. Who am I to write this? Who am I to do this? Who am I to want this? Sometimes, this masquerades as a numbing voice in our head that feigns indifference. Oh, who care...
